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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

In China a divorced woman was awarded cash by the courts for the housework she did during the marriage..

Odd decision..

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The judge recognised the fact that she had given up her career to be a full time mum.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"The judge recognised the fact that she had given up her career to be a full time mum. "

How do you know she had a career?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Without the full story it isnt possible to say whether the decision was odd or not

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Without the full story it isnt possible to say whether the decision was odd or not"

BBC News - China court orders man to pay wife for housework in landmark case

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-china-56178510

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the world is split into productive labour and reproductive labour - sounds like he did the productive labour while she did the reproductive

if your marriage doesnt have an even split of both why should you have to walk away with nothing when you have contributed but just in a different way?

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

There is a new civil code in China, which the ruling was in line with. A spouse is able to seek compensation in a divorce if he or she bears more responsibility in child raising, caring for elderly relatives and assisting in their partners work.

Sounds fair to me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Without the full story it isnt possible to say whether the decision was odd or not

BBC News - China court orders man to pay wife for housework in landmark case

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-china-56178510"

Thanks.

I've read the report. It doesn't seem odd to me.

Years ago my father owned a business (his phrasing) my mum did the office work but he refused to pay her. She stopped doing the work and he had to employ someone.

Women aren't men's unpaid servants.

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By *artin69erMan
over a year ago

Warwick

My ex would have owed me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex would have owed me. "

Tell me about it

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"My ex would have owed me. "

Men aren't womens unpaid servants either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex would have owed me.

Men aren't womens unpaid servants either "

I'd have settled for him emptying the bin from time to time

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"My ex would have owed me.

Men aren't womens unpaid servants either

I'd have settled for him emptying the bin from time to time"

The minute I knew I was going to leave my first husband was when he said

"Go and clean your kitchen"

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Well in my past relay women cooked cleaned and ironed for me out of love. I don't they kept a meter running like a taxi waiting for a passenger...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well in my past relay women cooked cleaned and ironed for me out of love. I don't they kept a meter running like a taxi waiting for a passenger..."

That's nice Tom. I expect you returned their love with things like diy etc

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Well in my past relay women cooked cleaned and ironed for me out of love. I don't they kept a meter running like a taxi waiting for a passenger...

That's nice Tom. I expect you returned their love with things like diy etc"

It’s a two way street, if you both bring a wide array of skills to the relationship, then you’d both be in a better place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well in my past relay women cooked cleaned and ironed for me out of love. I don't they kept a meter running like a taxi waiting for a passenger..."

i would bet my ass that it was never done “out of love” and it was done out of either obligation or just not wanting to live in a pigsty or have another fight about it

people don’t run a meter to charge for it no because it shouldn’t be a case of her serving you, or even him serving her - it should be give and take in a relationship , both contributing equally just perhaps in different ways - if circumstances mean one of those equal partners was not able to work or not able to further their career to the same extent as the other then damn sure at point of a divorce they should instead be compensated for the contribution they have made

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Could throw loads of spanners in here but I'll refrain, but in the end it is down to the dynamics of the relationship. We have always shared equally.

I'm shit at DIY but was always expected to to be good at it cos I am male.

China is a different culture

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well in my past relay women cooked cleaned and ironed for me out of love. I don't they kept a meter running like a taxi waiting for a passenger...

That's nice Tom. I expect you returned their love with things like diy etc

It’s a two way street, if you both bring a wide array of skills to the relationship, then you’d both be in a better place. "

A lot of people still think housework is the women's job

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"Well in my past relay women cooked cleaned and ironed for me out of love. I don't they kept a meter running like a taxi waiting for a passenger...

That's nice Tom. I expect you returned their love with things like diy etc

It’s a two way street, if you both bring a wide array of skills to the relationship, then you’d both be in a better place.

A lot of people still think housework is the women's job"

They do but also some women do believe it is their role, depends on upbringing etc. If it works for them is that wrong?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well in my past relay women cooked cleaned and ironed for me out of love. I don't they kept a meter running like a taxi waiting for a passenger...

That's nice Tom. I expect you returned their love with things like diy etc

It’s a two way street, if you both bring a wide array of skills to the relationship, then you’d both be in a better place.

A lot of people still think housework is the women's job

They do but also some women do believe it is their role, depends on upbringing etc. If it works for them is that wrong?"

No. Nobody should run their relationship to someone else's ideals

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Well in my past relay women cooked cleaned and ironed for me out of love. I don't they kept a meter running like a taxi waiting for a passenger...

That's nice Tom. I expect you returned their love with things like diy etc

It’s a two way street, if you both bring a wide array of skills to the relationship, then you’d both be in a better place.

A lot of people still think housework is the women's job

They do but also some women do believe it is their role, depends on upbringing etc. If it works for them is that wrong?

No. Nobody should run their relationship to someone else's ideals"

Agreed there, my husband recently changed the clutch in the car. I’d prefer the hob to rolling around the floor looking like a coal miner for two days.

The point being it’s not a “ woman’s” job, it’s just a job. Between us, the car is fixed and we are all fed.

Happy days.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Can all the people on homeschooling duty claim a teacher's salary now too!

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"Well in my past relay women cooked cleaned and ironed for me out of love. I don't they kept a meter running like a taxi waiting for a passenger...

That's nice Tom. I expect you returned their love with things like diy etc

It’s a two way street, if you both bring a wide array of skills to the relationship, then you’d both be in a better place.

A lot of people still think housework is the women's job

They do but also some women do believe it is their role, depends on upbringing etc. If it works for them is that wrong?

No. Nobody should run their relationship to someone else's ideals

Agreed there, my husband recently changed the clutch in the car. I’d prefer the hob to rolling around the floor looking like a coal miner for two days.

The point being it’s not a “ woman’s” job, it’s just a job. Between us, the car is fixed and we are all fed.

Happy days."

It is, if my OH said she'd replace the clutch on our camper, id say hell yes, she'd have dinner cooked, hot bath run, candles, bottle of wine the works.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Can all the people on homeschooling duty claim a teacher's salary now too! "

Thing is they aren’t doing the teaching, the teachers are, albeit online classes. The classes are just happening at home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she gets the money he should get the kids

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Well in my past relay women cooked cleaned and ironed for me out of love. I don't they kept a meter running like a taxi waiting for a passenger...

That's nice Tom. I expect you returned their love with things like diy etc

It’s a two way street, if you both bring a wide array of skills to the relationship, then you’d both be in a better place.

A lot of people still think housework is the women's job

They do but also some women do believe it is their role, depends on upbringing etc. If it works for them is that wrong?

No. Nobody should run their relationship to someone else's ideals

Agreed there, my husband recently changed the clutch in the car. I’d prefer the hob to rolling around the floor looking like a coal miner for two days.

The point being it’s not a “ woman’s” job, it’s just a job. Between us, the car is fixed and we are all fed.

Happy days.

It is, if my OH said she'd replace the clutch on our camper, id say hell yes, she'd have dinner cooked, hot bath run, candles, bottle of wine the works. "

Exactly, the £950 he saved us in garage bills buys a fair few dinners if you look at it from that perspective.

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Well one of my girlfriend's loved ironing my clothes and sending me out smart. She did ask me not to tell her friends that she ironed my shirts...

I don't think she would have accepted money either then or now...

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I don't get it... Why would that be an "odd decision"? I'f you take even the slightest moment to think about it logically and rationally your immediate conclusion must be that it is the obvious decision, and equitable starting point for negotiating a fair settlement.

The only thing that the courts should have to adjudicate on, is what is a fair amount to attribute in each case.

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Modern housework is not the chore it once was..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Modern housework is not the chore it once was..

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Ah, bless ya Tom. Neither is refuse collection. What's your point?

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"Modern housework is not the chore it once was..

Ah, bless ya Tom. Neither is refuse collection. What's your point?"

Well I remember when I was a little boy that we had a gas washing machine with a mangle to rinse the clothes, our toilet was at the bottom of the garden and we boiled water to have a wash in a tin bath. I am not joking by the way. The first Hoover's were out but most used a brush and all the mums wore pinnies and cleaned the doorstep every morning. We had coal fire and the grate had to be cleaned out most mornings and fresh coal brought in with a skittle.. it was tougher then..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the world is split into productive labour and reproductive labour - sounds like he did the productive labour while she did the reproductive

if your marriage doesnt have an even split of both why should you have to walk away with nothing when you have contributed but just in a different way? "

This ^^

If a person is a single parent and working full time they would have to outsource all the domestic duties, which would cost money. The bill for paying childcare, cleaners, laundry etc can potentially be huge. When a marriage ends the contribution of both parties needs to be recognised.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Modern housework is not the chore it once was..

Ah, bless ya Tom. Neither is refuse collection. What's your point?

Well I remember when I was a little boy that we had a gas washing machine with a mangle to rinse the clothes, our toilet was at the bottom of the garden and we boiled water to have a wash in a tin bath. I am not joking by the way. The first Hoover's were out but most used a brush and all the mums wore pinnies and cleaned the doorstep every morning. We had coal fire and the grate had to be cleaned out most mornings and fresh coal brought in with a skittle.. it was tougher then.."

Yes it was similar when I was a child. The refuse collectors used to open the front gate walk round to the back of the house, carry your bin on their shoulder to the dustbin lorry, empty it, then return the bin to your back garden. It's all much easier now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good decision with women always having been undervalued and still are...

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I don't find it an odd decision at all. I think it is absolutely right to recognise what each person contributes to a relationship whether that is financial or otherwise.

K

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

The ruling isn't just about household chores but about recognising the mother had devoted her time to raising their son. Child-rearing is also a joint enterprise, or at least it should be.

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I thought a woman would bring up her child out of love.

Maybe I am old fashioned

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I thought a woman would bring up her child out of love.

Maybe I am old fashioned "

Love doesn't buy the food into the house, Tom, nor pay for the gas, 'leccy etc. What about men? What's their role?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought a woman would bring up her child out of love.

Maybe I am old fashioned "

and where is the dads love?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought a woman would bring up her child out of love.

Maybe I am old fashioned "

old fashioned / misogynistic

potato , potahto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex would have owed me.

Men aren't womens unpaid servants either

I'd have settled for him emptying the bin from time to time

The minute I knew I was going to leave my first husband was when he said

"Go and clean your kitchen" "

My first husband referred to housework as " your bits"

" When you've finished doing your bits"

This was the same man that said "I dont bath babies. Thats your job"

Even though i had full on eclampsia, fitted in labour and was extremely unwell. Barely being able to get to the top of the stairs

He made sexism into an art form

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I thought a woman would bring up her child out of love.

Maybe I am old fashioned "

What makes you think they don't?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"My ex would have owed me.

Men aren't womens unpaid servants either

I'd have settled for him emptying the bin from time to time

The minute I knew I was going to leave my first husband was when he said

"Go and clean your kitchen"

My first husband referred to housework as " your bits"

" When you've finished doing your bits"

This was the same man that said "I dont bath babies. Thats your job"

Even though i had full on eclampsia, fitted in labour and was extremely unwell. Barely being able to get to the top of the stairs

He made sexism into an art form"

Incredible isn't it.

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"I thought a woman would bring up her child out of love.

Maybe I am old fashioned

What makes you think they don't?"

Exactly my point..

If I was a female and brought up a child I would tell a judge to poke it if he tried to pay me for it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it’s a bit odd

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I thought a woman would bring up her child out of love.

Maybe I am old fashioned

What makes you think they don't?

Exactly my point..

If I was a female and brought up a child I would tell a judge to poke it if he tried to pay me for it...

"

I'm sure your love would keep the heating on and your offspring's mouth filled with the finest delicacies.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I thought a woman would bring up her child out of love.

Maybe I am old fashioned

What makes you think they don't?

Exactly my point..

If I was a female and brought up a child I would tell a judge to poke it if he tried to pay me for it...

"

Well the judge wouldn't be paying you, your ex husband would. Are you thinking that a father shouldn't contribute financially towards the continuing care of his children?

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By *ayTTV/TS
over a year ago

Porthmadog


"the world is split into productive labour and reproductive labour - sounds like he did the productive labour while she did the reproductive

if your marriage doesnt have an even split of both why should you have to walk away with nothing when you have contributed but just in a different way? "

Quite right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex would have owed me.

Men aren't womens unpaid servants either

I'd have settled for him emptying the bin from time to time

The minute I knew I was going to leave my first husband was when he said

"Go and clean your kitchen"

My first husband referred to housework as " your bits"

" When you've finished doing your bits"

This was the same man that said "I dont bath babies. Thats your job"

Even though i had full on eclampsia, fitted in labour and was extremely unwell. Barely being able to get to the top of the stairs

He made sexism into an art form

Incredible isn't it."

He learnt from his father before him.

He used to walk into the house and say "where's my dinner, woman?"

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"I thought a woman would bring up her child out of love.

Maybe I am old fashioned

What makes you think they don't?

Exactly my point..

If I was a female and brought up a child I would tell a judge to poke it if he tried to pay me for it...

Well the judge wouldn't be paying you, your ex husband would. Are you thinking that a father shouldn't contribute financially towards the continuing care of his children? "

Well that's a curved ball question to be fair..

As a general principle yes but there are exceptions ...

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"My ex would have owed me.

Men aren't womens unpaid servants either

I'd have settled for him emptying the bin from time to time

The minute I knew I was going to leave my first husband was when he said

"Go and clean your kitchen"

My first husband referred to housework as " your bits"

" When you've finished doing your bits"

This was the same man that said "I dont bath babies. Thats your job"

Even though i had full on eclampsia, fitted in labour and was extremely unwell. Barely being able to get to the top of the stairs

He made sexism into an art form

Incredible isn't it.

He learnt from his father before him.

He used to walk into the house and say "where's my dinner, woman?""

Well if the man is out grafting all day he needs a hot meal to be fair..

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I thought a woman would bring up her child out of love.

Maybe I am old fashioned

What makes you think they don't?

Exactly my point..

If I was a female and brought up a child I would tell a judge to poke it if he tried to pay me for it...

Well the judge wouldn't be paying you, your ex husband would. Are you thinking that a father shouldn't contribute financially towards the continuing care of his children?

Well that's a curved ball question to be fair..

As a general principle yes but there are exceptions ..."

Go on, what exceptions are there to a father providing financially towards the continuing care of his child or children?

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

There was the man tricked into believing that his two daughters were his.. The wife had an affair for years..

Not sure he should of been made to pay..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex would have owed me.

Men aren't womens unpaid servants either

I'd have settled for him emptying the bin from time to time

The minute I knew I was going to leave my first husband was when he said

"Go and clean your kitchen"

My first husband referred to housework as " your bits"

" When you've finished doing your bits"

This was the same man that said "I dont bath babies. Thats your job"

Even though i had full on eclampsia, fitted in labour and was extremely unwell. Barely being able to get to the top of the stairs

He made sexism into an art form

Incredible isn't it.

He learnt from his father before him.

He used to walk into the house and say "where's my dinner, woman?"

Well if the man is out grafting all day he needs a hot meal to be fair.."

he does but he is also capable of making that meal - we dont live in the 50s anymore so its likely his wife had also been out grafting all day - who is making her hot meal?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"My ex would have owed me.

Men aren't womens unpaid servants either

I'd have settled for him emptying the bin from time to time

The minute I knew I was going to leave my first husband was when he said

"Go and clean your kitchen"

My first husband referred to housework as " your bits"

" When you've finished doing your bits"

This was the same man that said "I dont bath babies. Thats your job"

Even though i had full on eclampsia, fitted in labour and was extremely unwell. Barely being able to get to the top of the stairs

He made sexism into an art form

Incredible isn't it.

He learnt from his father before him.

He used to walk into the house and say "where's my dinner, woman?""

Bloody hell! It's awful isn't it. I woke up one morning to find he'd agreed to a colleague lodging with us and was helping him move in, there and then. It was "his" house and he could do what he liked apparently . Sorted that one out. A couple of months later, the same thing happened again . I actually laugh about it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex would have owed me.

Men aren't womens unpaid servants either

I'd have settled for him emptying the bin from time to time

The minute I knew I was going to leave my first husband was when he said

"Go and clean your kitchen"

My first husband referred to housework as " your bits"

" When you've finished doing your bits"

This was the same man that said "I dont bath babies. Thats your job"

Even though i had full on eclampsia, fitted in labour and was extremely unwell. Barely being able to get to the top of the stairs

He made sexism into an art form

Incredible isn't it.

He learnt from his father before him.

He used to walk into the house and say "where's my dinner, woman?"

Well if the man is out grafting all day he needs a hot meal to be fair.."

He can fuck off back to mummy if he has that attitude

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"My ex would have owed me.

Men aren't womens unpaid servants either

I'd have settled for him emptying the bin from time to time

The minute I knew I was going to leave my first husband was when he said

"Go and clean your kitchen"

My first husband referred to housework as " your bits"

" When you've finished doing your bits"

This was the same man that said "I dont bath babies. Thats your job"

Even though i had full on eclampsia, fitted in labour and was extremely unwell. Barely being able to get to the top of the stairs

He made sexism into an art form

Incredible isn't it.

He learnt from his father before him.

He used to walk into the house and say "where's my dinner, woman?"

Well if the man is out grafting all day he needs a hot meal to be fair..

he does but he is also capable of making that meal - we dont live in the 50s anymore so its likely his wife had also been out grafting all day - who is making her hot meal? "

Deliveroo

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"My ex would have owed me.

Men aren't womens unpaid servants either

I'd have settled for him emptying the bin from time to time

The minute I knew I was going to leave my first husband was when he said

"Go and clean your kitchen"

My first husband referred to housework as " your bits"

" When you've finished doing your bits"

This was the same man that said "I dont bath babies. Thats your job"

Even though i had full on eclampsia, fitted in labour and was extremely unwell. Barely being able to get to the top of the stairs

He made sexism into an art form

Incredible isn't it.

He learnt from his father before him.

He used to walk into the house and say "where's my dinner, woman?"

Bloody hell! It's awful isn't it. I woke up one morning to find he'd agreed to a colleague lodging with us and was helping him move in, there and then. It was "his" house and he could do what he liked apparently . Sorted that one out. A couple of months later, the same thing happened again . I actually laugh about it now "

Blimey.. well.I am glad you are happier and being treated better now...

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

We shared the responsibilities, at every level. Was an equal partnership all the way. Not every relationship is the same - as long as it works and there are no other darker factors to consider - who are we to judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex would have owed me.

Men aren't womens unpaid servants either

I'd have settled for him emptying the bin from time to time

The minute I knew I was going to leave my first husband was when he said

"Go and clean your kitchen"

My first husband referred to housework as " your bits"

" When you've finished doing your bits"

This was the same man that said "I dont bath babies. Thats your job"

Even though i had full on eclampsia, fitted in labour and was extremely unwell. Barely being able to get to the top of the stairs

He made sexism into an art form

Incredible isn't it.

He learnt from his father before him.

He used to walk into the house and say "where's my dinner, woman?"

Well if the man is out grafting all day he needs a hot meal to be fair..

he does but he is also capable of making that meal - we dont live in the 50s anymore so its likely his wife had also been out grafting all day - who is making her hot meal?

Deliveroo "

deliveroo regularly make my meals to be fair

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"My ex would have owed me.

Men aren't womens unpaid servants either

I'd have settled for him emptying the bin from time to time

The minute I knew I was going to leave my first husband was when he said

"Go and clean your kitchen"

My first husband referred to housework as " your bits"

" When you've finished doing your bits"

This was the same man that said "I dont bath babies. Thats your job"

Even though i had full on eclampsia, fitted in labour and was extremely unwell. Barely being able to get to the top of the stairs

He made sexism into an art form

Incredible isn't it.

He learnt from his father before him.

He used to walk into the house and say "where's my dinner, woman?"

Bloody hell! It's awful isn't it. I woke up one morning to find he'd agreed to a colleague lodging with us and was helping him move in, there and then. It was "his" house and he could do what he liked apparently . Sorted that one out. A couple of months later, the same thing happened again . I actually laugh about it now

Blimey.. well.I am glad you are happier and being treated better now..."

Thanks Tom. This was in the 70s and not even the 1870s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We shared the responsibilities, at every level. Was an equal partnership all the way. Not every relationship is the same - as long as it works and there are no other darker factors to consider - who are we to judge"

totally this ... it doesn’t have to be each task 50/50 just the overall workload of life 50/50 , wether that be paid work, housework, child rearing, and to some extent even the emotional support of each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well in my past relay women cooked cleaned and ironed for me out of love. I don't they kept a meter running like a taxi waiting for a passenger..."

You say in the past clearly they got fed up with being a skivvy lol kidding

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

It's about choices. Nothing worse than people criticising woman who want to be a trad wife.. each to their own..

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Her old man should of just kept the receipts to the house keeping he gave her

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"It's about choices. Nothing worse than people criticising woman who want to be a trad wife.. each to their own.."

Nobodies choice in that respect should be criticised, woman or man.

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

My mum was given housekeeping.. every mum I knew was given housekeeping..

Jar for the milkman, jar for the insurance man, jar for the coalman.. etc etc..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Her old man should of just kept the receipts to the house keeping he gave her "

Yes, then she could have deducted the cost of the food she bought and the hours and spent cooking it and working in the home to see how much he still owed her

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke


"Her old man should of just kept the receipts to the house keeping he gave her

Yes, then she could have deducted the cost of the food she bought and the hours and spent cooking it and working in the home to see how much he still owed her "

Nothing, the poor old sod went work all week and chucked every penny over, didn’t even have enough left for a pint and she still has him over ....

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"Her old man should of just kept the receipts to the house keeping he gave her

Yes, then she could have deducted the cost of the food she bought and the hours and spent cooking it and working in the home to see how much he still owed her "

And if he was a drinker...

Not good outcomes..

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South

I've just had to check my diary.

It does actually say 2021.

I thought for a minute I'd bought 1821 by mistake......

E

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Her old man should of just kept the receipts to the house keeping he gave her

Yes, then she could have deducted the cost of the food she bought and the hours and spent cooking it and working in the home to see how much he still owed her

Nothing, the poor old sod went work all week and chucked every penny over, didn’t even have enough left for a pint and she still has him over .... "

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"My mum was given housekeeping.. every mum I knew was given housekeeping..

Jar for the milkman, jar for the insurance man, jar for the coalman.. etc etc.."

Isn't it wonderful that women (in the UK, at least) no longer need to rely on a man putting coins in a jar so they can pay for essentials? In general, women received housekeeping money because they didn't (often couldn't) work outside the home. It meant women were unable or far less able to support themselves and children if their husband died, was made redundant or even better, spent the housekeeping elsewhere. And it meant divorce was not an option (aside the stupid laws) because of the risk of being left destitute. Ah! The good old days indeed

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"My mum was given housekeeping.. every mum I knew was given housekeeping..

Jar for the milkman, jar for the insurance man, jar for the coalman.. etc etc.."

Jar for the cook. Jar for the cleaner. Jar for the nanny. Jar for the bed warmer

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

What would men do if their wives refused to give up work and have babies?

Pay a surrogate perhaps?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"What would men do if their wives refused to give up work and have babies?

Pay a surrogate perhaps?"

Acquire repetitive strain injury relieving their "full balls"? Who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My mum was given housekeeping.. every mum I knew was given housekeeping..

Jar for the milkman, jar for the insurance man, jar for the coalman.. etc etc..

Isn't it wonderful that women (in the UK, at least) no longer need to rely on a man putting coins in a jar so they can pay for essentials? In general, women received housekeeping money because they didn't (often couldn't) work outside the home. It meant women were unable or far less able to support themselves and children if their husband died, was made redundant or even better, spent the housekeeping elsewhere. And it meant divorce was not an option (aside the stupid laws) because of the risk of being left destitute. Ah! The good old days indeed "

im also loving the “mum was given housekeeping” as though thats her money and shes away spending it on things she loves rather than it just being money thats been put aside for household bills

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"My mum was given housekeeping.. every mum I knew was given housekeeping..

Jar for the milkman, jar for the insurance man, jar for the coalman.. etc etc..

Isn't it wonderful that women (in the UK, at least) no longer need to rely on a man putting coins in a jar so they can pay for essentials? In general, women received housekeeping money because they didn't (often couldn't) work outside the home. It meant women were unable or far less able to support themselves and children if their husband died, was made redundant or even better, spent the housekeeping elsewhere. And it meant divorce was not an option (aside the stupid laws) because of the risk of being left destitute. Ah! The good old days indeed

im also loving the “mum was given housekeeping” as though thats her money and shes away spending it on things she loves rather than it just being money thats been put aside for household bills "

We all know women love nothing more than to treat themselves to a pair of knock off Marigolds and a new tube of Brasso. Obviously...

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"What would men do if their wives refused to give up work and have babies?

Pay a surrogate perhaps?"

Well many have a surrogate on the side if you get my meaning....

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"My mum was given housekeeping.. every mum I knew was given housekeeping..

Jar for the milkman, jar for the insurance man, jar for the coalman.. etc etc..

Isn't it wonderful that women (in the UK, at least) no longer need to rely on a man putting coins in a jar so they can pay for essentials? In general, women received housekeeping money because they didn't (often couldn't) work outside the home. It meant women were unable or far less able to support themselves and children if their husband died, was made redundant or even better, spent the housekeeping elsewhere. And it meant divorce was not an option (aside the stupid laws) because of the risk of being left destitute. Ah! The good old days indeed

im also loving the “mum was given housekeeping” as though thats her money and shes away spending it on things she loves rather than it just being money thats been put aside for household bills "

I am not sure that was ever true.. a thrifty mum would use the housekeeping wisely...keep everyone fed, pay the bills and a little for herself for treats.. she would pay weekly at the local shop for Christmas and the club book for clothes and stuff..

It was lovely to be brought up by loving parents.. think of it differently.. here is the weekly wage pet.. I trust you to make it work..

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"My mum was given housekeeping.. every mum I knew was given housekeeping..

Jar for the milkman, jar for the insurance man, jar for the coalman.. etc etc..

Isn't it wonderful that women (in the UK, at least) no longer need to rely on a man putting coins in a jar so they can pay for essentials? In general, women received housekeeping money because they didn't (often couldn't) work outside the home. It meant women were unable or far less able to support themselves and children if their husband died, was made redundant or even better, spent the housekeeping elsewhere. And it meant divorce was not an option (aside the stupid laws) because of the risk of being left destitute. Ah! The good old days indeed

im also loving the “mum was given housekeeping” as though thats her money and shes away spending it on things she loves rather than it just being money thats been put aside for household bills

I am not sure that was ever true.. a thrifty mum would use the housekeeping wisely...keep everyone fed, pay the bills and a little for herself for treats.. she would pay weekly at the local shop for Christmas and the club book for clothes and stuff..

It was lovely to be brought up by loving parents.. think of it differently.. here is the weekly wage pet.. I trust you to make it work.. "

It's lovely to have the autonomy to do what you so choose and minus the need to accept being called pet.

I hope Mrs Wang (the lady about whom the thread relates) is now able to have her own autonomy and is able to do the best for her son and herself going forward.

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"My mum was given housekeeping.. every mum I knew was given housekeeping..

Jar for the milkman, jar for the insurance man, jar for the coalman.. etc etc..

Isn't it wonderful that women (in the UK, at least) no longer need to rely on a man putting coins in a jar so they can pay for essentials? In general, women received housekeeping money because they didn't (often couldn't) work outside the home. It meant women were unable or far less able to support themselves and children if their husband died, was made redundant or even better, spent the housekeeping elsewhere. And it meant divorce was not an option (aside the stupid laws) because of the risk of being left destitute. Ah! The good old days indeed

im also loving the “mum was given housekeeping” as though thats her money and shes away spending it on things she loves rather than it just being money thats been put aside for household bills

I am not sure that was ever true.. a thrifty mum would use the housekeeping wisely...keep everyone fed, pay the bills and a little for herself for treats.. she would pay weekly at the local shop for Christmas and the club book for clothes and stuff..

It was lovely to be brought up by loving parents.. think of it differently.. here is the weekly wage pet.. I trust you to make it work..

It's lovely to have the autonomy to do what you so choose and minus the need to accept being called pet.

I hope Mrs Wang (the lady about whom the thread relates) is now able to have her own autonomy and is able to do the best for her son and herself going forward."

Agreed..

And she will hopefully have a bright future..

As bright as the wonderful childhood I shared with a loving mum and dad in a trad household.. we were poor but happy..

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

i don't find it odd.

if you decided not to do the housework, but still needed doing, then you'd contract in a cleaner. so the work is then priced accordingly, so why wouldn't you recognise the work and effort your wife puts in?

sounds perfectly reasonable to me

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By *roticusCouple
over a year ago

Porthmadog

Dangerous! Lucy does housework for pay (she organises holiday cottage changeovers) and also does the housework in our house for free and naked..... hope she doesn't put two and two together and charge for our own housework (or do the paid houaework naked, for that matter!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

£5,000 for 5 years! I don't envy the hourly rate one bit.....

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"£5,000 for 5 years! I don't envy the hourly rate one bit....."

She also gets a monthly alimony of 2000 yuan so she has the lump sum and ongoing monthly money to bring up her son. Good luck to Mrs Wang

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I am surprised they don't work out a rate for sexual services..after all, if the man had to shop elsewhere then it would cost a few bob...

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

I used to do all the cooking in the house, Does that mean I should fir being a chef ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I am surprised they don't work out a rate for sexual services..after all, if the man had to shop elsewhere then it would cost a few bob..."

They should. There would be a lot of women having to shop elsewhere too

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I think the women should get a fair deal. The men too. Housework should be recognized and sewing and ironing etc.

I spent hours decorating and mowing the lawns and walking the dogs..

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