FabSwingers.com forum: One for the guys but ladies feel free to enlighten me too

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This may sound like a stupid question but here goes.

Why do the majority of guys on here think cock size is sooo important.

Personally, I prefer a nice personality to 'I have an 8" cock with a good girth', or even 'I only have a 2" cock but am good at oral'??

I don't start evey mesassage with 'I have a 38c bra size'

Anyone care to enlighten me with how important it is?

Surely if the woman were that interested she would ask the question.

Maybe I'm naive and have my tin hat on ready to be told off lol

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

most certainly prefer personality myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think guys do really it's just bravado , some think that by let's say over exaggerating the truth they will get noticed in the crowd ! I'm not overly endowed but I do ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had relationships with men with smaller cocks and thats fine but when it comes to just sex its about getting what I want, and to be honest I like deep penatrative sex which is best acheived with a larger cock so wouldnt necessarily choose to meet someone with a small one.

So its important to me that a man advertises either via picture or statment the size of his cock, doesnt mean I wont meet men with smaller ones but I certainly dont want to discover when the mood is on that its not going to satisfy me in the way I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not the quantity that counts but the quality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bloke thing.

It starts at school, who has the best conker, who is best at football, who has the fastest bike, who has the biggest cock.

We don't change much, we just get bigger

I never had the best toys, I didn't even have that many toys at all.

I just had my 10" x6" heavy cumming, always ready cock!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

They do seem obsessed about the size of their willies. The only thing i can put it down to is the fact that because its a swingers site, thats what people are interested in, when in general they are not. I much prefer a really nice person with an average willy. To a massive willy attatched to an idiot

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By *oadsafunMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

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By *oadsafunMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

Can't say I'm really bothered how big my cock is, I certainly can't change it!

Some women say its big but I think it looks average to me. I you are relying on just the size of you cock to make a woman happy, you won't be that popular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think its becausd guys think u ladies want b cock, its an old wive's tale that size matters to women and thats why guys like to boast

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

"They do seem obsessed about the size of their willies. The only thing i can put it down to is the fact that because its a swingers site, thats what people are interested in, when in general they are not. I much prefer a really nice person with an average willy. To a massive willy attatched to an idiot"
What about a really nice willy attached to a massive idiot?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is just one thing that guys use to define themselves

some people are interested in it, it makes a difference too them, just as some are into muscles, definition, height, build, age and so on

how many profiles do you see stating the guy is 'fit' ? - literally hundreds if not thousands

it is just another way of selling themselves

i do agree tho, the cock thing is over used

am sure the regulars will know the bussy motto by now but for any newbies knocking around :

'if it gets hard and stays hard, we're onto a winner'

other than that, cocks hold little interest

give me a nice mantel piece any time

i'd sooner look at that than the fire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a grower not a shower!!

I've had messages from women that don't care about anything else than the size of my cock!!

So I think us boys just get the idea that's what you all want!!

I'd never make contact with a cock shot!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wife is on the 3rd book of 50 shades of grey . MEN BUY YOUR LADIES THESE BOOKS TRUST ME"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""wife is on the 3rd book of 50 shades of grey . MEN BUY YOUR LADIES THESE BOOKS TRUST ME" "

Why would I need to read a second rate book to inspire me? I have an imagination and find my husband desirable so really don't need to read a book to stimulate me.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I don't think it is just the blokes though. If you browse through the profiles, local updates or meet today's, there are loads from couples and single women that say looking for vwe

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral

Good question OP, but it applies both ways I think.

There are certainly a fair number of ladies/couples profiles that state WE or VWE required, though I suspect that if you looked at all the profiles on FAB, it would actually add up to quite a small percentage.

The fact is a guy is born with a cock the size of which is predetermined by nature and to the best of my knowledge there's nothing a guy can do to change whatever nature blessed him with. What he does with it, well thats a different matter entirely.

You could though say why do women make such a big deal of their boobs. Your right that women don't normally put in a profile or message 36C or whatever, but boob size and appearance is clearly important to many women (and men too). That's why so many women do take advantage of surgery to change the look/size of their boobs and it isn't limited to ladies where nature/child rearing has taken it's course, there's plenty of very young girls aged 18 to 22 who spend thousands getting their very nice and shapely 34B boobs changed into massive 34 DD or whatever by the art of the plastic surgeon.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

""wife is on the 3rd book of 50 shades of grey . MEN BUY YOUR LADIES THESE BOOKS TRUST ME" "

Just cos your missus prefers reading to sex doesn't mean we all do.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

from childhood, those with 'growers' would ALWAYS be teased in the showers ay school, so the focus was always on your penis.

then when you start looking at porn, if you have a normal sized penis, you arent able to pleasure a woman, as most porn stars have huge cocks.

and right through adulthood, everything is all about having a big penis.

its just the way it is, and no one can change anything at all.

i have asked Em, and she has talked to her friends, and they all say the same, normal sized is better than huge anyday of the week.

but we still dont believe them. lol

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"This may sound like a stupid question but here goes.

Why do the majority of guys on here think cock size is sooo important.

Personally, I prefer a nice personality to 'I have an 8" cock with a good girth', or even 'I only have a 2" cock but am good at oral'??

I don't start evey mesassage with 'I have a 38c bra size'

Anyone care to enlighten me with how important it is?

Surely if the woman were that interested she would ask the question.

Maybe I'm naive and have my tin hat on ready to be told off lol

it doesn't matter to me.... I have never measured mine and have no intention of doing so.... however I have had loads of messages from couples and women where they ask me how big it is....

so you wonder why... men do get mixed messaged on how important it is or isn't....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ditto the above!

I've no idea on actual size, would never consider plastering my profile with size comments or messaging people saying 'look at my huge cock' and as long as I get no complaints - I'm happy!

Yes I've got cock pics in my profile - but balanced out by other shots. I'm often asked - but always reply that if someone really wants to know - bring a tape measure to a meet!

And if I get a message based on my profile, my veri's or just one of my pics - I treat all the same - I still want to know more about the sender! Just saying 'nice cock' - to me it's as useful as a 'fancy a fuck?' message!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always try be nice an polite an let my personality come through but that gets me mo where

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock length/girth/size is way down on the list of deciding factors whether I would play with a potential new gent.

However, it is unlikely I would meet a potential new gent without seeing his cock pics first.

Small ones are no fun, too big will hurt me, so Mr Average will do nicely for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because generally men's brains are ruled with what is between their legs!! They think we want the bigger the better, whereas in fact generally we prefer average attached to someone who isn't obsessed with sex. But remember men are from mars and women are from venus lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i always try be nice an polite an let my personality come through but that gets me mo where

Well it would with me. The minute someone starts talking about their bits or asking me how big my boobs are I am instantly put off lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This may sound like a stupid question but here goes.

Why do the majority of guys on here think cock size is sooo important.

Personally, I prefer a nice personality to 'I have an 8" cock with a good girth', or even 'I only have a 2" cock but am good at oral'??

I don't start evey mesassage with 'I have a 38c bra size'

Anyone care to enlighten me with how important it is?

Surely if the woman were that interested she would ask the question.

Maybe I'm naive and have my tin hat on ready to be told off lol

Firstly babe its not a stupid question

I think personality, warmth, manners, good dress sense are more important to me that how big some fellas cock is. The bigger the is the less likely i want to know babe. I actually turned a fella down because he said he has a 10inch cock

I like to converse with a fella and get to know them first too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""wife is on the 3rd book of 50 shades of grey . MEN BUY YOUR LADIES THESE BOOKS TRUST ME"

Why would I need to read a second rate book to inspire me? I have an imagination and find my husband desirable so really don't need to read a book to stimulate me. "

I read a lot of erotica in my younget days including the taming of sleeping beauty series but I agree, these days I'm living a great sex life with my amazing hubby. Don't need it! But I do think these books are awakening a lot if repressed sexual urges! Apparently nice n naughty have to keep reordering love eggs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of female and couple adds specify WE or VWE and why not?

The guys outnumber the ladies on this site and think that most ladies are looking for size. I think it is clear from the ladies replies that size isn't everything but to some it is, thats life!

Perhaps a group of ladies should try a blindfold shag session with a variety of cock sizes, give points and see if overall there is a difference.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don't think the majority of men are obsessed by their penis size.

There's a variety of users.

Most males on here come across as decent human beings and their approaches are appropriate to their needs.

Some want social meets with sex as a bonus and their approaches to are geared to getting that kind of meet.

Some want instant sex with anything that moves and their approach is designed to get that.

The 'here's my cock isn't it huge' brigade are usually in the last category along with the :- crude names, giz a fuck , heres' my cock, gorrany pics, i'd love to fuck your arse wide open' sectioin of FAB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and size can matter but I went out with a guy with a tiny and I mean tiny cock but oh.my.God. did he show me what great oral sex was! Couldn't get enough! But, yeah, massive cocks tend to come with massive cocks attached to them. I'm lucky to have a nice guy attached to his! Lol

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By *uckknowsMan
over a year ago

here

It's not how big it is it's how you use it mines big enough to fill a pram

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By *exyminxy111Couple
over a year ago

coventry

"I don't think the majority of men are obsessed by their penis size.

There's a variety of users.

Most males on here come across as decent human beings and their approaches are appropriate to their needs.

Some want social meets with sex as a bonus and their approaches to are geared to getting that kind of meet.

Some want instant sex with anything that moves and their approach is designed to get that.

Have to agree, most guy's aren't overly concerned with it, but the last paragraph is hilarious lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phil says he has a small one and to be honest he is at least 2" bigger than my ex but that said my ex satisfied me in every way, Phil more than satisfies me in every way,

i personally just think its a man thing size does'nt bother me i went out with a bloke once who was about 2" and there was no satisfaction there at all but in other ways he made up for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys 'bragging' or 'obsessing' over size always get the delete from me just coz your we or vwe doesn't mean you no how to show someone a good time with it! Much rather have mr average, that's fun in n out the bedroom, to make the meet an experience as opposed to just bout a shag, which is all I get from guys with messages and profiles where size seems so important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually if you look at a lot of the ads from Women its them That are 0bsessing and demanding big cocks, x size cocks, Or guys with Big Black cocks I have no idea what size I am and never measured it and am not going to either. Isnt it enough that the damn thing works?????? I think Women on sites like this are much more demanding than guys. this isnt a rant its just something that I have noticed on sites like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think the majority of men are obsessed by their penis size.

There's a variety of users.

Most males on here come across as decent human beings and their approaches are appropriate to their needs.

Some want social meets with sex as a bonus and their approaches to are geared to getting that kind of meet.

Some want instant sex with anything that moves and their approach is designed to get that.

99% of blokes on here are after sex pure and simple. The ones not obsessed with this and their penis size are in the minority.

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By *weetcheekstooWoman
over a year ago

southampton

"This may sound like a stupid question but here goes.

Why do the majority of guys on here think cock size is sooo important.

Personally, I prefer a nice personality to 'I have an 8" cock with a good girth', or even 'I only have a 2" cock but am good at oral'??

I don't start evey mesassage with 'I have a 38c bra size'

Anyone care to enlighten me with how important it is?

Surely if the woman were that interested she would ask the question.

Maybe I'm naive and have my tin hat on ready to be told off lol

personality and sense of humour allways come first for me too lol

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By *inkyScot22Man
over a year ago

Anniesland

There are those rare guys with a good personality and a big cock though people, so it isn't always one thing or the other... (though admittedly the *are* rare...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've noticed that the guys with the biggest cocks have had no meets. Whether that's down to no personality or females being scared to take 12 or 14" I've no idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good question OP, but it applies both ways I think.

Agree with much of what Mark says above, although when I was on another site a couple of years back as a single guy, it always surprised me just how often - and how quickly - women wanted you to know their vital statistics. So long as I could see a photo, I was able to work out whether I liked the look of them from that. Beyond that, it was down to personality largely.

As for myself, the only time I mention the size of my erect penis is in relation to anal sex. I am above average girth and it has caused problems with some women in the past, so any woman/couple who state in their interests 'Anal', I always explain my situation during exchanging of messages as I don't want anyone getting physically hurt, nor do I want them freaking out if they insist on trying to do it with me.

Other than that, as so many other posters have said, it's not the size of it that matters - it's what you can do with it that brings pleasure to the woman that counts. Surely?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"I don't think the majority of men are obsessed by their penis size.

There's a variety of users.

Most males on here come across as decent human beings and their approaches are appropriate to their needs.

Some want social meets with sex as a bonus and their approaches to are geared to getting that kind of meet.

Some want instant sex with anything that moves and their approach is designed to get that.

99% of blokes on here are after sex pure and simple. The ones not obsessed with this and their penis size are in the minority."

99% ! Quite like to see your survey results

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its personality all the way for me. You wont find me talking about the size of my cock. I honestly dont even know what size it is. I have never been inclined to measure it.

Personality and a smile is much, much important than physical attributes in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've a picture of mine out front these days. Peeps can make their own mind up what they want to do with it from there lol.

Ooh dear, that was a bit look at me!

Wolf;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to agree with alot of posts that alot of couples and single women state on their profiles they are looking for VWE, BBC or Thick girth. And also those that don't do ask how big are you, or ask for photo proof.

Its interesting that alot of posters to this have stated it doesnt matter or that its the guys that are obsessed.

I really think its a supply and demand problem, if it wasnt mentioned on profiles then the guys wouldnt state it in theirs.

From experience have found most women I have met are not looking for length but girth and not too long as would be scared that it would hurt, and that they want a guy who can repeat not just be a one shot wonder or cant get it up. Many have had experience of performance issues!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men think telling you cock size will impress... I prefere to just chat to people and they can decide for themselves about my cock from my pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reminds me of the dialogue between a cock obsessed northern man and woman...

d'ye like a big cock?

y'what cock?

a big cock?

oh yes cock!

put it in cock

y'what cock?

your big cock

inside you cock?

oh yes cock

there you go cock

it's a lovely cock, cock

cocksure you are cock

oh yes cock, oh yes cock

just ride me cock, cock

a sticky n wet cock

till 'a cum cock

'a'll wet ya through cock!

and that was it cock...

you came cock?

'a did cock

oh what a shock, cock

same time next week, cock?

oh be sure cock!

alright then cock

tarra cock!

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my cock is only 4 inches log,but 12 inches thick,lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just let mine do the talking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever size a blokes cock is, you'll hardly hear him moan when someone is playing with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whatever size a blokes cock is, you'll hardly hear him moan when someone is playing with it.

if they don't moan, your not doing it right !

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

"Got to agree with alot of posts that alot of couples and single women state on their profiles they are looking for VWE, BBC or Thick girth. And also those that don't do ask how big are you, or ask for photo proof.

Its interesting that alot of posters to this have stated it doesnt matter or that its the guys that are obsessed.

I really think its a supply and demand problem, if it wasnt mentioned on profiles then the guys wouldnt state it in theirs.

given that, i cant remember one instance where we have asked to see someones appendage.

or, for that matter, a womans tits/gash. in fact, some instances when we see pics of either its put us off meeting.

would rather someone had a kind face and could hold a decent conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok what would you class as small average and large? mine is about 6" hard and never had any complaints

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never give size or send cock pics unless its asked on the profile in a first msg, never claim anything either that states sexual prowess..or jump into some fantasy spiel about what I'm gonna do to her

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

"Phil says he has a small one and to be honest he is at least 2" bigger than my ex but that said my ex satisfied me in every way, Phil more than satisfies me in every way,

i personally just think its a man thing size does'nt bother me i went out with a bloke once who was about 2" and there was no satisfaction there at all but in other ways he made up for it

have to agree with this.

i say my cock is small (deffo smaller than a lot on here) yet Em says she has had all shapes and sizes and thinks mine is perfect for her.

she doesnt want her tonsils ripped out from behind, or to walk like john wayne after playing, and she likes the fact that she only has to give me a drink and 5 minutes and im ready to go again lol

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

"ok what would you class as small average and large? mine is about 6" hard and never had any complaints "

you are average, mate.

about where i am.

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