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By *luebellRacer OP   Couple
over a year ago

Shropshire

You never know what people are going through.

If you can't say anything nice (or constructive), maybe it's better to say nothing at all

Be kind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As philosophies go, this is a good one x

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Here Here

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"You never know what people are going through.

If you can't say anything nice (or constructive), maybe it's better to say nothing at all

Be kind "

And now I want to watch Notting Hill now as well

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By *idewillyMan
over a year ago

portsmouth

Making a guitar

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

#choosekind if anyone has seen or read Wonder. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try my best to be nice to everyone probably my biggest assets and my worst flaw

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

It's a funny old world isn't it OP?!

People say.. 'We don't need reminding to be kind' I disagree. I think it does us all good to stop and think once in a while.

Reminders are good. We are not all built the same way. We are not robots.

Being kind should come naturally I think. But it doesn't hurt to remind either.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who's this one aimed at?

Because it's usually someone in particular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who's this one aimed at?

Because it's usually someone in particular "

No, airing dirty laundry and nitpicking are against forum rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said op. You never know what’s going on with someone, whatever front they put on .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"#choosekind if anyone has seen or read Wonder. X"

The film with the little boy with treacher collin syndrome?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People need to take this place with a pinch of salt.

Take the rough with the smooth.

If you have a picture I guess it’s there to be judged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"#choosekind if anyone has seen or read Wonder. X

The film with the little boy with treacher collin syndrome? "

There was a book first. One of my eldest favourites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"#choosekind if anyone has seen or read Wonder. X

The film with the little boy with treacher collin syndrome?

There was a book first. One of my eldest favourites. "

It’s on my list to read x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You never know what people are going through.

If you can't say anything nice (or constructive), maybe it's better to say nothing at all

Be kind "
This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice sentiment, which I try to be mindful of most days.

For some folk though, a verbal toe up the arse is the only way to go. I make sure to deliver it with a smile though

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

It is easier to be disliked on FAB than liked. Seems I'm pretty good it it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes a good c... insult is needed though /jk(ish)

But indeed. All going through our own things.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

My personal opinion is that not knowing what someone is going through works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100%

It is nice to be nice

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

It's an ancient Chinese proverb isn't it.

"If you have nothing worth saying,best to say nothing"

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

And to quote Bruce Lee.

"It's like a finger pointing to the sky, dooont concentrate on the finger or you will miss all the heavenly glory which surrounds it"

Not relevant but I like it, obviously the quick smack on the forehead is missing from the quote

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Chinese proverb say "Someone who knows he's a fool is not such a big one, than one that doesn't" I do try

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"Chinese proverb say "Someone who knows he's a fool is not such a big one, than one that doesn't" I do try "

And Obi wan said

"Who's the bigger fool, the fool or the fool who follows him? "

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yes, often it's the other person going through the hardest of times.

One love!

I'm off to listen to some UK Grime!

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My personal opinion is that not knowing what someone is going through works both ways. "

Completely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think social media is the most toxic ever and trolls are getting nastier

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"My personal opinion is that not knowing what someone is going through works both ways.

Completely "

Those boob's

Shwing

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By *luebellRacer OP   Couple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Everyone is bored and frustrated at the moment. Sometimes we just all need a little reminder.

So easy to just hit the post button without worrying about the consequences.

We all lose it now and again, we're human. Just being the big enough person to maybe sometimes say "you know what, that was a dick move, I'm sorry"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You never know what people are going through.

If you can't say anything nice (or constructive), maybe it's better to say nothing at all

Be kind "

I totally agree OP

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Nah. It's far too absolute.

Fully agree that you never know what somebody is going through but that is never a good excuse to be forced to saying something nice, or say nothing at all.

Sometimes a situation (regardless of factors) needs to be said bluntly, or direct. The world needs more balance, not extremists of nice/good/positive and mean/bad/negative.

I'll say whatever is fit for the situation, that needs saying. If that so happens to hurt somebodies feelings then that's on them so long as I say what I said with respect. The critical part is not what is said but being mindful of how it is said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all come from our own life experiences, opinions, thoughts and ideas and we may find that we don’t always agree with everyone we meet or speak to. I think this is fine, we don’t have to. I also think that when we get negative feedback in the Forums, we feel attacked and emotional so our first response is to attack back. Yes, try to be kind but don't just stay quiet if you disagree with something, we should all be able to voice our own opinions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all come from our own life experiences, opinions, thoughts and ideas and we may find that we don’t always agree with everyone we meet or speak to. I think this is fine, we don’t have to. I also think that when we get negative feedback in the Forums, we feel attacked and emotional so our first response is to attack back. Yes, try to be kind but don't just stay quiet if you disagree with something, we should all be able to voice our own opinions. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You never know what people are going through.

If you can't say anything nice (or constructive), maybe it's better to say nothing at all

Be kind "

This works both ways

People who are going through stuff tend to lose their shit quite easily

My life ain't going great at the minute so I have, to a large degree, stayed away from the Forums and just popped by to be silly

There is a lot of good here, but there is a lot of crap goes down too which, for a toffee (as we say round these parts), I could quite easily react to negatively

So, staying away, or not regularly contributing, is better for all

I'm not excusing bullying or being a snide, but if you know your head isn't in a great place, step away from situations that 'potentially' will make things worse

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley


"You never know what people are going through.

If you can't say anything nice (or constructive), maybe it's better to say nothing at all

Be kind "

Totally agree.

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