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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is anyone else more conscious of time slipping by, as the days merge together, from one to another with nothing on the horizon and as our time is limited and fleeting, it’s hard not to ignore this, when life is in limbo. Even more now it’s coming up to a year, which is a chunk of time in anyone’s book, have you had this feeling, if so how do you deal with it in a positive way ?

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

We're probably lucky in that we're able to find jobs to do around the house (diy, decorating etc.) but we also keep planning ahead & booking trips out & weekends away - we've just booked in for Swingathon, so fingers crossed...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’ve found loads to do and last lockdown did some writing and this one diy, decorating and gardening.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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There are things on the horizon though - that's how I try and frame it in my mind. I found it rather difficult in January but Spring is around the corner and with that comes hope. When I'm feeling a bit meh I go to the woods a few minutes walk away - they have lots of snowdrops slowly emerging and even such a simple sight brings me joy.

I'm now focusing on getting the house sorted and myself in preparation for dealing without the outside world; shaving my body hair alone is going to take the best part of a week.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Nothing is forever and sooner or later we'll all be out and about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there is that feeling, however, what helps is it affects everyone one and not just me, it is knowing I am not missing out on life and everyone else is getting on with it.

I remember 2 yrs ago when my grandson was diagnosed with leukaemia, overnight our family was devastates life changed and like now we had to social distance and all to protect him, parties stopped, we couldn't take him to parks and soft plays, he couldn't attend nursery and the start of p1, we had the sense life had stopped for us but everyone else's life kept going, a year later the pandemic..

Now everyone is living the same life, in an odd way we don't feel so isolated. We take each day at a time as we do not know the final outcome, however we remain hopeful that he makes a full recovery, still got months of treatment to go. On the plus side isolation has prevented any infections and no hospital stays in 12 mths. His sister has a tumor found 4 mths after his diagnosis. We are not sitting around sayi g woe me, we are making life as fun as we can, we laugh, dance and just glad that they are both here. Go on little adventures find fun films pretend we are at the movies. If you think about what you can do and stop worrying what you can't do life is happier. We remain positive and focus on the here and now not the if's and buts as that is a waste of energy and not conducive to maintaining a healthy mind. Don't get me wrong we have had tough times but keep focusing on each day in my mind is a new beginning..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep.

My Birthday is in April so I spent the whole of my 45th year doing fuck all

Yes I've done some decorating and cooking and been on a million boring bike rides and walks.

But as a singleton I miss other humans.

I'm not depressed about it I'm just REALLY bored.

It won't last forever and I am grateful for my home and space.

I can't imagine being locked down with other people

The horror!

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

I pour myself a drink or listen to music.

Things are bad but not as bad as what ppl had to deal with in WW2.

Just think of it as a reset function. P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve felt completely the opposite. Covid and lockdown has helped me put important things into sharper focus and zone out the nonsense.

Of course the limited human contact has been hard but there’s been more time to read, walk, cook, watch great films and just think more deeply. Will probably never have that opportunity again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes jake i think everyones feeling this atm, the last year has flown by with no real memories or experiences that stand out its just merged into nothingness.

Ive found family aged more noticeably with not seeing them every few days like usual.

We have to just keep doing those little things to keep sane, for me ive missed interaction & socialising so fab has been a friendly place to just chat with others really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I pour myself a drink or listen to music.

Things are bad but not as bad as what ppl had to deal with in WW2.

Just think of it as a reset function. P"

Why do people constantly compare this pandemic to the war?

What it's like the war - without the war

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Tbh I wish I could say it was easy . It isnt .

When you have 4 walls to keep you company .

The forum and a few good friends on here and films keep me going

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I try not to think about it, makes me sad.

Then I start thinking how much proper schooling my kids (and others) have missed out on, and I feel like crying.

It’s just shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve felt completely the opposite. Covid and lockdown has helped me put important things into sharper focus and zone out the nonsense.

Of course the limited human contact has been hard but there’s been more time to read, walk, cook, watch great films and just think more deeply. Will probably never have that opportunity again. "

I agree it's made me prioritise life before my own personal situation, I was all Iver the place, work, commitments in life and doing for others. Now for the first time I have had me time, relooking at what is essentially important, more time to reflect, take stock, recharge the batteries if life. Make changes that will make life more if a balanced approach I live the idea of a wfh/office split in the future and time to enjoy, cooking, reading, spending time with my family. I have had more conversations with my teenage son that I think I would have had to me that is something I wouldn't not have and I cherish those times it has made us closer. There are positives as well as the negatives. I do believe the Ww11 was awful children sent away to protect them never sometimes to see them again, the loss of childhood must have been so difficult for parents and grandparents, we are lucky we can have them with us. An unique opportunity to actually stay home and watch them and experience life at their level, bring back fun and find new things about them.. There are similarités to the Ww11 but only slight this war on a pandemic hasn't rationed our food, or worry we are going to be blown up, or sending our children away, but still there is a fear if the enemy(a virus) what's worse is not knowing how to defeat it.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

From a key worker point of view it has been hard to deal with the no play side of life, I've reverted back into just family life/work mode more and more.

But my adventure side is coming out slowly and that was prompted by being spoiled with lots of weekend away clothes, bags, shoes which my fwb bought for my birthday last week

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands


"I pour myself a drink or listen to music.

Things are bad but not as bad as what ppl had to deal with in WW2.

Just think of it as a reset function. P

Why do people constantly compare this pandemic to the war?

What it's like the war - without the war "

During the war

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Is anyone else more conscious of time slipping by, as the days merge together, from one to another with nothing on the horizon and as our time is limited and fleeting, it’s hard not to ignore this, when life is in limbo. Even more now it’s coming up to a year, which is a chunk of time in anyone’s book, have you had this feeling, if so how do you deal with it in a positive way ?"

I can identify.

I feel it most for my kids - this has already been a large proportion of their short lives - and you don't get your childhood back. I'm watching my daughter leave her childhood behind and emerge into an uncertain world, where normal human interaction is something to be suspicious of. I can’t make it better. All I can do is try and support them as best I can right now and lay those foundations for the future.

Mrs kf x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is anyone else more conscious of time slipping by, as the days merge together, from one to another with nothing on the horizon and as our time is limited and fleeting, it’s hard not to ignore this, when life is in limbo. Even more now it’s coming up to a year, which is a chunk of time in anyone’s book, have you had this feeling, if so how do you deal with it in a positive way ?

I can identify.

I feel it most for my kids - this has already been a large proportion of their short lives - and you don't get your childhood back. I'm watching my daughter leave her childhood behind and emerge into an uncertain world, where normal human interaction is something to be suspicious of. I can’t make it better. All I can do is try and support them as best I can right now and lay those foundations for the future.

Mrs kf x"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I try not to think about it, makes me sad.

Then I start thinking how much proper schooling my kids (and others) have missed out on, and I feel like crying.

It’s just shit."

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

The year leading up to this I got aggravated if we weren’t always doing something, I couldn’t be doing with wasted time, I always wanted to be doing something, I think it was with loosing family at a young ages, just felt time was ticking, certainly feel like my life’s been robbed the last year, yes we have kept as busy as possible, diy, walking, baking etc. but desperate now to get back to all the things we usually enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's been such a strange year. I cope by trying to remember that I've come out of all this relatively well compared to others and should be grateful. But still, it's a weird time. Lots of time to think.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

moved

in the throws of launching new business

retrained

volunteered with charities

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