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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Guys

With so many of you on Fab. In normal times (pre Covid) how do you cope with the competitiveness of so many guys all wanting to attract our attention?

How do you attract our attention?

I’m interested to know?

Thank you

Bhubaysi

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don’t compete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It helps that the bar is set incredibly low.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would try and go to socials to show my face and speak to people.

Nothing worse than idiots taking up women’s inbox then our genuine messages get missed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've used " the low profile" approach. It's definitely working. Not.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I just get my arse out

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"It helps that the bar is set incredibly low."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t compete with anyone I just be myself if it attracts people that’s a bonus x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont compete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wing and a prayer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just try to be nice to people and try not to be false.. It hasn't worked so far but here's hoping.. When lockdown ends properly then I may get to a couple of socials or just maybe meet up for a social with a lady at some point..

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Where's the competition?

I stick a dress on and sort my make up and then im in a league of my own

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest


"It helps that the bar is set incredibly low.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"Guys

With so many of you on Fab. In normal times (pre Covid) how do you cope with the competitiveness of so many guys all wanting to attract our attention?

How do you attract our attention?

I’m interested to know?

Thank you

Bhubaysi

"

I come into forums and post attention seeking threads,

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

Im competitive in most things but but I’m here for fun and giggles if a lady likes my incredible humour or boyish good looks it’s just a bonus

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By *razzyhorseMan
over a year ago

cambridge

Just be yourself, be honest and hope for the best...

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Agree with be yourself, I,m not trying to fit myself in to someone elses ideals but be myself and attract an equal who shares mine.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

You're right OP it's a doggy dog world with all the competition I don't put all my hopes for fun on Fab like a fisherman I cast my net wide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely don't compete,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im just me, an average brummie with an odd sense of humour.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I don't really feel in competition with anyone anymore, I did to begin with but at the end of the day someone will either like you or they won't.

As far as getting attention I think it's a mixture of making some effort and also some luck needed that your message doesn't get lost amongst others or trashed when they bulk delete

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By *aughtyandhandsomeMan
over a year ago

button moon

I do ok on here to be fair. I'm just myself and if they don't like me that's fair enough. I'm not here to compete with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasn't here pre-covid but I can only focus on my own profile and how I come across and hope it's good enough.

However, contributing to the forums have really helped start conversations with people who I didn't think would give me a second look. As a result, there's no real need for me to look at it as a competition

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

I don't see it as a competition, there is someone for everyone so what's the point in all the salesman bit then having to keep up all the BS when someone will eventually take a liking to you for being you. I see it that the women and couples are the ones doing the choosing and that it's better to let them find you, of course sending a wink or a quick message helps them find you but but I reckon it's easy to spot desperation and attention seekers on the forum and in messages, if you have to start a thread entitled something like "rate my cock" or something similar I reckon that's desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys

With so many of you on Fab. In normal times (pre Covid) how do you cope with the competitiveness of so many guys all wanting to attract our attention?

How do you attract our attention?

I’m interested to know?

Thank you

Bhubaysi

"

I never see it as competition. Or seek attention. Or message for either purpose. And just treat fab as it is, not a reflection of reality really. I think being yourself and honest are still the main two attractive qualities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't regard it as a competition

I just do me

Some people get it, some don't

Trying too hard often has a negative return and leads to much frustration

'Just being' is much less hassle and way more fun

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By *enn68Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Holding on to hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use the Force..

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Anyone that sees it as a competition is seeing it wrong to be honest and is likely setting themselves up for disappointment and failure regardless of their gender.

It's not being "better" than anyone else that leads to the site meeting personal expectations, but being yourself and finding an approach that works for you as an individual - it really is that simple.

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Guys

With so many of you on Fab. In normal times (pre Covid) how do you cope with the competitiveness of so many guys all wanting to attract our attention?

How do you attract our attention?

I’m interested to know?

Thank you

Bhubaysi

"

I refuse to play that game. Screw the competitiveness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply talking in real speak with womem and enjoying their banter and company. Cute cat pics have also profited in some friends.

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By *eivers101Couple
over a year ago

Carlisle

We just read your profile, if the women is up herself we ignore just like anyone else.

When it come down to it, it's how you come across.

Women are no more special than anyone else.

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

I just be myself. Do not try to compete otherwise you are something your not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where's the competition?

I stick a dress on and sort my make up and then im in a league of my own "

A league of a few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This guy gets it

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I just go with the flow. If you click you click.

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By *ornsMan
over a year ago

west Midlands

I believe the ladies are bathing in the spotlight! But I would do the same if men were in similar demand. I just keep being me, like it or lump it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just be myself. Do not try to compete otherwise you are something your not."

So true

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Guys

With so many of you on Fab. In normal times (pre Covid) how do you cope with the competitiveness of so many guys all wanting to attract our attention?

How do you attract our attention?

I’m interested to know?

Thank you

Bhubaysi

"

I’m not finding it a problem if I’m honest? I have more people in my Hotlist ready to meet once the restrictions are lifted (and in particular, the hotels reopen), than before the lockdown was announced, and I wasn’t looking for new people!

I have a weekend in Leeds planned for later this year, and hopefully at least one of the clubs will be open while I’m there......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

``Nothing worse than idiots taking up women’s inbox then our genuine messages get missed``

^^^^^^^^^^^ This is so true. And some send numerous & numerous of msgs.

I never ever get to see all my msgs ever

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Guys

With so many of you on Fab. In normal times (pre Covid) how do you cope with the competitiveness of so many guys all wanting to attract our attention?

How do you attract our attention?

I’m interested to know?

Thank you

Bhubaysi

"

I'm just me. Always worked well

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"It helps that the bar is set incredibly low."

But I need a low bar, I’ve only got short legs.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Guys

With so many of you on Fab. In normal times (pre Covid) how do you cope with the competitiveness of so many guys all wanting to attract our attention?

How do you attract our attention?

I’m interested to know?

Thank you

Bhubaysi

I'm just me. Always worked well "

Always the best way to be mate

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

There are lots of guys on here.we come in all shapes and sizes we all av our own skills and personality..we all do our best 2 catch the ladies eye .

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"Guys

With so many of you on Fab. In normal times (pre Covid) how do you cope with the competitiveness of so many guys all wanting to attract our attention?

How do you attract our attention?

I’m interested to know?

Thank you

Bhubaysi

"
. I never think about the competition as I know the guys out number the ladies by at least 20 to 1 so why worry about something I can’t control.Instead I try to find something in a ladies profile that they may like about me and I send a polite message including what it is that they may like about me.

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By *.luke7Man
over a year ago

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There’s not really a competition I wouldn’t say. If people want to meet you they want to meet you. If not then you aren’t going to try and convince them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I post picture of a guy I found on Insta

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I don't compete. I'm not interested in a prize to be won.

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I don't compete. I'm not interested in a prize to be won. "

But don’t most Fab guys think women are the prize?

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Cam rooms appreciate a good sense of humour.

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By *odgerMan
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London

I just send cut and paste messages with a picture of my cock to anyone that's online no matter how near or far ...simples

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there


"I post picture of a guy I found on Insta "

True story! Sin is actually quite a rotund 74 Year old with a python penis and space hopper balls. Great personality though

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"I post picture of a guy I found on Insta

True story! Sin is actually quite a rotund 74 Year old with a python penis and space hopper balls. Great personality though "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys

With so many of you on Fab. In normal times (pre Covid) how do you cope with the competitiveness of so many guys all wanting to attract our attention?

How do you attract our attention?

I’m interested to know?

Thank you

Bhubaysi

"

The only person I ever compete with is the guy I was yesterday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its not us guys who have to deal with the competition. its all waiting in your inbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just be myself. Think I've done ok on fab since I joined. I'm never pushy ,always polite and respectful and can take a refusal and don't throw my dummy out of the cot if I get a knock back like most guys on here . Fab is like a box of chocolates. We can't all like the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's never been the other guys you're "competing" against. It's always been the delete and block buttons. There's been no change pre or post covid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I post picture of a guy I found on Insta

True story! Sin is actually quite a rotund 74 Year old with a python penis and space hopper balls. Great personality though "

Who needs enema when you have friends...

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there


"I post picture of a guy I found on Insta

True story! Sin is actually quite a rotund 74 Year old with a python penis and space hopper balls. Great personality though

Who needs enema when you have friends... "

Enemas? Getting a little kinky now...

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I've never thought of it as a competition. Never look at other guys profiles. I'm just me. If someone likes the look of my profile or message then great. I know many more won't than will, but never think of it as me and 'them'. Just that I am of no interest. Been around long enough to know how it works.

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds

I play hard to get....fml its working too well

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

I dont see.it as a competition.

I know my chances are slim at best non existent at worse.

I send a polite message and a face picture. It's up to the people I message if they like me or not.

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I'm too old to compete, it's got to the point now where I don't send messages. It's strange though I still get a few offers

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

It's not a competition. If a woman wants to chat to me, she can. If she doesn't, she won't & there's nothing more that I'll do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I post picture of a guy I found on Insta

True story! Sin is actually quite a rotund 74 Year old with a python penis and space hopper balls. Great personality though

Who needs enema when you have friends...

Enemas? Getting a little kinky now... "

There still is some filth in this 74 years old body !

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

A simple cut and paste message usually hooks a few

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"I don't compete. I'm not interested in a prize to be won.

But don’t most Fab guys think women are the prize? "

I wonder where we get that Idea from.

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By *urtyGentMan
over a year ago

eastleigh

It’s not really any different to being on a dating website. Single men always out number any other demographic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think about the other men on here at all as I'm not responsible for what they do or do not do. I just be myself and try and have a real conversation, if that works great if not no harm done.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London


"It’s not really any different to being on a dating website. Single men always out number any other demographic "

Beg to differ. On proper dating sites it's more women to men. Used to help a friend with her local dating site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just try and be me and be laid back and funny ??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely don't see it as competition at all. It's kinda sad that anyone would see an online website as competition. But anyway I think just being funny and charming is well received... If something develops then great but if not it certainly not worth loosing sleep over.. It should be fun after all

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Guys

With so many of you on Fab. In normal times (pre Covid) how do you cope with the competitiveness of so many guys all wanting to attract our attention?

How do you attract our attention?

I’m interested to know?

Thank you

Bhubaysi

I'm just me. Always worked well

Always the best way to be mate "

The secret's out

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"Guys

With so many of you on Fab. In normal times (pre Covid) how do you cope with the competitiveness of so many guys all wanting to attract our attention?

How do you attract our attention?

I’m interested to know?

Thank you

Bhubaysi

"

Not looking for meetings but happy to chat if people want to or block me

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By *urtyGentMan
over a year ago

eastleigh


"It’s not really any different to being on a dating website. Single men always out number any other demographic

Beg to differ. On proper dating sites it's more women to men. Used to help a friend with her local dating site."

Really? What website was that?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't bother trying

Much easier on my ego that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It helps that the bar is set incredibly low."

Never have truer words been said ...

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By *9089Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"It helps that the bar is set incredibly low."

That certainly helps and of course there seems to be great belief in charity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pizza

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