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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Give the ladies some relationship advice

Not:

Stay in the kitchen

Bj upon waking etc

Some helpful tips

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Ivy..........

Can I sit and watch?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No advice given here will be valid I'm afraid as every man and relationship is unique

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Ok, if the man is sitting down and just about to chill, read, surf the net or whatever, don’t ask him to get up and do something right then. Wait 10 mins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ease up on the soft furnishings, take those cushions off of the bed and put them away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Treat him as you yourself want to be treated. Us guys like women want to feel wanted, loved and respected. Its not about spending money its about spending time. Little things mean the most. A nice verse in his birthday card show you cared enough to spend the time searching for it. This is for relationships though not for your fwb or fb.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

That is soo unfair its like asking guys to send messages with more than 3 words, and words with more than 1 syllable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not advice per say

Just to say there are a few of us genuine guys on here who are not dicks, weirdos or misogynistic and just simply want to meet some genuine people in return

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"That is soo unfair its like asking guys to send messages with more than 3 words, and words with more than 1 syllable

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wot ya mean?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Bookmarking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I could offer one piece of relationship advice to women based on my experiences it would be this...

Always maintain your independence, don’t neglect your friendships for a man.

Women need other women and if you neglect the friendships you had before the man you’ll regret it for eternity.

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By *ljamMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Never subordinate yourself to a man. Never hide your strength or character. If you feel like a partner isn't viewing you as a respected equal then get them to fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That is soo unfair its like asking guys to send messages with more than 3 words, and words with more than 1 syllable

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Let the man you live with wear your knickers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Let the man you live with wear your knickers

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't feed after midnight

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I could offer one piece of relationship advice to women based on my experiences it would be this...

Always maintain your independence, don’t neglect your friendships for a man.

Women need other women and if you neglect the friendships you had before the man you’ll regret it for eternity.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Being serious for once - another vote for keep your independence and friendships. Men can be hugely annoying at times and you’ll need time(s) out.

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By *randMrsJones500Couple
over a year ago

london

"Not advice per say

Just to say there are a few of us genuine guys on here who are not dicks, weirdos or misogynistic and just simply want to meet some genuine people in return

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there are some good guys for sure

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Talk to him, don't take that 'I'm alright' at face value.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never subordinate yourself to a man. Never hide your strength or character. If you feel like a partner isn't viewing you as a respected equal then get them to fuck."

I wish I'd known this when I was younger. I have realised it now, but would have saved me a lot of heartache!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Just be you and dont try to be something that a man perceives you to be .

Stay true to yourself and the right guy will appreciate it

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

"Being serious for once - another vote for keep your independence and friendships. Men can be hugely annoying at times and you’ll need time(s) out. "

Can they? I hadn’t noticed...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good made cup of tea is soooooo under rated

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Popping my bookmark in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make us your little spoon sometimes, we love it.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"A good made cup of tea is soooooo under rated

That I can do

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"If I could offer one piece of relationship advice to women based on my experiences it would be this...

Always maintain your independence, don’t neglect your friendships for a man.

Women need other women and if you neglect the friendships you had before the man you’ll regret it for eternity.

This I agree with mistake made in the past with this

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Being serious for once - another vote for keep your independence and friendships. Men can be hugely annoying at times and you’ll need time(s) out.

Can they? I hadn’t noticed...

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you only need to green arrow me to get a general idea.

I know it’s stating the bleedin’ obvious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A good made cup of tea is soooooo under rated

That I can do

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hmmmmmm!!! What type of bag is it? Killer question......

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"A good made cup of tea is soooooo under rated

That I can do

hmmmmmm!!! What type of bag is it? Killer question......

Brand? Yorkshire or Pg, but I love loose leaf tea can't beat it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not falling for this.

It's a trap

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By *ust John nowCouple
over a year ago

South West

It doesn't mean you've lost if you don't have the last word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I could offer one piece of relationship advice to women based on my experiences it would be this...

Always maintain your independence, don’t neglect your friendships for a man.

Women need other women and if you neglect the friendships you had before the man you’ll regret it for eternity.

Yep agree. Jenny sees her mates whenever she feels like and vice versa. Just because you are a cpl does not mean either should lose their independence. Its good for the soul to bond with your friends. Good fir us guys to hsve the house and tv remote to ourselves also whilst you are out

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

The only advice i can give is OP/ladies please don't hurt yourselves while rolling around laughing

Will pop back later see how its going

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By *igerstyle2k2Man
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

He too likes to be spooned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A good made cup of tea is soooooo under rated

That I can do

hmmmmmm!!! What type of bag is it? Killer question......

Brand? Yorkshire or Pg, but I love loose leaf tea can't beat it "
yes brand, oooooooooooo it’s sooooo 50/50 love Yorkshire but hate pg with a passion!!

Yorkshire with a few lotus biscuits and a slice of carrot cake and your a step in right direction of achieving paradise young lady

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Make us your little spoon sometimes, we love it."

I dont mind big spooning

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"Give the ladies some relationship advice

Not:

Stay in the kitchen

Bj upon waking etc

Some helpful tips

Good post Ivy

For relationship advise for ladies would be:

Try not to stress over small things, sometimes just let it go

Try not to get upset when u ask for feedback & not get the answer u wanted

Be happy in your own body, if ur not then do something about it

That's my 3 sense

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"A good made cup of tea is soooooo under rated

That I can do

hmmmmmm!!! What type of bag is it? Killer question......

Brand? Yorkshire or Pg, but I love loose leaf tea can't beat it yes brand, oooooooooooo it’s sooooo 50/50 love Yorkshire but hate pg with a passion!!

Yorkshire with a few lotus biscuits and a slice of carrot cake and your a step in right direction of achieving paradise young lady

Ooh I make a mean carrot cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can't read minds and don't have a crystal ball. If you want something, speak

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

The chances are men don't give a shit about things you think are wrong with your body. We can still fancy the pants off you with all your supposed imperfections.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A good made cup of tea is soooooo under rated

That I can do

hmmmmmm!!! What type of bag is it? Killer question......

Brand? Yorkshire or Pg, but I love loose leaf tea can't beat it yes brand, oooooooooooo it’s sooooo 50/50 love Yorkshire but hate pg with a passion!!

Yorkshire with a few lotus biscuits and a slice of carrot cake and your a step in right direction of achieving paradise young lady

Ooh I make a mean carrot cake

"
*Drools!!!!

do you own a latex or pvc maids outfit by any chance? Or is that taking it a little too far?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Make us your little spoon sometimes, we love it."

Seconded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This in spades.

Can only speak for myself but unless told will assume it’s no big deal. Tell me and I will try deal with it then and there.

Every one is different but amongst my friends and I, we all have hobbies allow a guy to pursue them (within reason) otherwise resentment grows over time.

What would I know though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Make us your little spoon sometimes, we love it."

This is a valuable one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Make us your little spoon sometimes, we love it."

I love to be the big spoon... it calms me running my hands over a mans back and having a little play with his nipples

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By *exy Two-Shoes40Man
over a year ago

bolton

When you are content to be simply yourself and don't compare or compete, everyone will respect you

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Accept that men and women are fundamentally different to each other and we will never understand each other. We will always do things that the other sex finds strange or doesn't make sense but at the end of the day we wouldn't want to be without each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience miscommunication causes many minor issue to get out of hand. Because most men are brought up to be direct and assertive and many women aren’t, all sorts of misunderstandings arise.

Generally if men say something they mean it, or it’s an outright lie. Equally if you want them to understand something the more direct the better, in most cases.

Would also agree with comments about women’s bodies and body image. It’s important to share anxiety or negative feelings about body image but if a man say he doesn’t share them, and loves your body as it is, then it’s more than likely that’s true.

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By *evil-on-my-shoulderMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Gonna Address it to both

Don’t force it but try to take and interest in each other’s hobbies.

Communication if key you’re a team!

Guys do like cuddles but also space

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"Make us your little spoon sometimes, we love it.

I dont mind big spooning

Neither do I , I like to take it in turn

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Don't ask, "what are you thinking?" And don't assume we are actually putting subtext into what we say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let him go to the pub lol

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I don’t think men and women are so different; the important thing to give each other is space to talk and feeling that you’re listened to.

If you can both feel that you’re valued, everything else will be a breeze

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Learn to be a woman!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Give the ladies some relationship advice

Not:

Stay in the kitchen

Bj upon waking etc

Some helpful tips

Keep his belly full, and his balls empty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Accept that at some point (or more) we are going to royally fuck something up, whatever it may be, and you’re going to be annoyed about it.

Confront us, say anything and everything you need to, and then leave it be. This first time it is discussed, whilst still in context, we are likely to be genuinely sorry we’ve hurt you.

The 1,723rd time it’s bought tangentially into an unrelated conversation, we won’t be sorry. At all.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

"Give the ladies some relationship advice

Not:

Stay in the kitchen

Bj upon waking etc

Some helpful tips

Try to be positive and smile even on fab.

Understand that men may not communicate in the same style as you but that does not mean they are unfeeling or not listening.

Listen to "wear sunscreen". X

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By *asher11Man
over a year ago

market harborough

dont get to pissed off if he says hes working on bonnie or elsie they are just bikes in the garage

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

Ask her to go and stay with her mother before pmt kicks in.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

And don’t mention white horses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And don’t mention white horses."

Old Spice adverts are OK though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont get to pissed off if he says hes working on bonnie or elsie they are just bikes in the garage "

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"And don’t mention white horses.

Old Spice adverts are OK though?

Only on Thursdays.

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

Avoid the following

The smokers , unless you smoke yourself

my job prevents me sending face pics

I can’t give out my number

I’m not available after 6pm only the day time

I can’t use live picture platforms

I can never accommodate because of my lodger

The ones who don’t take no for an answer

And the unverified

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Avoid the following

The smokers , unless you smoke yourself

my job prevents me sending face pics

I can’t give out my number

I’m not available after 6pm only the day time

I can’t use live picture platforms

I can never accommodate because of my lodger

The ones who don’t take no for an answer

And the unverified

I can’t ’t accommodate due to two kids and a wife.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Avoid the following

The smokers , unless you smoke yourself

my job prevents me sending face pics

I can’t give out my number

I’m not available after 6pm only the day time

I can’t use live picture platforms

I can never accommodate because of my lodger

The ones who don’t take no for an answer

And the unverified

That is fab advice, not relationship advice

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Make us your little spoon sometimes, we love it.

This is a valuable one

Remember, not all guys are the same, we're individuals just like you.

And some want to be the big spoon all the time...

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By *orthernGinge-93Man
over a year ago

Northeast

It might be personal to me but here's a few:

When you ask him to do something, please don't ask another 10 times in a short period of time. That will make him more unlikely to do it. (Unless sexual ofc hahah)

Don't sacrifice your friendships for him aswell as you should not expect him to do the same.

Make sure you both have time to yourselves, atleast once a week give each other space, recharge the old batteries.

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By *odgerMan
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London

Quite simple...just do as your told

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By *uper SaiyanMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I cant speak for the other Gents but for me it would be:

Let me do my thing and you do yours. I want to know what your doing and I get you want to know what Im doing, but dont force yourself to be in my face the entire day. I have my own interests so I can be interesting when I tell you about them.

Now this could be the people im around, but use full sentences when conversing. Without a subject saying 3 words means nothing. Uri Gellar reads minds not me. You say "you're alright", then I will assume you are, in fact, alright.

That leads to know your audience, my background leads me to problem solve and do thing, so if you come to me with a problem I will fix it - dont be suprised when that happens and you thought you were just venting

Sheesh thats long.

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

If a man says he’ll do it, he’ll do it. Might not be right there and then, but it will get done.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

The only bit of advice you need is that to keep a man happy make sure to touch his peen at least once a day in what ever way you feel suits.

Men love it when their peens get played with.

Everything else is just noise.

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By *izzmasterzeroMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Once every few months out of the blue just give us a huge club sandwich with a drink and the remote then just leave us to it

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By *dward_TeagueMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Toilet seats.

We need them up, you need them down.

Get over it

Seriously I’d say communication is everything. As someone has already said, don’t say that you’re alright when you’re not because we will assume that you are actually alright. We are simple, straightforward creatures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never put 'not' after a statement.

Unless you're a time travelling teenager from 2007.

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

"Toilet seats.

We need them up, you need them down.

Get over it

Haha yes! The toilet seat issue. I've yet to hear a fair and reasonable explanation for that one

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

"Give the ladies some relationship advice

Not:

Stay in the kitchen

Bj upon waking etc

Some helpful tips

This is a swingers site. so this advice is to men and women....

Be respectful, have fun, find people who you like and who like you (with any luck there is a sexual attraction too) and if all is tickedy boo. SHAG EM

simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself, not what you think he wants

Don't use sex as a weapon

Accept that all men are twats sometimes

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’ve posted before on the thread but another vote for say what you mean instead of hinting or assuming or being subtle. I like to be asked/told straight.

Another vote for: Don’t hold grudges or keep arguments going. Don’t sulk. Sort it because as above if it’s the guy who has screwed up he’s gonna be sorry but keep carping on about it isn’t going to help things improve.

Another vote for: give your man some time on his own to do his things. You can have time to do yours. Then there’s time for together things.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Don't hog all the bed covers, it's not a game of command & conquer

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By *ilky_CocoPuffsCouple
over a year ago

Luton

"Give the ladies some relationship advice

Not:

Stay in the kitchen

Bj upon waking etc

Some helpful tips

There are so many expectations that men think they need to live up too; be the bread winner, be strong, look a certain way, don't cry... But all these expectations are out dated and men are allowed to feel pain, allowed to cry and we don't have to be the main bread winner and provider. We just need to be there for the people that care about us. Know that in a relationship that we are equal and we'll share the burden of life together. Listen to your man when he talks, hold your man when he's upset, don't tell him to "man up" if he cries. Just love m each other how you want to be loved.

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Essentially the species are honest, simpletons who are easily excitable sometimes Neanderthals but have feelings and like to be liked.

Their communication skills are basic and may appear to lack empathy so anything beyond this may require explaining.

Their priority list can be an issue an issue of concern but again clear communication as to why and they can be reasonable (most of times)

Something of their interest is a difficult one to overcome(e.g football).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies a relationship is 50/50.

Pj's should be worn past 9am.

The end.

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By *ussD1Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

Sometimes we need to wank for no other reason than it’s there and feels nice. If you had one you’d play with it all the time too.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Be yourself

Don't try to change him

Talk

Listen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be yourself

Don't try to change him

Talk

Listen

Exactly

Listen to what HE has to say,not what you want him to say

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By *entGent75Man
over a year ago

Dartford

Put the crochet hook down and suggest doing something together.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Open honest frank communication without prejudice from either side.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never take him for granted! Never stop those hugs and kissers x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never take him for granted! "

Or shopping ,we don't like shopping with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never take him for granted!

Or shopping ,we don't like shopping with you"
lolol I don’t mind as long as it’s not my money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't try and mould him into what you would like him to be, that's not him

Stop listing what you like / want / expect, let him find his own path

We have chameleon tendencies

We will bend to fit the mould, cos fanny, but then when the true colours show, you lose the trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask him how his day was....i'd ask ex, and she'd moan and bitch for an hour or more about work and who said what..... she'd hardly ask how I was,I was always expected to be ok.

Give us hugs..... as in, you walk over to us and give us a hug because you want to give US a hug, not because YOU want one, theres a massive difference in how they feel.....

Think I need counselling, ex has messedme up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't expect to be chased

Some of us find it tiresome

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Learn how to do dirty talk properly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't make him a priority in your life, when you are only an option in his

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't throw it back in your guys face that he buys you everything you ask for.... then say he never buys surprise gifts at Christmas...... because he just bought everything on list you asked for.... but still wasn't enough.

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By *oss25Man
over a year ago

Flitwick and Fakenham

"A good made cup of tea is soooooo under rated

Heat the pot and cup, loose leave Fortnums tea, brew 5-6 mins, a little milk in after pouring......does that qualify?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Ask him how his day was....i'd ask ex, and she'd moan and bitch for an hour or more about work and who said what..... she'd hardly ask how I was,I was always expected to be ok.

Give us hugs..... as in, you walk over to us and give us a hug because you want to give US a hug, not because YOU want one, theres a massive difference in how they feel.....

Think I need counselling, ex has messedme up.

"
write all your angry stuff on some paper then burn it. New start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually be interested when the offside rule is being explained to you

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Give the ladies some relationship advice

Not:

Stay in the kitchen

Bj upon waking etc

Some helpful tips

This is very patronising , there's many guys who are good partners and can hold down a relationship, even on fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Make us your little spoon sometimes, we love it.

This is a valuable one

Remember, not all guys are the same, we're individuals just like you.

And some want to be the big spoon all the time... "

So you don't want boobs pressed to your back, gentle breaths and little kisses across your shoulders and a drifting hand playing in your chest/stomach hair?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not to ask them (or perhaps it is just me) 'What are you thinking?' as it shows no understanding of men's/my ability to be almost wholly blank

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Give the ladies some relationship advice

Not:

Stay in the kitchen

Bj upon waking etc

Some helpful tips

This is very patronising , there's many guys who are good partners and can hold down a relationship, even on fabs."

Why would she ask for relationship advice on fab if she thought nobody on fab could hold down relationships? I don't really understand your comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Make us your little spoon sometimes, we love it.

This is a valuable one

Remember, not all guys are the same, we're individuals just like you.

And some want to be the big spoon all the time...

So you don't want boobs pressed to your back, gentle breaths and little kisses across your shoulders and a drifting hand playing in your chest/stomach hair? "

I don't like it, from women or men

Any intimacy has to originate with me, with me in control of its progression

Otherwise I freeze

It is deeply ingrained in me, for reasons I won't talk about here

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Actually be interested when the offside rule is being explained to you"

Strewth. I’d struggle with this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give the ladies some relationship advice

Not:

Stay in the kitchen

Bj upon waking etc

Some helpful tips

This is very patronising , there's many guys who are good partners and can hold down a relationship, even on fabs.

Why would she ask for relationship advice on fab if she thought nobody on fab could hold down relationships? I don't really understand your comment. "

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By *odgerMan
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London

"Make us your little spoon sometimes, we love it.

This is a valuable one

Remember, not all guys are the same, we're individuals just like you.

And some want to be the big spoon all the time...

So you don't want boobs pressed to your back, gentle breaths and little kisses across your shoulders and a drifting hand playing in your chest/stomach hair? "

Hmmm...only on a Sunday morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never go to bed after an unresolved argument.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give him a hug once in a while for no reason other than he’s there! Same way women want to feel loved we want to know we are special to you as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually be interested when the offside rule is being explained to you

Strewth. I’d struggle with this one."

So would most ardent footy fans these days so don’t fret about that one!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

The bj upon waking is sina qua non i'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies sit back and chill. I will do it all for you.........

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By *entGent75Man
over a year ago

Dartford

"Make us your little spoon sometimes, we love it.

This is a valuable one

Remember, not all guys are the same, we're individuals just like you.

And some want to be the big spoon all the time...

So you don't want boobs pressed to your back, gentle breaths and little kisses across your shoulders and a drifting hand playing in your chest/stomach hair?

Hmmm...only on a Sunday morning

If only.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Make us your little spoon sometimes, we love it.

This is a valuable one

Remember, not all guys are the same, we're individuals just like you.

And some want to be the big spoon all the time...

So you don't want boobs pressed to your back, gentle breaths and little kisses across your shoulders and a drifting hand playing in your chest/stomach hair? "

Your hand going lower...?

I may need a few moments with this thought

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Aside from the obvious ones (communicate, make sure you have your own independence etc) we would say;

1.) Don’t rely on that other person to make you happy. (And I don’t mean that in a Negative Nancy kinda way!)

Your happiness is your own responsibility. If you love a certain hobby or past-time, you need to find a way to balance that around your relationship. If you need your time out with your friends and your own independent space, again, it’s your responsibility to pursue that and find the balance you need.

Your partner could and certainly SHOULD contribute towards your happiness. But they are not the sole proprietor of your Happiness.

2.) Try to aim for Parity in your relationship.

Parity doesn’t mean you’re always on level footing in every aspect of your relationship, it’s about balance. If one of you gives up some ground in one area, the other should be willing to give up some ground in another area.

Ultimately both people will have to make adjustments. You’re not single anymore and you can’t have it all your own way!

And last but not least; as the gambling adverts have put it: “When the fun stops, Stop.”

Walking away from a relationship thag isn’t working is not a failure. It’s an acceptance of your growth, you’ve moved on and are now looking for something else. Hanging on to a relationship for nostalgia’s sake is going to bring nothing but pain for both parties.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Don't expect him to be a mind reader. If he asks you what is wrong and you say "Nothing" don't be surprised if he acts as if nothing is wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly remember to keep your individuality. Nothing it wrost an someone losing there identity when get into a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% honesty, you can't build a relationship on lies.

Be big spoon from time to time.

Nipples are fun to play with.

Get to know likes and dislikes.

If he treats you like a queen then make him your King

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

Don't get jealous when your boyfriend/partner says thank you to the waitress after a meal on date night

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Is there a prize for the best answer.

Asking for a friend

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As suspected

I am the male of relationships and have been with females.

Thank you for your answers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't get jealous when your boyfriend/partner says thank you to the waitress after a meal on date night

That is just bunny boiler shit, but also had it from a male ex

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest

I'd say most important thing is communication. Talk to each other about everything. When there is an issue discuss it and solve it. Never go to sleep on bad feelings.

Oh and lots and lots of sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give him a hug once in a while for no reason other than he’s there! Same way women want to feel loved we want to know we are special to you as well

Yep, these go a very long way.

For me they’re like an instant battery recharge; if I’m feeling a bit down or just overwhelmed with work, etc., unexpected hugs and a ‘thank you for doing what you do’ are a massive lift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not just here for sex you know......wait....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't expect to be chased

Some of us find it tiresome"

Another good one....along the same lines of saying ‘Fine’ when you actually aren’t.

We fellas don’t do subtle other than the rare occasions we think of it ourselves. We don’t get ‘lady subtle’. I’m fairly crap at reading people, so efforts of gentle coercion are likely to be missed, misunderstood or over-thought and not reacted to.

If you like me, tell me you like me. I might go ‘rabbit on the headlights’ on the odd occasion, but it will pass pretty quickly.

If you want to bang my brains out, say so. I had a FWB a few years back who I’d see quite regularly. If she wanted to watch TV with me and chill, she’d say “Fancy a cuppa?” as I walked through the door. If she wanted to get busy, she’d just say “Get you cock out”....which I invariably would and we both ended up happy. No misinterpretation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As has already been said, don't try to change us, it doesn't work, then talk to us, if something is on your mind we won't know about it unless you tell us. Finally listen when we tell you things.

I dont think I have anything else to add.

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Don't expect to be chased

Some of us find it tiresome

Another good one....along the same lines of saying ‘Fine’ when you actually aren’t.

If you like me, tell me you like me. I might go ‘rabbit on the headlights’ on the odd occasion, but it will pass pretty quickly.

This one should be in the top 5.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Sense of humour is very attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give the ladies some relationship advice

Not:

Stay in the kitchen

Bj upon waking etc

Some helpful tips

What advice would you like ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give the ladies some relationship advice

Not:

Stay in the kitchen

Bj upon waking etc

Some helpful tips

We are equal in every respect mentally and emotionally, it is but our outer shells that make us different, your feelings are my feelings and what effects you also effects me

Chose your actions and words towards me wisely or I will was Ok out that door and you will never have the chances you have with me again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk out *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel unqualified to offer relationship advice as I find them about as challenging as nailing jelly to the wall

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By *rnyashellcplCouple
over a year ago

Haydock

"Give the ladies some relationship advice

Not:

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Bj upon waking etc

Some helpful tips

Might sound cliché n corny, always have a laugh and don't take too much seriously

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Suck cock and make sure the tea is on the table when we get home

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Suck cock and make sure the tea is on the table when we get home

"
you cum on the table?!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"Suck cock and make sure the tea is on the table when we get home

you cum on the table?!

That’s the only tea I’m serving up for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be friendley smile and polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Serve him compliments,

Even as small as I like your shirt today. Men dont get as many as youd expect and they genuinely always make my day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually talk. We try but we aren’t mind readers. We will have an idea of the mood and a general understanding but open communication is key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Serve him compliments,

Even as small as I like your shirt today. Men dont get as many as youd expect and they genuinely always make my day"

This is also very true. May not be as open a thing but everyone loves a little compliment now and again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t say it’s specific to men, but don’t look to your partner to fill your void, don’t expect them to fulfil you.

When starting a relationship you should have goals, dreams, ambitions, hobbies and interests... they shouldn’t change and stop because you have someone new in your life. If they do, the person they liked is no longer that person anymore.

Share your life not change it.

From personal experience what I can say is don’t try change someone to fit your preferences, accept them for who they are... and remember no 2 people are the same so you will find things you don’t like, if you can’t accept them, move on to a better fit

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By *ickeyblueeyes7Man
over a year ago

newport

Listen to what the man says and not twist the words to make it something different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Count to ten

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let the man you live with wear your knickers

No but I’d buy him his own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you've asked him to do something once dont ask again. He will do it eventually, keep asking and it will never get done

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By *ingadinga2319Couple
over a year ago

Stoke

Show interest in our interests - we may pick up that it is fake... but we know you're trying at least.

Waking up to a BJ is never not going to be welcomed.

Surprise us with a grope.

Grab and pull our hair when we're going down on you - if we're not quite hitting the spot... you can direct us.

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By *ocbigMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"That is soo unfair its like asking guys to send messages with more than 3 words, and words with more than 1 syllable

Uh?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"If you've asked him to do something once dont ask again. He will do it eventually, keep asking and it will never get done"

How long do we have to wait (in units of years or decades, presumably?!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We can't read minds and don't have a crystal ball. If you want something, speak "

Agreed. Communication is key for me. If there's anything to say then just say it. I'll get annoyed if I've got to try and constantly read hints/signals but I'm calm if just told something. Even if it's negative, at least we can then have a proper conversation about it and go from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Make us your little spoon sometimes, we love it."

And also this

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By *ocbigMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Actually be interested when the offside rule is being explained to you

Strewth. I’d struggle with this one."

Me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ivy..........

Can I sit and watch?"

Me too

I will behave,promise

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Accept that some of us quite like our own space, don't take it personally if we just want to go off and do our own thing sometimes.

Also let us walk away from an argument, don't follow us around the house trying to carry it on when we're quite clearly trying to de-escalate it!

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By *ickJMan
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

If you ask my what I'm thinking about and I say "nothing", believe me. It is possible for a man to literally sit and think of nothing at all, just let the mind wander blankly. It's very relaxing.

Whilst thinking of nothing, the subconscious can be solving problems by itself, so I might suddenly think of an answer to "how can I get a wired internet cable from one side of the house to the other" or remember why early Hillman Imps had positive camber and how the wishbones can be altered to adjust it.

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By *ocbigMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

...and “I am spy, no one knows.”

...or have I said too much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you've asked him to do something once dont ask again. He will do it eventually, keep asking and it will never get done

How long do we have to wait (in units of years or decades, presumably?!)

Does it matter, it will get done, one day

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"If you've asked him to do something once dont ask again. He will do it eventually, keep asking and it will never get done

How long do we have to wait (in units of years or decades, presumably?!)

Does it matter, it will get done, one day

I won't need you to put that home gym together anymore, if you wait till I'm 95 to do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a good partner/wife/girlfriend. I have just have chosen the wrong chaps before so no advice from me other than make sure they appreciate you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a good partner/wife/girlfriend. I have just have chosen the wrong chaps before so no advice from me other than make sure they appreciate you

Me too

. Agree ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you've asked him to do something once dont ask again. He will do it eventually, keep asking and it will never get done

How long do we have to wait (in units of years or decades, presumably?!)

Does it matter, it will get done, one day

I won't need you to put that home gym together anymore, if you wait till I'm 95 to do it

If I was asked that I'd be on it straight away

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"If you've asked him to do something once dont ask again. He will do it eventually, keep asking and it will never get done

How long do we have to wait (in units of years or decades, presumably?!)

Does it matter, it will get done, one day

I won't need you to put that home gym together anymore, if you wait till I'm 95 to do it

If I was asked that I'd be on it straight away

While you're at it, that picture of my maiden aunt needs putting up on the stairs

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Don't moisturise your foofoo with cod liver oil..

Beyond that i have no decent advice beyond be yourself..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say wait for a guy you enjoy the company of...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself if that's not good enough then he/she isn't the one for you

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By *ussD1Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Actually be interested when the offside rule is being explained to you

Strewth. I’d struggle with this one."

So would I

*yawn*

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By *ussD1Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

"If you ask my what I'm thinking about and I say "nothing", believe me. It is possible for a man to literally sit and think of nothing at all, just let the mind wander blankly. It's very relaxing.

This

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Sometimes just wiggling your bum at him isn't enough...take interest in all his body discovering his erogenous areas ..he has probably spent ages discovering yours

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By *arren PeaceMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Give the ladies some relationship advice

Not:

Stay in the kitchen

Bj upon waking etc

Some helpful tips

Core factors that could help:

1. Don't try and change him.

2. Don't ask every two seconds what he's doing.

3. Don't try and access his phone when he leaves the room.

4. Tell us the truth, not what we want to hear, the mask will slip.

5. Be yourself, again the mask will slip.

6. Don't make lists.

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By *rojan23Man
over a year ago

neverland

When we ask you if you're ok , and you say your fine when you're not fine. We men are dense

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Lay off the booze.

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