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Inexplicable blockings

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By *odger OP   Man
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London

..now I've been blocked by many and this doesn't bother me, its part of the deal.

What does annoy me a little is when I don't understand why.

For example, I met a woman three times over a few months before first lockdown, always great meets...always continued to chat after etc then one day I find she blocked me.

Had another recently, talked about meeting up after all this and then came to reply to her last message...and bang...blocked.

Funny old business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its You, not them!!

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Not quite sure really but they must have their reasons. May not be about you either.. could be its them themselves. Dont worry about it too much and just move on really. Only thing you can do

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By *odger OP   Man
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London


"Its You, not them!!"

Well yes, I know that...they can probably smell my breath theough the phone

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Don't waste your time ......

Could be any number of reasons.

Maybe a covid death in the family or her fanny fell off.

No apologies for the utter reality of my response.

Fannys do fall off sometimes.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Some poeple are fantasists.

Some people just don't want to hurt someone elses feelings.

Some people are time wasters.

Some people are fake profiles and want a quick wank.

Some people get caught of there other half.

I wouldn't worry too much about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why worry, if people block me for reasons not understood I just see that as the trash taking itself out not worthy of your time or attention

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By *odger OP   Man
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London

I suppose on the upside, it's not as bad as going to a meet which you think went quite well, then finding you're blocked when you get home

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By *leeperMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Some poeple are fantasists.

Some people just don't want to hurt someone elses feelings.

Some people are time wasters.

Some people are fake profiles and want a quick wank.

Some people get caught of there other half.

I wouldn't worry too much about it."

^ this

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By *leeperMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I suppose on the upside, it's not as bad as going to a meet which you think went quite well, then finding you're blocked when you get home "

Try not to take it personally, she might have had regets or she didn’t feel it after and find that blocking is easier that saying no or to ignore if you

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By *leeperMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I suppose on the upside, it's not as bad as going to a meet which you think went quite well, then finding you're blocked when you get home "

It could have gone well(to you) and might not have been what she was fully looking for also remember a lot of men on here don’t even get meets so that fact your meeting is a plus

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

There's always an explanation.

We've been on the receiving end and recently (is there something in the water) have had to use the block button mid conversation ourselves.

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By *odger OP   Man
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London

Well yeah, I'm sure there is...and sometimes I think... yeah...probably deserved that..but its the inexplicable one's that puzzle me.

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By *urious1973Man
over a year ago

angus


"Why worry, if people block me for reasons not understood I just see that as the trash taking itself out not worthy of your time or attention

"

Wow who would want to block you xx

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By *odger OP   Man
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London


"I suppose on the upside, it's not as bad as going to a meet which you think went quite well, then finding you're blocked when you get home

Try not to take it personally, she might have had regets or she didn’t feel it after and find that blocking is easier that saying no or to ignore if you "

Well I thought it was quite funny tbh...she'd taken a day off work because she had the plumber coming round in the afternoon and feel like she wanted to make the most of the day off. She'd only joined the week before and think she left fairly soon after. I'm guessing she wanted to try it and see how she felt afterwards..

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There are a lot of seemingly "inexplicable" things happen on here, or at least they may seem inexplicable to the person on the receiving end (of which we have pretty much all been at some point) but they will all be explicable to the person carrying out the action.

I learned quite early on to try not to sweat it too much and just accept that whatever the reason it was obviously a valid one for the other person and there was no point in trying to understand it or figure it out.

That said there have been a couple of times when it has come down to a misunderstanding and has been resolved by talking but that's obviously not something you can necessarily do in the case of a block.

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By *odger OP   Man
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London


"Why worry, if people block me for reasons not understood I just see that as the trash taking itself out not worthy of your time or attention

Wow who would want to block you xx"

Well precisely...what with a vid like that....watched it with sound down which added to the experience

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well yeah, I'm sure there is...and sometimes I think... yeah...probably deserved that..but its the inexplicable one's that puzzle me. "

Yeah but...they have an explanation, we just don't know what it is.

We met a man in 2018 for two socials at the second meeting we agreed to meet a third time for a role play scenario we'd all agreed too. Several messages followed discussing the finer details and three possible dates suggested then nothing. Now he knows why but we can only guess

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

It's strange, a guy sent me a slightly rude/arrogant question last night. I replied with the same attitude and he obviously didn't like it as an instant block for me.

Saved me doing the blocking though.

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By *odger OP   Man
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London


"There are a lot of seemingly "inexplicable" things happen on here, or at least they may seem inexplicable to the person on the receiving end (of which we have pretty much all been at some point) but they will all be explicable to the person carrying out the action.

I learned quite early on to try not to sweat it too much and just accept that whatever the reason it was obviously a valid one for the other person and there was no point in trying to understand it or figure it out.

That said there have been a couple of times when it has come down to a misunderstanding and has been resolved by talking but that's obviously not something you can necessarily do in the case of a block."

Yeah...I've a feeling its because I got a veri for a meet by someone returning which happened way back...but makes it look like you've been meeting during lockdown and as she was a care worker probably didn't go down too well. Misunderstandings can happen...but like you say once blocked you're pretty much knackered....now where's my fake profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why worry, if people block me for reasons not understood I just see that as the trash taking itself out not worthy of your time or attention

Wow who would want to block you xx"

Lots of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why worry, if people block me for reasons not understood I just see that as the trash taking itself out not worthy of your time or attention

Wow who would want to block you xx

Well precisely...what with a vid like that....watched it with sound down which added to the experience "

Lmao! Like watching paint dry

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Why worry, if people block me for reasons not understood I just see that as the trash taking itself out not worthy of your time or attention

Wow who would want to block you xx

Well precisely...what with a vid like that....watched it with sound down which added to the experience

Lmao! Like watching paint dry "

I just go into Gavin & Stacey mode when I listen to it

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"Why worry, if people block me for reasons not understood I just see that as the trash taking itself out not worthy of your time or attention

Wow who would want to block you xx

Lots of people "

I just unblocked you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why worry, if people block me for reasons not understood I just see that as the trash taking itself out not worthy of your time or attention

Wow who would want to block you xx

Lots of people

I just unblocked you "

Thank you. I feel humbled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We personally don't give it a second thought if we've been blocked by somebody, they must have had their reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a tool to be used in many ways. For me it means stay away/I don't trust you. I suppose that's not what you want to hear. But I would not waste a thought on it. Some just use it as an easy tool to end something. Like a modification of ghosting. Because they weren't as invested as you were and don't feel like justifying their decision as cruel as it sounds. Point is there can be so many explanations why, but will probably never know and it doesn't matter.

It doesn't mean they think of you in hideous ways. It means life has moved on and they didn't chose to say goodbye.

I'm assuming you are referring only to being blocked by people you know not just those you managed to piss off on the internet whilst on some hormone rage?

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By *odger OP   Man
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London


"Why worry, if people block me for reasons not understood I just see that as the trash taking itself out not worthy of your time or attention

Wow who would want to block you xx

Well precisely...what with a vid like that....watched it with sound down which added to the experience

Lmao! Like watching paint dry "

Well I sat nicely and patiently waiting for it to explode into a frenzy of hot sex...then thought...maybe there's sound...and there was

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I suppose on the upside, it's not as bad as going to a meet which you think went quite well, then finding you're blocked when you get home "

I’ve had a few meets that the man obviously thought went well, judging by the way they pestered me for a second meet afterwards. But for me they were pretty unpleasant experiences. When you tell someone you aren’t interested in meeting them again but they keep pestering you, what are you supposed to do but block them? In future, if I am unlucky enough to have another bad meet, I probably would block immediately so they can’t even leave a veri, and certainly can’t pester me.

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By *odger OP   Man
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London


"

I'm assuming you are referring only to being blocked by people you know not just those you managed to piss off on the internet whilst on some hormone rage?

"

Hormone rage? Me? Well yeah..I get the usual day to day blockages..but yeah..mainly referring to folk I've met a few times or spoken to regularly on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm assuming you are referring only to being blocked by people you know not just those you managed to piss off on the internet whilst on some hormone rage?

Hormone rage? Me? Well yeah..I get the usual day to day blockages..but yeah..mainly referring to folk I've met a few times or spoken to regularly on here "

Men don't have hormones or what? ;-)

Good luck. First smile of the day counted. Hope you are ready to conquer fab world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why worry, if people block me for reasons not understood I just see that as the trash taking itself out not worthy of your time or attention

Wow who would want to block you xx

Well precisely...what with a vid like that....watched it with sound down which added to the experience

Lmao! Like watching paint dry

I just go into Gavin & Stacey mode when I listen to it "

Glad my accent humours you Gman

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Why worry, if people block me for reasons not understood I just see that as the trash taking itself out not worthy of your time or attention

Wow who would want to block you xx

Well precisely...what with a vid like that....watched it with sound down which added to the experience

Lmao! Like watching paint dry

I just go into Gavin & Stacey mode when I listen to it

Glad my accent humours you Gman "

Well it's infinitely better than my boring monotone

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Block them back and move on.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I’m surprised at times who’s blocked me, one particular person comes to mind. But they could be blocking for a variety of reasons not necessarily because they dislike you. Simply don’t want to engage in a one to one conversation with you.

So I just block back and not give it too much thought

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