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I find it quite rude sometimes personally...
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"It’s because they want to shag you. " True story 
Don't sweat the small stuff OP x | |||
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"It’s because they want to shag you. True story
Don't sweat the small stuff OP x"Try not too!
It didn't really bother me all that much when we first joined but it just gets so repetitive sometimes, we never message or wink anyone before reading their profile fully beforehand to make sure we match on what we're looking for and what they are looking for etc.
I wanted to see if anybody else bothered reading others profiles or is it just the "norm" not too and just wing it or fail that our profile was just too long and boring x | |||
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"It’s because they want to shag you. True story
Don't sweat the small stuff OP x
Try not too!
It didn't really bother me all that much when we first joined but it just gets so repetitive sometimes, we never message or wink anyone before reading their profile fully beforehand to make sure we match on what we're looking for and what they are looking for etc.
I wanted to see if anybody else bothered reading others profiles or is it just the "norm" not too and just wing it or fail that our profile was just too long and boring x"Honestly dont get why people do it How can you messege someone if you dont know anything about them? It's like those people with like 1 word profiles! Wouldnt worry about it  | |||
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"Most of those sort of messages are from guys who live nowhere near and that just message anyone who is online. They don’t read profiles and just do it for the thrill. I just delete and block them." Oh yeah we get that and that's exactly what we do, do. Sometimes can't help a sarcastic comment back on the odd occasion. Although we do get some genuine messages from single males which is nice to see as sometimes they go unnoticed. Just shocked me today as it actually come from a woman's profile | |||
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"It’s because they want to shag you. True story
Don't sweat the small stuff OP x
Try not too!
It didn't really bother me all that much when we first joined but it just gets so repetitive sometimes, we never message or wink anyone before reading their profile fully beforehand to make sure we match on what we're looking for and what they are looking for etc.
I wanted to see if anybody else bothered reading others profiles or is it just the "norm" not too and just wing it or fail that our profile was just too long and boring x
Honestly dont get why people do it
How can you messege someone if you dont know anything about them?
It's like those people with like 1 word profiles!
Wouldnt worry about it
"Yeah us too. Not worrying just wondering if a lot of people don't bother reading them or if ours was just too long and boring  | |||
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"We all live busy hectic lives, No ones got the time to read profiles these days, I haven’t even got the time to type this message as I’ve got a soufflé on the rise. " I've just perv'd at your profile. You really remind me of Brad Pitt  | |||
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"It’s because they want to shag you. True story
Don't sweat the small stuff OP x
Try not too!
It didn't really bother me all that much when we first joined but it just gets so repetitive sometimes, we never message or wink anyone before reading their profile fully beforehand to make sure we match on what we're looking for and what they are looking for etc.
I wanted to see if anybody else bothered reading others profiles or is it just the "norm" not too and just wing it or fail that our profile was just too long and boring x
Honestly dont get why people do it
How can you messege someone if you dont know anything about them?
It's like those people with like 1 word profiles!
Wouldnt worry about it
Yeah us too.
Not worrying just wondering if a lot of people don't bother reading them or if ours was just too long and boring "It's not boring in the slightest Profiles where people have put some effort in always stand out  | |||
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(be prepared tho because sometimes you end up getting a shit load of abuse for rejecting someone who couldn't even be arses to have a 2min read of you bio properly before messaging) | |||
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"I read profiles first, because were all into different things aren't we? I read yours and Its clear what you prefer, may be easier to just block singles. " Right!? We like the social side just as much so no need to filter messages too much, was just intrigued on others thoughts on it and whether many others bother to read profiles | |||
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I do find it frustrating when I get a question that would clearly be answered by reading my (long-winded) profile. O do wonder sometimes why I put so much work into it though.... | |||
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"You have a very good, well written profile. The problem is many people just message without reading, they don't get to the point of actually reading it! Good luck after Covid guys "Thank you and I do just find it quite rude and lazy personally. Thanks | |||
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"Sadly we get the exact same quite frequently, if they ask us something that we clearly state or our bio covers then we normally just refer them back to taking a look at our profile first... I think is something that you can never 100% stop, so the are times we just say a simple no thanks (be prepared tho because sometimes you end up getting a shit load of abuse for rejecting someone who couldn't even be arses to have a 2min read of you bio properly before messaging) "Knew we wouldn't be the only ones, it's just pure laziness as we see it anyway. And oh yeah we've certainly had that ourselves too! Some people are crazy on here | |||
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"You are assuming people read the blurb, and you know what is said about assumptions!" Makes an ass of you and umption | |||
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"Most people look at the pictures and don't bother with the actual profile. I am guilty of it myself sometimes
I do find it frustrating when I get a question that would clearly be answered by reading my (long-winded) profile. O do wonder sometimes why I put so much work into it though...."But for say, would you message a couple asking them if they play separately or just have quick scan of the profile first to see if you can see that awnser? | |||
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"Sadly we get the exact same quite frequently, if they ask us something that we clearly state or our bio covers then we normally just refer them back to taking a look at our profile first... I think is something that you can never 100% stop, so the are times we just say a simple no thanks (be prepared tho because sometimes you end up getting a shit load of abuse for rejecting someone who couldn't even be arses to have a 2min read of you bio properly before messaging)
Knew we wouldn't be the only ones, it's just pure laziness as we see it anyway.
And oh yeah we've certainly had that ourselves too! Some people are crazy on here "we totally get where you are coming from... We just tend to think "fuck em" (unfortunately for them not literally lol ) as soon as they start being dicks we just block them hope you have a better experience on Fab than just the idiots | |||
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"You have a very good, well written profile. The problem is many people just message without reading, they don't get to the point of actually reading it! Good luck after Covid guys
Thank you and I do just find it quite rude and lazy personally. Thanks "I must say your profile is great, very lovely indeed guys  | |||
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"Most people look at the pictures and don't bother with the actual profile. I am guilty of it myself sometimes
I do find it frustrating when I get a question that would clearly be answered by reading my (long-winded) profile. O do wonder sometimes why I put so much work into it though....
But for say, would you message a couple asking them if they play separately or just have quick scan of the profile first to see if you can see that awnser? "I would definitely read the profile first. I think it's a different scenario altogether. If a hot young guy messages me I get distracted by the pictures!  I think tend to make more of an effort with couples to see if the dynamics will work. | |||
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"Sadly we get the exact same quite frequently, if they ask us something that we clearly state or our bio covers then we normally just refer them back to taking a look at our profile first... I think is something that you can never 100% stop, so the are times we just say a simple no thanks (be prepared tho because sometimes you end up getting a shit load of abuse for rejecting someone who couldn't even be arses to have a 2min read of you bio properly before messaging)
Knew we wouldn't be the only ones, it's just pure laziness as we see it anyway.
And oh yeah we've certainly had that ourselves too! Some people are crazy on here we totally get where you are coming from... We just tend to think "fuck em" (unfortunately for them not literally lol ) as soon as they start being dicks we just block them hope you have a better experience on Fab than just the idiots "Oh yeah and believe me we do think that, sometimes can't help a sarcastic comment back haha like what you did there!
Oh yeah, we like fab! The gems on here outweigh the idiots definitely, I was just curious how many people actually bothered reading the profiles or before asking a stupid question... just have a quick scan of the profile first | |||
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"You have a very good, well written profile. The problem is many people just message without reading, they don't get to the point of actually reading it! Good luck after Covid guys
Thank you and I do just find it quite rude and lazy personally. Thanks
I must say your profile is great, very lovely indeed guys "Thank you!  | |||
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"Some people just message whoever is nearby/online when they're free/have a hard-on, with the same copy and paste message. They don't read the profile or care what you wan, only what they want." Oh yeah I get that. Surley that doesn't get them anywhere does it? | |||
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"Most people look at the pictures and don't bother with the actual profile. I am guilty of it myself sometimes
I do find it frustrating when I get a question that would clearly be answered by reading my (long-winded) profile. O do wonder sometimes why I put so much work into it though....
But for say, would you message a couple asking them if they play separately or just have quick scan of the profile first to see if you can see that awnser?
I would definitely read the profile first. I think it's a different scenario altogether. If a hot young guy messages me I get distracted by the pictures! I think tend to make more of an effort with couples to see if the dynamics will work."Yeah course, that's what we would expect too. A woman tried it today that's all, that's why I thought I'd ask you that question. Thanks for your input | |||
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"Most of those sort of messages are from guys who live nowhere near and that just message anyone who is online. They don’t read profiles and just do it for the thrill. I just delete and block them." this  | |||
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"Happens all the time. I updated the very start of our profile when I got diagnosed with cancer again. Not looking to start chats blah blah. We still get messages looking to start chatting. I politely point out that they obv havent read our profile. Its in big asterix's!!!! MsD" Surley, taking the time out to read someone's profile/interests etc your more likely to get a reply? Just find it ignorant addressing one of us when it clearly states in profile we only play as a couple. Sorry to hear that. I have to point it out or some sarcastic comment back if they catch me on a bad day | |||
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"People can't be bothered reading the profile but can fab pics # "I guess it's because it's "too easy" | |||
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"Most people look at the pictures and don't bother with the actual profile. I am guilty of it myself sometimes
I do find it frustrating when I get a question that would clearly be answered by reading my (long-winded) profile. O do wonder sometimes why I put so much work into it though....
But for say, would you message a couple asking them if they play separately or just have quick scan of the profile first to see if you can see that awnser?
I would definitely read the profile first. I think it's a different scenario altogether. If a hot young guy messages me I get distracted by the pictures! I think tend to make more of an effort with couples to see if the dynamics will work.
Yeah course, that's what we would expect too. A woman tried it today that's all, that's why I thought I'd ask you that question. Thanks for your input "You're very welcome. I have made the effort to read your profile. Maybe you should put it in writing that you only play as a couple and don't do solo meets without each other. I only say this because of how people are on this site. But then we wouldn't be having this conversation if people bothered to actually read it.... | |||
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"People can't be bothered reading the profile but can fab pics #
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"Most people look at the pictures and don't bother with the actual profile. I am guilty of it myself sometimes
I do find it frustrating when I get a question that would clearly be answered by reading my (long-winded) profile. O do wonder sometimes why I put so much work into it though....
But for say, would you message a couple asking them if they play separately or just have quick scan of the profile first to see if you can see that awnser?
I would definitely read the profile first. I think it's a different scenario altogether. If a hot young guy messages me I get distracted by the pictures! I think tend to make more of an effort with couples to see if the dynamics will work.
Yeah course, that's what we would expect too. A woman tried it today that's all, that's why I thought I'd ask you that question. Thanks for your input
You're very welcome.
I have made the effort to read your profile. Maybe you should put it in writing that you only play as a couple and don't do solo meets without each other. I only say this because of how people are on this site. But then we wouldn't be having this conversation if people bothered to actually read it.... "Thank you, it is in there but I'm thinking about putting it higher up or in block capitals... And yep that is very true lol | |||
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"I see it as a fishing expedition. Send message - hope to get a bite and then panic if they do respond. Its annoying getting piss poor messages, single liners or those that do not actually allow for conversation to happen... but we fab on" Hmmm yeah... That seems a good way to put it, wonder if it works with other people so they see who they can get away with it next. Personally a bad way to do fab but hey like you said... We fab on | |||
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"Some people just message whoever is nearby/online when they're free/have a hard-on, with the same copy and paste message. They don't read the profile or care what you wan, only what they want. Oh yeah I get that. Surley that doesn't get them anywhere does it? "It might get them sexy chat to get their rocks off *shrug* | |||
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Some people don't even read profiles that are 1 line long so don't sweat it...delete and move on to the good ones | |||
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"Some people just message whoever is nearby/online when they're free/have a hard-on, with the same copy and paste message. They don't read the profile or care what you wan, only what they want. Oh yeah I get that. Surley that doesn't get them anywhere does it?
It might get them sexy chat to get their rocks off *shrug*"Whatever tickles their fancy I suppose ,
Just in this instance a lady messeged asking only for J... I get some people are into this and that's fair enough but I just hate ignorance and laziness lol | |||
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"Some people just message whoever is nearby/online when they're free/have a hard-on, with the same copy and paste message. They don't read the profile or care what you wan, only what they want. Oh yeah I get that. Surley that doesn't get them anywhere does it?
It might get them sexy chat to get their rocks off *shrug*
Whatever tickles their fancy I suppose ,
Just in this instance a lady messeged asking only for J... I get some people are into this and that's fair enough but I just hate ignorance and laziness lol"Just trying their luck on the off chance you'd "change your mind". It's definitely rude and presumptuous, yes. | |||
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"I don't think your profile is too long
Some people don't even read profiles that are 1 line long so don't sweat it...delete and move on to the good ones "Thank you and definitely! | |||
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"Most of those sort of messages are from guys who live nowhere near and that just message anyone who is online. They don’t read profiles and just do it for the thrill. I just delete and block them." Definitely this, just chancing their luck. | |||
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"Some people just message whoever is nearby/online when they're free/have a hard-on, with the same copy and paste message. They don't read the profile or care what you wan, only what they want. Oh yeah I get that. Surley that doesn't get them anywhere does it?
It might get them sexy chat to get their rocks off *shrug*
Whatever tickles their fancy I suppose ,
Just in this instance a lady messeged asking only for J... I get some people are into this and that's fair enough but I just hate ignorance and laziness lol
Just trying their luck on the off chance you'd "change your mind". It's definitely rude and presumptuous, yes."Very true... Had to have a little rare rant and get other people's thoughts | |||
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"I like to think my profile is short and straight to the point therefore not difficult to read quickly and STILL get people messaging that clearly haven't read it. "THIS 100%! - "If you can't respect what's written on my profile, are you going to respect me in bed?" Love that on your profile! | |||
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"A fair proportion of people are just lazy. Or nob-heads. Or lazy nob-heads. I think your profile is pretty informative and of a good length "Yep I think it's got to be both! Thank you for your input, it's nice to know it's not just our profile is too long and boring | |||
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"Click-paste-send Click-paste-send Click-paste-send Click-paste-send Fab fishing "Seems that way, although was quite shocked it coming from a single lady today, first time for everything I guess (before anyone jumps at me I know its not just males that do this) | |||
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"Because you look hot, and since most guys check the pics first, they get carried away and click send message straight away. It's a no lose situation for them: If they aren't what you're looking for, they haven't lost out If they are what you are looking for, great. And if they aren't what you are looking for, but their message/profile is intriguing to you, they win again. " Thank you
I get that, although it actually came from a single female today asking for Mr J only, again I know it isn't just single males that do this, I don't care who it is that's doing it its still rude either way | |||
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"Because you look hot, and since most guys check the pics first, they get carried away and click send message straight away. It's a no lose situation for them: If they aren't what you're looking for, they haven't lost out If they are what you are looking for, great. And if they aren't what you are looking for, but their message/profile is intriguing to you, they win again. Thank you
I get that, although it actually came from a single female today asking for Mr J only, again I know it isn't just single males that do this, I don't care who it is that's doing it its still rude either way"Yeah I saw it was a woman after I posted. Suppose it's because women are so popular and in the minority here, maybe it's the I can have anyone I want mindset. Defo cheeky just asking for the Mr too | |||
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"A fair proportion of people are just lazy. Or nob-heads. Or lazy nob-heads. I think your profile is pretty informative and of a good length
Yep I think it's got to be both!
Thank you for your input, it's nice to know it's not just our profile is too long and boring "Messages from single women are far fewer, but they're still majoratively as lazy. Its frustrating when they have pretty pictures, but I would delete a man's message saying simply "hi", so I make myself do the same for a woman saying simply "hi". It hurts more though  | |||
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"Because you look hot, and since most guys check the pics first, they get carried away and click send message straight away. It's a no lose situation for them: If they aren't what you're looking for, they haven't lost out If they are what you are looking for, great. And if they aren't what you are looking for, but their message/profile is intriguing to you, they win again. Thank you
I get that, although it actually came from a single female today asking for Mr J only, again I know it isn't just single males that do this, I don't care who it is that's doing it its still rude either way
Yeah I saw it was a woman after I posted. Suppose it's because women are so popular and in the minority here, maybe it's the I can have anyone I want mindset.
Defo cheeky just asking for the Mr too "Yeah true which is an unattractive mindset to have personally! I know the cheek on it lol | |||
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"A fair proportion of people are just lazy. Or nob-heads. Or lazy nob-heads. I think your profile is pretty informative and of a good length
Yep I think it's got to be both!
Thank you for your input, it's nice to know it's not just our profile is too long and boring
Messages from single women are far fewer, but they're still majoratively as lazy. Its frustrating when they have pretty pictures, but I would delete a man's message saying simply "hi", so I make myself do the same for a woman saying simply "hi". It hurts more though "Yeah true, its lazy no matter who it comes from is how I see it. Oh yeah I feel the sting you must get from that tho...  | |||
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"Click-paste-send Click-paste-send Click-paste-send Click-paste-send Fab fishing
Seems that way, although was quite shocked it coming from a single lady today, first time for everything I guess (before anyone jumps at me I know its not just males that do this) "Might not have been a real single lady | |||
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"Click-paste-send Click-paste-send Click-paste-send Click-paste-send Fab fishing
Seems that way, although was quite shocked it coming from a single lady today, first time for everything I guess (before anyone jumps at me I know its not just males that do this)
Might not have been a real single lady "True... But considering she was verified by 16 meet, 1 cam  | |||
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"Hey guys, Would like some insight on why some people feel the need to send us a message that have clearly not read our profile at all and could've answered their own silly question that they've asked us by saving themselves time by just reading our profile in the first place, ie. Would love to play with just S, or just J. Is it laziness, ignorance or just both? Or is it that our profile is just "too long?"
I find it quite rude sometimes personally...
Her x"Pffftt.. too long? Those are rookie numbers. Got a pump it up a bit. | |||
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"Hey guys, Would like some insight on why some people feel the need to send us a message that have clearly not read our profile at all and could've answered their own silly question that they've asked us by saving themselves time by just reading our profile in the first place, ie. Would love to play with just S, or just J. Her x" Ahhhh but see, you're overlooking one key thing here: if they haven't read your profile, how would they know they don't need to message because the info is in your profile...?   | |||
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"Hey guys, Would like some insight on why some people feel the need to send us a message that have clearly not read our profile at all and could've answered their own silly question that they've asked us by saving themselves time by just reading our profile in the first place, ie. Would love to play with just S, or just J. Is it laziness, ignorance or just both? Or is it that our profile is just "too long?"
I find it quite rude sometimes personally...
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Pffftt.. too long? Those are rookie numbers. Got a pump it up a bit. "Oh wow just had a nosey at yours! Definitely can't say ours is too long | |||
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"Hey guys, Would like some insight on why some people feel the need to send us a message that have clearly not read our profile at all and could've answered their own silly question that they've asked us by saving themselves time by just reading our profile in the first place, ie. Would love to play with just S, or just J. Her x Ahhhh but see, you're overlooking one key thing here: if they haven't read your profile, how would they know they don't need to message because the info is in your profile...? "Because who would click a profile and click message straight away without looking at pics, interests, looking for or bio. Not everyone on here is looking for anything and everything | |||
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"Hey guys, Would like some insight on why some people feel the need to send us a message that have clearly not read our profile at all and could've answered their own silly question that they've asked us by saving themselves time by just reading our profile in the first place, ie. Would love to play with just S, or just J. Is it laziness, ignorance or just both? Or is it that our profile is just "too long?"
I find it quite rude sometimes personally...
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Pffftt.. too long? Those are rookie numbers. Got a pump it up a bit.
Oh wow just had a nosey at yours! Definitely can't say ours is too long "Mine is a complete joke. I actually don’t expect people to read it all. What is funny however is asking ‘the rude single male’ that messages for the hidden password on the profile.. It doesn’t actually exist.. 8 times was the record ^^ | |||
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"Hey guys, Would like some insight on why some people feel the need to send us a message that have clearly not read our profile at all and could've answered their own silly question that they've asked us by saving themselves time by just reading our profile in the first place, ie. Would love to play with just S, or just J. Is it laziness, ignorance or just both? Or is it that our profile is just "too long?"
I find it quite rude sometimes personally...
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Pffftt.. too long? Those are rookie numbers. Got a pump it up a bit.
Oh wow just had a nosey at yours! Definitely can't say ours is too long
Mine is a complete joke. I actually don’t expect people to read it all.
What is funny however is asking ‘the rude single male’ that messages for the hidden password on the profile.. It doesn’t actually exist.. 8 times was the record ^^"Hahahaha! Nice | |||
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