FabSwingers.com forum: Being outed

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all so we think we are about to be outed as someone on here has tried adding us on FB and have close friends and family in common, we have decided if that happens we will just admit to being swingers and take whatever comes our way. We are not ashamed about what we do we just know some people won’t accept it our question is what would you all do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you mean "outed"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start by blocking the person here and on fb

If they can't respect your privacy they don't deserve to be in your life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I've never met anyone who is that bothered! It's just excepted as "being me"

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"Hi all so we think we are about to be outed as someone on here has tried adding us on FB and have close friends and family in common, we have decided if that happens we will just admit to being swingers and take whatever comes our way. We are not ashamed about what we do we just know some people won’t accept it our question is what would you all do? "

Won’t that “out them” too as they are also on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Won’t that “out them” too as they are also on here

This ^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have kids?

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By *ortherncouple0Couple
over a year ago

North West

Hide your profile for a while?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

What is ‘outed’?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Hide your profile for a while?"

This, or put pics to friends only and change location a little maybe

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Being outed. All the more reason for members to be extremely careful about the images and information they publish on adult sites such as this.

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

It's wrong I had someone I regonised when I first joined never told him and never made an issue of it. Its his privacy..

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Outing is despicable.

Make sure you know your rights, don’t be afraid to contact the police.

My main concerns would be if you have children and any potential kick back to them and their friends, and if you have a notifiable occupation where you may find your job at risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Outing is despicable.

Make sure you know your rights, don’t be afraid to contact the police.

My main concerns would be if you have children and any potential kick back to them and their friends, and if you have a notifiable occupation where you may find your job at risk.

Kids and jobs

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Luckily it’ll only affect me currently, so it’s not a big deal for me.

I know at least two of my work colleagues know, as one gay guy I work with saw me on the other site. As I work in a sector in which you are expected to keep confidential information and be highly trustworthy around it, gossiping is looked on as being unprofessional. So they’ll keep it to themselves until at least I leave the business.

However I work with a lot of younger people, who have a more open minded attitude, so it wouldn’t be too much of an issue for me.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

We decided long ago to not hide our lifestyle, as that way nobody can out us or home us to ransom in any way. We're doing nothing wrong or shameful, and so far - other than one stupid woman in the street - we've only had positive comments and genuine questions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you mean "outed"?"
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Basically they have found out we are on here and will tell family and friends

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Start by blocking the person here and on fb

If they can't respect your privacy they don't deserve to be in your life "
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We have blocked but think the damage is already done the person in question doesn’t seem to hide he is on here we didn’t know him but he knows us through vanilla friends

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

"How do you mean "outed"?.

Basically they have found out we are on here and will tell family and friends "

What would he gain by doing that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Won’t that “out them” too as they are also on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you have kids?"
. Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing to be ashamed of mate block the person and move on and keep enjoying your life

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"How do you mean "outed"?.

Basically they have found out we are on here and will tell family and friends

What would he gain by doing that?"

I'm thinking it's gonna be more of a case of loose lips rather than intentional harm being caused if I've understood correctly

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"How do you mean "outed"?.

Basically they have found out we are on here and will tell family and friends

What would he gain by doing that?

I'm thinking it's gonna be more of a case of loose lips rather than intentional harm being caused if I've understood correctly "
loose lips can still cause damage peach

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Outing is despicable.

Make sure you know your rights, don’t be afraid to contact the police.

My main concerns would be if you have children and any potential kick back to them and their friends, and if you have a notifiable occupation where you may find your job at risk.

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. He has close family as friends on FB we don’t know him but he is close with family

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"How do you mean "outed"?.

Basically they have found out we are on here and will tell family and friends

What would he gain by doing that?

I'm thinking it's gonna be more of a case of loose lips rather than intentional harm being caused if I've understood correctly loose lips can still cause damage peach "

Oh absolutely, I just meant that it wasn't nasty as in "meet me or I'll tell people" kinda way. I wondered if it was a threat or something, but it doesn't seem that way.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

How can they prove it is you? You have no face pics on display. Let them crack on them & laugh it off. They are exposing themself more than you.

J x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you mean "outed"?.

Basically they have found out we are on here and will tell family and friends

What would he gain by doing that?"
. He wouldn’t gain anything but he comes across as untrustworthy

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By *rs RavensongWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham, Gloucestershire

Have you tried talking to them, and asking them to respect your privacy, stating that you'll respect theirs in return?

V x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you mean "outed"?.

Basically they have found out we are on here and will tell family and friends

What would he gain by doing that?

I'm thinking it's gonna be more of a case of loose lips rather than intentional harm being caused if I've understood correctly "
. Exactly that hence we have decided if he opens his mouth we will reveal all tbh we are fed up of hiding who we are and what we enjoy it’s just we don’t want our kids finding out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you mean "outed"?.

Basically they have found out we are on here and will tell family and friends

What would he gain by doing that?

I'm thinking it's gonna be more of a case of loose lips rather than intentional harm being caused if I've understood correctly loose lips can still cause damage peach

Oh absolutely, I just meant that it wasn't nasty as in "meet me or I'll tell people" kinda way. I wondered if it was a threat or something, but it doesn't seem that way."
. Nooo not a threat he just doesn’t care who knows what he does

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How can they prove it is you? You have no face pics on display. Let them crack on them & laugh it off. They are exposing themself more than you.

J x"
. We sent face pics

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Block them on everything. Don't jump to conclusions. Hide your profile and if I'm honest highlighting it in a forum post was maybe not the best idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Start by blocking the person here and on fb

If they can't respect your privacy they don't deserve to be in your life .

We have blocked but think the damage is already done the person in question doesn’t seem to hide he is on here we didn’t know him but he knows us through vanilla friends "

Hide your profile or change username, block on FB

If you want to or not just deny to friends and family if this "person" outs you

Disgusting behaviour in my opinion, it's your choice what you do and it's not illegal or harmful to anyone

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

For someone who's about to be outed. You're not exactly doing a good job of laying low

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For someone who's about to be outed. You're not exactly doing a good job of laying low

If they have blocked him will he see this post, genuine question

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"For someone who's about to be outed. You're not exactly doing a good job of laying low

If they have blocked him will he see this post, genuine question"

If he uses the forums yes. Blocking only blocks direct private comms between the 2 profiles and being able to view each others profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For someone who's about to be outed. You're not exactly doing a good job of laying low

If they have blocked him will he see this post, genuine question

If he uses the forums yes. Blocking only blocks direct private comms between the 2 profiles and being able to view each others profiles."

Need a tech head to sort that glitch out then I reckon

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"How do you mean "outed"?.

Basically they have found out we are on here and will tell family and friends "

Well tell family and friends it’s them making trouble. If you can’t be recognised from photos and I’ve not looked then don’t worry. By reacting you are feeding that person what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Start by blocking the person here and on fb

If they can't respect your privacy they don't deserve to be in your life .

We have blocked but think the damage is already done the person in question doesn’t seem to hide he is on here we didn’t know him but he knows us through vanilla friends "

i would block on here and hide profile and photos for a bit just to not give them more ammunition, but i wouldnt block on facebook as with friends in common al that would happen is they would potentially post things and you would be the last to know about it because you cant see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has he actually told you that he will reveal you are on here to friends and family? If so you have written proof and you call his bluff by telling him you will involve the police.

I doubt it will go any further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has he actually told you that he will reveal you are on here to friends and family? If so you have written proof and you call his bluff by telling him you will involve the police.

I doubt it will go any further.

Ohh good idea.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

my kids know, my best friend knows, most of my social media friends know...i dont keep it a secret particularly.anyone else.... i dont care about, so it doesnt matter. plus most people these days youngsters included, are on some dating app if they are single..my kids dont think anything of swiping to find a photo of someone they know..its normal for them to all be on the same social apps, if they all live in the same area....times have changed..the concept of relationship has changed..kink and poly are both common in my kids friends circles...its pretty 'normal' being honest these days x live your bast life and be happy, its too short, is my advice xx

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Set your profile to private for a while and block them on fb too.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I would probably move any photos that you wouldn't want your family to see into friends for a bit, people might just take a sneaky look when they find out. The novelty will soon wear off.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Start by blocking the person here and on fb

If they can't respect your privacy they don't deserve to be in your life .

We have blocked but think the damage is already done the person in question doesn’t seem to hide he is on here we didn’t know him but he knows us through vanilla friends

This brings back horrible memories.

Good luck OP. X

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By *dsmithMan
over a year ago

Loudwater

"How can they prove it is you? You have no face pics on display. Let them crack on them & laugh it off. They are exposing themself more than you.

J x"

To paraphrase Mayor Quimby ‘You don’t scare me. That could be anyone’s asshole.’

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"Outing is despicable.

Make sure you know your rights, don’t be afraid to contact the police.

My main concerns would be if you have children and any potential kick back to them and their friends, and if you have a notifiable occupation where you may find your job at risk.

You have very few rights when it comes to sites like this. Even T& C do not accept any responsibility for information you put on this site. You put your pictures and personal information on at your own risk.

Going to the Police is only an option of criminal intent, malicious use of your information. i.e. if they use the intent of outing you to leverage something in return.

You have the right to take out a civil action, but then you'll need deep pockets. Your household legal Insurance is unlikely to cover it.

As another post all you can do is be very carful what information and pictures you choose to share and with who. Anything else you do so at your own risk

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I had a friend whos kids moved in with their father when she was 'outed' as they thought their mother disgusting. Took some time to bring them around so I can understand your worries OP.

I personally would hide your pics as face or not, they would recognise your house if taken there.

My son is older and knows I am on here as I know he is, we just blocked each other and kept it simple, but aware that we can see each others avatars on our block lists should we need to scroll through for any reason

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By *eirdscienceMan
over a year ago

Postwick

Wife was recognised by a work colleague via the clothes she had on in a clothes pic in fab so you can be careful but people out two and two together sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For someone who's about to be outed. You're not exactly doing a good job of laying low

R"
. No like we said if we do get outed we are prepared to accept it why should we lay low or hide it it’s are life and we are not ashamed, we want to keep it quiet because of our kids so not deliberately going to our ourselves but if it happens we won’t lie about it

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