FabSwingers.com forum: When people are looking for "exceptional"

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've seen this come up in topics discussing why people are not getting many messages. What do you do when you see a profile looking for exceptional, hotties and top notch etc.

Do you throw your name forward in what could be seen as a moment of egoism or do you query just how much of a hottie you are?

My name indicates that I am very fussy but that's not in an "I'm better than you" way but rather a case of knowing what I like and not bothering with what I don't. However, despite high filters, most of the messages I get are from men who probably wouldn't be considered hotties or exceptional by anyone's standards...you know, zero effort profiles, can't spell for toffee, lots of manky dick pics etc.

Obviously women get loads more messages than men and men are probably more guilty of not reading profiles, but I suspect a lot of this is that *some* men probably have an inflated ego and quite happy to "punch above" but many women will take a step back and and under value themselves so not bother messaging.

It's impossible to rate yourself like that as it's mostly about personal preference rather than an actual hierarchy of hotness.

So what would you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*warning... divisive thread alert*

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By *nna WulfWoman
over a year ago

Wandsworth

I don't understand the question op.

What exactly are you asking?

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By *heHungStudentMan
over a year ago

Kettering

"I don't understand the question op.

What exactly are you asking?"

Glad im not the only one who got a bit lost when reading that

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

The term “exceptional” is very intimidating. It’s funny because I’ve stumbled across some of these “exceptional” people in clubs and at organised socials. The thing is many are far from “exceptional” themselves lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I see "exceptional" in the profile I make an exception and skip to the next one.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’ve never understood why anyone would use that word. I’d never message anyone with that kind of profile. Totally off putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand the question op.

What exactly are you asking?

Glad im not the only one who got a bit lost when reading that"

i think shes saying if you read a profile that asks for exceptional do you message thinking you are exceptional, messaging thinking feck it ill try punch above, bypass thinking you are not exceptional, or bypass thinking this profile belongs to an arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profiles where the woman hints at wanting gifts/ treats/ etc in return for a meet put me off.

If she wants to be paid for sex just be open about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pretty much just pass by on those profiles.

I suppose exceptional means very different things to different people. You do however get an idea if you look at their veris.

Mostly it includes one or a combination of, chiseled good looks, ripped body, massive cock, the list goes on.

I dont have any of them so just ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Profiles where the woman hints at wanting gifts/ treats/ etc in return for a meet put me off.

If she wants to be paid for sex just be open about it.

Ok.

I’ll get you a bacon McMuffin after you swallow my swimmers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen this come up in topics discussing why people are not getting many messages. What do you do when you see a profile looking for exceptional, hotties and top notch etc.

Do you throw your name forward in what could be seen as a moment of egoism or do you query just how much of a hottie you are?

It's impossible to rate yourself like that as it's mostly about personal preference rather than an actual hierarchy of hotness.

So what would you do?"

In summary aren’t men awful. Next.

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By *nna WulfWoman
over a year ago

Wandsworth

"I don't understand the question op.

What exactly are you asking?

Glad im not the only one who got a bit lost when reading that

Thankyou!

I don't recall ever seeing the word 'exceptional' in a profile.

*shrugs*

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By *on-snowedMan
over a year ago

harlow

High expectations do put me off.

No-one is a prince or princess here. Just be nice and take the obviously not Intrested thing in your stride.

Just dont be a creep them let know your Intrested.

I'm not sure why its more difficult with some people.

Same as any lady saying she wants 10 inches and over, exceptional probley puts if the blokes with dad bods. Like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never come across a profile that states this tbh but how can you decide someone is ‘exceptional’ by just their pics and a handful of words? Especially with all the editing apps available today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel they are in the same vain as those seeking quality over quantity

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"I’ve never come across a profile that states this tbh but how can you decide someone is ‘exceptional’ by just their pics and a handful of words? Especially with all the editing apps available today.

I’ve come across plenty. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Profiles where the woman hints at wanting gifts/ treats/ etc in return for a meet put me off.

If she wants to be paid for sex just be open about it.

That's blatant prostitution and entirely different to what I'm talking about here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't understand the question op.

What exactly are you asking?

Glad im not the only one who got a bit lost when reading that

Indeed that is what I'm saying. Sorry if it wasn't clear

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Profiles where the woman hints at wanting gifts/ treats/ etc in return for a meet put me off.

If she wants to be paid for sex just be open about it.

That's blatant prostitution and entirely different to what I'm talking about here."

Sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Profiles where the woman hints at wanting gifts/ treats/ etc in return for a meet put me off.

If she wants to be paid for sex just be open about it.

similar to this - I've had a couple of messages from female profiles where they are basically plugging an only fans page

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm exceptionally horny, beyond that I really couldn't say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a word to the wise, no man in the history of fab has asked for ‘exceptional’ on a profile, unless it was done either ironically or for forum challenge.

Having said that, I still don’t know what the question is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pass it by,because it says more about them than me. You'd probably have to fill in a check list.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just a word to the wise, no man in the history of fab has asked for ‘exceptional’ on a profile, unless it was done either ironically or for forum challenge.

Having said that, I still don’t know what the question is. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen this come up in topics discussing why people are not getting many messages. What do you do when you see a profile looking for exceptional, hotties and top notch etc.

Do you throw your name forward in what could be seen as a moment of egoism or do you query just how much of a hottie you are?

It's impossible to rate yourself like that as it's mostly about personal preference rather than an actual hierarchy of hotness.

So what would you do?"

Well, personally I'm just as likely to ignore a profile that says 'fussy' as one that says 'exceptional' because both generally mean judgemental.

You confirm this with your use of the expression punch above - as though people you (or others) deem better looking are somehow above those less well 'blessed'

FWIW, while we get far more messages from men, as a percentage couples are just a likely to fail to read our profile - or at least message as though that is the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand the question op.

What exactly are you asking?"

Maybe she asking why us bottom feeders message her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just post what I post, do what I do. If people like that and me then great, if they don't then that's ok too.

Just don't categorise, or hold myself higher than anyone. Not cool when people do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The term “exceptional” is very intimidating. It’s funny because I’ve stumbled across some of these “exceptional” people in clubs and at organised socials. The thing is many are far from “exceptional” themselves lol. "

Well said mate

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I laugh quietly to myself and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bit like those claiming to be fussy. Fussy isn't a desirable trait to have yet some think it makes them superior than others when they claim it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand the question op.

What exactly are you asking?

Maybe she asking why us bottom feeders message her? "

"Manky dicks"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen this come up in topics discussing why people are not getting many messages. What do you do when you see a profile looking for exceptional, hotties and top notch etc.

Do you throw your name forward in what could be seen as a moment of egoism or do you query just how much of a hottie you are?

It's impossible to rate yourself like that as it's mostly about personal preference rather than an actual hierarchy of hotness.

So what would you do?

In summary aren’t men awful. Next. "

Thats how i read it. John

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Men, keep your replies to the forum please, no need to message me, least of all with dick pics.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"It's a bit like those claiming to be fussy. Fussy isn't a desirable trait to have yet some think it makes them superior than others when they claim it. "

I'm fussy. I'm like:

Head's too big.

Eyes too close together.

Teeth too straight.

Muscles too big.

Bollocks too bald.

Sounds too intelligent.

Just nope.

etc etc

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Men, keep your replies to the forum please, no need to message me, least of all with dick pics."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Exceptional' is a vague and subjective idea. It's probably more useful to be more detailed and specific about what you want and avoid using words that have an indistinct meaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand the question op.

What exactly are you asking?

Maybe she asking why us bottom feeders message her?

"Manky dicks""

Manky pussies are out there also. Many a guy will testify to that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like those claiming to be fussy. Fussy isn't a desirable trait to have yet some think it makes them superior than others when they claim it.

I'm fussy. I'm like:

Head's too big.

Eyes too close together.

Teeth too straight.

Muscles too big.

Bollocks too bald.

Sounds too intelligent.

Just nope.

etc etc"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't understand the question op.

What exactly are you asking?

Maybe she asking why us bottom feeders message her?

"Manky dicks"

Manky pussies are out there also. Many a guy will testify to that! "

I know, I saw one asking to be rated yesterday. But I don't get messages from women flashing their clunges at me so can't make a personal reference to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit like those claiming to be fussy. Fussy isn't a desirable trait to have yet some think it makes them superior than others when they claim it. "

i don’t think being fussy is undesirable, nothing wrong with setting a standard for yourself then respecting yourself by sticking to it

i also think its unrealistic to think that (most people) don’t at least in their head have some sort of hierarchy of attractiveness (including personality) and an idea of where they think they sit in it

however my thoughts on attractiveness would be a totally different scale to your thoughts and different again to the OP and so on because we all like something different and i do think its tasteless to suggest where you think you or others are on your profile so i wouldn’t like profiles who talk along the lines of looking for exceptional (not that I would expect to be what they were looking for anyway)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand the question op.

What exactly are you asking?

Maybe she asking why us bottom feeders message her?

"Manky dicks"

Manky pussies are out there also. Many a guy will testify to that!

I know, I saw one asking to be rated yesterday. But I don't get messages from women flashing their clunges at me so can't make a personal reference to that "

You might now.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

What's 'exceptional' is entirely subjective just like what's too hot, cold, sweet, sour, dry, wet etc etc.

I guess that if someone meets all of your criteria and more, it's fair to call them exceptional but others may not share that view because they have different tastes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I see "exceptional" in the profile I make an exception and skip to the next one."

Exactly our view.

We definitely know what we want and we state it in our our profile - because some people read it

- but I’m not sure we’d like the arrogance of someone thinking they were exceptional - after all if you think you are - then you’re really not. You may be fit as fuck but that personality trait has just let you down! Mrs T x

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By *lub coupleCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Would look at pics and then decide whether or not to read profile, no pics we'd just think must be a right munter thinking they're exceptional and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's a bit like those claiming to be fussy. Fussy isn't a desirable trait to have yet some think it makes them superior than others when they claim it.

i don’t think being fussy is undesirable, nothing wrong with setting a standard for yourself then respecting yourself by sticking to it

Being fussy refers to being selective about who and what I want. Nothing wrong with knowing what you want or what you find a huge turn off on a profile. Someone could be "exceptionally" hot but if their profile has photos of them barebacking multiple women or out dogging, then I won't touch them with a barge pole. There are just certain things I really don't like and I'm allowed to be picky about such things, that doesn't mean I have big ego.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Exceptional' is a vague and subjective idea. It's probably more useful to be more detailed and specific about what you want and avoid using words that have an indistinct meaning."

It's not a pop word. It seems to denote someone or something that was unexpected. Notable but not certain quite how to accept it.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

I use it as a filter, I’m not exceptional so why waste their time?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I move on to the next profile.

I'm not exceptional at all, I am just me.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

People are obviously allowed their preferences, but if a profile just mentioned wanting exceptional people I would move on. Not because I do not value myself, but its too ambiguous and I wouldn’t want to waste my time trying to figure out what they want.

Its a lot easier when its spelled out (VWE, BBC, Muscular, no beards/facial hair etc.).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s a league for them.

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