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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My message was deleted without a reply, rather than receive a "no thanks" message.

It lets me know where I stand, and I don't get the false hope of seeing "1 unread"

How about you?

(This probably only applies to the men; women probably see "306 unread" and don't get the same rush that I do from "1 unread" )

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You're the only man I've ever heard say that. Usually they're saying a polite reply costs nothing

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"My message was deleted without a reply, rather than receive a "no thanks" message.

It lets me know where I stand, and I don't get the false hope of seeing "1 unread"

How about you?

(This probably only applies to the men; women probably see "306 unread" and don't get the same rush that I do from "1 unread" )"

A Man who talks sense

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're the only man I've ever heard say that. Usually they're saying a polite reply costs nothing "

Yeah, those threads infuriate me. Some blokes here have such a sense of entitlement... not a great quality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even when I do politely reply with a no thanks, some men then reply back with something vile and uncalled for. Cant win sometimes

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"You're the only man I've ever heard say that. Usually they're saying a polite reply costs nothing

Yeah, those threads infuriate me. Some blokes here have such a sense of entitlement... not a great quality."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Another tip for guys: if you message a woman to compliment her on her pics, and she just replies with "thanks", that's all it is. A polite conversation-stopper. Do not pursue!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another tip for guys: if you message a woman to compliment her on her pics, and she just replies with "thanks", that's all it is. A polite conversation-stopper. Do not pursue! "

Thanks for that, there was me going to get measured up for a wedding suit.

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By *on-snowedMan
over a year ago

harlow


"Another tip for guys: if you message a woman to compliment her on her pics, and she just replies with "thanks", that's all it is. A polite conversation-stopper. Do not pursue! "

I think we should all just accept it mate, i don't get many messages

And say when I'm interested.

I think the girls would have a hard time replying to all to be honest.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I honestly couldn't care much if my message sits unread, gets deleted or I get a no thanks etc.

I'm fucking awesome!! My friends here will confirm this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I honestly couldn't care much if my message sits unread, gets deleted or I get a no thanks etc.

I'm fucking awesome!! My friends here will confirm this "

This is the right energy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Another tip for guys: if you message a woman to compliment her on her pics, and she just replies with "thanks", that's all it is. A polite conversation-stopper. Do not pursue!

Thanks for that, there was me going to get measured up for a wedding suit. "

Well that's ruined my next tip: when to get measured up for a wedding suit and when not to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Another tip for guys: if you message a woman to compliment her on her pics, and she just replies with "thanks", that's all it is. A polite conversation-stopper. Do not pursue!

I think we should all just accept it mate, i don't get many messages

And say when I'm interested.

I think the girls would have a hard time replying to all to be honest. "

Definitely. I think a lot of guys see a message and take it as a green light, regardless of the content. Sometimes you just need to read between the lines a little.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love logging in to see 1 unread or an extra couple of people have looked at my profile it’s the little things like that on here that get my hopes up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The majority of the people I've said "no thank you" to this year have replied to thank me for actually replying to their message. No abuse and no hassle.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The majority of the people I've said "no thank you" to this year have replied to thank me for actually replying to their message. No abuse and no hassle. "

I'm glad to hear that. Usually on here women just report insults and abuse when they say no thanks

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Another tip for guys: if you message a woman to compliment her on her pics, and she just replies with "thanks", that's all it is. A polite conversation-stopper. Do not pursue! "

Funny. I always thought that was an open invitation to bombard her with further unwanted messages. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love logging in to see 1 unread or an extra couple of people have looked at my profile it’s the little things like that on here that get my hopes up "

Yeah it's definitely good... I just prefer it to be from someone actually interested in me

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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago

Oo err Devon


"Even when I do politely reply with a no thanks, some men then reply back with something vile and uncalled for. Cant win sometimes "

This, has made me tend not to reply as I got more abuse for saying thankyou but no trying to be polite and respectful..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually just see a read and deleted message or just read with no reply, but I just take it on the chin

I'm guessing that the women get bombarded with messages and sometimes it's overwhelming and annoying for them

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"The majority of the people I've said "no thank you" to this year have replied to thank me for actually replying to their message. No abuse and no hassle. "

This is my experience too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phew. I wonder if you are in minority?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Another tip for guys: if you message a woman to compliment her on her pics, and she just replies with "thanks", that's all it is. A polite conversation-stopper. Do not pursue! "

Well said x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Phew. I wonder if you are in minority?"

I think so, judging by other forum posts I've read and women I've chatted to.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

We try to reply to every decent message we get but most of our mail comes from guys who clearly haven't read our profile (even if they say they have) to find out where we are, what we're looking for etc. first. We find it bizarre but if they can't be bothered, we can't.

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