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"Just curious, I’ve pretty much given up with this app. But just wanted to hear some opinions. I’ve always come across friendly or at least respectful, I understand I won’t be everyone’s cup of tea so I just move on, no need for harsh words. But I’ve had zero luck on here making friends, meeting people or even having good conversations. Although I don’t have a face pic on my profile I send one immediately. I’m thinking my age plays a big factor, but is there any tips I can get ?" Your present status won’t help your hunt for cunt at all and basically the only advice I can give is to just let your personality shine through and then some will like you and some won’t!! Best of luck op. T | |||
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had." Nothing on this site surprises me anymore | |||
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had." I’m talking about meeting people online not physically *sigh* | |||
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"Your profile mentions ‘selective people’ maybe one or two who viewed you don’t think they’ll match up to your standards ? It’s difficult on here for all single guys, but you need to build up a presence on the site. So for the best results go to socials or clubs (obviously when they’re open) regularly start or contribute to threads on the forums or chat rooms and ensure you have new and updated pictures and text on your profile. Sooner or later you’ll end up on someone’s radar, one of my best meets came from a forum post.
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had. I’m talking about meeting people online not physically *sigh* " Ive already told you the answer. Play in the forums. Not only do you meet fellow forumites, but it increases your profile traffic from the watchers and readers  | |||
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had. I’m talking about meeting people online not physically *sigh* " Alot of people have struggled in the past year, OP To keep it all together. Hold down jobs. Protect their families. Pay their bills. Deal with grief and illness. Homeschool their kids I'd say the last thing on their minds is sex chat ( because lets face it, thats what guys want, even if they say they dont) with randoms I'm sure as an educated, mature man you can appreciate that? | |||
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had. I’m talking about meeting people online not physically *sigh* Alot of people have struggled in the past year, OP To keep it all together. Hold down jobs. Protect their families. Pay their bills. Deal with grief and illness. Homeschool their kids I'd say the last thing on their minds is sex chat ( because lets face it, thats what guys want, even if they say they dont) with randoms I'm sure as an educated, mature man you can appreciate that?" Ummm you sound very hurt. My post here is about people who are willing to engage. The whole planet is suffering I’m not asking those people to come and have a discussion with me. Also I simply want people who are open to talk, everyday conversations, no one mentioned anything about sex..... I feel like you are projecting heavily but as you said nothing on this site surprises me so I’m not shocked by this exaggeration. | |||
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had. I’m talking about meeting people online not physically *sigh* Alot of people have struggled in the past year, OP To keep it all together. Hold down jobs. Protect their families. Pay their bills. Deal with grief and illness. Homeschool their kids I'd say the last thing on their minds is sex chat ( because lets face it, thats what guys want, even if they say they dont) with randoms I'm sure as an educated, mature man you can appreciate that?" Exactly that. It's been a shit year so sex stuff will not be high priority for a lot of people or they think it's pointless to make a connection with someone and be frustrated that they can't meet. Fab has members who are front line workers, people who are shielding, single parents trying to home school and an increased amount of people who have experienced recent bereavement. So don't be surprised that this kind of thing isn't their priority right now. | |||
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had. I’m talking about meeting people online not physically *sigh* Alot of people have struggled in the past year, OP To keep it all together. Hold down jobs. Protect their families. Pay their bills. Deal with grief and illness. Homeschool their kids I'd say the last thing on their minds is sex chat ( because lets face it, thats what guys want, even if they say they dont) with randoms I'm sure as an educated, mature man you can appreciate that? Ummm you sound very hurt. My post here is about people who are willing to engage. The whole planet is suffering I’m not asking those people to come and have a discussion with me. Also I simply want people who are open to talk, everyday conversations, no one mentioned anything about sex..... I feel like you are projecting heavily but as you said nothing on this site surprises me so I’m not shocked by this exaggeration. " I sound hurt because I gave you a perfectly reasonable explanation?? Oaky doke | |||
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had. I’m talking about meeting people online not physically *sigh* Alot of people have struggled in the past year, OP To keep it all together. Hold down jobs. Protect their families. Pay their bills. Deal with grief and illness. Homeschool their kids I'd say the last thing on their minds is sex chat ( because lets face it, thats what guys want, even if they say they dont) with randoms I'm sure as an educated, mature man you can appreciate that? Ummm you sound very hurt. My post here is about people who are willing to engage. The whole planet is suffering I’m not asking those people to come and have a discussion with me. Also I simply want people who are open to talk, everyday conversations, no one mentioned anything about sex..... I feel like you are projecting heavily but as you said nothing on this site surprises me so I’m not shocked by this exaggeration. I sound hurt because I gave you a perfectly reasonable explanation?? Oaky doke" There was nothing reasonable in what u said, you made it seem like I’m angry at people who are suffering for not wanting to talk about sex with me. I just clarified I’m not really looking for sex just getting to talk to new people that’s all. And secondly my post was asking for tips on how I can improve my profile to speak to new people on this site, so idk how you managed to connect that to people who are at home and suffering due to the pandemic you just made a simple post into a big deal for no reason. Also don’t forget I’m asking for tips to speak to people who want to be spoken too, I don’t force people to communicate with me if they don’t want to. | |||
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had. I’m talking about meeting people online not physically *sigh* Alot of people have struggled in the past year, OP To keep it all together. Hold down jobs. Protect their families. Pay their bills. Deal with grief and illness. Homeschool their kids I'd say the last thing on their minds is sex chat ( because lets face it, thats what guys want, even if they say they dont) with randoms I'm sure as an educated, mature man you can appreciate that? Ummm you sound very hurt. My post here is about people who are willing to engage. The whole planet is suffering I’m not asking those people to come and have a discussion with me. Also I simply want people who are open to talk, everyday conversations, no one mentioned anything about sex..... I feel like you are projecting heavily but as you said nothing on this site surprises me so I’m not shocked by this exaggeration. I sound hurt because I gave you a perfectly reasonable explanation?? Oaky doke There was nothing reasonable in what u said, you made it seem like I’m angry at people who are suffering for not wanting to talk about sex with me. I just clarified I’m not really looking for sex just getting to talk to new people that’s all. And secondly my post was asking for tips on how I can improve my profile to speak to new people on this site, so idk how you managed to connect that to people who are at home and suffering due to the pandemic you just made a simple post into a big deal for no reason. Also don’t forget I’m asking for tips to speak to people who want to be spoken too, I don’t force people to communicate with me if they don’t want to. " Did the lady who echoed my thoughts, who posted below me, sound hurt too? | |||
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had. I’m talking about meeting people online not physically *sigh* Alot of people have struggled in the past year, OP To keep it all together. Hold down jobs. Protect their families. Pay their bills. Deal with grief and illness. Homeschool their kids I'd say the last thing on their minds is sex chat ( because lets face it, thats what guys want, even if they say they dont) with randoms I'm sure as an educated, mature man you can appreciate that? Ummm you sound very hurt. My post here is about people who are willing to engage. The whole planet is suffering I’m not asking those people to come and have a discussion with me. Also I simply want people who are open to talk, everyday conversations, no one mentioned anything about sex..... I feel like you are projecting heavily but as you said nothing on this site surprises me so I’m not shocked by this exaggeration. I sound hurt because I gave you a perfectly reasonable explanation?? Oaky doke There was nothing reasonable in what u said, you made it seem like I’m angry at people who are suffering for not wanting to talk about sex with me. I just clarified I’m not really looking for sex just getting to talk to new people that’s all. And secondly my post was asking for tips on how I can improve my profile to speak to new people on this site, so idk how you managed to connect that to people who are at home and suffering due to the pandemic you just made a simple post into a big deal for no reason. Also don’t forget I’m asking for tips to speak to people who want to be spoken too, I don’t force people to communicate with me if they don’t want to. " I think you're being unnecessarily aggressive, which won't do you any favours. | |||
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had. I’m talking about meeting people online not physically *sigh* Alot of people have struggled in the past year, OP To keep it all together. Hold down jobs. Protect their families. Pay their bills. Deal with grief and illness. Homeschool their kids I'd say the last thing on their minds is sex chat ( because lets face it, thats what guys want, even if they say they dont) with randoms I'm sure as an educated, mature man you can appreciate that? Ummm you sound very hurt. My post here is about people who are willing to engage. The whole planet is suffering I’m not asking those people to come and have a discussion with me. Also I simply want people who are open to talk, everyday conversations, no one mentioned anything about sex..... I feel like you are projecting heavily but as you said nothing on this site surprises me so I’m not shocked by this exaggeration. I sound hurt because I gave you a perfectly reasonable explanation?? Oaky doke There was nothing reasonable in what u said, you made it seem like I’m angry at people who are suffering for not wanting to talk about sex with me. I just clarified I’m not really looking for sex just getting to talk to new people that’s all. And secondly my post was asking for tips on how I can improve my profile to speak to new people on this site, so idk how you managed to connect that to people who are at home and suffering due to the pandemic you just made a simple post into a big deal for no reason. Also don’t forget I’m asking for tips to speak to people who want to be spoken too, I don’t force people to communicate with me if they don’t want to. Did the lady who echoed my thoughts, who posted below me, sound hurt too?" She was projecting, you both made reasonable points. But the whole point of my post is asking for tips, I’m not complaining to anyone.. that’s how you guys have made it seem, isn’t it obvious to you how someone can ask for help on a certain issue and you tell them something completely different. The tips I was asking for are for people who want to engage not people who don’t want to talk, I’m fine with that. All I asked for what tips on what to do..... wow this isn’t complicated | |||
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had. I’m talking about meeting people online not physically *sigh* Alot of people have struggled in the past year, OP To keep it all together. Hold down jobs. Protect their families. Pay their bills. Deal with grief and illness. Homeschool their kids I'd say the last thing on their minds is sex chat ( because lets face it, thats what guys want, even if they say they dont) with randoms I'm sure as an educated, mature man you can appreciate that? Ummm you sound very hurt. My post here is about people who are willing to engage. The whole planet is suffering I’m not asking those people to come and have a discussion with me. Also I simply want people who are open to talk, everyday conversations, no one mentioned anything about sex..... I feel like you are projecting heavily but as you said nothing on this site surprises me so I’m not shocked by this exaggeration. I sound hurt because I gave you a perfectly reasonable explanation?? Oaky doke There was nothing reasonable in what u said, you made it seem like I’m angry at people who are suffering for not wanting to talk about sex with me. I just clarified I’m not really looking for sex just getting to talk to new people that’s all. And secondly my post was asking for tips on how I can improve my profile to speak to new people on this site, so idk how you managed to connect that to people who are at home and suffering due to the pandemic you just made a simple post into a big deal for no reason. Also don’t forget I’m asking for tips to speak to people who want to be spoken too, I don’t force people to communicate with me if they don’t want to. Did the lady who echoed my thoughts, who posted below me, sound hurt too? She was projecting, you both made reasonable points. But the whole point of my post is asking for tips, I’m not complaining to anyone.. that’s how you guys have made it seem, isn’t it obvious to you how someone can ask for help on a certain issue and you tell them something completely different. The tips I was asking for are for people who want to engage not people who don’t want to talk, I’m fine with that. All I asked for what tips on what to do..... wow this isn’t complicated " I agree It isnt complicated at all | |||
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had. I’m talking about meeting people online not physically *sigh* Alot of people have struggled in the past year, OP To keep it all together. Hold down jobs. Protect their families. Pay their bills. Deal with grief and illness. Homeschool their kids I'd say the last thing on their minds is sex chat ( because lets face it, thats what guys want, even if they say they dont) with randoms I'm sure as an educated, mature man you can appreciate that? Ummm you sound very hurt. My post here is about people who are willing to engage. The whole planet is suffering I’m not asking those people to come and have a discussion with me. Also I simply want people who are open to talk, everyday conversations, no one mentioned anything about sex..... I feel like you are projecting heavily but as you said nothing on this site surprises me so I’m not shocked by this exaggeration. I sound hurt because I gave you a perfectly reasonable explanation?? Oaky doke There was nothing reasonable in what u said, you made it seem like I’m angry at people who are suffering for not wanting to talk about sex with me. I just clarified I’m not really looking for sex just getting to talk to new people that’s all. And secondly my post was asking for tips on how I can improve my profile to speak to new people on this site, so idk how you managed to connect that to people who are at home and suffering due to the pandemic you just made a simple post into a big deal for no reason. Also don’t forget I’m asking for tips to speak to people who want to be spoken too, I don’t force people to communicate with me if they don’t want to. I think you're being unnecessarily aggressive, which won't do you any favours." I haven’t swore or insulted anyone or spoken down on anybody, I’ve composed myself in an orderly manner. Me speaking normally and being a black male doesn’t mean I’m being aggressive. Thank you | |||
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"Truth. You wait until clubs and organised socials are back up and running. You make an effort to get out and meet people in the flesh. If you're not a complete nobber some of those people will like you. You use the site to keep in touch with those people, keep an eye on upcoming events where you do the same again and widen your circle of people you get to know. And above all else, manage your expectations. If you're a site supporter, have a look through my videos. They offer a fair amount of advice." 
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"Offer free cake Seriously, the forums are a great way to meet people and also the chat rooms "  I love cake too much probably end up finishing it myself | |||
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"Truth. You wait until clubs and organised socials are back up and running. You make an effort to get out and meet people in the flesh. If you're not a complete nobber some of those people will like you. You use the site to keep in touch with those people, keep an eye on upcoming events where you do the same again and widen your circle of people you get to know. And above all else, manage your expectations. If you're a site supporter, have a look through my videos. They offer a fair amount of advice." Thank you this make sense, appreciate it | |||
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"Offer free cake Seriously, the forums are a great way to meet people and also the chat rooms " Cake! There's cake? Why haven't I got any cake? My response to the Op is pretty much what everyone else has said. Many people won't be that enthusiastic about chatting/getting to know new people as they may feel there's not much point if they can't meet you for another few months (may as well batten down the hatches, hibernate for a bit and come up smiling when it's all over. | |||
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had. I’m talking about meeting people online not physically *sigh* Alot of people have struggled in the past year, OP To keep it all together. Hold down jobs. Protect their families. Pay their bills. Deal with grief and illness. Homeschool their kids I'd say the last thing on their minds is sex chat ( because lets face it, thats what guys want, even if they say they dont) with randoms I'm sure as an educated, mature man you can appreciate that? Ummm you sound very hurt. My post here is about people who are willing to engage. The whole planet is suffering I’m not asking those people to come and have a discussion with me. Also I simply want people who are open to talk, everyday conversations, no one mentioned anything about sex..... I feel like you are projecting heavily but as you said nothing on this site surprises me so I’m not shocked by this exaggeration. " Whoaaaaa, you were being offered a reason, a very valid reason as to why things aren't "normal" at the moment and why conversations will be hard to come by. What was being said was don't take it personal, it ain't you it's just how things are and it won't make a difference what you do to your profile, how you may change your approach, it won't matter. Rude. | |||
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"I would have thought clubs would have been the best place to meet new people. Never had any success in chatrooms. Forums seem okay. Did you go to clubs when they were open OP?" This is all I asked for a conversation and tips about people who want to talk. I appreciate it & I like forums meet some nice people on here but I never went to any clubs, might plan to if I meet the right people | |||
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had. I’m talking about meeting people online not physically *sigh* Alot of people have struggled in the past year, OP To keep it all together. Hold down jobs. Protect their families. Pay their bills. Deal with grief and illness. Homeschool their kids I'd say the last thing on their minds is sex chat ( because lets face it, thats what guys want, even if they say they dont) with randoms I'm sure as an educated, mature man you can appreciate that? Ummm you sound very hurt. My post here is about people who are willing to engage. The whole planet is suffering I’m not asking those people to come and have a discussion with me. Also I simply want people who are open to talk, everyday conversations, no one mentioned anything about sex..... I feel like you are projecting heavily but as you said nothing on this site surprises me so I’m not shocked by this exaggeration. I sound hurt because I gave you a perfectly reasonable explanation?? Oaky doke There was nothing reasonable in what u said, you made it seem like I’m angry at people who are suffering for not wanting to talk about sex with me. I just clarified I’m not really looking for sex just getting to talk to new people that’s all. And secondly my post was asking for tips on how I can improve my profile to speak to new people on this site, so idk how you managed to connect that to people who are at home and suffering due to the pandemic you just made a simple post into a big deal for no reason. Also don’t forget I’m asking for tips to speak to people who want to be spoken too, I don’t force people to communicate with me if they don’t want to. I think you're being unnecessarily aggressive, which won't do you any favours. I haven’t swore or insulted anyone or spoken down on anybody, I’ve composed myself in an orderly manner. Me speaking normally and being a black male doesn’t mean I’m being aggressive. Thank you" Oh come on now, what has being black got to do with anything? People read things the way they read them, the way you assumed right off the bat that the person you were replying to "sounded very hurt" I'll agree, you do sound aggressive and I don't read things in skin colour ffs. | |||
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had. I’m talking about meeting people online not physically *sigh* Alot of people have struggled in the past year, OP To keep it all together. Hold down jobs. Protect their families. Pay their bills. Deal with grief and illness. Homeschool their kids I'd say the last thing on their minds is sex chat ( because lets face it, thats what guys want, even if they say they dont) with randoms I'm sure as an educated, mature man you can appreciate that? Ummm you sound very hurt. My post here is about people who are willing to engage. The whole planet is suffering I’m not asking those people to come and have a discussion with me. Also I simply want people who are open to talk, everyday conversations, no one mentioned anything about sex..... I feel like you are projecting heavily but as you said nothing on this site surprises me so I’m not shocked by this exaggeration. Whoaaaaa, you were being offered a reason, a very valid reason as to why things aren't "normal" at the moment and why conversations will be hard to come by. What was being said was don't take it personal, it ain't you it's just how things are and it won't make a difference what you do to your profile, how you may change your approach, it won't matter. Rude." See I understand, my only problem is I’ve had this issue before lockdown and COVID this isn’t new to me so please don’t take me as being rude, I asked for tips or suggestions on my profile. I understand chats won’t be as frequent as before, I just asked for areas to improve things for the people who are willing to be on this site and talk to others, not to be spoken down to like a kid | |||
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"For my OP the only thing that would stop me from messaging you is your age but saying that there are plenty on here that like the younger man. All I can say is, keep at it. I know its difficult times for all at the moment but trust me, there is someone for everyone on here. Good luck x" Yeah seems to be a reoccurring issue on this site for me, thank you though | |||
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"I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they haven't been able to meet new people during the year we've had. Nothing on this site surprises me anymore " I’ve met more people on Fab in the last 12 months than the previous three years. And before anyone says it. Not during lockdown. During July, August and September. | |||
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