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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey ladies, I have always been intrigued to know what is it that catches your eye when a guy messages you for the first time, other than the fact the he is good looking and is physically what your are looking for?

What makes you want to reply?

????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you do a search this question has been asked many times on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

¹st message. ^

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Obviously you must have a big clock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously you must have a big clock "

You know what they say about men with big clocks.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Obviously you must have a big clock

You know what they say about men with big clocks."

Are you trying to wind me up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am more likely to reply to a message if it is clear the person has read my profile and fits what I am looking for.

There is no message formula that I'm all likely to reply to than others but if it is well-thought-out, Friendly and not overly sexual then I'm more likely to reply even if its a no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the forums OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously you must have a big clock

You know what they say about men with big clocks.

Are you trying to wind me up? "

Me?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Obviously you must have a big clock

You know what they say about men with big clocks.

Are you trying to wind me up?

Me?"

Well I've only got small feet, 10.5 to be precise, so read into that what you will...

P.s. I like your shoes

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

The key thing IMHO is simply having something to say. Most of the messages we receive are just devoid of anything interesting. They usually say nothing more than some sort of hello, or maybe ask to meet. Others talk about themselves and what they want, often just copied and pasted. They just don't inspire us to write anything in response.

The ones we reply to are ones that mention something we are interested in (other than sex) or show that they are interested in us in some way, not just in what they want out of knowing us.

Here's a tip: Always use somebody's name from their profile. I'm constantly surprised how few people bother with this incredibly easy and obvious way of being respectful when they write.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I’m more likely to reply when you’ve clearly read my profile, all of it. I have plenty on there that can spark conversation and if you can’t make conversation then you’re not for me.

Very little or no talk of sex.

Don’t suggest meeting, especially during a pandemic.

Very clearly copy and paste will be deleted, especially if it has the previous recipient’s name in it.

Blocked if a dick pic lands in my inbox.

And don’t call me sexy, gives me not nice shudders!

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Just be yourself really. I don't think there is a right or wrong way just as long as your respectful. Good luck anyway

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By *on-snowedMan
over a year ago

harlow

Why have such big expectations?

It should always be hey, your my cup of tea would love to talk more.

Why waste time on a personal message to not grt anything back?

Not sure why some want Shakespeare or effort if your not attracted to him there you won't reply anyway its pointless?

Second message make the effort in my opinion just know shes Intrested first.

Just my opinion

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Why have such big expectations?

It should always be hey, your my cup of tea would love to talk more.

Why waste time on a personal message to not grt anything back?

Not sure why some want Shakespeare or effort if your not attracted to him there you won't reply anyway its pointless?

Second message make the effort in my opinion just know shes Intrested first.

Just my opinion "

Why waste time on a proper message? If you put the effort in you might get somethingback. If yyou don'tyou almost certainly won't. You may only get one chance, so make it count.

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By *on-snowedMan
over a year ago

harlow


"Why have such big expectations?

It should always be hey, your my cup of tea would love to talk more.

Why waste time on a personal message to not grt anything back?

Not sure why some want Shakespeare or effort if your not attracted to him there you won't reply anyway its pointless?

Second message make the effort in my opinion just know shes Intrested first.

Just my opinion

Why waste time on a proper message? If you put the effort in you might get somethingback. If yyou don'tyou almost certainly won't. You may only get one chance, so make it count."

Because let's face it, its based on types and how attracted you are to the person that's messaging.

Its like a swipe on tinder you have to have the first initial match to go further.

Just personal opinion

But I never get why people put make an effort in the first message as you might find them repulsive.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Again with another 'how do I message'. There was a great post onlining this by a female fabber, on another post.

Read the profile, base your message on mutual interests and add face pics.

Women get loads of messages, added to the fact that we are in a pandemic. You migh get a reply, you might not.

I don't think there is one magic message which will replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no point in sending them to women on here. Wait for them to contact you first. Leeds to a better result

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why have such big expectations?

It should always be hey, your my cup of tea would love to talk more.

Why waste time on a personal message to not grt anything back?

Not sure why some want Shakespeare or effort if your not attracted to him there you won't reply anyway its pointless?

Second message make the effort in my opinion just know shes Intrested first.

Just my opinion

Why waste time on a proper message? If you put the effort in you might get somethingback. If yyou don'tyou almost certainly won't. You may only get one chance, so make it count.

Because let's face it, its based on types and how attracted you are to the person that's messaging.

Its like a swipe on tinder you have to have the first initial match to go further.

Just personal opinion

But I never get why people put make an effort in the first message as you might find them repulsive. "

This is where I think men have a big misconception but it is simply to do with the photo or how attractive someone is.

Someone can be my absolute type and gorgeous, I might love their photos and find them really attractive unlike their profile but if the 1st message Lacking in anything other than a hello or a rubbish 1st message then I am not going to reply.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Something unusual! That's stands out from rest of Samie messages! Has to b in those first few words so intriguing to open it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being sent a smutty message we all know why we here so no need to message “fancy a fuck” in the first message it just don’t work

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'd say most want a nice clean message and one that shows you've read the profile and definitely no dick pic.

I've had messages like "fancy fucking the wife" absolutely no previous contact at all and it does nothing for me.

A bit of effort can go far but not always but need to remember it's you trying to stand out amongst 1000s of others and if get nothing back then it really doesn't matter because life goes on.

Even average me gets replies

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

Make me laugh and you’re in

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By *on-snowedMan
over a year ago

harlow


"Why have such big expectations?

It should always be hey, your my cup of tea would love to talk more.

Why waste time on a personal message to not grt anything back?

Not sure why some want Shakespeare or effort if your not attracted to him there you won't reply anyway its pointless?

Second message make the effort in my opinion just know shes Intrested first.

Just my opinion

Why waste time on a proper message? If you put the effort in you might get somethingback. If yyou don'tyou almost certainly won't. You may only get one chance, so make it count.

Because let's face it, its based on types and how attracted you are to the person that's messaging.

Its like a swipe on tinder you have to have the first initial match to go further.

Just personal opinion

But I never get why people put make an effort in the first message as you might find them repulsive.

This is where I think men have a big misconception but it is simply to do with the photo or how attractive someone is.

Someone can be my absolute type and gorgeous, I might love their photos and find them really attractive unlike their profile but if the 1st message Lacking in anything other than a hello or a rubbish 1st message then I am not going to reply."

I do get that, but I think just writing something simple just to show you are interested and see if its mutual first is better.

Lots of profiles say if I don't reply im not being rude just not interested.

I think as fair as that is its fair to just see if you are both attracted on the first place.

The go from there.

If I think someone is beautiful I'd tell them.

Id never write "fancy a fuck"

You show personality on you bio just give it a read see if they intrest you.

Simples.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Five messages last night, only one answered by me.

He’d read my profile, actually had a decent profile himself that was actively looking for TV’s, the other four didn’t and had themselves as straight. He’d added pictures and thankfully, not one of those was his penis. Also helped he was very interested in one of my fantasies.

So when women or couples on here keep saying read their profiles and send something tailored to it. It actually works, not in all cases but sooner or later it will.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Hey ladies, I have always been intrigued to know what is it that catches your eye when a guy messages you for the first time, other than the fact the he is good looking and is physically what your are looking for?

What makes you want to reply?

????????"

Actually, his looks are only part of it. If he’s attached a face pic and I find him attractive, I still won’t reply if the message is rubbish; and/or his profile isn’t filled in; and/or he obviously hasn’t read mine; and/or he’s a smoker/too far away/anything else I’ve stated I don’t want. Same goes for couples and women. If all they can say is “hi” and their profile is blank, how am I supposed to have a conversation with them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey.

Seriously. I’ll reply eventually.

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