FabSwingers.com forum: A whinge! (Sorry!)

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just getting really bored with typing out nice introductions and them just being deleted. It's just getting really frustrating.take the time to read the profile, write something nice and positive, more than a one liner etc.

Adding a face pic too.

Just wonder why it's even worth bothering any more.

Is it because I'm trying to instigate a getting to know you while we can meet approach?

Grrrr. Rant over lol

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

In a word. Yes.

People are grieving, whether that be the loss of people, livelihoods, jobs, their freedoms.

Also I know of many people who won't even open a message from a cock photo as the profile pic especially if it's their only public photo, myself included.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In a word. Yes.

People are grieving, whether that be the loss of people, livelihoods, jobs, their freedoms.

Also I know of many people who won't even open a message from a cock photo as the profile pic especially if it's their only public photo, myself included."

Yeah, I'll sort the pics out. Good point.

And I do know that there's zillions of guys sending messages, I get that. I suppose it's just got in my wick today!

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I know it's frustrating, but no reply = no interest, as per site FAQs.

There are many reasons women won't reply. Sorry

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"In a word. Yes.

People are grieving, whether that be the loss of people, livelihoods, jobs, their freedoms.

Also I know of many people who won't even open a message from a cock photo as the profile pic especially if it's their only public photo, myself included."

I agree. One cock pic is doing you no favours.x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I agree about the cock pictures.

Bits of your profile text made me smile, showing some personality (this sounds damning with faint praise, it isn't! It's not as common as it should be). Maybe flesh it out a bit?

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Don’t take it personally OP.

There are loads of reasons why you might not be getting responses and none of them mean anything negatively about you personally.

It’s a bad time for almost everyone and many people just don’t have any interest in starting new conversations with people they may never actually get to meet - because we don’t know when restrictions will ease!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks

Yeah I get these are strange times. And yes, most definitely will be sorting out the pics. Been meaning to do it for a while. I just never like the ones I take!

This can be a damn frustrating place at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I will mass delete when my inbox gets to full. Because it just looks overwhelming. Most messages I see are one liners "let me fuck you" or "I'm free now for fun". I have tried various profile writings and it doesnt change a thing of what lands in the DMs. Also im no longer a site support and only see a fraction of the messages I receive. Unless I go though and delete one by one. When you have a good few hundred most, as the one line examples, it can also be frustrating for us. Especially when you also receive abuse for politely declining also.

I've only been using the furom for a short while, but it seems better to be able to connect with people rather than the direct message out of the blue. Not sure if anyone can confirm that but it looks the better way as you are getting a little more of their personality. I wish I had used it more on previous profiles.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

A few things to consider OP:

Currently a lot of people aren't looking to get talking to anyone new even with a view to meeting at a later date.

Putting that aside though, a lot of people will delete messages rather than reply to avoid the potential for abuse in response, which is sadly more common than you would hope or think.

Remember that even though you think you might be a match for people you contact, that doesn't matter, it's whether they think you are a match for them that's important.

I actually think the whole sending messages cold to other users is the hardest way to come about conversations and meets too - and haven't done so for about four years as a result - there are other ways to get talking to people than that, such as using the forums or chat rooms - so maybe consider that.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

It's frustrating until you take all the facts into consideration then you have to figure it's usually nothing to do with you personally. There is a massive percentage of men to women, I understand women must get sick of trawling through very samey messages so start yours in a unique way that may grab attention within the first six words, after that I reckon most messages never get read.Another way to think of it is if you are going to have one out of every 10 messages read by the recipient then send a hundred and get ten read, do'nt cut and paste, try to personalise them so the person knows you have read their profile, it might sound a lot of hard work but it depends how bad you want something as to the lengths you are prepared to go.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"In a word. Yes.

People are grieving, whether that be the loss of people, livelihoods, jobs, their freedoms.

Also I know of many people who won't even open a message from a cock photo as the profile pic especially if it's their only public photo, myself included."

Exactly that. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A few things to consider OP:

Currently a lot of people aren't looking to get talking to anyone new even with a view to meeting at a later date.

Putting that aside though, a lot of people will delete messages rather than reply to avoid the potential for abuse in response, which is sadly more common than you would hope or think.

Remember that even though you think you might be a match for people you contact, that doesn't matter, it's whether they think you are a match for them that's important.

I've tried chatrooms since the new year but had nothing from it. Either the rooms had a few people but no one says anything or too busy so you can't really get a word in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Interesting conversation

and good to get both sides of the equation.

I know I posted as a whinge but it's good to get some feedback

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I've tried chatrooms since the new year but had nothing from it. Either the rooms had a few people but no one says anything or too busy so you can't really get a word in. "

Have never used them so wouldn't know - but like the forums it's probably a case of keep chipping away and joining in and slowly becoming accepted and getting to know people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you've been here over a year and are still struggling with messages, may be try a different approach? Plus factor in the world pandemic and how unsafe it is to meet right now. I can honestly say, even if I wanted to meet in the near future, I can't be bothered to chat with randoms at the moment as it's pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting conversation

and good to get both sides of the equation.

I know I posted as a whinge but it's good to get some feedback

I think it's just a case of trying not to take it personal. It's mostly not the case.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP.

Your predicament is the same for many guys on here, and linking in other females and couples too.

The pandemic means no-one is meeting until it's over; not your fault, just everyone is in the same situation.

But you are up against so many other guys all seeking the same thing and it's how you "sell yourself" via your profile & make yourself stand out, that makes the difference.

Thus, as suggested already, ditch the cock pics to Private and insert a facial pic instead. Ladies want to see any potential 'meet partners'; if they cannot do so from first view, you'll be passed over, as the ladies have so many guys to choose from!

It's a case of Patience, Perseverance and possessing a thick skin, as rejections are common place.

Look up similar threads in the Forum pages for other advice.

It does work, just give it a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you go up to a woman in a bar with your cock out and expect a positive response?

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

If I see profile cock pics in my inbox I just delete... that one pic tells me all I need to know

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"Just getting really bored with typing out nice introductions and them just being deleted. It's just getting really frustrating.take the time to read the profile, write something nice and positive, more than a one liner etc.

Adding a face pic too.

Just wonder why it's even worth bothering any more.

Is it because I'm trying to instigate a getting to know you while we can meet approach?

Grrrr. Rant over lol"

I wouldn’t even open a message with a cock pfp ...

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

Adding a face pic too.

Just wonder why it's even worth bothering any more.

Is it because I'm trying to instigate a getting to know you while we can meet approach?

Grrrr. Rant over lol"
personally I am not responded to any messages as there is no point, and most probably no one else is so no need to take it personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some good advice here OP I can’t add anything else just join in the forums more the majority aren’t direct messaging especially to cock pictures

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers all

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Sorry OP. Maybe try just chilling around here more often. Forum folk often get chatting as we're chatterboxes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have time to the messages I want to.

Block and delete from me. #Sorrynotsorry

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Add some public pics if you can op, I know people have said they don't look at messages from a cock avatar, but many still don't when it's a shillouette messaging

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