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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So as a lot of you know I like to send positive messages especially with all of this stuff that we are all dealing with and nine times out of ten people will read my message and automatically blocked me even though on the message it clearly sets at this current time I'm not looking to meet up with anyone. Yes I am sending messages to people that probably don't live in the northwest but if I seen profile and I like it then I want to wish them positive vibes just a shame that so can be nasty back

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If your definition of nasty includes them deleting and blocking you, having sent them unsolicited messages, you may benefit from rethinking your expectations here.

Some may wish only to be contacted for certain reasons, which your messages don't qualify as. They may be struggling with life at present and see someone trying to uplift them as patronising. They may be struggling due to the burdens of an overloaded inbox.

If they don't view you as compatible, they may find contact invasive and like unwanted spam.

If they are behaving in unexpected ways, it's perhaps wiser to hold back and to find other ways for your positive spirit to help to change the lives of others, away from inboxes here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might just be the volume of messages they receive, I don't take any offence if mine are deleted and I'm blocked, I just move on and try not to think about it anymore.

If I do send a positive message I stipulate I don't want or expect a message back, that way there is no pressure. Positive messages should be just that, a positive message to brighten somebody's day without hope of anything in return.

They may think you're only sending the positive messages to stand out and get a reply, I'm sure it may have been used as a tactic before and will again.

Stay safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear oh dear!!!

Read the FAQ and you may just see that they are indeed not being nasty at all.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your definition of nasty includes them deleting and blocking you, having sent them unsolicited messages, you may benefit from rethinking your expectations here.

Some may wish only to be contacted for certain reasons, which your messages don't qualify as. They may be struggling with life at present and see someone trying to uplift them as patronising. They may be struggling due to the burdens of an overloaded inbox.

If they don't view you as compatible, they may find contact invasive and like unwanted spam.

If they are behaving in unexpected ways, it's perhaps wiser to hold back and to find other ways for your positive spirit to help to change the lives of others, away from inboxes here"

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"If your definition of nasty includes them deleting and blocking you, having sent them unsolicited messages, you may benefit from rethinking your expectations here.

Some may wish only to be contacted for certain reasons, which your messages don't qualify as. They may be struggling with life at present and see someone trying to uplift them as patronising. They may be struggling due to the burdens of an overloaded inbox.

If they don't view you as compatible, they may find contact invasive and like unwanted spam.

If they are behaving in unexpected ways, it's perhaps wiser to hold back and to find other ways for your positive spirit to help to change the lives of others, away from inboxes here

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"So as a lot of you know I like to send positive messages especially with all of this stuff that we are all dealing with and nine times out of ten people will read my message and automatically blocked me even though on the message it clearly sets at this current time I'm not looking to meet up with anyone. Yes I am sending messages to people that probably don't live in the northwest but if I seen profile and I like it then I want to wish them positive vibes just a shame that so can be nasty back "

Is blocking someone they're not interested in nasty?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op - some people just aren’t interested in chatting at the moment?

Also, what sort of positive message are you sending? Maybe it’s positive to you, but isn’t coming across that way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op - some people just aren’t interested in chatting at the moment?

Also, what sort of positive message are you sending? Maybe it’s positive to you, but isn’t coming across that way?"

Yes, ^ this.

Maybe they are thinking WTF??!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op - some people just aren’t interested in chatting at the moment?

Also, what sort of positive message are you sending? Maybe it’s positive to you, but isn’t coming across that way?"

Is nice fuxkn arse a positive post?

Asking for a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you join fab the first thing message you receive to confirm payment is a message saying " deleted message means no thank you" wait a minute....what if fab just changed the word deleted to no thanks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think its great that you try to spread positivity. Dont let anyone bring you down or make you feel shit about it. There is a high percentage of profiles on fab that are very egotistical and their opinions arent really worth anything.

Take it easy mate and I hope you have a good day!

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally think its great that you try to spread positivity. Dont let anyone bring you down or make you feel shit about it. There is a high percentage of profiles on fab that are very egotistical and their opinions arent really worth anything.

Take it easy mate and I hope you have a good day!

S x "

I don’t think anyone is trying to bring him down, more questioning the process.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally think its great that you try to spread positivity. Dont let anyone bring you down or make you feel shit about it. There is a high percentage of profiles on fab that are very egotistical and their opinions arent really worth anything.

Take it easy mate and I hope you have a good day!

S x

I don’t think anyone is trying to bring him down, more questioning the process.

"

I was more referring to the profiles he messages. Which has obviously brought him down to make the original post.

Letting the people fab bring him down is not worth it is more of the point I was trying to make

S x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The thing is when I receive a nasty message back basically telling myself to read their profile it's not like I am messaging them asking for a meet up I'm just basically telling them hopefully we will get out of this pandemic sooner rather than later it's like I'm just one of these people that likes to send positive messages instead of hey how are you messages

Sometimes to receive nasty messages back doesn't matter if we are on a sex site or not some people could easily message back and just say thanks

But again maybe I'm wrong maybe I just need to start being a a****** but then again I can't be one of them because that's just not the way I am.

I understand that everyone has got their own views and opinions maybe I should just not care and leave it at that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've received messages telling me no or read profile...but never has it been nasty...blunt yes...but then that tells me all I need to know about that person...so I block them...no harm done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes send messages saying I’ve got no ulterior motive and I’m not looking to meet or chat but I saw your pictures and just wanted to say you’re stunning, not expecting a message back just wanted you to know.

Occasionally I get a thank you but I’m not expecting one I just want someone to read it and smile.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"I personally think its great that you try to spread positivity. Dont let anyone bring you down or make you feel shit about it. There is a high percentage of profiles on fab that are very egotistical and their opinions arent really worth anything.

Take it easy mate and I hope you have a good day!

S x "

x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The thing is some messages that I get I just can't believe especially with what we are all facing at the minute to receive something so nasty and so cruel it's like understand everyone wants a bit of fun some people are sticking to the rules and some people are not giving a damn but when you're getting a message from someone like me who is just saying fingers crossed that we can all get through this horrible mess that we are all in in there is no message of me saying hey let's meet up even though we are 150 miles away from each other

When you join any dating site or whenever you join any sex site I have always said everyone has got different opinions different likes and different dislikes I know that I'm not athletic so I know that I don't get lucky like some do..

I know that I am a little bit heavy and I do know sometimes I do look a little bit rough off even I would kick myself out of bed but no need for nasty remarks no need for nasty comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing is some messages that I get I just can't believe especially with what we are all facing at the minute to receive something so nasty and so cruel it's like understand everyone wants a bit of fun some people are sticking to the rules and some people are not giving a damn but when you're getting a message from someone like me who is just saying fingers crossed that we can all get through this horrible mess that we are all in in there is no message of me saying hey let's meet up even though we are 150 miles away from each other

When you join any dating site or whenever you join any sex site I have always said everyone has got different opinions different likes and different dislikes I know that I'm not athletic so I know that I don't get lucky like some do..

I know that I am a little bit heavy and I do know sometimes I do look a little bit rough off even I would kick myself out of bed but no need for nasty remarks no need for nasty comments "

Really? I'm 48yrs old...fat and face thats been hit with the ugly stick....but I've never had a nasty message about my looks!!!

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

it's really lovely that you send positive messages, the thing is that people may get all kinds of messages in their inbox and after a while you realise that people are just trying to start conversations, in certain situations and with people that the receiver might not want to converse with.

it is nice of you to reach out, but if you are finding a pattern with how your messages are being received maybe it's not really a good thing to be doing with your time especially if it's leaving you feeling people are nasty which may not be their intention at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our profile gets attention sometimes purely down to the other half. When they want to see pics of us both and see me...tumble lol. I'm not everyone's cup of tea but I dont particularly mind. I get it though, is a bit shit sometimes and it is easy to start making comparisons with other guys.

Definitely start focusing on purely yourself in a positive way, put yourself infront of others for a while, then you can start spreading the joy again if you feel like it.

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the fun stops, STOP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's really lovely that you send positive messages, the thing is that people may get all kinds of messages in their inbox and after a while you realise that people are just trying to start conversations, in certain situations and with people that the receiver might not want to converse with.

it is nice of you to reach out, but if you are finding a pattern with how your messages are being received maybe it's not really a good thing to be doing with your time especially if it's leaving you feeling people are nasty which may not be their intention at all."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When the fun stops, STOP! "

Now that is amazing advice!!!!!

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing is some messages that I get I just can't believe especially with what we are all facing at the minute to receive something so nasty and so cruel it's like understand everyone wants a bit of fun some people are sticking to the rules and some people are not giving a damn but when you're getting a message from someone like me who is just saying fingers crossed that we can all get through this horrible mess that we are all in in there is no message of me saying hey let's meet up even though we are 150 miles away from each other

When you join any dating site or whenever you join any sex site I have always said everyone has got different opinions different likes and different dislikes I know that I'm not athletic so I know that I don't get lucky like some do..

I know that I am a little bit heavy and I do know sometimes I do look a little bit rough off even I would kick myself out of bed but no need for nasty remarks no need for nasty comments

Really? I'm 48yrs old...fat and face thats been hit with the ugly stick....but I've never had a nasty message about my looks!!! "

Absolutely nothing wrong with your looks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s lovely that you’re trying to spread positivity, but do you take into consideration the space the receiver might be in.

It’s important to be aware that although you’re doing something nice, it’s what you consider nice, and not necessarily what the receiver wants.

It’s a lovely intention, but if it’s not working for you then maybe reconsider?

Post in the lounge instead?

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