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By *aneyy OP   Man
over a year ago

london

Right so, I’m finding the dynamic with couples very different to that of single women on here, do couples prefer a guy to make the first move message wise? As it’s their relationship and I would just be a guest, sending a message first may come across a bit forced.

I’m a big couples fan I have found. Which I really didn’t envisage when I joined, each is soooooo different. But fun. Anyway what’s your preference if you had to choose? I can imagine most are inundated with messages from single guys anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was a couple I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the couple are looking for single males, and you match their criteria, send a message. Address both of the couple though, and be aware of the dynamic involved.Unless their profile states otherwise, contact who you fancy and whose filters allow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the couple are looking for single males, and you match their criteria, send a message. Address both of the couple though, and be aware of the dynamic involved.Unless their profile states otherwise, contact who you fancy and whose filters allow."

This^

Plus using the forum to try to bypass the usual messaging process while maintaining sincerety is a difficult skill to master

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village


"Right so, I’m finding the dynamic with couples very different to that of single women on here, do couples prefer a guy to make the first move message wise? As it’s their relationship and I would just be a guest, sending a message first may come across a bit forced.

I’m a big couples fan I have found. Which I really didn’t envisage when I joined, each is soooooo different. But fun. Anyway what’s your preference if you had to choose? I can imagine most are inundated with messages from single guys anyway!"

I used to be part of a couples profile on here. It didn’t bother us who made the first move in terms of messaging as such, the most important part was to be respectful of boundaries if and when it progressed to the point of meeting. We had some good and some dreadful experiences with single males, the latter usually boiling down to blatant disregard in the heat of the moment of what we’d been very clear about in terms of our boundaries. Hope that makes some sense.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"If the couple are looking for single males, and you match their criteria, send a message. Address both of the couple though, and be aware of the dynamic involved.Unless their profile states otherwise, contact who you fancy and whose filters allow."

I 2nd this, address them both and talk to them both. Don't ignore the male. Plus have "couples" on your profile. The amont we've had lately with just looking for the female. Their title and status refers to them looking for single females. Why write to a couples account?

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

not bothered who makes the 1st move as long as we get there in the end

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By *andtsurreyCouple
over a year ago

Torbay


"If the couple are looking for single males, and you match their criteria, send a message. Address both of the couple though, and be aware of the dynamic involved.Unless their profile states otherwise, contact who you fancy and whose filters allow."

Definitely this. We constantly get messages to K telling him his wife is fantastic. I wish people would talk to us both rather than assume I never read messages.

T x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play alone 99% of the time, and expect to be approached, if it were to turn out that my husband joined in then fine, in that case we'd be approached as a couple I guess. But that is very rare, I'm a solo player xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Send a message not all couples are inundated.

If their profile says "single men we will find you" don't send a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're not fussed tbh.

All I would say is be sure to address them BOTH!

Men only considering me is a huge turn of...We're a couple.

Lu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the couple are looking for single males, and you match their criteria, send a message. Address both of the couple though, and be aware of the dynamic involved.Unless their profile states otherwise, contact who you fancy and whose filters allow."

Definitely this ^

Most importantly addressing them both is the best way and a nice message does go a long way

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By *atandjayCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

A wink to show interest goes a long way

We rarely send a message first, if we do and the guy doesn’t suit us he is sometimes difficult to shake of without seeming rude

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