FabSwingers.com forum: Being sexy

By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

How comfortable are you with trying to be sexy?

I generally feel like a bit of an idiot. Much more comfortable being silly and then that can lead to shenanigans...

Mrs kf x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear you Mrs KF. I can't do sexy at all - I'd much rather be silly.

I know I don't come across like that but it's true.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Exactly the same as you.

I don't even attempt to do sexy coz it's cringeworthy for me.

Also when I've seen people trying before and it looks really staged, awkward and find myself thinking, "damn, just be yourself and don't force it"

So, that's how I roll, just being me.

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I actively try to not be sexy but unfortunately I have this undeniable aura of raw sexual energy that radiates from me 24/7

such a burden

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Same, I can't act intentionally sexy. I get told I am at times but I am never trying to be, if I try to be it feels awkward and while I don't lose confidence it makes it harder to feel sexy.

I just normally attempt to do things, if they come across as sexy then so be it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am quite comfortable actually and in tune with that. Silly is good too, but I don't think I am that funny.

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"I actively try to not be sexy but unfortunately I have this undeniable aura of raw sexual energy that radiates from me 24/7

such a burden

That is tough. I hear you. Let’s start a support group. Mr.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Absolutely useless. I have no sexy at all. Actually, that's not true, as there is a little in my right eye.

I go for brazen or for comedy genius, and I'm not entirely sure I hit either of those very well either. But trying to be sexy just makes me feel like a bit of a twat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actively try to not be sexy but unfortunately I have this undeniable aura of raw sexual energy that radiates from me 24/7

such a burden

And I thought that was just the mouldy cheese I could smell!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I actively try to not be sexy but unfortunately I have this undeniable aura of raw sexual energy that radiates from me 24/7

such a burden

It does make it tough to be within a 378 mile radius of you and not get overwhelmed with the lust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I'm sexy. I'm just me when I'm with a guy and he says I'm sexy I usually just laugh which I've been told makes me more sexy go figure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah I just fall over and stuff. I think the time I sexily tried to kick off a heel in a seductive way and it went through the hotel balcony window told me I should perhaps stop trying.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I try - attitude wise, but not body wise.

Unless you have a fondness for big guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no way in hell I can 'act sexy' and not feel ridiculous. I could never do a strip tease, far too cringeworthy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I do sexy very well at all, much prefer to just be me.

Mrs KC

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m just not sure.

Don’t try and be sexy but feel sexy.

Sexy is something that comes from the inside and only erupts into view when you’re comfortable with it.

Trying to be sexy is not sexy.

Work on truly believing you are sexy and the rest looks after itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's no way in hell I can 'act sexy' and not feel ridiculous. I could never do a strip tease, far too cringeworthy. "

What if its not acting as such, just channelling some feelings?

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Nah I just fall over and stuff. I think the time I sexily tried to kick off a heel in a seductive way and it went through the hotel balcony window told me I should perhaps stop trying. "

I'll bring a crash helmet and body armour - just in case

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Never try to be anything, if people find me sexy it’s flattering x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nah I just fall over and stuff. I think the time I sexily tried to kick off a heel in a seductive way and it went through the hotel balcony window told me I should perhaps stop trying.

I'll bring a crash helmet and body armour - just in case

You’ll need it. I’m clumsy as fuck! Ask anyone who’s met me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried to bring sexy back from the shops but the selves were empty as people were panic buying, so I picked a fuck ton of seductive, desirable and alluring, sultry and slinky were on special offer so I loaded up the Ute with them buggers.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Nah I just fall over and stuff. I think the time I sexily tried to kick off a heel in a seductive way and it went through the hotel balcony window told me I should perhaps stop trying.

I'll bring a crash helmet and body armour - just in case

You’ll need it. I’m clumsy as fuck! Ask anyone who’s met me

Im hoping to find out for myself, one day. Xxx

Good job i don't bruise easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's no way in hell I can 'act sexy' and not feel ridiculous. I could never do a strip tease, far too cringeworthy.

What if its not acting as such, just channelling some feelings?

I'm not a natural performer, so those feelings would be misplaced doing such things.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

I do think for a lot of people feeling sexy and being sexy have a lot to do with the person you are being sexy for.

If they treat you like they know you are sexy, it is easier to believe you are (even if you actually are anyway!). You try more things that seem sexy for them because they empower and encourage you to feel it.

It is a different kind of confidence when it is supported by somebody else.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I'm literally shit at it, I try but just end up in fits of laughter at myself

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Having a smooch on the dance floor can easily boost someone's sexiness.

Anybody want to tango???

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I’m just not sure.

Don’t try and be sexy but feel sexy.

Sexy is something that comes from the inside and only erupts into view when you’re comfortable with it.

Trying to be sexy is not sexy.

Work on truly believing you are sexy and the rest looks after itself."

I'm impressed by how you managed to get the word sexy into all but on sentence and made up for the lack in that one by using it twice in the next one. Fine use of sexy there Sam.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I'm literally shit at it, I try but just end up in fits of laughter at myself

There's nothing wrong with laughter. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think for a lot of people feeling sexy and being sexy have a lot to do with the person you are being sexy for.

It is a different kind of confidence when it is supported by somebody else. "

Excellently described.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck knows how you’d even start to try and be sexy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think for a lot of people feeling sexy and being sexy have a lot to do with the person you are being sexy for.

It is a different kind of confidence when it is supported by somebody else. "

100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m just not sure.

Don’t try and be sexy but feel sexy.

Sexy is something that comes from the inside and only erupts into view when you’re comfortable with it.

Trying to be sexy is not sexy.

Work on truly believing you are sexy and the rest looks after itself.

I'm impressed by how you managed to get the word sexy into all but on sentence and made up for the lack in that one by using it twice in the next one. Fine use of sexy there Sam. "

I took inspiration from a scene in the inbetweeners film.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I do think for a lot of people feeling sexy and being sexy have a lot to do with the person you are being sexy for.

It is a different kind of confidence when it is supported by somebody else. "

This. Definitely.

(I'm still crap at it and usually fall over)

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I’m just not sure.

Don’t try and be sexy but feel sexy.

Sexy is something that comes from the inside and only erupts into view when you’re comfortable with it.

Trying to be sexy is not sexy.

Work on truly believing you are sexy and the rest looks after itself.

I'm impressed by how you managed to get the word sexy into all but on sentence and made up for the lack in that one by using it twice in the next one. Fine use of sexy there Sam.

I took inspiration from a scene in the inbetweeners film.

It was a beautiful moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexy, or awkwardness or hilarity for that matter, is a partnership or union for me. Depends who I'm around

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Silly works for me.

A smouldering hot sexy guy is all well and good, but it's a tad embarrassing & I feel I can't keep up.

Silly breaks the pressure & makes me melt into the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no try, there is only do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't try to be because if I did I'd probably look like Mr Bean doing it

I guess feeling sexy and confident is what portrays 'sexy' but ultimately its up to the other person if they find you sexy or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sexy, or awkwardness or hilarity for that matter, is a partnership or union for me. Depends who I'm around

Also, I'm not always laid naked with my knob in my hand or my bum sticking in the air in a black and white filter. I'm currently in a hoodie wearing my geeky glasses with my laptop in front of me, working on a fucking Sunday! Not sexy at all really, but then, maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just me. If someone finds it sexy, great, but if not then I wouldn't start "trying" as that's when it goes wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re both sexy which comes naturally no need to try !

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Sexy, or awkwardness or hilarity for that matter, is a partnership or union for me. Depends who I'm around

That's pretty sexy tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not remotely sexy so when I actively try it can look silly

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I couldnt be sexy if I tried!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sexy, or awkwardness or hilarity for that matter, is a partnership or union for me. Depends who I'm around

That's pretty sexy tbf"

Awwww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite a few on here with a low opinion of themselves going by the comments.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I think I can do sexy with photos. In real life I'm absolutely useless, I'm more likely to start a chat on some deep and meaningful level. As some on this thread can attest to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I could do sexy if I tried

the closest I get is a glint in the eye (lucky to have been given baby blues!) when I'm having a proper laugh with somebody.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Sexy, or awkwardness or hilarity for that matter, is a partnership or union for me. Depends who I'm around

That's pretty sexy tbf

Awwww

Shurrup you

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I couldnt be sexy if I tried!!"

You ooze sexy my dear. Xx

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Like Peakduo said - maybe don't see themselves as 'Sexy', but we do see it.

Nobody is perfect - trust me, i know, but i see so many beautiful ladies on here - inside & out.

You don't have to be on the cover of vogue to be sexy - mostly its about how you come across to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think "trying" to be anything is a bad move, unless it's part of roll play bit that's not for me anyway.

Always be authentic, never feel the need to play up to someone else's expectations or put on an act.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me trying to do sexy pics is like a fish out of water just doesn’t go, just have to be serious or I’m silly in pics

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Trying to be something you’re not is never going to look good. Be yourself and be appreciated for that, whatever that may be.

Lex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Trying to be something you’re not is never going to look good. Be yourself and be appreciated for that, whatever that may be.

Lex"

I agree with this

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Trying too hard to be sexy is often off putting.

I find kindness and wit sexy. But the most sexy thing is someone that expresses desire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I feel sexy but more often than not I don’t at all.

Surely it’s a mindset not a set of actions.. if you are in good company and enjoying yourself you will naturally feel more confident and thus more likely to come across as and feel sexy..

I don’t think it’s something you can force or try to achieve as it’s more a state of mind thing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think that there's such a variety of things people find sexy that there's no point trying. You either have the thing or behave in a way someone finds sexy or you don't. Obviously if you know what that thing is you can do it.

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

If I try to act sexy it is absolutely cringe worthy.

Generally I just try to be myself, some will like me, others won't.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t think you can act sexy, I think it’s something you either are or aren’t. And everyone has their own idea of what’s sexy - so regardless of what we think of ourselves, there is someone out there who thinks you’re the dogs bollocks and sex on legs.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'm not sexy and apart from the occasional moment I wish I could be, I'm comfortable with not being so. I'm too cutesy and chubby to be sexy but that's not a bad thing.

Sometimes I feel like I'm sexy to someone but that's down to me ovulating and randy delusions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I obviously don't try and I'm quite sure most see me as just good friend material lol.

The thing is though we shouldn't try but rather be who we are naturally.

To be sexy is to have that unexplained "X" factor which is apparent to some but invisible to others.

Fabsters who say they aren't sexy because of what they see as body image superficial flaws will be attractions to others.

If its all about that illusive chemistry then don't try but just be who you are and by that your true X factor will find the right one.

I'm totally amazed that the most sexiest of girls will say they're not. We all are in lots of different ways... Even me

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

My inner goddess does the sexy stuff. If I catch myself in a mirror or something, I literally don't recognise myself! I prefer to roll with it

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Sorry I abandoned this thread earlier - just had a read through, thank you for some very thought-provoking contributions

It's interesting how fab works - we get used to seeing all these hot pictures of each other, often suggestive or straight up erotic, but behind all that many of us don't feel sexy. Is it confidence? Or is it that sexy is something which happens with chemistry and connection?

I've had people say to me "oh wear stockings and heels, that's so sexy". It's not something I feel particularly comfortable in, so it doesn't make me feel sexy. But if someone else finds it sexy - would that then make me feel sexy?

I've now reached the point where I've said sexy so many times, it has started to not sound like a real word

Musing over.

Mrs kf x

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