FabSwingers.com forum: Why do people

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

See others as a competition on here? I’m so confused with the swinging world again. I’ve seen a few things that weren’t swinging and now people poaching to tell them that their better than .... i mean I’ve got thick skin (literally) but is there really any need for this behaviour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need for it.

It's easy enough to avoid tho...just keep those people out of your circle...

We're all individuals with different things to offer, there's no need for competition.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I think some people feel the need to compete in most aspects in life not just here. Who can get the most likes on a picture, who has the biggest house or car. They feel it makes them better than others, which simply isn't true. I'd try to ignore it as much as possible if I were you.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"See others as a competition on here? I’m so confused with the swinging world again. I’ve seen a few things that weren’t swinging and now people poaching to tell them that their better than .... i mean I’ve got thick skin (literally) but is there really any need for this behaviour? "

Yup I agree the ‘who’s the sexiest man/woman on fab?/ who has the best boobs?’ Type threads don’t help either .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strange times.

Frustration.

I think people have made connections and are waiting for those to materialise when restrictions allow but when they get hint of those connections connecting with others they get all clingy.

Who knows, I’m just bored and thought I’d have a pop at answering your question.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

There's plenty of people on here and there's enough time to meet them, so there's no need for it to feel like it's some kind of arms race.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It seems more of a personal issue - as now wanting what I have had etc.

But yes I have blocked and won’t be involved in any circle of theirs.

Thanks just needed a rant

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"There's plenty of people on here and there's enough time to meet them, so there's no need for it to feel like it's some kind of arms race.

https://youtu.be/GNm5drtAQXs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's plenty of people on here and there's enough time to meet them, so there's no need for it to feel like it's some kind of arms race.

https://youtu.be/GNm5drtAQXs"

Before I follow that link please confirm that it’s to a fall out boy track...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Motivation = insecurity

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"There's plenty of people on here and there's enough time to meet them, so there's no need for it to feel like it's some kind of arms race.

https://youtu.be/GNm5drtAQXs

Before I follow that link please confirm that it’s to a fall out boy track..."

I can confirm yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's plenty of people on here and there's enough time to meet them, so there's no need for it to feel like it's some kind of arms race.

https://youtu.be/GNm5drtAQXs

Before I follow that link please confirm that it’s to a fall out boy track...

I can confirm yes

Excellent.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Healthy fun competition is good often a good laugh though and I enjoy that but when it comes to those who put others down to make themselves more appealing, thats a turn off and I avoid that, its not funny and rather unattractive.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

As a forum user for many years I've come to the understanding that one has to be careful not to tread on the toes of the women who form a bond with forum men, and don't like sharing.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Healthy fun competition is good often a good laugh though and I enjoy that but when it comes to those who put others down to make themselves more appealing, thats a turn off and I avoid that, its not funny and rather unattractive."

I don't mind sharing you Sophe

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Yup I agree the ‘who’s the sexiest man/woman on fab?/ who has the best boobs?’ Type threads don’t help either ..... "

They are fine by me. I can offer up my choices without actually wanting to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so glad I'm not popular

Saves a lot of hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a forum user for many years I've come to the understanding that one has to be careful not to tread on the toes of the women who form a bond with forum men, and don't like sharing.

I’m shocked by your comment......

I thought swinging was about sharing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a forum user for many years I've come to the understanding that one has to be careful not to tread on the toes of the women who form a bond with forum men, and don't like sharing.

So true - I don't get involved in any of it and keep who I meet private.

It's not just the women - I know a few men that thrive on drama too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is very much a competition for some

Some people see everything as a competition

It's part of who they are

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"As a forum user for many years I've come to the understanding that one has to be careful not to tread on the toes of the women who form a bond with forum men, and don't like sharing.

I’m shocked by your comment......

I thought swinging was about sharing "

So did I, but some people don't like their men being attracted to other forum women.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I don't mind sharing you Sophe

And I dont mind being shared, in fact I prefer it that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some interesting comments... My faith in Fab waivers quite a bit for this very reason and people playing mind games and preaching..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s no one on forums btw

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"This is very much a competition for some

Some people see everything as a competition

It's part of who they are"

Sad, but true.

I honestly don't care if someone I'm attracted to is more attracted to someone else.

If I can get over my husband cheating with a friend, I'm not going to be bothered by women on a sex/swinging site.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I don't mind sharing you Sophe

And I dont mind being shared, in fact I prefer it that way

Me too. More the merrier

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"As a forum user for many years I've come to the understanding that one has to be careful not to tread on the toes of the women who form a bond with forum men, and don't like sharing.

So true - I don't get involved in any of it and keep who I meet private.

It's not just the women - I know a few men that thrive on drama too.

I don't really have much knowledge of the men on here. Rarely talk to anyone as I'm an unsociable cow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s no one on forums btw "

Unfortunately people want what others have. Best to avoid them. It's not worth it. Move on the something better and make them even more jealous

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I've had one that would contact every new veri I got (of a sexual nature) and one that got so upset after one of meets wouldn't bang them that they went out the next morning and got a tattoo almost identical to mine in exactly the same place as mine.

Some people are so insecure in themselves that they try to be someone they ain't, or they see other people as competition like you say and it's almost like they value their own worth on "beating" or at least 'scoring the same' points I'll call it as someone else.

I pity them but they don't half cause some hassle.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Strange times.

Frustration.

I think people have made connections and are waiting for those to materialise when restrictions allow but when they get hint of those connections connecting with others they get all clingy.

Who knows, I’m just bored and thought I’d have a pop at answering your question.

From my experience last time a lot of my new connections disappeared into ...... be warned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think it's more prevalent in men as they are outnumbered and the peacocking etc is kind of primitive mating behaviour. But also, there is a natural hierarchy in life and people feel/find their place based on how other treat them and their own egos.

The forums are rife with narcissism, all fed by people clamouring for their attention with false flattery and lamp post pissing.

I keep out of it and just do. Let nobody is any better than anyone else, no matter how many times their name comes up in a forum thread or how many times their photos are fabbed.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

When I first joined I had a coffee with a local lady who told me the ins and outs of fab, how it worked, what to do, what not to do etc. One of those what not to do's was 'never meet anyone I have, or xxxx has'. I was quite shocked at the time!!

Can't be doing with any dramalamas!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I'm so glad I'm not popular

Saves a lot of hassle "

I'm so glad to have a life and not be bothered by petty squabbles on a sex site.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Sadly there's a lot of jealousy on here as well and some like to stir behind the scenes.As the saying goes they run with the hare and hunt with the hounds. Worse are those who allow them to when they should know better.

But it's fab and won't change.Easier to just cut ties with those that do and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all.

Not trying to cause any drama - was just curious if was normal behaviour from some people.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Thanks all.

Not trying to cause any drama - was just curious if was normal behaviour from some people. "

From some yeah as crap as that sounds.

Generally the singles.

I won't go near anyone a certain someone has been in contact with in the past year coz I know it'll come with drama so I avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly there's a lot of jealousy on here as well and some like to stir behind the scenes.As the saying goes they run with the hare and hunt with the hounds. Worse are those who allow them to when they should know better.

But it's fab and won't change.Easier to just cut ties with those that do and move on. "
yes I agree... The multi meets create jealously and people are more "look at me"... Im leaning more to a very select few that can trust and think similar.... That is the way forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to keep to myself and do my own thing, just how I like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a forum user for many years I've come to the understanding that one has to be careful not to tread on the toes of the women who form a bond with forum men, and don't like sharing.

I’m shocked by your comment......

I thought swinging was about sharing "

And open minded non judgemental fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s no one on forums btw "

Hide your verifications and don't veri the people you meet. Then your sex life is private and people won't cause you issues.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"As a forum user for many years I've come to the understanding that one has to be careful not to tread on the toes of the women who form a bond with forum men, and don't like sharing.

I’m shocked by your comment......

I thought swinging was about sharing "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there was a girl years ago using my verification page as a sort of shopping/ to do list ...

we had ended up in a group chat with 2 single boys from another app and when the mmff fell through she just started contacting all my previous meets from here and trying to get them to meet her instead (and i say instead because even though i wasn’t exclusive with any of them thats the term she used and a few of them i was good friends with told me)

it was very bizarre and i still never understand what she got out of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Part of life and part of fab, unfortunately. I've been on receiving end of this where guys I chatted to were warned off me by another female. Now I just avoid the drama.

Fab is supposed to be fun, to get away from the normal crap in life. Keep your circle small, enjoy the people that make it a good place

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"As a forum user for many years I've come to the understanding that one has to be careful not to tread on the toes of the women who form a bond with forum men, and don't like sharing.

I'm relatively new and I figured that out straight away haha

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I have a big pot of salt x

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"As a forum user for many years I've come to the understanding that one has to be careful not to tread on the toes of the women who form a bond with forum men, and don't like sharing.

As someone who has found out that others have been warned away from speaking to me, if I was to find that anyone had done this no matter how strong my bond is with them, they will find that bond broken as I don't belong to anyone.

As far as I'm concerned, if we talk then I'm not stepping on anyones toes as I am not the same as anyone else so I couldn't be a replacement for anyone else, I can be an addition to what they already have and so could I for them.

I don’t want exclusive, I dont offer it and won't be asking for it from anyone else.

Sharing is caring after all and it's a lot of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just watch and observe who causes the most drama (even though they say they don't get involved in any

).I then try to avoid the men they meet or interact with so not to get drawn into their silly squabbles.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

This is fairly prevalent throughout the site.

Strangely I've found that quite often the people who talk about avoiding drama are the ones creating it.

They like to launch the odd grenade into a forum discussion and then appear on the victims list.

As far as narcissism goes it has always amazed me that some people preach endlessly about how they fell foul of a narcissistic partner and how they came through that experience as a much stronger person.

Unfortunately they don't seem to be aware how ironic it is that they themselves make every forum thread about them and remind us of who they were and who they are now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a forum user for many years I've come to the understanding that one has to be careful not to tread on the toes of the women who form a bond with forum men, and don't like sharing.

I’m shocked by your comment......

I thought swinging was about sharing

So did I, but some people don't like their men being attracted to other forum women.

Ohh , so they must not be swingers and secretly looking for monogamy......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is fairly prevalent throughout the site.

Strangely I've found that quite often the people who talk about avoiding drama are the ones creating it.

They like to launch the odd grenade into a forum discussion and then appear on the victims list.

Unfortunately they don't seem to be aware how ironic it is that they themselves make every forum thread about them and remind us of who they were and who they are now. "

Shots fired.... I’ll put on the kettle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I wouldn’t meet a forum man. It would make all the other men upset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is fairly prevalent throughout the site.

Strangely I've found that quite often the people who talk about avoiding drama are the ones creating it.

They like to launch the odd grenade into a forum discussion and then appear on the victims list.

Unfortunately they don't seem to be aware how ironic it is that they themselves make every forum thread about them and remind us of who they were and who they are now. "

Yep. They're so vain, they probably think this post is about them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is fairly prevalent throughout the site.

Strangely I've found that quite often the people who talk about avoiding drama are the ones creating it.

They like to launch the odd grenade into a forum discussion and then appear on the victims list.

Unfortunately they don't seem to be aware how ironic it is that they themselves make every forum thread about them and remind us of who they were and who they are now. "

Glad it's not just me who sees this behaviour play out. Same ones who spout about being inclusive and come across as sweet people yet behind the scenes are horrible.

Even more cringe when they spread shit to others who readily believe what they hear.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"As a forum user for many years I've come to the understanding that one has to be careful not to tread on the toes of the women who form a bond with forum men, and don't like sharing.

Haha yes. I've been incredibly amused when I've swapped flirty comments with a guy and someone has felt the need to point out I'm not the only one. Really!? On a swingers site!? Shocking! I as a polyamorous girl who lives with a partner am shocked and appalled that people don't keep their flirting exclusive

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"This is why I wouldn’t meet a forum man. It would make all the other men upset. "

Well there goes me asking you for a coffee then Annie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a forum user for many years I've come to the understanding that one has to be careful not to tread on the toes of the women who form a bond with forum men, and don't like sharing.

I’m shocked by your comment......

I thought swinging was about sharing

So did I, but some people don't like their men being attracted to other forum women.

Ohh , so they must not be swingers and secretly looking for monogamy......"

i actually don’t think they necessarily want monogamy from anyone here ... i think society has conditioned us to think that when they also like someone else we forget the “also” part and start to compare and contrast and take them being attracted to someone else as a rejection of ourselves when the 2 are entirely unrelated

human egos are a fragile thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is fairly prevalent throughout the site.

Strangely I've found that quite often the people who talk about avoiding drama are the ones creating it.

They like to launch the odd grenade into a forum discussion and then appear on the victims list.

Unfortunately they don't seem to be aware how ironic it is that they themselves make every forum thread about them and remind us of who they were and who they are now. "

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

human egos are a fragile thing "

I agree with this....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is fairly prevalent throughout the site.

Strangely I've found that quite often the people who talk about avoiding drama are the ones creating it.

They like to launch the odd grenade into a forum discussion and then appear on the victims list.

Unfortunately they don't seem to be aware how ironic it is that they themselves make every forum thread about them and remind us of who they were and who they are now. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad it's not just me who sees this behaviour play out. Same ones who spout about being inclusive and come across as sweet people yet behind the scenes are horrible.

Even more cringe when they spread shit to others who readily believe what they hear."

Exactly this. There are plenty on here who will hold a knife in your back while smiling sweetly to your face. People spout the words "I like sharing" like verbal diarrhea until it comes to them actually sharing, same as "I don't judge / kink shame / get jealous etc etc" It's just words. What goes on behind the scenes is very different.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"As a forum user for many years I've come to the understanding that one has to be careful not to tread on the toes of the women who form a bond with forum men, and don't like sharing.

I’m shocked by your comment......

I thought swinging was about sharing

So did I, but some people don't like their men being attracted to other forum women.

Ohh , so they must not be swingers and secretly looking for monogamy......"

No. They will meet others, and hook up with others together, at clubs etc, but not forum women. Or the man has to keep his other partners a secret.

I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings so I try to avoid those situations.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Unfortunately some people are competitive. People say they are swingers but in reality they aren't.

When I was on here I was 'warned off' a popular guy on the forums by a woman he was seeing. When I told him a few years later about her he wasn't very happy.

That sort of thing can spoil this swinging journey. I remain low key and stay away from dramas as much as I can.

Mrs

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Unfortunately some people are competitive. People say they are swingers but in reality they aren't.

When I was on here I was 'warned off' a popular guy on the forums by a woman he was seeing. When I told him a few years later about her he wasn't very happy.

That sort of thing can spoil this swinging journey. I remain low key and stay away from dramas as much as I can.

Mrs"

This is the problem. If someone warns you off, or lets it be known the man you're talking to is "theirs", do you say anything to said man (or woman)?

It's all so dramatic I can't be arsed.

I would rather we had a 3 some

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Unfortunately some people are competitive. People say they are swingers but in reality they aren't.

When I was on here I was 'warned off' a popular guy on the forums by a woman he was seeing. When I told him a few years later about her he wasn't very happy.

That sort of thing can spoil this swinging journey. I remain low key and stay away from dramas as much as I can.

Mrs

This is the problem. If someone warns you off, or lets it be known the man you're talking to is "theirs", do you say anything to said man (or woman)?

It's all so dramatic I can't be arsed.

I would rather we had a 3 some

Haha exactly. I didn't tell him at the time as I didn't want the drama. It really shouldn't be this way should it.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Men compete in urinals to see how far up the wall we can get it. We compete on the loudest fart. Men by their very nature (as nature dictates) are competitive, it is fundamentally a part of the male human condition. And I know, I know, “it’s 2021 evolve will ya”, but that’s the thing. It took millions of years to get here, there is no magic “but life’s not like that anymore” switch.

One would argue that nearly 8 billion souls on the planet would be deemed a measure of “success”.

That’s why we compete, in everything, subconsciously, consciously we cannot help ourselves. It is as natural as breathing. Ultimately in a civilised society it will be our undoing (as so many previous civilisations have found to their cost), however in the days of the “global village” the impact of civilisation collapse is either negated or worse, amplified

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Men compete in urinals to see how far up the wall we can get it. We compete on the loudest fart. Men by their very nature (as nature dictates) are competitive, it is fundamentally a part of the male human condition. And I know, I know, “it’s 2021 evolve will ya”, but that’s the thing. It took millions of years to get here, there is no magic “but life’s not like that anymore” switch.

One would argue that nearly 8 billion souls on the planet would be deemed a measure of “success”.

Crying laughing at "It took millions of years to get here"

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

One would argue that nearly 8 billion souls on the planet would be deemed a measure of “success”.

Crying laughing at "It took millions of years to get here"

If you believe evolution then yes. If you are a creationist then it was a mere 7 days and we were created with all our flaws. Regardless whether you believe it was a flaw of our creation or an evolved trait to ensure success. Competition is as much a part of us as fingers and toes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The wonderful world of Fab! Forum cliques, sarcasm, jealousy, drama, judgment, sexism, tantrums, rudeness, narrow mindedness........

Swingers are no different to anyone else but on a good day it’s great to be part of it all!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

One would argue that nearly 8 billion souls on the planet would be deemed a measure of “success”.

Crying laughing at "It took millions of years to get here"

I'm not denying it, it just provokes images of someone observing neanderthal like behaviour and narrating it like David Attenborough - "It took us millions of years to get to this point"

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"Unfortunately some people are competitive. People say they are swingers but in reality they aren't.

When I was on here I was 'warned off' a popular guy on the forums by a woman he was seeing. When I told him a few years later about her he wasn't very happy.

That sort of thing can spoil this swinging journey. I remain low key and stay away from dramas as much as I can.

Mrs

This is the problem. If someone warns you off, or lets it be known the man you're talking to is "theirs", do you say anything to said man (or woman)?

It's all so dramatic I can't be arsed.

I would rather we had a 3 some

I'm purposely putting off putting anything solid in place for meeting with someone when we can for this exact reason, read his veris and wow claim being staked is an understatement and I'm not getting caught up in that

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

One would argue that nearly 8 billion souls on the planet would be deemed a measure of “success”.

Crying laughing at "It took millions of years to get here"

I'm not denying it, it just provokes images of someone observing neanderthal like behaviour and narrating it like David Attenborough - "It took us millions of years to get to this point"

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I’m still on the “oooh look Brian, he’s finally crawled out of the swamp” stage me self

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"This is fairly prevalent throughout the site.

Strangely I've found that quite often the people who talk about avoiding drama are the ones creating it.

They like to launch the odd grenade into a forum discussion and then appear on the victims list.

Unfortunately they don't seem to be aware how ironic it is that they themselves make every forum thread about them and remind us of who they were and who they are now.

Glad it's not just me who sees this behaviour play out. Same ones who spout about being inclusive and come across as sweet people yet behind the scenes are horrible.

Even more cringe when they spread shit to others who readily believe what they hear."

Easiest way don’t tell anyone, who you are talking to or meeting. Some will read comments on threads as flirting, their interpretation. However, most of it is just friendly banter and the only ones who know the true flirting is the two people who do it in private.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

One would argue that nearly 8 billion souls on the planet would be deemed a measure of “success”.

Crying laughing at "It took millions of years to get here"

I'm not denying it, it just provokes images of someone observing neanderthal like behaviour and narrating it like David Attenborough - "It took us millions of years to get to this point"

I’m still on the “oooh look Brian, he’s finally crawled out of the swamp” stage me self

Baby steps. A few more million years and you might have progressed to cutlery

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

One would argue that nearly 8 billion souls on the planet would be deemed a measure of “success”.

Crying laughing at "It took millions of years to get here"

I'm not denying it, it just provokes images of someone observing neanderthal like behaviour and narrating it like David Attenborough - "It took us millions of years to get to this point"

I’m still on the “oooh look Brian, he’s finally crawled out of the swamp” stage me self

Baby steps. A few more million years and you might have progressed to cutlery

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. Nope, never gonna happen, ain’t nobody got time for that shizzle

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've had women who I've never spoken to or had any engagement with comment to me in the forums.

Some of them are well outside my age filters or are simply people I have no wish to engage with for various reasons.

I used to reply until I discovered that they then went on to tell others in various group chats that they knew me well and made out that we had met.

I've had others ask me why I'm chatting to so and so when they are obviously not what I am looking.

It's all about perception and how others use that to twist reality(forgive the pun).

Therefore I no longer respond to those type of comments in the forums as I'm now aware that others can perceive that as me flirting rather than just being polite.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"This is fairly prevalent throughout the site.

Strangely I've found that quite often the people who talk about avoiding drama are the ones creating it.

They like to launch the odd grenade into a forum discussion and then appear on the victims list.

Unfortunately they don't seem to be aware how ironic it is that they themselves make every forum thread about them and remind us of who they were and who they are now.

Glad it's not just me who sees this behaviour play out. Same ones who spout about being inclusive and come across as sweet people yet behind the scenes are horrible.

Even more cringe when they spread shit to others who readily believe what they hear."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had women who I've never spoken to or had any engagement with comment to me in the forums.

Some of them are well outside my age filters or are simply people I have no wish to engage with for various reasons.

I used to reply until I discovered that they then went on to tell others in various group chats that they knew me well and made out that we had met.

I've had others ask me why I'm chatting to so and so when they are obviously not what I am looking.

It's all about perception and how others use that to twist reality(forgive the pun).

Therefore I no longer respond to those type of comments in the forums as I'm now aware that others can perceive that as me flirting rather than just being polite."

Some women are weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is absolutely hilarious.

I respond to anyone in the forum who responds to me.

I say what I want in any subject for no other reason than that’s what I want to.

I flirt because it’s fun.

I’ll flirt with next doors dog if it’s brushed it’s teeth and smiles at me when it farts.

I flirt with men... am I gonna get bummed... no.

Does it brighten their day to talk to someone who’s not got their head so far up their own arse they can lick their ear hole... possibly.

The forum isn’t a crime scene, dusting it for prints isn’t time well spent.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"This thread is absolutely hilarious.

I respond to anyone in the forum who responds to me.

I say what I want in any subject for no other reason than that’s what I want to.

I flirt because it’s fun.

I’ll flirt with next doors dog if it’s brushed it’s teeth and smiles at me when it farts.

I flirt with men... am I gonna get bummed... no.

Does it brighten their day to talk to someone who’s not got their head so far up their own arse they can lick their ear hole... possibly.

The forum isn’t a crime scene, dusting it for prints isn’t time well spent."

Woof woof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread is absolutely hilarious.

I respond to anyone in the forum who responds to me.

I say what I want in any subject for no other reason than that’s what I want to.

I flirt because it’s fun.

I’ll flirt with next doors dog if it’s brushed it’s teeth and smiles at me when it farts.

I flirt with men... am I gonna get bummed... no.

Does it brighten their day to talk to someone who’s not got their head so far up their own arse they can lick their ear hole... possibly.

The forum isn’t a crime scene, dusting it for prints isn’t time well spent.

Woof woof

I don’t think I’ve ever been turned on by a fart before.

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By *imis3Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

The world is full of people who like upsetting others and you will find some here, just as everywhere else

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I compete with cars when I’m walking down the road. ‘Bet I can get to that lamppost before it passes me’

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"This thread is absolutely hilarious.

I respond to anyone in the forum who responds to me.

I say what I want in any subject for no other reason than that’s what I want to.

I flirt because it’s fun.

I’ll flirt with next doors dog if it’s brushed it’s teeth and smiles at me when it farts.

I flirt with men... am I gonna get bummed... no.

Does it brighten their day to talk to someone who’s not got their head so far up their own arse they can lick their ear hole... possibly.

The forum isn’t a crime scene, dusting it for prints isn’t time well spent.

Woof woof

I don’t think I’ve ever been turned on by a fart before."

It's the way I waft it around with my tail

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"I compete with cars when I’m walking down the road. ‘Bet I can get to that lamppost before it passes me’ "

OK that makes 2 of us that do this....bummed now as I'm no longer unique and I have competition

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

"I compete with cars when I’m walking down the road. ‘Bet I can get to that lamppost before it passes me’

OK that makes 2 of us that do this....bummed now as I'm no longer unique and I have competition

I am weirdly competitive. It’s weird because I move at snails pace so why I insist on doing it, I have no idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I compete with cars when I’m walking down the road. ‘Bet I can get to that lamppost before it passes me’ "

Omg I am so glad that isn’t just me that does that!

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over a year ago

"I compete with cars when I’m walking down the road. ‘Bet I can get to that lamppost before it passes me’

OK that makes 2 of us that do this....bummed now as I'm no longer unique and I have competition

You do it as well haha

! There’s me thinking I was unique lol

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"I've had women who I've never spoken to or had any engagement with comment to me in the forums.

Some of them are well outside my age filters or are simply people I have no wish to engage with for various reasons.

I used to reply until I discovered that they then went on to tell others in various group chats that they knew me well and made out that we had met.

I've had others ask me why I'm chatting to so and so when they are obviously not what I am looking.

It's all about perception and how others use that to twist reality(forgive the pun).

Therefore I no longer respond to those type of comments in the forums as I'm now aware that others can perceive that as me flirting rather than just being polite."

It's disgusting behavior what goes on in some of these group chats, and it's really quite sad though that you feel you can't comment how you would like to because of other people's behavior. I totally understand you doing so though as I'm sure, like myself, you just don't want to be part of the drama and childish behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am quite pleased most of this goes over my head. Only once I think I have had someone's 'regular' introduce herself to me as such, that I took as a bit of territory marking. I found men a bit weirder than the women when it came down to who I was meeting.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I've had women who I've never spoken to or had any engagement with comment to me in the forums.

Some of them are well outside my age filters or are simply people I have no wish to engage with for various reasons.

I used to reply until I discovered that they then went on to tell others in various group chats that they knew me well and made out that we had met.

I've had others ask me why I'm chatting to so and so when they are obviously not what I am looking.

It's all about perception and how others use that to twist reality(forgive the pun).

Therefore I no longer respond to those type of comments in the forums as I'm now aware that others can perceive that as me flirting rather than just being polite.

I don't let it stop me from commenting and if I've got something to say I will say it regardless. I know for a fact that my name has come up a few times in group chats simply because I've called them out on their behaviour.

I just refuse to respond to anyone in the forums now that I believe to be playing games.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poached ?

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By *imis3Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I've had women who I've never spoken to or had any engagement with comment to me in the forums.

Some of them are well outside my age filters or are simply people I have no wish to engage with for various reasons.

I used to reply until I discovered that they then went on to tell others in various group chats that they knew me well and made out that we had met.

I've had others ask me why I'm chatting to so and so when they are obviously not what I am looking.

It's all about perception and how others use that to twist reality(forgive the pun).

Therefore I no longer respond to those type of comments in the forums as I'm now aware that others can perceive that as me flirting rather than just being polite.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"I compete with cars when I’m walking down the road. ‘Bet I can get to that lamppost before it passes me’

OK that makes 2 of us that do this....bummed now as I'm no longer unique and I have competition

You do it as well haha

! There’s me thinking I was unique lol"

Dammit! I feel watered down now

I think Jamie should start a car/lamppost group chat to see who is the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums can be a tough place

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