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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Women ever wondered why you sleep on the very edge of your king size bed even though there’s no one else there and you could easily sprawl out, it’s because of the patriarchy, you’ve been conditioned to take up as little space as possible in society.

But men have also been conditioned by societies rules, I only realised I’ve been leaving the toilet seat down in my place when it’s only me living there, it was like an eureka moment when I realised I didn’t have to leave it down anyway, shove it the matriarchy.

What have you been conditioned by society to do, even though you really don’t need to do it anymore, but do it anyway ?

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By *mnipotent_BehemothMan
over a year ago

near Merry Hill shopping centre

If you think that about women in bed, you are badly wrong and haven’t slept with my other half!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Tidy my house

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you think that about women in bed, you are badly wrong and haven’t slept with my other half! "

*checks women I’ve slept with*

You’re right, I haven’t slept with your other half.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As interesting as that op is and probably true of some I can assure you that the particular woman I share a bed with takes up more fucking room than you could ever imagine possible for such a tiny lady.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tidy my house"

I’ve already been asked to tend someone’s garden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you think that about women in bed, you are badly wrong and haven’t slept with my other half! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must have been socially conditioned to sleep like a rhinoceros/windmill/chainsaw hybrid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha I left home almost 30 years ago, live alone and still make my bed each morning before work.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I’ve had my bed mostly to myself for almost 15 years and I sleep in the middle and as for taking up less space have you seen the size of my arse

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As interesting as that op is and probably true of some I can assure you that the particular woman I share a bed with takes up more fucking room than you could ever imagine possible for such a tiny lady.

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She must have slipped under the patriarchy’s net!

(Patriarchy was on my word of the day loo roll, so I’m just going to shoe horn it into every sentence).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had my bed mostly to myself for almost 15 years and I sleep in the middle and as for taking up less space have you seen the size of my arse

"

Some would say it’s perfectly sized

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve had my bed mostly to myself for almost 15 years and I sleep in the middle and as for taking up less space have you seen the size of my arse

"

I have, but there’s nothing to scale it off, unless there’s a standard size for riding crop and to be honest I hadn’t got round to studying riding crops and their measurements yet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I must have been socially conditioned to sleep like a rhinoceros/windmill/chainsaw hybrid "

I’m pleased you feel comfortable to spread out!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ha I left home almost 30 years ago, live alone and still make my bed each morning before work.

"

That’s the matriarchy!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"I’ve had my bed mostly to myself for almost 15 years and I sleep in the middle and as for taking up less space have you seen the size of my arse

Some would say it’s perfectly sized "

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By *_elia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

99% of the population is socially conditioned from birth. By definition it is hereditary and has been for 100s of years.

Only when those who begin to question the social conscript break free and change that conditioning can they pass on their learning.

However only a small percentage of that conditioning will change.

They will still confirm largely to social conditions.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"I’ve had my bed mostly to myself for almost 15 years and I sleep in the middle and as for taking up less space have you seen the size of my arse

I have, but there’s nothing to scale it off, unless there’s a standard size for riding crop and to be honest I hadn’t got round to studying riding crops and their measurements yet. "

Good point well made

This weeks task is to measure a riding crop

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"If you think that about women in bed, you are badly wrong and haven’t slept with my other half! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ha I left home almost 30 years ago, live alone and still make my bed each morning before work.

That’s the matriarchy! "

is it the patriarchy that conditioned you to think that the matriarchy conditioned him to make his bed

bed making has bugger all to do with women

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"99% of the population is socially conditioned from birth. By definition it is hereditary and has been for 100s of years.

Only when those who begin to question the social conscript break free and change that conditioning can they pass on their learning.

However only a small percentage of that conditioning will change.

They will still confirm largely to social conditions.

"

I’m going to pretend I understood this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve had my bed mostly to myself for almost 15 years and I sleep in the middle and as for taking up less space have you seen the size of my arse

I have, but there’s nothing to scale it off, unless there’s a standard size for riding crop and to be honest I hadn’t got round to studying riding crops and their measurements yet.

Good point well made

This weeks task is to measure a riding crop "

Or, you could just put your arse against a Sky remote for perspective.

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By *_elia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)


"99% of the population is socially conditioned from birth. By definition it is hereditary and has been for 100s of years.

Only when those who begin to question the social conscript break free and change that conditioning can they pass on their learning.

However only a small percentage of that conditioning will change.

They will still confirm largely to social conditions.

I’m going to pretend I understood this. "

What....I thought I simplified that for everyone...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ha I left home almost 30 years ago, live alone and still make my bed each morning before work.

That’s the matriarchy!

is it the patriarchy that conditioned you to think that the matriarchy conditioned him to make his bed

bed making has bugger all to do with women "

Sounds like something the matriarchy would say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"99% of the population is socially conditioned from birth. By definition it is hereditary and has been for 100s of years.

Only when those who begin to question the social conscript break free and change that conditioning can they pass on their learning.

However only a small percentage of that conditioning will change.

They will still confirm largely to social conditions.

I’m going to pretend I understood this.

What....I thought I simplified that for everyone... "

You’ll need to break it down into a comic book strip for me.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Cook meals as the dutiful woman I am. I scoffed yesterday at the idea of beans on toast being a suitable meal, that's not dinner! And then I realised it was years of the patriarchy enforcing unfair notions on to little old me and it had seeped in to my cara_elised butternut squash and goats cheese risotto. So much pressure C J.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"I’ve had my bed mostly to myself for almost 15 years and I sleep in the middle and as for taking up less space have you seen the size of my arse

I have, but there’s nothing to scale it off, unless there’s a standard size for riding crop and to be honest I hadn’t got round to studying riding crops and their measurements yet.

Good point well made

This weeks task is to measure a riding crop

Or, you could just put your arse against a Sky remote for perspective. "

I’m gonna give that a go

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I’m totally unconditioned ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cook meals as the dutiful woman I am. I scoffed yesterday at the idea of beans on toast being a suitable meal, that's not dinner! And then I realised it was years of the patriarchy enforcing unfair notions on to little old me and it had seeped in to my cara_elised butternut squash and goats cheese risotto. So much pressure C J."

Preach. Sorry to hear about the risotto, I think it’s been tough for all of us this lockdown, stay strong sister.

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By *_elia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)


"99% of the population is socially conditioned from birth. By definition it is hereditary and has been for 100s of years.

Only when those who begin to question the social conscript break free and change that conditioning can they pass on their learning.

However only a small percentage of that conditioning will change.

They will still confirm largely to social conditions.

I’m going to pretend I understood this.

What....I thought I simplified that for everyone...

You’ll need to break it down into a comic book strip for me. "

Okay. You are born. Most dress boys in blue. Girls in pink. Boys get toys - army/construction. Girls get dolls/kitchens..

Socially conditioned.

Grow older. Sexual exploration. Your gay, your bi, your whatever.

But you still follow social conditions. In your own social group and outwith.

Jobs, standing for a bus....

The condition that runs rife is that men are stronger than woman...

Equality will never truely be obtained for thousands of years.

Hope that explains it a little better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No! And I'll take up as much of the bed as I like.

#boundarypush #societalfailure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ha I left home almost 30 years ago, live alone and still make my bed each morning before work.

That’s the matriarchy! "

I think you're on to something. I hear a woman's voice telling me to make it. Though I do watch a lot of porn, I no longer have a sound grasp on reality....

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I am sitting here looking at myself thinking where can I see this in myself.

I know I'm subject to conditioning now and in years gone by.

But I can't think of anything.

Unlike Meli..I'll happily give you beans on toast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ermmm ....nope. The reason I sleep on the edge of the bed is due to a large Golden Retriever with no manners lol!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sleep in the middle of my double bed

I leave the toilet seat down because I didn't want my cats to drown when they were little kittens

Yes i am one of lifes worriers!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I used to stick to my side,after I left my husband, so I can reach the bedside table.

Now I roll from side to side throughout the night.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Unlike Meli..I'll happily give you beans on toast "

Perhaps as a second breakfast or as supper. Never as dinner.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Next man who spends the night with me is going to get a big shock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst you're all sat here, passing time, I've just been round and checked all your tyre pressures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Next man who spends the night with me is going to get a big shock.

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Still sleeping with a cattle prod?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Next man who spends the night with me is going to get a big shock.

Still sleeping with a cattle prod?

"

Nah, hairy legs

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"

Unlike Meli..I'll happily give you beans on toast

Perhaps as a second breakfast or as supper. Never as dinner."

You could always grate some cheeses on it Meli for that added extra treat

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I pay into a pension every month. Every month i struggle despite working my socks off. I have alot of money tied up in pensions but i need that money now. Society has told me to save for my older days but i may die tomorrow.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Whilst you're all sat here, passing time, I've just been round and checked all your tyre pressures "

I’ve just trimmed your bush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I pay into a pension every month. Every month i struggle despite working my socks off. I have alot of money tied up in pensions but i need that money now. Society has told me to save for my older days but i may die tomorrow."

Yeah i feel like this... Before covid + brexit i was considering selling /resigning /moving.. Living a simpler life with less outgoings

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I pay into a pension every month. Every month i struggle despite working my socks off. I have alot of money tied up in pensions but i need that money now. Society has told me to save for my older days but i may die tomorrow."

Yeah, it’s a gamble, I’m going to have to work till I drop

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I'm very conditioned in the day to day. Sex is a very good leveller.

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Yeah i feel like this... Before covid + brexit i was considering selling /resigning /moving.. Living a simpler life with less outgoings "

But society tells us to work hard, so you won't do any of those things. You'll work for decades to enjoy a few nice years before death. Great isn't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take up so much space I'll need a crane to get me out of the house. I still shave my toes because Vogue says hairy toes are wrong, and it's all I can reach. Apart from the middle shelf of the fridge.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I giggle when a man says something, anything, unfunny , mind numbingly shittifyingly morose ...... hehehehehhehehe and I acquiesce to their unnecessary gallantry. I can't fix them all .... like you say a lifetime of conditioning on both of us ... hehehehehehehehehehe Hang on I'll do a faux embarrassment and a pretty thing and an innocent one hehehehehehehe

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I giggle when a man says something, anything, unfunny , mind numbingly shittifyingly morose ...... hehehehehhehehe and I acquiesce to their unnecessary gallantry. I can't fix them all .... like you say a lifetime of conditioning on both of us ... hehehehehehehehehehe Hang on I'll do a faux embarrassment and a pretty thing and an innocent one hehehehehehehe "

Don't forget to flutter your fan-ny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sleep exactly as OP describes, but I think it has more to with sleeping the first 22 yrs of my life in a single bed than any misogynistic twaddle.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Someone needs to tell Mrs C she needs to take up as small a space in bed as possible then

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"99% of the population is socially conditioned from birth. By definition it is hereditary and has been for 100s of years.

Only when those who begin to question the social conscript break free and change that conditioning can they pass on their learning.

However only a small percentage of that conditioning will change.

They will still confirm largely to social conditions.

I’m going to pretend I understood this.

What....I thought I simplified that for everyone... "

I understood. I agree

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I giggle when a man says something, anything, unfunny , mind numbingly shittifyingly morose ...... hehehehehhehehe and I acquiesce to their unnecessary gallantry. I can't fix them all .... like you say a lifetime of conditioning on both of us ... hehehehehehehehehehe Hang on I'll do a faux embarrassment and a pretty thing and an innocent one hehehehehehehe

Don't forget to flutter your fan-ny."

Fanny flutters are real! If she flutters then he's doomed. I can do the rest with a massive sack of salt.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

i sleep right in the middle of my double men and enjoying the freedom and space

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I read if you have your house set up for someone to easily move in then you're showing you're ready to bring someone in your life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I read if you have your house set up for someone to easily move in then you're showing you're ready to bring someone in your life"

ive read this too ... however unfortunately i couldn’t even offer them a section of a drawer atm because i have accumulated so much stuff i am definitely one of these people that grows into their space

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm conditioned to be anxious about having absolutely no savings as I've been told that's what the grownups do

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

So erm.... how is a woman that has never slept in a bed with a man that then chooses to sleep down just one side if it. Been conditioned by a patriarchal society?

Surely it’s because most of us, as children, have single beds and get used to being comfortable in that limited space?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So erm.... how is a woman that has never slept in a bed with a man that then chooses to sleep down just one side if it. Been conditioned by a patriarchal society?

Surely it’s because most of us, as children, have single beds and get used to being comfortable in that limited space? "

You would think so, but this way off. As I stated earlier, patriarchy was on my word of the day toilet roll and I wanted to shoe horn it in somewhere to appease the gallery, I wasn’t expecting any questions on this matter, please refrain from using logic on my threads and just humour me.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"So erm.... how is a woman that has never slept in a bed with a man that then chooses to sleep down just one side if it. Been conditioned by a patriarchal society?

Surely it’s because most of us, as children, have single beds and get used to being comfortable in that limited space?

You would think so, but this way off. As I stated earlier, patriarchy was on my word of the day toilet roll and I wanted to shoe horn it in somewhere to appease the gallery, I wasn’t expecting any questions on this matter, please refrain from using logic on my threads and just humour me. "

Ah right. Yeah fucking patriarchs! Grrrr

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