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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Nope. You do what is best for you. No sympathy fucks

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

Not at all.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

No you should not.

I hope you told the person who said you shouldthst they should go forth and multiply!

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By *razzyhorseMan
over a year ago

cambridge

No way! They should reach for the sky like everyone else

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I reckon you should fuck the people you want to fuck that want to fuck you and everyone else can fuckoff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn I just saw the title and was about to lose my cucumber until I read your post!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No! Never sell yourself short of what you feel is your worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should you hellers like, it is those that ignore or slag you off that have the problem IMHO

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

No not at all not ever, screw them for saying flaunt what you’ve got

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Absolutely not! If anything that proves you set your standards for that very reason.

Men who want you for you will respect you... that will be far better than lowering your standards for some disrespectful man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but you already know that.

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By *uby Tuesday 55Woman
over a year ago

Combe Martin


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

Absolutely not xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

No. Just your pants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This crops up on a regular basis, has done since I've been on and off for the last 4-5 years.

It's just wrong, anyone can ask for any thing they want, if you dont like it jog on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Damn I just saw the title and was about to lose my cucumber until I read your post! "

Haha I'm click bait

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By *westUKguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

Absolute tosh,you shouldnt lower your standards for no one, everyone has different tastes, just ignore the idiots.. p.s i think you're hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, no , no and another helll no. Block the twat.

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

Nope he is talking out of his arse.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Stick to your guns ...it's only sour grapes cos he turned you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you shouldn’t of course but personally as a woman and probably if I was a man the “exceptional” thing would put me off. It’s a bit like the quality not quantity thing. I find it annoying but just my 2 pence worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope op you shouldn’t and from what I can see you very beautiful and the person who sed that to you is just a nasty asshole who’s not worth you time in fact he should count his lucky stars you gave him this much time to post a thread about it As any man or woman or tv/ts would be lucky to have your time

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Yes you should, just not low enough for the fucknugget who wrote the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Fat girls” rule on here, check out all the BBW appreciation threads in the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

I did just actually say WOW out load - someone for everyone - no need to dis you - you're gorgeous and very creative with your photos by the way x

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Well you certainly wouldn't want to be with them. If they treated you like that in one message, imagine what they would be like long term. They would make it their mission to tear you down. Toxic, toxic, toxic!

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By *ave1976XXXMan
over a year ago

newmarket

No way ever!!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I've had sex with men I think are exceptional.

That means they stand out to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "
you are an amazing looking woman,you could gsve your pick,some people are idiots and so negative.

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By *ony2269Man
over a year ago

Radcliffe


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

Only if it means you’ll pick me, you gorgeous red haired beauty.

Seriously. Of course not!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your standards are YOUR standards, no one else's

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No you shouldn’t of course but personally as a woman and probably if I was a man the “exceptional” thing would put me off. It’s a bit like the quality not quantity thing. I find it annoying but just my 2 pence worth. "

I appreciate that, and I hope once people read my profile they realise I am a bit tongue in cheek and take the piss. I'm not for everyone, and don't try to pretend to be x

I just thought it was interesting he assumed being exceptional was based on physical appearance, telling me I shouldn't expect a gym fit guy, for me it certainly isn't. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had sex with men I think are exceptional.

That means they stand out to me."

That’s sort of what I mean. How would someone know if they’re exceptional or not? It would make me not want to message.

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By *lub coupleCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? [/quNo definitely not

we are what we are and seek what we're wanting. Chances are whoever sent you that mail is puny and ugly and couldn't score in a brothel.

Deep breath and move on ote]

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes you should, just not low enough for the fucknugget who wrote the message "

Haha loving the honesty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woah no way.....

You find your exceptional! We all have different ideas of what is exceptional is to us, it’s not one size fits all criteria.

You go for your exceptional & don’t compromise..

Oh and pay no attention to the random who messaged you.

Go get what you want because you can!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I've had sex with men I think are exceptional.

That means they stand out to me.

That’s sort of what I mean. How would someone know if they’re exceptional or not? It would make me not want to message. "

There are probably men on here who think, or others think are exceptional and I think they are just ok, or nothing special.

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By *ere4areasonMan
over a year ago

leicester and Hove


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

No you should not, you look good to me in your pics. But looks isn't what it's all about, and even if you did lower your standards the fucktard that said that to you still wouldn't deserve your attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No you shouldn’t of course but personally as a woman and probably if I was a man the “exceptional” thing would put me off. It’s a bit like the quality not quantity thing. I find it annoying but just my 2 pence worth.

I appreciate that, and I hope once people read my profile they realise I am a bit tongue in cheek and take the piss. I'm not for everyone, and don't try to pretend to be x

I just thought it was interesting he assumed being exceptional was based on physical appearance, telling me I shouldn't expect a gym fit guy, for me it certainly isn't. X"

Bit of a twat just messaging you to tell you that though! Some oddbodds on here for sure. Too much time on their hands x

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Dont ever lower ur standards in fact make them higher .there are some muppets on here who give the nice guys bad names ..

Ur sexy and sassy never change who u are x

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

If it works for you... What's it got to do with someone else? Do what makes you happy.

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By *lub coupleCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? [/qu

No definitely not

we are what we are and seek what we're wanting. Chances are whoever sent you that mail is puny and ugly and couldn't score in a brothel.

Deep breath and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

Nah, why question your free will because of someone else's opinion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spat my Ovaltine out in anticipation reading the title, but the rest didn’t live up to my initial expectations, but this one will go the distance, they always do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I spat my Ovaltine out in anticipation reading the title, but the rest didn’t live up to my initial expectations, but this one will go the distance, they always do.

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Sorry for the disappointment

Just looking for a bit of attention haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I spat my Ovaltine out in anticipation reading the title, but the rest didn’t live up to my initial expectations, but this one will go the distance, they always do.

Sorry for the disappointment

Just looking for a bit of attention haha! "

Don’t blame you, there’s nothing else going on at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I spat my Ovaltine out in anticipation reading the title, but the rest didn’t live up to my initial expectations, but this one will go the distance, they always do.

Sorry for the disappointment

Just looking for a bit of attention haha! "

Must admit the title made me make another cuppa and think I’m not going to bed yet I have to watch this one!

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Be yourself and pick wisely...

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Everyone is on agreement. There is total consensus on this. Not much of a forum thread is it?

Therefore, I shall say yep. Go lower your standards. In fact....fat girls should have no standards at all. Discuss.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Everyone is on agreement. There is total consensus on this. Not much of a forum thread is it?

Therefore, I shall say yep. Go lower your standards. In fact....fat girls should have no standards at all. Discuss. "

I agree. Who do we think we are???!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I spat my Ovaltine out in anticipation reading the title, but the rest didn’t live up to my initial expectations, but this one will go the distance, they always do.

Sorry for the disappointment

Just looking for a bit of attention haha!

Must admit the title made me make another cuppa and think I’m not going to bed yet I have to watch this one! "

Haha I might keep this in mind and cause some mischief....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

Hmmmm maybe, but only if they have too. No right answer to that one.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"Everyone is on agreement. There is total consensus on this. Not much of a forum thread is it?

Therefore, I shall say yep. Go lower your standards. In fact....fat girls should have no standards at all. Discuss.

I agree. Who do we think we are???!!! "

I am glad you are starting to see sense. Put that cake down, give me 20 star jumps. And I might let you lick my cum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phew I thought world war 3 was going to kick off!

Keep on spreading the positivity like it’s Nutella

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Everyone is on agreement. There is total consensus on this. Not much of a forum thread is it?

Therefore, I shall say yep. Go lower your standards. In fact....fat girls should have no standards at all. Discuss. "

I was just thinking of messaging you

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Everyone is on agreement. There is total consensus on this. Not much of a forum thread is it?

Therefore, I shall say yep. Go lower your standards. In fact....fat girls should have no standards at all. Discuss.

I agree. Who do we think we are???!!!

I am glad you are starting to see sense. Put that cake down, give me 20 star jumps. And I might let you lick my cum. "

Ewwww, changed my mind.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"Everyone is on agreement. There is total consensus on this. Not much of a forum thread is it?

Therefore, I shall say yep. Go lower your standards. In fact....fat girls should have no standards at all. Discuss.

I agree. Who do we think we are???!!!

I am glad you are starting to see sense. Put that cake down, give me 20 star jumps. And I might let you lick my cum.

Ewwww, changed my mind."

Was 20 too much you reckon?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? [/qu

No definitely not

we are what we are and seek what we're wanting. Chances are whoever sent you that mail is puny and ugly and couldn't score in a brothel.

Deep breath and move on."

That is a very very 'clean' way of putting it IMHO

I would say f£$k em in no uncertain terms...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another butt-hurt man.

I was reading a profile yesterday and I really fancied the guy but he said he was looking for "elite singles". How do you possibly judge that? Do I throw myself forward and then be considered big headed for classing myself as elite or not bother as I don't see myself that way.

I want exceptional but to me that doesn't mean a model but rather someone who isn't scummy or scuzzy but comfortably hot and amazing in bed. An unforgettable experience.

We're all entitled to seek whatever we want and nobody should judge whether our expectations are too high or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Better to go without than settle for less at the expense of your worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Set which ever standard you want.

If they have issue it's there problem not yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are looking at fab men I think you're already there..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I posted something similar and got barred for 48hours been accused of airing dirty laundry in public!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I posted something similar and got barred for 48hours been accused of airing dirty laundry in public!"

Oopsie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP....just be beautiful in everything you do. Own your inner beauty and hold on to it. The person that contacted you has a value issue. Shut his words down by taking a brave and honest stance in the way you obvs think about yourself. You Sound like a cool Gal....don't change...x

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

Oh hell no, I'm still single because I refuse to lower my standards I sure as hell wouldn't lower them for a shag. You fuck who you want and enjoy girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP....just be beautiful in everything you do. Own your inner beauty and hold on to it. The person that contacted you has a value issue. Shut his words down by taking a brave and honest stance in the way you obvs think about yourself. You Sound like a cool Gal....don't change...x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP....just be beautiful in everything you do. Own your inner beauty and hold on to it. The person that contacted you has a value issue. Shut his words down by taking a brave and honest stance in the way you obvs think about yourself. You Sound like a cool Gal....don't change...x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. You do what is best for you. No sympathy fucks "

Exactly this. Do whats best for you and not them. This is your journey not theirs ok. John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are standards ?

All people like different things.....

So unless you’re looking for Tom Hardy , your standards can’t ever be too high.....

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"What are standards ?

All people like different things.....

So unless you’re looking for Tom Hardy , your standards can’t ever be too high....."

I don't find him that attractive to be honest.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Fuck what he thought. Lower your standards to what exactly....

Whoever said that probably still lives at home with his mum x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Controversial topic but my answer would be no way! Go for it whatever size you are. On another note though someone a while ago wanted a sympathy fuck from me as he said he had cancer. I said I was sorry but no I wouldn't do it x

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Whoever messaged you OP saying that is a total prick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"What are standards ?

All people like different things.....

So unless you’re looking for Tom Hardy , your standards can’t ever be too high.....

I don't find him that attractive to be honest.

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Was about to say the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope body shaming should never be tolerated. I understand it goes so both ways. I been told multiple times to eat more cheeseburgers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

You ain't even fat !! Never drop your standards fuck who you want to fuck

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Absolutely not.

It says more about the Dingbat who gave you the useless piece of advice. Not a nice person and unfortunately there are lots like him on Fab!

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I hope you told whoever said that to "get fuck". Thats a shitty thing to say really

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Absolutely not, you are on here to live out your fantasies and pleasures and seek those who complete that scenario for you.

Incidentally you are a most gorgeous lady.

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I’m sorry this happened to you OP.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I have a friend who adores Rubens favourite type ladies.

Have to admit to a gorgeous sapiosexual encounter, not one I would would be more than wiling engage in again.

Shallow people look for one thing, however they are incapable to appreciate someone holistically.

OP

Your values are your identity.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Set them higher, so that such pricks fail with you and everyone who deserves better than that

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By *unandfriendship4uMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Do people have such low opinions these days.

Shocking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mind blown.. in a word arsehole! Just keep being you OP and never lower your standards for anyone. Always someone who will try to tear you down to bring theirselves up. Block, move on and forget he ever existed

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Never lower your standards.

Big believer that you should expect the best from everyone including yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

If the general consensus was you should,would you?

If everyone agreed you should do something else you weren't comfortable with,would you do that?

I'm surprised you even asked?

Your fab life is about you,and what you want?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need to lower standards most bloke will shag anything

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

You should never lower your standards some men are just arseholes. They should treat everyone with respect

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

Not at all, it’s their problem not yours.

We can only please some of the people all of the time or all of the people some of the time. However, we’ll never please all of the people all of the time...

As long as people are honest with their profile, shape, size, wants and needs etc, if people aren’t fussed, they can jog on, there’s definitely no need for them to be rude. There’s something out there for anyone. Importantly, don’t let someone’s opinion of you taint your mood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that if every body here lowered their standards, this place could be a lot more fun

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Hell no. If you fancy them then go for it, don't be handing out pity fucks

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I think that if every body here lowered their standards, this place could be a lot more fun "

Not for us high standard fatties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not, be as selective as you like. Always amazes me when people offer unsolicited opinions like this - hope you don’t take it to heart. Keep shooting for the moon you deserve it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It must be awful when even fat people won't fuck you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are standards ?

All people like different things.....

So unless you’re looking for Tom Hardy , your standards can’t ever be too high....."

If I say I want exceptional men I'll get virtual hugs and glitter and praise for saying who I want.

If a man says he wants exceptional women he's a nasty piece of work who will be slagged off for not finding all women attractive.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"What are standards ?

All people like different things.....

So unless you’re looking for Tom Hardy , your standards can’t ever be too high.....

If I say I want exceptional men I'll get virtual hugs and glitter and praise for saying who I want.

If a man says he wants exceptional women he's a nasty piece of work who will be slagged off for not finding all women attractive. "

Edna, be careful, your wise words may turn you into a fab dalai lama...

Seriously though you are so true. You may now be cast out by the "how very dare they" gang.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are standards ?

All people like different things.....

So unless you’re looking for Tom Hardy , your standards can’t ever be too high.....

If I say I want exceptional men I'll get virtual hugs and glitter and praise for saying who I want.

If a man says he wants exceptional women he's a nasty piece of work who will be slagged off for not finding all women attractive.

Edna, be careful, your wise words may turn you into a fab dalai lama...

Seriously though you are so true. You may now be cast out by the "how very dare they" gang. "

I was cast out by the 'how very dare they' gang long ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shouldn't change who you want or find attractive. I don't personally like the 'high standards' expression though, it implies some people are better than others, just based on how they look. And that perhaps by sleeping with someone you consider less attractive than yourself, you'd somehow be lowering your standards and mother feel ashamed afterwards. It doesn't sit right with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You shouldn't change who you want or find attractive. I don't personally like the 'high standards' expression though, it implies some people are better than others, just based on how they look. And that perhaps by sleeping with someone you consider less attractive than yourself, you'd somehow be lowering your standards and mother feel ashamed afterwards. It doesn't sit right with me. "

I don't know how my mother crept into that, she shouldn't even know about fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep ur standards high girl!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "
never ever most certainly not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definetly not.

Very attractive.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"You shouldn't change who you want or find attractive. I don't personally like the 'high standards' expression though, it implies some people are better than others, just based on how they look. And that perhaps by sleeping with someone you consider less attractive than yourself, you'd somehow be lowering your standards and mother feel ashamed afterwards. It doesn't sit right with me.

I don't know how my mother crept into that, she shouldn't even know about fab! "

So, er.... What's her profile name?

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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago

A little village

No absolutely not! What a rude message. Pay no notice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

Tell that person to fuck off you are the sexiest person on the planet and they can take their shitetalk elsewhere. What do they know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are just bellends. Don't need to change a thing. Although frankly I'm amazed they actually managed to read a profile.

J

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

Hell fucking no!!!

Screw that toxic comment shit...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can someone actually lower their standards though? I never understood this phrase.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I think you ought to ignore the dick heads and move closer to me

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Simple answer no, 19th September pic wow!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the forum love people, I just needed a bit of reassurance , it's a weird old world we live in at the moment.

Just to clarify, I wasn't serious about "lowering my standards" because I don't think I have them particularly high.

Exceptional was a bit of a tongue in cheek phrase to use, I certainly don't rate myself particularly highly and definitely not better than anyone else.

Exceptional to me covers a range of things, and physical appearance is right at the bottom. It's more about a connection and chemistry that makes that real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no most deffo not. everything should be what you want x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You shouldn't change who you want or find attractive. I don't personally like the 'high standards' expression though, it implies some people are better than others, just based on how they look. And that perhaps by sleeping with someone you consider less attractive than yourself, you'd somehow be lowering your standards and mother feel ashamed afterwards. It doesn't sit right with me.

I don't know how my mother crept into that, she shouldn't even know about fab!

So, er.... What's her profile name? "

Lol leave my mum alone

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Your standards are you standards and they are personal to you. As long as you understand that if they're mega high you maybe limiting yourself and if they are low then you encounter other issues. It doesn't matter we all have check lists of good and bad qualities we are looking for. So don't worry about it keep your standards where they are, they're there for a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, lower them. Fuck me instead

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Well according to the world of fab, men don’t have ANY standards and aren’t fussy so OP read into that what you will.

What trips up my twostep is that people that state x group doesn’t have standards or shouldn’t have standards are implying that there are groups of people on Fab that are somehow perceived to be “less than ideal” and therefore fair game or worse should raise their standards (presumably to the level of the people that are stating men aren’t fussy)

When someone says “men will fuck anything” or “men aren’t fussy. They are denigrating that persons previous sexual partners, and I am shocked at how flippantly that is stated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Standards' is a fairly ambiguous term for attraction. I can only think it comes from Instagram culture and various other narcissistic mediums that came before it. For example what one person finds physically attractive, say blonde hair another may not. There's no set way to determine blonde hair being a better 'standard' than any other, so it means very little. "Lowering your standard" seems archaic to me and narrow minded, traits that have a ever shrinking place on this planet.

The point is that you like who you like and same if you don't. The whole universe couldn't prove you wrong in that.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

That's entirely up to you. It might be worth making the argument to someone who has a long list of requirements that are difficult to meet and is unhappy about not being able to find anybody who does but if you're happy with your experience you can demand solid gold cocks for all I care. Its not for anybody else to dictate who you do and don't meet (unless that's someone's kink with a partner).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well according to the world of fab, men don’t have ANY standards and aren’t fussy so OP read into that what you will.

What trips up my twostep is that people that state x group doesn’t have standards or shouldn’t have standards are implying that there are groups of people on Fab that are somehow perceived to be “less than ideal” and therefore fair game or worse should raise their standards (presumably to the level of the people that are stating men aren’t fussy)

When someone says “men will fuck anything” or “men aren’t fussy. They are denigrating that persons previous sexual partners, and I am shocked at how flippantly that is stated. "

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Awwwww, poor bloke. He realised he was as far from 'exceptional' as a human can be and was desperately hoping you would lower your standards, just for his sorry arse.

Run along little man,the grown ups are talking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Vixen

Definitely never lower your standards for anyone.

Reading your profile, you haven't set excessively high standards, you just want what everyone deserves as a bare minimum.

I got told fabs not for me because I want 'friends' who actually make an effort and it's not just one way traffic, with them only ever messaging me in reply to a message I send and would never speak to me again if I didn't message them. Maybe I want too much, but fuck it. You are on here for you. No one else.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"You shouldn't change who you want or find attractive. I don't personally like the 'high standards' expression though, it implies some people are better than others, just based on how they look. And that perhaps by sleeping with someone you consider less attractive than yourself, you'd somehow be lowering your standards and mother feel ashamed afterwards. It doesn't sit right with me.

I don't know how my mother crept into that, she shouldn't even know about fab!

So, er.... What's her profile name?

Lol leave my mum alone"

If you volunteer to take her place, I'll let her go. You choose.

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester

Nope not at all abs he sounds like an idiot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Besides...

A guy should want to raise his standards to yours if he's worth knowing.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Besides...

A guy should want to raise his standards to yours if he's worth knowing.

"

Standards rule ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You shouldn't change who you want or find attractive. I don't personally like the 'high standards' expression though, it implies some people are better than others, just based on how they look. And that perhaps by sleeping with someone you consider less attractive than yourself, you'd somehow be lowering your standards and mother feel ashamed afterwards. It doesn't sit right with me.

I don't know how my mother crept into that, she shouldn't even know about fab!

So, er.... What's her profile name?

Lol leave my mum alone

If you volunteer to take her place, I'll let her go. You choose. "

Are you holding my mother hostage?

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

No you shouldn't lower your standards and you deserve to be respected like everyone else. You are unique in your own way and im sure you had plenty of admirer's. Don't let the idiots put you down, as they have no respect for themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "
How bloody rude and small minded are some people! You absolutely in whatever circumstances shouldn't lower your standards.. you are YOU which is a beautiful woman who should embrace your body that you've been given. This winds me the hell up when certain people feel the need to be rude just because of the size of your waistline.. as my status currently states "if a man is too embarrassed to be with you outside the bedroom then he doesn't deserve to be with you inside the bedroom"

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By *hubster2016Man
over a year ago

T

This also works the other way round

Women saying it to blokes.

I’ve been told for years I need to lower or get rid of my standards as with the way I look I’ll end up not having/getting anything!

I bought into this and as such have thought and still do to a point that no one will like or want me. I’ve dieted lost 7 stone but still got told I wasn’t good enough so the weight crept back on! As a result I’ve been unhappy and single in that part for many many years.

If you know what you like then that’s your standard and no one should try and change it, they wouldn’t like it if you told them what they liked was all wrong!!

I’m just realising I’m better than I thought and am working to moving forward and hopefully finding people of my liking/standard that also like me

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

I’ve already got low standards, I can’t help it if some people can’t even reach that level.

That’s what I would’ve replied.

Some people are just on here to get a rise out of others .. and I don’t mean an erection.

Lou x

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"You shouldn't change who you want or find attractive. I don't personally like the 'high standards' expression though, it implies some people are better than others, just based on how they look. And that perhaps by sleeping with someone you consider less attractive than yourself, you'd somehow be lowering your standards and mother feel ashamed afterwards. It doesn't sit right with me.

I don't know how my mother crept into that, she shouldn't even know about fab!

So, er.... What's her profile name?

Lol leave my mum alone

If you volunteer to take her place, I'll let her go. You choose.

Are you holding my mother hostage? "

She just fell into my arms...

OP... When are you gonna tell everyone your post was just rhetorical?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

I prefer fat girls. I'm 6ft1 and stocky so super slim girls will die underneath me. Plus I'm one of those weirdos that like a jiggle when I'm fucking. Its a turn on. Also i tend to squeeze fat rolls or belly chub when I'm cuddling.

I placed a thread called " false sense of Confidence" where i was talking about the sort of people that would say you need to lower your standards because you're fat but it got heated because a couple of people misread and didn't understand what i was saying and took offence as probably thought i was refering to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I politely rejected a guy only for him to tell me that what was my type was me punching above my weight...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thin does not mean exceptional, it just gives people a license to think they're superior to those who aren't thin because thin is seen as the gold standard due to media representation. Some very sad people wield this weapon as a means of projecting insecurities of their own, others don't.

The fact that someone messaged you to suggest you should lower your standards means they felt threatened by the idea that you don't have to because Fab is a platform where larger woman thrive. The existence of such a space goes against what many men have come to believe about bigger girls being 'easy', so it almost seems like a personal affront when a fat girl doesn't have to lower her standards.

In conclusion, OP - never lower your standards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are standards ?

All people like different things.....

So unless you’re looking for Tom Hardy , your standards can’t ever be too high.....

If I say I want exceptional men I'll get virtual hugs and glitter and praise for saying who I want.

If a man says he wants exceptional women he's a nasty piece of work who will be slagged off for not finding all women attractive.

Edna, be careful, your wise words may turn you into a fab dalai lama...

Seriously though you are so true. You may now be cast out by the "how very dare they" gang. "

You are becoming one of my favorite posters...

I commend you for seeing the light through the darkness....

God speed my friend, God Speed....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It always baffles me when people try to tell you what you should be looking for on here

I've had some delightful messages, telling me I'm too fat/looked better when I was bigger/look older/fussy bitch/stuck up/demanding.

I tend to think that only very unhappy or spiteful people take the time out their day to send such comments.

Keep your standards as high as you like. Your profile, your rules!

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It always baffles me when people try to tell you what you should be looking for on here

I've had some delightful messages, telling me I'm too fat/looked better when I was bigger/look older/fussy bitch/stuck up/demanding.

I tend to think that only very unhappy or spiteful people take the time out their day to send such comments.

Keep your standards as high as you like. Your profile, your rules!

X"
Exactly this

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By *us man1957Man
over a year ago

Guildford

It's your body and your beautiful in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I politely rejected a guy only for him to tell me that what was my type was me punching above my weight... "

I think everyone shoulf forgo messaging people saying "no thank you" politely.

If someone messages you and you read it and don't like their profile or message just delete it and block them so they can't resend a message. It saves so much agro.

I noticed since lockdown the volume of catfish profiles has skyrocketed. When you respond with a no thank you because they demand a pic in their first message despite them not having one, you get abuse. Tell tale signs of a catfish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't listen to them you look bloody lovely to me lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It always baffles me when people try to tell you what you should be looking for on here

I've had some delightful messages, telling me I'm too fat/looked better when I was bigger/look older/fussy bitch/stuck up/demanding.

I tend to think that only very unhappy or spiteful people take the time out their day to send such comments.

Keep your standards as high as you like. Your profile, your rules!

X"

Exactly this, you do you, there will always be somone trying to put you down but there not worth your time

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"

It always baffles me when people try to tell you what you should be looking for on here

I've had some delightful messages, telling me I'm too fat/looked better when I was bigger/look older/fussy bitch/stuck up/demanding.

I tend to think that only very unhappy or spiteful people take the time out their day to send such comments.

Keep your standards as high as you like. Your profile, your rules!

X"

Agreed. God the amount of times I've been told I'm missing out by having an age limit .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This also works the other way round

Women saying it to blokes.

I’ve been told for years I need to lower or get rid of my standards as with the way I look I’ll end up not having/getting anything!

I bought into this and as such have thought and still do to a point that no one will like or want me. I’ve dieted lost 7 stone but still got told I wasn’t good enough so the weight crept back on! As a result I’ve been unhappy and single in that part for many many years.

If you know what you like then that’s your standard and no one should try and change it, they wouldn’t like it if you told them what they liked was all wrong!!

I’m just realising I’m better than I thought and am working to moving forward and hopefully finding people of my liking/standard that also like me "

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By *unseeker100Man
over a year ago

batley

Size is like age it's just a number the best fucks of my life have all be larger ladies

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Nope, you are here for you and are allowed to ask for whatever you find attractive.

People who say those kind of things are usually bitter after rejection.

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "
definitely no

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By *ochdale lad2019Man
over a year ago

Rochdale

Definitely not carry on as you are x

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

no but what suprises me is his words must of hit home for you to write a post about it ,

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By *unningFoxWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

No way!!! Never! I better be single and with no sex than just have sex with anyone who would have me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

No definitely not. I accept that I'm a larger lady and if that's not your thing then fine, not sure why some people find it acceptable to message and give me and other larger ladies abuse.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

Peoples idea of exceptional varies. There will be people that I’m exceptional and others that think I’m a dog. You shouldn’t adjust what you’re looking for just because someone is upset about it. Some of the men on here really are awful, I’ve had similar comments when turning someone down or deleting their message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really am getting sick to death of people who criticise/shame people. Just because "something" is not your thing doesn't make it open season for people to pile in. So what if you are looking for exceptional that is your choice. I'm quite sure for a majority of people on here im not their thing but that does not mean I don't have the right to only ask for people who float my boat to contact me. Come on people live and let live!!

Ps if anyone does like the bearded balding look let me know. I just love all people except dick heads! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope we can all have exceptional!

After all...exceptional is in the eye of the beholder

Anyone who writes to someone to put them down is an arse....and thats being polite.

Ignore them and aim high.

Ps - you look great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op keep on rocking! Ignore the negative people on here ..Happy fabbing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "

You most definitely shouldn't!

I keep being told to up my standards, because my preference (requirement) is for fat lads!

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? "
. Who does this clown think he is to say what he said.You look fabulous in your pictures and you are on Fabs on your terms not his or anyone else’s.Never lower your standards , principles for any one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This might explain why I am not getting laid!

Such high standards and such a fat bum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I politely rejected a guy only for him to tell me that what was my type was me punching above my weight...

I think everyone shoulf forgo messaging people saying "no thank you" politely.

If someone messages you and you read it and don't like their profile or message just delete it and block them so they can't resend a message. It saves so much agro.

I noticed since lockdown the volume of catfish profiles has skyrocketed. When you respond with a no thank you because they demand a pic in their first message despite them not having one, you get abuse. Tell tale signs of a catfish"

I don't reply now and even have on my profile that I don't reply to every message and still get bitched at for not replying...

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

I put an update on about fish n chips after being busy all day.

Unsolicited message from a guy saying I have had enough.

Reported.

No need to message people just to be offensive. Its immature.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"no but what suprises me is his words must of hit home for you to write a post about it , "

Hit home isn't quite right but it definitely did bother me. More in a "why can't people just be kind, or at the very least not go out of their way to be unkind" way. I just wonder about people's motivation for such a message.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"I put an update on about fish n chips after being busy all day.

Unsolicited message from a guy saying I have had enough.

Reported.

No need to message people just to be offensive. Its immature.

"

Sorry to hear that I had a similar message, a few months back. Some sad guys out there x

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"I put an update on about fish n chips after being busy all day.

Unsolicited message from a guy saying I have had enough.

Reported.

No need to message people just to be offensive. Its immature.

"

Oh I miss that fish n chips by the sea..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, but you already know that. "

Exactly.

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place


"I put an update on about fish n chips after being busy all day.

Unsolicited message from a guy saying I have had enough.

Reported.

No need to message people just to be offensive. Its immature.

Oh I miss that fish n chips by the sea.. "

I am by the sea, great chippy too, but I couldnt be bothered to get dressed and go out in this weather

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place


"I put an update on about fish n chips after being busy all day.

Unsolicited message from a guy saying I have had enough.

Reported.

No need to message people just to be offensive. Its immature.

Sorry to hear that I had a similar message, a few months back. Some sad guys out there x"

Imagine if he does it to someone else who cannot handle it... Words can cut if you are having a bad time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told tonight I shouldn't expect 'exceptional' as I state on my profile but I'm hardly that myself.

From someone I didn't reach out to, or had spoken to before.

I know fat girls aren't for everyone, but then there are plenty of profiles that aren't for me but I don't feel the need to message someone to tell them that.

So Fab formunites, should I lower my standards? . Who does this clown think he is to say what he said.You look fabulous in your pictures and you are on Fabs on your terms not his or anyone else’s.Never lower your standards , principles for any one."

Hey , check out a show called wildness cooking on YouTube.... That guy is your doppelgänger....

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Course you shouldn’t lower your standards. If you are getting attention from people who do meet your standards then why would you.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"I put an update on about fish n chips after being busy all day.

Unsolicited message from a guy saying I have had enough.

Reported.

No need to message people just to be offensive. Its immature.

Oh I miss that fish n chips by the sea..

I am by the sea, great chippy too, but I couldnt be bothered to get dressed and go out in this weather "

Don't blame you it's miserable outside! I do miss the sea..

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By *hubster2016Man
over a year ago

T


"This also works the other way round

Women saying it to blokes.

I’ve been told for years I need to lower or get rid of my standards as with the way I look I’ll end up not having/getting anything!

I bought into this and as such have thought and still do to a point that no one will like or want me. I’ve dieted lost 7 stone but still got told I wasn’t good enough so the weight crept back on! As a result I’ve been unhappy and single in that part for many many years.

If you know what you like then that’s your standard and no one should try and change it, they wouldn’t like it if you told them what they liked was all wrong!!

I’m just realising I’m better than I thought and am working to moving forward and hopefully finding people of my liking/standard that also like me

"

Thanks for the support

I’m with OP but from the FAT men’s side of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are haters and will always find something to ‘discuss’. Size, height, colour, shape, etc. Fuck them all and just be beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people are haters and will always find something to ‘discuss’. Size, height, colour, shape, etc. Fuck them all and just be beautiful "

Or dont fuck em, thats why they get nasty. How dare a fatty turn someone down!

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