FabSwingers.com forum: Would you respond...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To a message from someone initiating a conversation, if you had already messaged them months prior and said message was (un)read and deleted?

If this has happened to you before, what did you do, ignore them or message them back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey. There’s no way I’d remember. I can’t remember who I spoke to yesterday!!

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their circumstances might have changed. Or their view of you or themselves. If you fancy them, and there was no conflict between you.. why not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have blocked them, so it wouldn’t happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Blimey. There’s no way I’d remember. I can’t remember who I spoke to yesterday!!"

That's because you're drowning in secret service messages!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They may have had a lot of messages that day and missed yours. Reply.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Depends who.

I've messages that have long dropped off the page or whatnot. Or maybe at the time I didn't recognise them so didn't respond, but then getting to learn a bit about them via the forums I thought now they were someone I could see myself having a convo with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

Some like to learn from others wisdom and some by making mistakes.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Nope. But then I’m a hard faced bitch

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

Appreciate it's not a dig at me and it hasn't happened to me (yet)

This was just one of those passing thoughts I had that I'd be interested to hear people's opinions on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't understand why you'd ignore them. If you like them reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blimey. There’s no way I’d remember. I can’t remember who I spoke to yesterday!!

That's because you're drowning in secret service messages!

Haha true. Although I copy paste and then delete those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would have blocked them, so it wouldn’t happen. "

I've gone one step further and blocked everyone on here. I only unblock them when they send me a message.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"To a message from someone initiating a conversation, if you had already messaged them months prior and said message was (un)read and deleted?

If this has happened to you before, what did you do, ignore them or message them back?"

I really don't have the time nor the inclination to monitor my sent mail in that much detail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

I don’t understand this forum at times, I mean why comment in a thread that has no relevance to what the Op asked, just to Criticise the question, just pass that thread by and move onto another one!

Oh, this is no dig at you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

Appreciate it's not a dig at me and it hasn't happened to me (yet)

This was just one of those passing thoughts I had that I'd be interested to hear people's opinions on

That's fair enough, I do understand your question.

But sometimes it's best to make our own judgements.

You'll get some say yes go for it, others saying no.

You are therefore none the wiser

Sometimes it's best to go with your gut and if it works fair play, if it doesn't, then you know for next time

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

Yeah, I would. There's many reasons it may have been deleted, things change. I've friends I chat to on here now that I've previously deleted due to just feeling overwhelmed at the volume of messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They may have had a lot of messages that day and missed yours. Reply.

Exactly. I don’t notice every message, especially on a busy day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blimey. There’s no way I’d remember. I can’t remember who I spoke to yesterday!!"

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

Appreciate it's not a dig at me and it hasn't happened to me (yet)

This was just one of those passing thoughts I had that I'd be interested to hear people's opinions on

That's fair enough, I do understand your question.

But sometimes it's best to make our own judgements.

You'll get some say yes go for it, others saying no.

You are therefore none the wiser

Sometimes it's best to go with your gut and if it works fair play, if it doesn't, then you know for next time

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but isn’t that the idea of posting something to get people’s opinions etc? Creating a debate as it were.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

Oh, this is no dig at you. "

Yet you just did this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would have blocked them, so it wouldn’t happen.

I've gone one step further and blocked everyone on here. I only unblock them when they send me a message. "

They need to message you first, so you can unblock them so they can message, then you can message back saying all clear you can message now.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"To a message from someone initiating a conversation, if you had already messaged them months prior and said message was (un)read and deleted?

If this has happened to you before, what did you do, ignore them or message them back?"

Yeah I’d reply.

I mass delete messages daily. Never personal just can’t keep up.

Might not have been on purpose. They are obvs interested to message you first.

Nothing to lose

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Blimey. There’s no way I’d remember. I can’t remember who I spoke to yesterday!!

That's because you're drowning in secret service messages!

Haha true. Although I copy paste and then delete those. "

Really lol . I just delete them on Sundays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would have blocked them, so it wouldn’t happen.

I've gone one step further and blocked everyone on here. I only unblock them when they send me a message.

They need to message you first, so you can unblock them so they can message, then you can message back saying all clear you can message now. "

That's what I do. I ask them to start a thread on here using a code word so I can unblock them so they can message.

However, after the message I usually block them again unless they message me to tell me they don't want to be blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blimey. There’s no way I’d remember. I can’t remember who I spoke to yesterday!!

That's because you're drowning in secret service messages!

Haha true. Although I copy paste and then delete those.

Really lol . I just delete them on Sundays

I delete them immediately. Gets too confusing otherwise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

Oh, this is no dig at you.

Yet you just did this

Well done, its called irony!

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By *assunachWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the rainbow...

I presume it was a woman.

Women are at a premium on here. If they messaged you, see it as a good thing and respond if you’re interested.

They may have been bombarded by dickheads last time.

Any interest shown is a good thing. I much prefer to message guys first as I’m already interested in them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

Oh, this is no dig at you.

Yet you just did this

Well done, its called irony! "

I call it trying to be a smart ass and failing

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"To a message from someone initiating a conversation, if you had already messaged them months prior and said message was (un)read and deleted?

If this has happened to you before, what did you do, ignore them or message them back?"

Could be that something changed about your profile in the meantime that they find appealing .

That's happened to me before ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Their circumstances might have changed. Or their view of you or themselves. If you fancy them, and there was no conflict between you.. why not ? "

That's fair enough, I did think about this as my profile has evolved over the months I've been here.

When you say "circumstances" you don't mean desperation, do you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would have blocked them, so it wouldn’t happen. "

If you didn't block them though, would you reply? Hypothetically speaking of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They had their chance

I put private notes against profiles of things like that so I can track who what when etc

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Block and move on. "

I must get alot of men blocking me.. I get overwelmed by messages so only reply back to decent messages from profiles I'm really attracted to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would respond to them yes.

You don't know what that person is going through at that moment you message them, maybe they really aren't in the mood for a one on one conversation. I don't even acknowledge my inbox half of the time as I'm not in the right headspace to have a chat the last few months.

And then, they automatically get deleted anyway after so long. And they might have genuinely missed it if they get hundreds a day.

It's your choice though and I can see why it would put you off. But I think it warrants a second chance.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

"To a message from someone initiating a conversation, if you had already messaged them months prior and said message was (un)read and deleted?

If this has happened to you before, what did you do, ignore them or message them back?"
They might have had too many messages and just bulked deleted. I would start a convo with them, yes.

See where it takes you.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I always check the profile to see if we have messaged before and yes I would purely to see what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes... People miss messages all the time or open and get detracted before they have chance to respond, if you liked them enough to message in the first place then why wouldent you respond if they message you?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

It's always worth another try as like some above have said they might have bulk deleted or read and then got distracted and forgot to reply. The worst that will happen is nothing at all or blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

Oh, this is no dig at you.

Yet you just did this

Well done, its called irony!

I call it trying to be a smart ass and failing

Yes, I totally failed, you have a lovely evening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would loads of reasons why it could’ve been deleted get talking again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They had their chance

I put private notes against profiles of things like that so I can track who what when etc "

Very interesting, but what if you like really, really thought they were fit?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes; I would. I've done it before - I've not been in the right frame of mind, I've been busy with work or I hastily judged them for using an excessive amount of dots for an ellipsis...

I think you should go for it OP, if the question was about you. It might have been a general curious pondering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

Oh, this is no dig at you.

Yet you just did this

Well done, its called irony!

I call it trying to be a smart ass and failing

Yes, I totally failed, you have a lovely evening. "

Hilarious

The passive aggressive "have a lovely evening" never ceases to amuse me.

Try harder next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

So you don't understand why people come onto the forums asking for advice

Then what do you do ?

GIVE THEM ADVICE

LMFAO

Yep the forums crack me up at times toooooo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes I would loads of reasons why it could’ve been deleted get talking again

I guess it could be an issue of pride for some but I agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes; I would. I've done it before - I've not been in the right frame of mind, I've been busy with work or I hastily judged them for using an excessive amount of dots for an ellipsis...

I think you should go for it OP, if the question was about you. It might have been a general curious pondering."

I was just pondering, yes. For the record, I would definitely reply because there must have been a reason for me to message them in the first place and think it's always worth following up if they eventually show an interest back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

So you don't understand why people come onto the forums asking for advice

Then what do you do ?

GIVE THEM ADVICE

LMFAO

Yep the forums crack me up at times toooooo

Dang I just read the full thread , someone already spotted this. I was so gobsmacked I replied as soon as I saw the reply . Oops

Yes the irony indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes someone messaged me back 14 weeks later! She apologised and was nice about it but no need as women get hundreds of messages

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

They could easily have bulk deleted your message so may have missed it altogether.

If they've messaged you then decide from their message and profile if you want to respond or not from that, not because you may feel offended at someone mistakenly deleting yours as you don't know the reason for it being deleted.

I've messaged friends on here who's inboxes I know are mental and they have bulk deleted mine along with countless others....shit happens.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

If I was interested in them yes I would respond and if I didn't feel I was currently interested, then I would not respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd probably chat, meet then give her the best sex she's ever experienced

Then go home and put my feet up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would.

I've done it, a few times!!

I bulk delete cause it gets too much, the profile doesn't stand out etc etc.

If anyone is in the situation, why not give it a shot.

Great Post OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They had their chance

I put private notes against profiles of things like that so I can track who what when etc "

. You are a dangerous man to cross swords with!! I’ll make a note of that now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would have blocked them, so it wouldn’t happen.

If you didn't block them though, would you reply? Hypothetically speaking of course

Yes I would, it could be my future life partner and muse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

So you don't understand why people come onto the forums asking for advice

Then what do you do ?

GIVE THEM ADVICE

LMFAO

Yep the forums crack me up at times toooooo

Dang I just read the full thread , someone already spotted this. I was so gobsmacked I replied as soon as I saw the reply . Oops

Yes the irony indeed.

Perhaps the point of my reply wasn't understood by you.

I'll say it in simple terms so you can understand

We are adults yet some lack the ability to think for themselves and want babysitting through their profile.

Some responses will say one thing, other responses will say the opposite.

This leaves the person with no idea what to do as there are arguments for both sides.

So my reply "do what you want and learn from it" still applies even after endless debate.

Hope that clears it up for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would have blocked them, so it wouldn’t happen. "

Why do you block people who don't open your message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would have blocked them, so it wouldn’t happen.

Why do you block people who don't open your message? "

I don’t, I was being facetious, but if I did it would be so I didn’t message them again by mistake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

So you don't understand why people come onto the forums asking for advice

Then what do you do ?

GIVE THEM ADVICE

LMFAO

Yep the forums crack me up at times toooooo

Dang I just read the full thread , someone already spotted this. I was so gobsmacked I replied as soon as I saw the reply . Oops

Yes the irony indeed.

Perhaps the point of my reply wasn't understood by you.

I'll say it in simple terms so you can understand

We are adults yet some lack the ability to think for themselves and want babysitting through their profile.

Some responses will say one thing, other responses will say the opposite.

This leaves the person with no idea what to do as there are arguments for both sides.

So my reply "do what you want and learn from it" still applies even after endless debate.

Hope that clears it up for you."

Come to think of it, isn’t that what parents tell our children? Learn from your mistake? You may have a point.

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By *arbarianzCouple
over a year ago

BARNSTAPLE

"Their circumstances might have changed. Or their view of you or themselves. If you fancy them, and there was no conflict between you.. why not ? "

As per usual, the lovely Tuberose is bang on. things change, sometimes K might fancy a norweigan named bob. next week it might be swiss Dave...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

So you don't understand why people come onto the forums asking for advice

Then what do you do ?

GIVE THEM ADVICE

LMFAO

Yep the forums crack me up at times toooooo

Dang I just read the full thread , someone already spotted this. I was so gobsmacked I replied as soon as I saw the reply . Oops

Yes the irony indeed.

Perhaps the point of my reply wasn't understood by you.

I'll say it in simple terms so you can understand

We are adults yet some lack the ability to think for themselves and want babysitting through their profile.

Some responses will say one thing, other responses will say the opposite.

This leaves the person with no idea what to do as there are arguments for both sides.

So my reply "do what you want and learn from it" still applies even after endless debate.

Hope that clears it up for you.

Come to think of it, isn’t that what parents tell our children? Learn from your mistake? You may have a point."

Maybe, but if you have the resource to avoid the mistake in the first place, wouldn't that be better all round?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps the point of my reply wasn't understood by you.

I'll say it in simple terms so you can understand

We are adults yet some lack the ability to think for themselves and want babysitting through their profile.

Some responses will say one thing, other responses will say the opposite.

This leaves the person with no idea what to do as there are arguments for both sides.

So my reply "do what you want and learn from it" still applies even after endless debate.

Hope that clears it up for you."

As the comments in thread prove.

Some say yes.

Some say no.

So what's the answer?

Do what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Their circumstances might have changed. Or their view of you or themselves. If you fancy them, and there was no conflict between you.. why not ?

As per usual, the lovely Tuberose is bang on. things change, sometimes K might fancy a norweigan named bob. next week it might be swiss Dave... "

What about Swiss Toni?

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Perhaps the point of my reply wasn't understood by you.

I'll say it in simple terms so you can understand

We are adults yet some lack the ability to think for themselves and want babysitting through their profile.

Some responses will say one thing, other responses will say the opposite.

This leaves the person with no idea what to do as there are arguments for both sides.

So my reply "do what you want and learn from it" still applies even after endless debate.

Hope that clears it up for you.

As the comments in thread prove.

Some say yes.

Some say no.

So what's the answer?

Do what you want.

Perhaps the OP was looking to start a conversation or debate?

Mrs kf x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Perhaps the point of my reply wasn't understood by you.

I'll say it in simple terms so you can understand

We are adults yet some lack the ability to think for themselves and want babysitting through their profile.

Some responses will say one thing, other responses will say the opposite.

This leaves the person with no idea what to do as there are arguments for both sides.

So my reply "do what you want and learn from it" still applies even after endless debate.

Hope that clears it up for you.

As the comments in thread prove.

Some say yes.

Some say no.

So what's the answer?

Do what you want.

Perhaps the OP was looking to start a conversation or debate?

Mrs kf x"

This is exactly it, I just wanted to know what people would do in this situation. I even said a couple of times above that it wasn't about me

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Who keeps note of Msgs from months ago,???

You are aware there is a delete button OP right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is exactly it, I just wanted to know what people would do in this situation. I even said a couple of times above that it wasn't about me

As I said in my very first reply, I wasn't talking about you OP.

I was speaking generally about something I've noticed and this seemed an appropriate thread to say what I did.

Yet some have selective reading and misinterpret what I said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is exactly it, I just wanted to know what people would do in this situation. I even said a couple of times above that it wasn't about me

As I said in my very first reply, I wasn't talking about you OP.

I was speaking generally about something I've noticed and this seemed an appropriate thread to say what I did.

Yet some have selective reading and misinterpret what I said.

Which was your favourite Ninja Turtle?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand this forum at times.

This is no dig at you OP.

But people asking for advice on messages, profiles, what pictures to have.

Really

Just do what you want and learn from it

So you don't understand why people come onto the forums asking for advice

Then what do you do ?

GIVE THEM ADVICE

LMFAO

Yep the forums crack me up at times toooooo

Dang I just read the full thread , someone already spotted this. I was so gobsmacked I replied as soon as I saw the reply . Oops

Yes the irony indeed.

Perhaps the point of my reply wasn't understood by you.

I'll say it in simple terms so you can understand

We are adults yet some lack the ability to think for themselves and want babysitting through their profile.

Some responses will say one thing, other responses will say the opposite.

This leaves the person with no idea what to do as there are arguments for both sides.

So my reply "do what you want and learn from it" still applies even after endless debate.

Hope that clears it up for you.

Come to think of it, isn’t that what parents tell our children? Learn from your mistake? You may have a point.

Maybe, but if you have the resource to avoid the mistake in the first place, wouldn't that be better all round?"

I’m soooooo confused.

(where’s the little crying thingy?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which was your favourite Ninja Turtle? "

All of them, they like pizza

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is exactly it, I just wanted to know what people would do in this situation. I even said a couple of times above that it wasn't about me

As I said in my very first reply, I wasn't talking about you OP.

I was speaking generally about something I've noticed and this seemed an appropriate thread to say what I did.

Yet some have selective reading and misinterpret what I said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd message back and see how it went, if I'd messaged before then I was clearly interested. Just because they didn't reply doesn't mean they don't appeal.

Maybe they had a playmate at the time and don't now, maybe other circumstances changed, maybe there's lots of reasons why they didn't respond but if they noticed now and acted on it why not see what happens. You can block at any point regardless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is exactly it, I just wanted to know what people would do in this situation. I even said a couple of times above that it wasn't about me

As I said in my very first reply, I wasn't talking about you OP.

I was speaking generally about something I've noticed and this seemed an appropriate thread to say what I did.

Yet some have selective reading and misinterpret what I said.

But you seem to be missing the whole point of the forums.

They are there for everyone to post about what ever subject they want, get advice about whatever subject they want or even use hypothetical situations to form a discussion topic.

Who are you to come into that thread and say your sick of those topics and try to kill the thread by simply saying Do what you want.?

As per forum rules if you don't like the subject matter , simply pass on by .

Hopefully thats clear enough so there's no more misinterpretations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, it's happened before with people I'm friends with now

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Yeah. Message what's the worst that could happen?!

I've spoken to people on here that I previously lost contact with. Situations change, people change. Plus this last year I think conversations that come and go are pretty standard, I don't want to be pestering someone all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People mature, people find different things that turn them on or excite them, people have different outlooks on life and can change.

Why wouldn't you open it and have a read??

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Things change. If something is different three months on that's seems perfectly normal to me. If we like somebody we'd talk with them. Why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How would you know. If you hadnt blocked them or already decided you didnt like them then reply. If you want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you seem to be missing the whole point of the forums.

They are there for everyone to post about what ever subject they want, get advice about whatever subject they want or even use hypothetical situations to form a discussion topic.

Who are you to come into that thread and say your sick of those topics and try to kill the thread by simply saying Do what you want.?"

I think you need to read your post and apply it to yourself.

You say threads are there for advice and opinion. People can post what they want within the forum rules

I gave my opinion and advice within forum rules yet that's not allowed in your book?

Who are you to tell me what I can and can't post within forum rules?

That's the definition of a hypocrite

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I was told years ago by a lady that messaged do get lost in the hundreds they get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They had their chance

I put private notes against profiles of things like that so I can track who what when etc

Very interesting, but what if you like really, really thought they were fit?

Someone fit looking at me. Must be something wrong for that to happen

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By *ritladMan
over a year ago

Taunton

"To a message from someone initiating a conversation, if you had already messaged them months prior and said message was (un)read and deleted?

If this has happened to you before, what did you do, ignore them or message them back?"

My memory doesn’t last an hour let alone a year!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unread I probably would. Ladies get a lot of messages. If it had been deleted, probably not..

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