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When is it time to mind your own fucking business?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you feel its your civic duty to tell other ppl about their weight or drinking habits or sexual activity, for example?

When would you intervene and when would you mind your own business? Are we becoming a nation of interfering body-bodies or are we more inward looking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I don’t interfere in other people’s lives and relationships and I don’t take kindly to people interfering in mine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh, mind your own fucking business...

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

If it doesn't affect me, I keep ma nose out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far too many people willing to be shitty to people about their choices, that have fuck all to do them, if that's what you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends.. who they are,and what your relationship to them is

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I never interfere. Never comment.

Exceptions would be if I could see friends or family were heading for trouble they couldn't see coming.

And I don't mean how to run their lives or relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. I don’t interfere in other people’s lives and relationships and I don’t take kindly to people interfering in mine x"

I'm going to echo Nora's words because they are perfect (and save me typing

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

If you have genuine concerns I don't see it as interference. If the subject is approached with care and compassion, if it's clear the intentions are good ones rather than berating shaming ones then it's sound in my book.

There's a world of difference between "knocking em back ain't ya" whilst looking down your nose at someone and "I'm gonna say something now, I need you to know it's coming from a loving place. I've noticed the alcohol intake has increased and I'm not gonna lie, it's starting to worry me. Are you ok?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. We can’t interfere in other peoples processes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if someone i cared about was causing themselves health problems or harm then I'd talk to them. And if someone on fab asked advice and I was able to help I'd give some advice, but I'd never put anyone down or make them feel bad about what was happening to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much like my penis, I must ram my opinion down everyone's throat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who it is. If it's a complete stranger, I'd leave them to it and live their own live. If it's someone close to me and I was genuinely worried about them, then I'd say something.

My brother had a stroke a 33 years old because he had high blood pressure, a poor diet and was overweight. I knew these things but let him live his life because I didn't want to interfere. And now I can't help but think that had I said something or asked him how he was coping with everything, it might have prevented it from happening.

If they're saying it in a judgemental way, they can do one, but if it comes from a place of love, it can be useful to listen to

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I would only ever intervene if I thought that the person could benefit from it could learn something which they were unaware of but I wouldn't use a direct approach to offend another as this is not in me...

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Come to think of it ........

If I was in the street and saw someone threatening someone else i'd make it my business to do something , even if it was only calling the police.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Not unless I’m dragged into something I’d rather not be party to, then I might ...

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

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"Do you feel its your civic duty to tell other ppl about their weight or drinking habits or sexual activity, for example?

When would you intervene and when would you mind your own business? Are we becoming a nation of interfering body-bodies or are we more inward looking? "

Well here's the thing.

People are very quick to criticize others these days and jump at the chance to put people down, ironically I have noticed that the one's that take the greatest offence to their flaws being pointed out are usually the worst culprits for criticizing others.

Many times over the years I have been working in places where people think it's fine to talk to you like a piece of shit yet god forbid you defend yourself they fly off the handle.

Usually school reception's, doctor's receptionists .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually mind my own business. But if something is ringing alarm bells I'll step in and say something even if I have no right to get involved.

What if you see someone hitting their kid? Or someone being bullied? Sometimes it is good to stick your nose in.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

It depends on who it is and what damage they are doing to themselves.

A complete stranger on a site like this? None of my business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would mind my own business.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I wish people hadn't minded their own business when I was getting dragged across a car park by my hair, but ya know...

Not their monkey, not their problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish people hadn't minded their own business when I was getting dragged across a car park by my hair, but ya know...

Not their monkey, not their problem."

Some things you really shouldn't ignore, sounds like one of them..

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'll support and love the right people but including minding my own business

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Any sort of bullying or violence I witness means I am wading in regardless of the people doing it.

My close friends yes I will voice an opinion on something I am concerned about regarding their lives, but they know I am not going to ram it down their throats and nag them incessantly and I expect the same treatment from them as well.

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By *bi_AstrayTV/TS
over a year ago

Plymouth

If they're a stranger and what they are doing isn't detrimentally affecting anyone but themselves then why would I get involved?

There'd be a lot less grief in this world if people could just live and let people live and try and stop imposing their own opinions and standards on everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it’s someone I know and love them if they ask for my opinion I’ll give it, if it’s getting to a point of anger then I’ll have a discussion about it, because I care for them.

Strangers? It’s not my place or anybody else’s place to tell strangers what to do with their lives. I can have an opinion, but opinions don’t always need to be expressed. Sometimes they’re best off left in your head!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish people hadn't minded their own business when I was getting dragged across a car park by my hair, but ya know...

Not their monkey, not their problem."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a doctor, so shouldn't be giving anyone medical advice. If they were a close friend and I could see they were struggling, I'd advise them to seek help and support them in doing so, but for a stranger? No, it's not my place at all. They just want to get on with their day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish people hadn't minded their own business when I was getting dragged across a car park by my hair, but ya know...

Not their monkey, not their problem."

This sounds quite different, and something I'd definitely intervene with if I could have. Sorry you went through that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually mind my own business. But if something is ringing alarm bells I'll step in and say something even if I have no right to get involved.

What if you see someone hitting their kid? Or someone being bullied? Sometimes it is good to stick your nose in. "

Yes, you’re absolutely right. I change my answer to not unless someone is in danger.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

If you have to ask that question, you must already know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I just let people live there lifes,the way they want too,not my business how they live there lifes ,just like it's not their business how I live

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By *ust_FlynnMan
over a year ago

St Neots

"Do you feel its your civic duty to tell other ppl about their weight or drinking habits or sexual activity, for example?

When would you intervene and when would you mind your own business? Are we becoming a nation of interfering body-bodies or are we more inward looking? "

I would say something to my partner, sibling or very close friend if I was genuinely concerned. But colleges, randoms or strangers that’s none of my business, If it’s not directly effecting me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd help a total stranger if they were in danger on the street... In fact I've inserted myself between random attacker and victim a few times

One of my friends is an alcoholic... So i certainly take more interest in their life choices

Otherwise, crack on with your life choices

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never understood why people feel the need to comment on other people's lives. If someone asks for my advice, im happy to give it. Otherwise I keep my nose out and appreciate the same from others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never understood why people feel the need to comment on other people's lives. If someone asks for my advice, im happy to give it. Otherwise I keep my nose out and appreciate the same from others

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This is why I listen to them though as it will probably tell me more about the person doing the commenting.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

This is two fold really, for instance I wouldn't feel right if I saw someone being hurt and didn't say or do something although that has backfired interfering in domestics in the past I would still help, but I also would not judge unless I knew the whole story in less emergency situations or another way of putting it is "never judge a man until you have walked a mile in his shoes"

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Keep your nose out of there business, that way you cant go wrong,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd help a total stranger if they were in danger on the street... In fact I've inserted myself between random attacker and victim a few times

One of my friends is an alcoholic... So i certainly take more interest in their life choices

Otherwise, crack on with your life choices "

It's a tricky one and I fully understand why most would turn away. If I see the threat of immediate harm, I have stepped in before now, but it can bite you in the bum. Between lockdowns my neighbour got into a domestic row with his partner's brother which led to them coming to blows in the street. I split them up but they were as bad as each other and it was as much as I could do to keep them apart until Plod arrived. The neighbour, who was pissed up, has since apologised but it has soured relations somewhat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like to think that those close to me would intervene If they thought I was doing genuine damage to my health. So I wouldn’t mind my own business and at least open a gentle conversation about it

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"Nope. I don’t interfere in other people’s lives and relationships and I don’t take kindly to people interfering in mine x"

Same with this if it doesn't involve me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In regards to drinking, I have and would again, tell a person close to me that I am concerned.

I probably would for sexual habit and weight as well if it was a sibling/close family member and I was worried about their mental health.

Just random people or acquaintances? Nah, none of my fucking business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mind my business.... people tend to kill the messenger these days....

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