FabSwingers.com forum: Certain Age

By *r Cuddle OP Man
over a year ago

Oxford

why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?"

Men reject females too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because marriage isn't a free pass to ignore someone's wishes?

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By *r Cuddle OP Man
over a year ago

Oxford

Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away."

Maybe she found your Fab profile

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?"

Maybe because it's the only time that they pay any attention to their wives?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away."

Aww that's sad! Have u asked her why? X

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By *r Cuddle OP Man
over a year ago

Oxford

Thats not true. i have always paid attention to her. Its pushing me apart from her and make me so sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to talk to your wife about it, none of us will know her particular reasons for going off sex with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh Mr Cuddle my heart goes out to you. I know just how you feel. My wife is just the same.It started off by her telling my I cound'nt get an erection. Told me i was no good. This got worse and made things so bad for me. Now if I apporaoch her she pushes me away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?

Maybe because it's the only time that they pay any attention to their wives?"

In my past experience of being married my husband didn’t seem to understand (or chose to ignore) that if I was unhappy because he wouldn’t deal with problems his son caused me then I couldn’t feel sexy for him.

OP if you are not able to openly discuss problems in your marriage with your wife then maybe the marriage is dead - and that applies if she won’t talk about it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because marriage isn't a free pass to ignore someone's wishes?

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over a year ago

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

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By *asmartsCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?"

Not here!

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Whats the certain age? You have me worried now, does it happen to us all? Blooming hope not as my thinking is you can’t have to much of a good thing and sex with the husband is just that

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

You need to have a frank and open discussion. Why it is that she doesn't want sexual relations and why it is important to you. Sex between a couple is more than just sex it's about bonding. Is there any form of intimate contact or is that gone too? That sometimes is more difficult than actually sex. I would say though replacing the intimacy of your relationship for meets on fab will not replace what you have lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men reject coz they may not like partner physically

Women reject when they don’t love partner physically

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be a million reasons eg -

work pressures

children

too much to do elsewhere

not enough help from you or someone else

tiredness

health issues

menopause

not feeling sexy in herself

not feeling sexy to you

feeling like she only matters if you want sex

and many other reasons.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away."

Why do you say this is related specifically to her age? You make it sound like this a general thing amongst women of her age and I don't see why that would be the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?

Maybe because it's the only time that they pay any attention to their wives?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the ladies that chin me off are usually between 41 and 42.5. Can't work it out

Must brush my teeth more. Noted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away."

Maybe just maybe she has found out about your secret hobby!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps but I dont think so.....

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

The lack of desire could be about some other resentment and it often manifests itself in not wanting the intimacy that sex brings.

The again, it could just be libido or lack of... not a specific age thing, I do not think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?"

My jen is 57 and has a higher sexdrive after the menopause than before it. So no not all women do that. You cannot tar all women with the same brush. Maybe you have just drifted apart to far to refain it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away."

I'm sorry to hear that, it must be horrible. Is it possible for you to discuss this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive tried so many times to discuss it with her. But she wont talk about it.There are other benifts. the house is imaculate. she is a fantastic cook the food is brilliant. She is great with our business. Customers love her.She is super looking..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it really have anything to do with age or sex? Some people don't appreciate the advances and that's ok, no?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I imagine that to be constantly rejected by someone you love is soul destroying whatever the reasons. Whether the people concerned attempt to resolve the reasons is another matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I really want is a cuddle and to be held........is that so wrong.

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By *r Cuddle OP Man
over a year ago

Oxford

Me too jennifer. Though Im not Bi.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Me too jennifer. Though Im not Bi. "

According to your profile you are seeking much more than a cuddle.x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

There could be numerous reasons.

Mostly it starts in the mind, everyone is different but I can tell you right now if I'm holding anger or resentment, if I'm feeling let down by my partner I'm not wanting to share my body with them.

If I'm feeling minging, if I look in the mirror and think fuck, where did this old woman come from, I ain't really feeling it.

If I'm mentally tired, that will stop my sex drive more than being physically tired.

Does sex hurt? If it isn't an enjoyable experience for her anymore due to pain then that's understandable. Shit for you, but understandable.

An awful lot of men complain about women and their lack of sex drive without showing any understanding to the menopause and the mental and physical upheaval and strain on the body and mind. You feel pushed away right? Depending on how the menopause went for her (assuming she has been through it or is going through it given your indication to ladies of a certain age) she could feel utterly betrayed by not just you, but herself and her own body and mind. It can create a plethora of issues.

And, speaking of betrayal... if she has even the slightest idea you're in here... well, there's your answer. Why would she give her body, her being, to someone who is abusing her trust. I'm telling you right here right now, when you give yourself to someone who abuses your trust (because you may sea it as your duty) it can feel like you're allowing yourself to be physically abused.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"There could be numerous reasons.

Mostly it starts in the mind, everyone is different but I can tell you right now if I'm holding anger or resentment, if I'm feeling let down by my partner I'm not wanting to share my body with them.

If I'm feeling minging, if I look in the mirror and think fuck, where did this old woman come from, I ain't really feeling it.

If I'm mentally tired, that will stop my sex drive more than being physically tired.

Does sex hurt? If it isn't an enjoyable experience for her anymore due to pain then that's understandable. Shit for you, but understandable.

But but but, it's just sex ain't it?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"There could be numerous reasons.

Mostly it starts in the mind, everyone is different but I can tell you right now if I'm holding anger or resentment, if I'm feeling let down by my partner I'm not wanting to share my body with them.

If I'm feeling minging, if I look in the mirror and think fuck, where did this old woman come from, I ain't really feeling it.

If I'm mentally tired, that will stop my sex drive more than being physically tired.

Does sex hurt? If it isn't an enjoyable experience for her anymore due to pain then that's understandable. Shit for you, but understandable.

But but but, it's just sex ain't it?"

I was tempted to counter the balance with "why don't men of a certain age do some research into the impact and effect of the menopause on the body and mind?" but feared that would have been presumptuous of me to assume he hadn't. But then if he had, then would he be asking the very question asked in the OP?

But yes, you're totally correct. It's just sex, body and mind don't need to work in tandem for it to happen, tis merely a case of opening ones legs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"There could be numerous reasons.

Mostly it starts in the mind, everyone is different but I can tell you right now if I'm holding anger or resentment, if I'm feeling let down by my partner I'm not wanting to share my body with them.

If I'm feeling minging, if I look in the mirror and think fuck, where did this old woman come from, I ain't really feeling it.

If I'm mentally tired, that will stop my sex drive more than being physically tired.

Does sex hurt? If it isn't an enjoyable experience for her anymore due to pain then that's understandable. Shit for you, but understandable.

But but but, it's just sex ain't it?

But yes, you're totally correct. It's just sex, body and mind don't need to work in tandem for it to happen, tis merely a case of opening ones legs.

There was an American programme years ago called '30 Something' and it taught me much, even years later (I'm a product of the 70,s; I'm an object of derision and sexual thrill for men and constantly checking my responses for fear of retribution).

There were three couples and the show was about their family lives and friendships in middle America in a time where women were attempting to claw their rightful place.

One wife was having treatment for breast cancer, the storylne was complex and faced common stereotypes.

In one scene, after debilitating chemo, heartfelt discussions about feeling like a woman, guilt about not being the wife she once was, dying, leaving her loved husband and children behind and everything in between, she finally felt she could make love with her husband again.

He asked "have you stopped shaving your legs?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure what 'certain age' your referring to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away."

Maybe she’s just not sexually attracted to you anymore.

There’s various reasons why, the best person to ask is your wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?"

Have you not thought it's your Fab activities that might be behind this? Plus the fact that the two of you can't communicate.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

May I ask OP if you went down the couples counselling route?

I see your earliest displayed veri is from 2013. That's almost a decade. Have you and your wife lacked communication and intimacy that entire time?

That must be really hard on both of you if that's the case.

If she has been kept in the dark the whole time I can pretty much guarantee she knows but is turning a blind eye and suffering inside. It would most definitely give you the answer to the question you asked.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"May I ask OP if you went down the couples counselling route?

I see your earliest displayed veri is from 2013. That's almost a decade. Have you and your wife lacked communication and intimacy that entire time?

That must be really hard on both of you if that's the case.

Well spotted PP. Infidelity that historic will absolutely have a negative impact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?"

Has this certain age been stated yet?

I'd like to know so I can avoid marrying some incorrectly aged frigid muff.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"There could be numerous reasons.

Mostly it starts in the mind, everyone is different but I can tell you right now if I'm holding anger or resentment, if I'm feeling let down by my partner I'm not wanting to share my body with them.

If I'm feeling minging, if I look in the mirror and think fuck, where did this old woman come from, I ain't really feeling it.

If I'm mentally tired, that will stop my sex drive more than being physically tired.

Does sex hurt? If it isn't an enjoyable experience for her anymore due to pain then that's understandable. Shit for you, but understandable.

But but but, it's just sex ain't it?

But yes, you're totally correct. It's just sex, body and mind don't need to work in tandem for it to happen, tis merely a case of opening ones legs.

There were three couples and the show was about their family lives and friendships in middle America in a time where women were attempting to claw their rightful place.

One wife was having treatment for breast cancer, the storylne was complex and faced common stereotypes.

He asked "have you stopped shaving your legs?""

It took me a while to respond to this because it knocked me sideways. I had to do a little processing, not because it's outdated or untrue.... but because it speaks volumes.

For a generation or 3 that has seen so much progression, there really still will be attitudes like this and I find that hard to handle.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

In your case darling, only a eunuch could possibly have a lack of desire XX

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Jeez some of the posts on this thread make my blood boil.

PP thanks fir your considered replies. Some of the guys can right eff off. Menopause is a thing and played a large part in my relationships of past.

What pisses me off is the belittling of constructive input trying to help the OP.

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?

Has this certain age been stated yet?

I'd like to know so I can avoid marrying some incorrectly aged frigid muff."

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?

Maybe because it's the only time that they pay any attention to their wives?"

In my previous marriage this was me...but after a while it didn't bother me as I couldn't stand the sight of him let alone have sex with him!

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"Ive tried so many times to discuss it with her. But she wont talk about it.There are other benifts. the house is imaculate. she is a fantastic cook the food is brilliant. She is great with our business. Customers love her.She is super looking.........."

Have you said all this to her? Does she know how much she is appreciated? Do you ask her how her day was, or how she is feeling. Sometimes life just gets to much and the past thing she is thinking about is sex, think back to when and if you rejected her at all...and what your reasons are...however at the end if the day you have a wife...being on here could not just end sex but end your marriage. I hope you can work this out with her.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Trust, intimacy and communication are between you both, as are what you are both wanting for the future.

You need to talk and understand, as well as be prepared to make changes. The onus is on the two of you - we don't know the 2 of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of a certain age? I don’t think age is the factor, more like a breakdown of communication x “hypothetically “ if my husband had all the qualities I desired hence why I married him, I doubt I’d hit an age milestone and instantaneously have different morals/ kinks? And IF I did I’m sure we as a couple would revel I. It xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There could be numerous reasons.

Mostly it starts in the mind, everyone is different but I can tell you right now if I'm holding anger or resentment, if I'm feeling let down by my partner I'm not wanting to share my body with them.

If I'm feeling minging, if I look in the mirror and think fuck, where did this old woman come from, I ain't really feeling it.

If I'm mentally tired, that will stop my sex drive more than being physically tired.

Does sex hurt? If it isn't an enjoyable experience for her anymore due to pain then that's understandable. Shit for you, but understandable.

But but but, it's just sex ain't it?

But yes, you're totally correct. It's just sex, body and mind don't need to work in tandem for it to happen, tis merely a case of opening ones legs.

There were three couples and the show was about their family lives and friendships in middle America in a time where women were attempting to claw their rightful place.

One wife was having treatment for breast cancer, the storylne was complex and faced common stereotypes.

He asked "have you stopped shaving your legs?""

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Laughter is the best medicine. If you can make your wife laugh every day, the kisses and cuddles will follow.

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By *r Cuddle OP Man
over a year ago

Oxford

Thank you for all your kind messages and comments. But I shall not bother anymore. I give up. if I want to cuddle from someone then I guess I will have to pay someone to cuddle me.And its just to be held close and its not about sex.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Thank you for all your kind messages and comments. But I shall not bother anymore. I give up. if I want to cuddle from someone then I guess I will have to pay someone to cuddle me.And its just to be held close and its not about sex."

You're going to ignore all the advice about looking at your relationship, seek counselling, trying to talk with your wife, learning how to open up communication?

You've been here many years OP so has your infidelity always been a part of your marriage? Is her attitude towards you recent or have you only just noticed?

There are many things you can do to relieve your misery but they are scarier than the misery so make a decision about how you want to carry on with your relationship.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

That sounds very defeated op there has been some great advice on the thread maybe take it in an process it. It wouldn’t hurt to try and communicate with your spouse, it’s not an age thing maybe she’s wary of the times you are saying your out with friends. Or as been stated here that she knows what you are doing and turning a blind eye to it because she doesn’t want to accept that you’re being unfaithful. Maybe even try couples counselling as that might help both you and your partners intimacy return. Don’t be so narrow minded op exhaust all options first before choosing the immoral lazy route.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

You're going to ignore all the advice about looking at your relationship, seek counselling, trying to talk with your wife, learning how to open up communication?

You've been here many years OP so has your infidelity always been a part of your marriage? Is her attitude towards you recent or have you only just noticed?

There are many things you can do to relieve your misery but they are scarier than the misery so make a decision about how you want to carry on with your relationship. "

This exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away."

Perhaps it's time you looked at your bad points,and not just your good ones

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

I never ignored partners advances. Find it has always been other way round from dropping towel in front of him. Bending in front of him etc but he not interested. Given in now. Not great for self esteem

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Because you’ve asked him (let’s call him Dave) 23 times to sort that crack in the ceiling and 23 times he has said “I’ll do it later”.

When guess what Dave, I’m going to do your cock “later”.

And later never cums. And neither does Dave. Meanwhile Mrs Dave is in orgasm heaven thanks to her Turbo Thruster 900 that’s currently vibrating her clit off.

Relationships eh

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"Because you’ve asked him (let’s call him Dave) 23 times to sort that crack in the ceiling and 23 times he has said “I’ll do it later”.

When guess what Dave, I’m going to do your cock “later”.

And later never cums. And neither does Dave. Meanwhile Mrs Dave is in orgasm heaven thanks to her Turbo Thruster 900 that’s currently vibrating her clit off.

Relationships eh

Not way my so called relationship works lol I decorate the house and do all the jobs.. Another thing I've given up on him doing lol

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"All I really want is a cuddle and to be held........is that so wrong."
know that feeling and I'm the female being constantly rejected and turning bk to me in bed

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Could be a million reasons eg -

work pressures

children

too much to do elsewhere

not enough help from you or someone else

tiredness

health issues

menopause

not feeling sexy in herself

not feeling sexy to you

feeling like she only matters if you want sex

and many other reasons.

Totally agree! The only way you’ll know is if you talk to her.

Show her you care, I’m much more likely to feel like having sex when I feel loved, desired and happy.

The worst thing you could probably do is come on here to be honest. She may be aware of your profile and that has completely turned her off.

As usual, communication is key.

Lou x

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By *r Cuddle OP Man
over a year ago

Oxford

I cant message you Mrs Dave. But I know how you feel rejected. Oh I do look after the house. I paint and decorate. Chop the logs for the fire. Do the garden . help wash up. Though Im not very good at cooking...Lucky turbo thruster. I used to have one of them on my yacht.Moves the yacht in a tight circle. Though Im not sure its the same sort of thruster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?"

You've made an enormous generalisation there when your only evidence is your own experience. I wonder if you have some other big ideas about women in general. Could that be part of the problem?

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By *r Cuddle OP Man
over a year ago

Oxford

Have I ? I have no big expectations of anyone. I find you arrogant....

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?

You've made an enormous generalisation there when your only evidence is your own experience. I wonder if you have some other big ideas about women in general. Could that be part of the problem? "

Exactly it is a generalisation

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?"

They don't...

However, some husband's take their wives for granted and this is likely to lead to rejection.

Women usually need to feel loved, supported and cared for to want sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?

You've made an enormous generalisation there when your only evidence is your own experience. I wonder if you have some other big ideas about women in general. Could that be part of the problem? "

Agreed, I very much doubt it's an "age" thing or a thing only women do. Also the reasoning could be plentiful. Health, mental state, situation, self confidence or simply that just arent feeling like it and more.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

I think the menopause has a lot to do with it in older women as can medication. It's difficult for a bloke to understand especially when you've been used to intimacy and then it's no longer needed but you just have to live with it and carry on loving your wife, get used to the new normal and hope things change. Talk it through with her, you might be surprised at her reaction, that's how I ended up on here with her approval. Personally I'd rather have an intimate sexual relationship with my wife and if her views change I'll be out of here like a shot. If you live her just be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the menopause has a lot to do with it in older women as can medication. It's difficult for a bloke to understand especially when you've been used to intimacy and then it's no longer needed but you just have to live with it and carry on loving your wife, get used to the new normal and hope things change. Talk it through with her, you might be surprised at her reaction, that's how I ended up on here with her approval. Personally I'd rather have an intimate sexual relationship with my wife and if her views change I'll be out of here like a shot. If you live her just be honest."

This is so off putting.

I woukd never meet a man with 'permission ' you can pay me if that's what you want.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

And that's how you do it!

Thank you. I've been cheated on and it's crushing. It's a relief to see someone going about things the respectful way and having open lines of communication.

People could learn a thing or 2 from you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away."
I know exactly what you mean mate that's what I'm going through too, the mere suggestion of anything intimate invokes a look of pure disdain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And that's how you do it!

Thank you. I've been cheated on and it's crushing. It's a relief to see someone going about things the respectful way and having open lines of communication.

People could learn a thing or 2 from you."

You would like to be used like that Peachy?

I think it's insulting.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Why do people look without when the answers lay within?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love that one post derived two very different responses

These should be used as examples when people ask questions like 'do women like hairy men?'

There really is no correct answer, stop trying to fit your success here in a box and you'll probably find that success comes much easier

Sorry, that moved away from the thread, I just enjoyed the read

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

"Because marriage isn't a free pass to ignore someone's wishes?

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exactly this

just because you are married does not mean you are entitled to anything

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

And that's how you do it!

Thank you. I've been cheated on and it's crushing. It's a relief to see someone going about things the respectful way and having open lines of communication.

People could learn a thing or 2 from you.

You would like to be used like that Peachy?

I think it's insulting.

Oh no, I wouldn't meet someone who openly admits they'd prefer to be banging their wife, but I do respect the fact they've spoken rather than him taking the easy cheaty route.

In these cases where it is just sex they want I feel it would be fairer on everyone involved to visit an escort.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

"Because marriage isn't a free pass to ignore someone's wishes?

exactly this

just because you are married does not mean you are entitled to anything

Yes you are correct but I don't think this thread is about entitlement, it's about expectations, how that changes over the course of a marriage, why it changes and how both sides deal with the changes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And that's how you do it!

Thank you. I've been cheated on and it's crushing. It's a relief to see someone going about things the respectful way and having open lines of communication.

People could learn a thing or 2 from you.

You would like to be used like that Peachy?

I think it's insulting.

Oh no, I wouldn't meet someone who openly admits they'd prefer to be banging their wife, but I do respect the fact they've spoken rather than him taking the easy cheaty route.

In these cases where it is just sex they want I feel it would be fairer on everyone involved to visit an escort."

Yep an escort is the answer.

Being treated like a free prostitute isn't exactly foreplay

People that go the easy cheaty route understand that it's probably better not to say outloud that they would rather be fucking someone else but you were available.

Urgh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because marriage isn't a free pass to ignore someone's wishes?

exactly this

just because you are married does not mean you are entitled to anything

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Yes your right no means no. But for me and seems like a few others on here it's not just the sex it's the total lack of any sort of intimacy or affection, no hugs kisses etc just rejection every time you try. Myself I kiss my wife good bye every morning at 5.30 when I go to work and tell her I love her, what response do it get,, sod all. I'd give my right arm for her to put her arms round me and tell me she loves me but she dose'nt can't remember the last time she did to be honest and after time this just grinds you down.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

And that's how you do it!

Thank you. I've been cheated on and it's crushing. It's a relief to see someone going about things the respectful way and having open lines of communication.

People could learn a thing or 2 from you.

You would like to be used like that Peachy?

I think it's insulting.

Oh no, I wouldn't meet someone who openly admits they'd prefer to be banging their wife, but I do respect the fact they've spoken rather than him taking the easy cheaty route.

In these cases where it is just sex they want I feel it would be fairer on everyone involved to visit an escort.

Yep an escort is the answer.

Being treated like a free prostitute isn't exactly foreplay

People that go the easy cheaty route understand that it's probably better not to say outloud that they would rather be fucking someone else but you were available.

Urgh!"

I think you are misinterpreting my comments. I'm looking for couples so that there is a lot less chance of emotional involvement and it's just a bit of 'adult fun' between three people who all know the situation. I'd never use anyone knowingly which is why I'm not looking for single females. As for the comments about my wife, what do you expect me to say? If what I was doing was making her unhappy why on earth would I not stop and put her first? If I'm friends with a couple I'd just be honest and tell them why I was stopping and they could look elsewhere. It's hardly like there's a lack of single males on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She’s had a nosey at your internet history. Found you up to no good and thought, fuck it! So she’s now getting lots of random dick and too tired for yours, shit happens

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

"She’s had a nosey at your internet history. Found you up to no good and thought, fuck it! So she’s now getting lots of random dick and too tired for yours, shit happens

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By *avidgeorge68Man
over a year ago

wakefield

"She’s had a nosey at your internet history. Found you up to no good and thought, fuck it! So she’s now getting lots of random dick and too tired for yours, shit happens

Fair is fair I guess

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