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"I seek strength by seeing qualities in other people and thinking “I want to be more like them” I don’t know what my greatest strength is, they’ve all failed at some point " Mistakes are for learning they say.. | |||
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"By looking at the under privelaged. Must be doin okay if there not." It's good to put ourselves in others shoes. | |||
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"Sometimes it comes from the most unlikely ways . An episode I had not long ago woke me up and made me understand my own strength and value , it was the kick up the arse I needed . I would say my biggest character strength is being able to organize and focus on my future whilst still having time for others "Want to teach me your organisation skills?
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In reality I look to people I admire and think about those who are less fortunate than I and yet remain optimistic and alive.
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"Sometimes it comes from the most unlikely ways . An episode I had not long ago woke me up and made me understand my own strength and value , it was the kick up the arse I needed . I would say my biggest character strength is being able to organize and focus on my future whilst still having time for others
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Glad you rose up! We fall and we climb up again. We just need to keep trying. "Thankyou xx . I actually physically list stuff I want to do so i can see it every day , and Lockdown has actually give me a chance to actually save up to do said things when this shite is over | |||
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"Spinach gives me strength.
In reality I look to people I admire and think about those who are less fortunate than I and yet remain optimistic and alive.
I feel that if they can, I can. "Yes you can! Popeye | |||
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"A lot is found from life’s trial and failings, you definitely gain it with age. Becoming a parent gives you an inner strength you never dreamt you were capable of, and a lot of the time we are so much stronger than we believe. I think we are already as strong as we need to be but may not know it until your strength is tested. " It always will be tested in crisis. And how we recover from it. | |||
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"I'm pretty resilient My life has taught me to be that way. I'm not sure if that is strength of character though - and not sure how strength of character is measured. Is it measured by others? Most of us see ourselves differently to how others see us." That's so complex. I like the questions you posed. Gives me lots to think about.. When I'm convinced I'm at the weakest someone comes and reminds me of my strengths convincing me I'm wrong and it's the belief which changes everything here. And we are in charge of that. | |||
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"I don't seek strength from anywhere external, it's just there. Recognising your limitations and asking for help when needed rather than slogging on and burning out is vital, as is gratitude for the little things. My biggest strength is probably my ability to own my shit. If I achieve something I allow myself the victory. If I mess up I acknowledge it, apologise if necessary, and learn from it." It sounds very fulfilling knowing you have it all in you and are able to embrace both failures and successes. And carry on. | |||
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"I have all the strengths I need inside me. If I am a little lost then I meditate and look inside myself to reconnect with my inner core strengths X" I'm trying that too. Switching off and listening to yourself. | |||
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"I’m an empath and and tend to sense when someone is going through something, people say they feel they can tell me anything naturally and don’t feel judged. A problem shared is a problem halved. I’d like to think that was an important character strength I possess." Do you find it hard to carry that empathy gift? Taking on so much from others onto you? | |||
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"Time. Its not so much a strength but the thing that gets me through, to experience the pain, the sorrow, doubts and fears etc and let them work their way through until I come out of the other side with a bit more strength, knowledge and often a few more guards to help me from being hurt in the same way again. I should be like a block of granite by now but I would rather have the highs as well as the lows that you can only get if you let thing in that could hurt you only to find they often bring you great happiness too." Time is the biggest healer for any wound! And from the lows u bounce back to the highs and without lows u couldn’t appreciate the highs xx life has a funny way of always just figuring itself out xx | |||
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"How does anyone or anything seek strength? For me it's either there or it isn't and it also depends how pressure is applied - head on, sideways etc. Strength though, I think you have it you don't, if you borrow it then it still doesn't belong to you "Sometimes you might feel you lost it and need to find it again. That's when you "seek it". You could "borrow it" and pass it on by building others up if we are playing word games. | |||
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"I get knocked down, but my greatest strength isn’t avoiding that, but that I always get up again." What do you mean by not avoiding that? | |||
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"Time. Its not so much a strength but the thing that gets me through, to experience the pain, the sorrow, doubts and fears etc and let them work their way through until I come out of the other side with a bit more strength, knowledge and often a few more guards to help me from being hurt in the same way again. I should be like a block of granite by now but I would rather have the highs as well as the lows that you can only get if you let thing in that could hurt you only to find they often bring you great happiness too." Highs and lows are needed as long as its not spiralling out of control and you feel like on a broken roller coaster spinning around. You will get your granite when life is over. Now just be playdough, shaping up with life experiences;) | |||
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"It’s ok to fail but not to give up." Sometimes it's ok to forgive yourself for giving up on an occasion? What do you think? | |||
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"It’s ok to fail but not to give up. Sometimes it's ok to forgive yourself for giving up on an occasion? What do you think?" Yes definitely sometimes we need to what feels like give up, but it’s often just a recouperation and much needed recharge before you pick yourself up and dust yourself down. It doesn’t matter how many times we fall, it’s the getting back up that counts x | |||
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"How does anyone or anything seek strength? For me it's either there or it isn't and it also depends how pressure is applied - head on, sideways etc. Strength though, I think you have it you don't, if you borrow it then it still doesn't belong to you
Sometimes you might feel you lost it and need to find it again. That's when you "seek it".
You could "borrow it" and pass it on by building others up if we are playing word games. "So, more to seek help, rather than inner strength then I guess. I think words are often underrated and pretending we're strong internally when others are propping us up can be quite damaging when we are then judged and treated by others as our individual self out in the real world  | |||
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"It’s ok to fail but not to give up. Sometimes it's ok to forgive yourself for giving up on an occasion? What do you think? Yes definitely sometimes we need to what feels like give up, but it’s often just a recouperation and much needed recharge before you pick yourself up and dust yourself down. It doesn’t matter how many times we fall, it’s the getting back up that counts x " Recuperation might be my new favourite word. Thank you | |||
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"I think sometimes we should substitute the word strong with resilience. To be emotionally strong can sometimes make us feel we should be invincible and not get distressed emotionally, and I think that is sometimes a hindrance and causes pressure. If we thought about resilience to a situation instead that accommodates for feeling we're not doing "good enough" but we're able to muddle through it. Not sure if that makes sense to be honest " It does makes sense. I guess it takes strength to not put pressure on ourselves to be strong. Is that where you were going? | |||
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"I think sometimes we should substitute the word strong with resilience. To be emotionally strong can sometimes make us feel we should be invincible and not get distressed emotionally, and I think that is sometimes a hindrance and causes pressure. If we thought about resilience to a situation instead that accommodates for feeling we're not doing "good enough" but we're able to muddle through it. Not sure if that makes sense to be honest It does makes sense. I guess it takes strength to not put pressure on ourselves to be strong. Is that where you were going? " Yes I guess and that we're not perfect and that is ok. And there is strength to be found in knowing you don't need to be perfect | |||
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"I think it can come from various sources, upbringing, life's experiences, the actions and support of others that act as an emotional crutch to get you past difficult periods, introspection and more all act to provide personal strength. I don't think it's something you can necessarily consciously build, more it comes from within as a result of the above. I count myself very lucky to be fairly emotionally strong and it takes a lot to really get me down for any more than a brief period of time, and I think a lot of that comes from my upbringing and my Mum's philosophy of refusing to be knocked down without coming back fighting - so maybe part of it is genetic too." But you could consciously make efforts to follow choices and get involved with things whch build your resilience? Stand up and fight, go and get it for yourself! That's my family motto.  but sometimes I just want to not ! | |||
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"I think my upbringing has a lot to do with it. I come from a very no nonsense family, if you have a problem you deal with it and if it can’t be dealt with simply, then you talk it out and solutions sought. I also rely on my mum quite heavily as a bit of an emotional cheerleader. As my only surviving family member (other than my kids) I think that’s ok." We all need one of those magical, emotional cheerleaders.
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"Right now I'm just putting one foot in front of the other & counting each day I get through as a victory. "  and they are. Some days must be hard to lift and push all the weights of life falling on us. | |||
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"I think it can come from various sources, upbringing, life's experiences, the actions and support of others that act as an emotional crutch to get you past difficult periods, introspection and more all act to provide personal strength. I don't think it's something you can necessarily consciously build, more it comes from within as a result of the above. I count myself very lucky to be fairly emotionally strong and it takes a lot to really get me down for any more than a brief period of time, and I think a lot of that comes from my upbringing and my Mum's philosophy of refusing to be knocked down without coming back fighting - so maybe part of it is genetic too. But you could consciously make efforts to follow choices and get involved with things whch build your resilience? Stand up and fight, go and get it for yourself! That's my family motto. but sometimes I just want to not ! "You can certainly take steps that will help but my point was you can't "consciously" make that change it's a gradual and almost sub-conscious thing | |||
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"I think my upbringing has a lot to do with it. I come from a very no nonsense family, if you have a problem you deal with it and if it can’t be dealt with simply, then you talk it out and solutions sought. I also rely on my mum quite heavily as a bit of an emotional cheerleader. As my only surviving family member (other than my kids) I think that’s ok." As a mother, grandmother and great-grandmother the weight of other people's problems weighs me down at times. I have a little panic then take a deep breath and pull my shoulders up, ready for the next load. That's what matriarchs are for. | |||
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"I get knocked down, but my greatest strength isn’t avoiding that, but that I always get up again. What do you mean by not avoiding that?" What I mean is I fail to avoid getting knocked down from time to time, as we all do, but that despite getting knocked down, I get back up again and again. Though some times its harder to get back up than other times. | |||
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"Plodding on at the moment, with very little physical or mental strength. When my family needs me I get up, get dressed and get on with it. I tell myself I can rest when my job is done. I feel scared sometimes that I won't be able to muster up the strength to help, when I'm needed the most. " It sounds tough to be tough for others. Holding the Fort and being a pillar of the family must make you incredibly tired and definitely deserving of rest x | |||
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" You can certainly take steps that will help but my point was you can't "consciously" make that change it's a gradual and almost sub-conscious thing " I'm not sure if I understood. Do you mean not seeking the strength badges of sort but rather pulling it from many sources as we go, and how we can come to realisation that not one single experience can make us stronger ? | |||
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"I get knocked down, but my greatest strength isn’t avoiding that, but that I always get up again. What do you mean by not avoiding that? What I mean is I fail to avoid getting knocked down from time to time, as we all do, but that despite getting knocked down, I get back up again and again. Though some times its harder to get back up than other times." The more you know what can bring that on.. the easier it becomes to prevent it. | |||
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"I think my upbringing has a lot to do with it. I come from a very no nonsense family, if you have a problem you deal with it and if it can’t be dealt with simply, then you talk it out and solutions sought. I also rely on my mum quite heavily as a bit of an emotional cheerleader. As my only surviving family member (other than my kids) I think that’s ok. As a mother, grandmother and great-grandmother the weight of other people's problems weighs me down at times. I have a little panic then take a deep breath and pull my shoulders up, ready for the next load. That's what matriarchs are for. " I like that breathing technique you use JoJo. I will add it to my toolbox. Thank you. | |||
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"I seek strength from those around me who uplift and encourage me when I am feeling low. Sometimes kind words and support can go a long way and remind you that you're one tough cookie. And being a tough cookie is definitely my biggest strength. "You are a tough cookie and a melting cream at once I'm glad you are surrounded with people who know how to lift you up when you are down. | |||
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"I think my upbringing has a lot to do with it. I come from a very no nonsense family, if you have a problem you deal with it and if it can’t be dealt with simply, then you talk it out and solutions sought. I also rely on my mum quite heavily as a bit of an emotional cheerleader. As my only surviving family member (other than my kids) I think that’s ok. As a mother, grandmother and great-grandmother the weight of other people's problems weighs me down at times. I have a little panic then take a deep breath and pull my shoulders up, ready for the next load. That's what matriarchs are for. I like that breathing technique you use JoJo. I will add it to my toolbox. Thank you." People underestimate the power of oxygen. | |||
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" You can certainly take steps that will help but my point was you can't "consciously" make that change it's a gradual and almost sub-conscious thing I'm not sure if I understood. Do you mean not seeking the strength badges of sort but rather pulling it from many sources as we go, and how we can come to realisation that not one single experience can make us stronger ? " I mean that emotional strength or strength of character isn't something you can flick a switch and it's there, or even learn and it appears - it gets shaped as we go through life. Yes there are techniques and things that can help shape it but it doesn't just magically appear, it's a gradual thing | |||
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"I think sometimes we should substitute the word strong with resilience. To be emotionally strong can sometimes make us feel we should be invincible and not get distressed emotionally, and I think that is sometimes a hindrance and causes pressure. If we thought about resilience to a situation instead that accommodates for feeling we're not doing "good enough" but we're able to muddle through it. Not sure if that makes sense to be honest " Makes sense to me. | |||
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"I find knowing when not to be strong is important... sometimes being the reed that bends in the wind saves us from breaking. Prayer.. encouragement,support,getting enough sleep and food also help. " That's a beautiful metaphor. I read about positive influence of religiosity on mental health recently. It's quite interesting. | |||
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"I’m guessing the answer you’re looking for is not the gym by doing reps with heavy weights. I find inner strength starts with inner peace and happiness. Do what makes you happy first. Make a play list of uplifting songs. Put them on loud and dance. Then pick a small goal that you can achieve today and do it. Then be proud of yourself. After lots of days filled with happy thoughts and pride from little achievements you will find you are a lot stronger. Remember... shit happens and you can’t control it. You can only control what you do next. ?? Good luck. " They are all connected aren't they - strength, peace and happiness. And if one falls, other might follow like a domino. | |||
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"Biggest character strength is really for others to say but if pushed I’d go for empathy, although this can be a weakness if applied to the wrong people. Apart from loved ones I find a lot of strength in the arts, especially music and literature. At their best they can transport you to another place and show you that other realities are possible. If I’m down or flat that’s where I turn. And you, OP ? "I like slipping away into my alternative worlds too. Our own private Narnias eh?
I think empathy is a strength. Without it it's hard to truly connect with someone.. even if it comes at risk of people draining you.
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" You can certainly take steps that will help but my point was you can't "consciously" make that change it's a gradual and almost sub-conscious thing I'm not sure if I understood. Do you mean not seeking the strength badges of sort but rather pulling it from many sources as we go, and how we can come to realisation that not one single experience can make us stronger ? I mean that emotional strength or strength of character isn't something you can flick a switch and it's there, or even learn and it appears - it gets shaped as we go through life. Yes there are techniques and things that can help shape it but it doesn't just magically appear, it's a gradual thing " Ah so there is a hope for me still. 
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"For a long time my mantra was "f $#@ it , don't mean nothing" have sinced learned that i need something more to move on " It's a good opening though.
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"For a long time my mantra was "f $#@ it , don't mean nothing" have sinced learned that i need something more to move on It's a good opening though.
Then just adding onto it. "hello t-rose saw you last night , you all right ? | |||
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"For a long time my mantra was "f $#@ it , don't mean nothing" have sinced learned that i need something more to move on It's a good opening though.
Then just adding onto it. hello t-rose saw you last night , you all right ?" all good in my Rose-land. | |||
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"For me it’s life’s lessons that give me strength, you go through it, you deal with it, then more aware when something similar crosses your path. That can be by yourself or allowing others to help you. As my folks have always said, you have always been a stubborn, independent soul from when you could sit up, whatever hits you might break you for a while but we know you’ll get through it and up again in your own way. Personally having a child around helps with that, you have to keep going, you have to be strong, be there and functional for them, they become a strength to help you deal without actually being aware of it. " I'm surprised none of used life lessons as example of strength so far. Yes. I do also feel they are tests of your strength. And Spurs, you always seem to me a great example of inner strength, even just looking at how you carry yourself here. Your family isn't wrong there;-) | |||
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"https://youtu.be/u79GgPZVwEE "ain't no stopping us now" hindley street country club cover "I will check it out later, thanks | |||
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"I think my upbringing has a lot to do with it. I come from a very no nonsense family, if you have a problem you deal with it and if it can’t be dealt with simply, then you talk it out and solutions sought. I also rely on my mum quite heavily as a bit of an emotional cheerleader. As my only surviving family member (other than my kids) I think that’s ok. As a mother, grandmother and great-grandmother the weight of other people's problems weighs me down at times. I have a little panic then take a deep breath and pull my shoulders up, ready for the next load. That's what matriarchs are for. I like that breathing technique you use JoJo. I will add it to my toolbox. Thank you. People underestimate the power of oxygen." Right? I always feel I'm holding my breath a lot when stressed out! | |||
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"If you find any strength let me know, struggling to find it right now!" One. I messaged you. Hope that's OK. Two. They have this stupid tendency to get lost when you need it most. X | |||
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