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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Your the only one that thinks its rude. Read the faqs

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Long White Cloud

That does seem rude. Though perhaps they are inundated with messages. I always try to reply to thoughtful messages, even if a polite no thanks. Sometimes guys keep replying though despite that which can be difficult.

Good luck with future messages you send out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?"

Man up. I’m a single male. Maybe you just need to be more likeable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?"

Your profile pic won’t help. Is that you? No verification

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes its rude! But it's all part of fab tbh! If I read a message I allways reply even if it's a hiya x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do not agree with you. But hey ho we are all intitled to our own opinion. Appears you may be rude also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do not agree with you. But hey ho we are all intitled to our own opinion. Appears you may be rude also"

...rude

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe I need to be more likable you say.... Im open and honest not a poser like you. You need to man up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe I need to be more likable you say.... Im open and honest not a poser like you. You need to man up "

There’s your problem. Poser. How so? Moaning that people don’t message you back just seems a little childish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well isnt this little thread just joyful

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By *urtyGentMan
over a year ago

eastleigh

Some women get 100+ messages a day. You can’t, with the very best will in the world, expect any to answer every single one of those. You’re better off accepting that you’re not for everyone and that if you get no response they’re not interested as it states in the FAQs and like a decent human being

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some women get 100+ messages a day. You can’t, with the very best will in the world, expect any to answer every single one of those. You’re better off accepting that you’re not for everyone and that if you get no response they’re not interested as it states in the FAQs and like a decent human being"

Well said

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By *errero RochelleWoman
over a year ago

Chocoville


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?

Your profile pic won’t help. Is that you? No verification "

I doubt it but if it is, I will take my hat off. Even though I haven't got one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?"

Maybe your msg was just a little too long and I'm guessing for Def they didn't read it all. I have over

1, 400 unread mail at min and there's no way I'll get to read them all. And sometimes I find when I do reply with a thanks but I'm not meeting or whatever...it encourages some Men to plague & harass me

So I'm kinda learning not to reply to those who are not my type... unfortunately.

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By *errero RochelleWoman
over a year ago

Chocoville

Call me rude but nobody owes you a reply.

Those women didn't ask to get a message. Not from you, not from anyone.

If they delete it, they're not interested.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

I'm sorry but you have to call me rude to as I dont answer every message either , if im.not interested I dont reply end of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another one of ‘those’ threads

It doesn’t matter how rude you think it is OP, it’s in the FAQ’s. Obviously not read them. And you’ve not been here long at all. Some guys I know have gone years without a reply. And a lot of women (just do a forum search) don’t reply to profiles they’re not interested in, even if they’ve asked politely for a ‘no thanks’. Because 9 times out of 10 they get abuse or the male starts pestering them trying to change their mind.

Sorry you feel let down but this isn’t the place for you if that’s the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe I need to be more likable you say.... Im open and honest not a poser like you. You need to man up "

Is this rude?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take on the chin and move on happens alot I just take as they're not interested simple really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do not use the reply and quote on here so those that make you rude because we don’t know who you are replying to???

A lot of factors contribute to your fab adventure and that of others and age and profile are two of them.

No one owes you anything on fab and IRL so I’d politely suggest you maybe change your outlook and approach to swinging but wish you the very very best of luck but most of all stay safe.

T

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Don't take it to heart though. Its just one of those things really. I'm assuming with a high volume of incoming messages, it's just impossible to reply to all. Jyst got to be patience and some day, someone will reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Free will is a wonderful thing.

I had a similar arguement with someone on here after I neglected to reply to their message to me (I'm not trying to make out I'm super popular or anything, I don't often get messages). They got the hump and called me ignorant.

Crux is that I have the free will to decide to reply to their message. Much in the same way that they have the free will to look at my profile and think that I look like the arse end of a baboon.

As a single male on here you need to master the art of not getting upset, moving on and accepting that no one on here owes you anything.

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"Maybe I need to be more likable you say.... Im open and honest not a poser like you. You need to man up

Is this rude?"

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe I need to be more likable you say.... Im open and honest not a poser like you. You need to man up

Is this rude?

Yes.

E"

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?"

From the site FAQs;

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

You're welcome.

E

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Maybe I need to be more likable you say.... Im open and honest not a poser like you. You need to man up "

You're talking about people being rude and you're making personal digs at someone you don't know. What does that say about you OP? It's certainly not an attractive trait in my eyes.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another one of ‘those’ threads

It doesn’t matter how rude you think it is OP, it’s in the FAQ’s. Obviously not read them. And you’ve not been here long at all. Some guys I know have gone years without a reply. And a lot of women (just do a forum search) don’t reply to profiles they’re not interested in, even if they’ve asked politely for a ‘no thanks’. Because 9 times out of 10 they get abuse or the male starts pestering them trying to change their mind.

Sorry you feel let down but this isn’t the place for you if that’s the case. "

All of this, right here, is perfect! Especially the bit about being pestered. I find that even when I try to be polite and respond with a “no thanks”, I’m either told I’m a prick, or they think it’s an invite to constantly keep trying, which subsequently leads to you actually being a prick so that they stop messaging... and then they tell you you’re a prick. Lol. So you’re dammed if you do, and dammed if you don’t in this game.

It is perfectly OK to ignore a message. People need to learn how to manage their expectations a bit better... also, stop being creepy!!!

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’m a message deleter. It’s necessary for my enjoyment of Fab.

Actively delete the sent box to stop yourself obsessing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m a message deleter. It’s necessary for my enjoyment of Fab.

Actively delete the sent box to stop yourself obsessing. "

Ahhhh, so I won’t expect my response any time soon then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe I need to be more likable you say.... Im open and honest not a poser like you. You need to man up "

Well, this is rude!

But then so am I, as I quite often just delete messages, sometimes in bulk.

1. Use reply and quote so we know how you’re talking to.

2. No one owes you anything, I am not going to spend all my time replying to messages when I could be using my time (MY time) doing what I want to do.

3. You chose to message her, she did not ask you to.

4. Think about how you come across on here, it does get remembered.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Just send cock OP. Trust me you’ll get more of a response then

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Welcome to fab. You need a thick skin to survive.

Dust yourself down, smile & move on

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Maybe I need to be more likable you say.... Im open and honest not a poser like you. You need to man up "

Rude...

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Op, most won't reply to a silhouette avatar..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op, most won't reply to a silhouette avatar.."

I saw someone pull him up for his avatar and ask if it was really him......

I’m drawing my own conclusions now.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Op, most won't reply to a silhouette avatar..

I saw someone pull him up for his avatar and ask if it was really him......

I’m drawing my own conclusions now. "

Ah...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never seen a 61 year old with a bum like that, actually I’ve never seen a 62 year olds bum do they may be like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve never seen a 61 year old with a bum like that, actually I’ve never seen a 62 year olds bum do they may be like that "

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I’ve never seen a 61 year old with a bum like that, actually I’ve never seen a 62 year olds bum do they may be like that "

Haha It is rather pert, isn't it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem is many don't bother reading profile to see what ones preferences are. They may like the pic and just send message. So I do understand when some people ignore messages especially if it feels like the other person clearly didn't bother me reading their profile. I try my best to reply most times.

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

And onto the fab scrap heap this thread goes.

Op, put your time into improving your profile rather than moaning about not getting replies, unfortunately no response generally means not interested on here.

As many others others have said, "no thanks" replies are pretty pointless as it just opens the door for "but why" replies and it can get a little exhausting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve never seen a 61 year old with a bum like that, actually I’ve never seen a 62 year olds bum do they may be like that

Haha It is rather pert, isn't it!"

Like a peach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are people so rude? Does he know where he is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And onto the fab scrap heap this thread goes.

Op, put your time into improving your profile rather than moaning about not getting replies, unfortunately no response generally means not interested on here.

As many others others have said, "no thanks" replies are pretty pointless as it just opens the door for "but why" replies and it can get a little exhausting. "

Yep totaling. I get the follow up questions after "no thanks". Then it leads to insults and then a block

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"And onto the fab scrap heap this thread goes.

Op, put your time into improving your profile rather than moaning about not getting replies, unfortunately no response generally means not interested on here.

As many others others have said, "no thanks" replies are pretty pointless as it just opens the door for "but why" replies and it can get a little exhausting.

Yep totaling. I get the follow up questions after "no thanks". Then it leads to insults and then a block"

Which just ends up bringing everyone down ultimately!

No good can come from replying "no thanks"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I’ve never seen a 61 year old with a bum like that, actually I’ve never seen a 62 year olds bum do they may be like that

Haha It is rather pert, isn't it!

Like a peach "

Mmmm..yum,yum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are also strange. A profile messaged me calling me the N word for no reason and then followed with "come suck my D". Then blocked me. Some people do have some issues offline that they bring online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Call me rude but nobody owes you a reply.

Those women didn't ask to get a message. Not from you, not from anyone.

If they delete it, they're not interested. "

Well said! And exactly how we do things also. No one owes anyone, anything here.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?"

There’s two answers to this question.

No the scenario above is not rude, potentially it’s actually ruder to ask somebody to reply if they don’t want to.

The second answer is yes. Some people are rude but that has nothing to do with replying to messages, some people are just rude in all walks of life.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Some people are also strange. A profile messaged me calling me the N word for no reason and then followed with "come suck my D". Then blocked me. Some people do have some issues offline that they bring online."

Sorry you had that, disgusting..

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"I’ve never seen a 61 year old with a bum like that, actually I’ve never seen a 62 year olds bum do they may be like that "

Old bums can look like that! Maybe he cycles alot? X

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I’ve never seen a 61 year old with a bum like that, actually I’ve never seen a 62 year olds bum do they may be like that

Old bums can look like that! Maybe he cycles alot? X"

Maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile quite clearly states I don't reply to all messages, I'm a full time Mum and haven't got the time and as many said it's in the FAQ's that no reply = not interested.

Yet, I still got called the rudest c**t on here for not replying to ONE message from someone that lived too far away too even consider meeting.

That's rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people are also strange. A profile messaged me calling me the N word for no reason and then followed with "come suck my D". Then blocked me. Some people do have some issues offline that they bring online.

Sorry you had that, disgusting.."

Reported it but not sure anything happened

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Some people are also strange. A profile messaged me calling me the N word for no reason and then followed with "come suck my D". Then blocked me. Some people do have some issues offline that they bring online.

Sorry you had that, disgusting..

Reported it but not sure anything happened"

Well you did the right thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s not rude. That’s what I do and I don’t consider myself a rude person

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

... see yesterday's threads on women not owing people anything

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By *tstillworksMan
over a year ago

Darlington

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By *tstillworksMan
over a year ago

Darlington


"Just send cock OP. Trust me you’ll get more of a response then "

Hahaha

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By *ebel Red HotWoman
over a year ago

York

Far too many people seem to think they have a right to a reply I have found many men on here do yet most ignore men offering to suck their cock for them which makes a mockery of the demand for others to reply.

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

we find it incredibly rude when we say no to a guy and he just deletes our messasge, thats really rude

(takes tongue out of cheek)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Far too many people seem to think they have a right to a reply I have found many men on here do yet most ignore men offering to suck their cock for them which makes a mockery of the demand for others to reply.

"

Bloody hell Rebel! Wow! Where did you emerge from? I can’t believe that in all my time of lurking in the shadows I never saw you. Just wonderful. *adds to hotlist - probably gets blocked*

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

o/p block and move on.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

We get lots of messages, and do not have the time to message everyone back, we have tryed in the past but some people feel the need to be abusive, some feel the need to beg you to meet and some just say OK thanks. Then you have double the amount of messages you had before, therefore less time to read the ones you want too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get lots of messages, and do not have the time to message everyone back, we have tryed in the past but some people feel the need to be abusive, some feel the need to beg you to meet and some just say OK thanks. Then you have double the amount of messages you had before, therefore less time to read the ones you want too "

This

The number of guys who want to disagree with me thinking they know my type better than I do!

They want to know what sort of guys I like then argue that then Precisely..... only he’s not in shape. Not tall. Has a bushy beard....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"We get lots of messages, and do not have the time to message everyone back, we have tryed in the past but some people feel the need to be abusive, some feel the need to beg you to meet and some just say OK thanks. Then you have double the amount of messages you had before, therefore less time to read the ones you want too

This

The number of guys who want to disagree with me thinking they know my type better than I do!

They want to know what sort of guys I like then argue that then Precisely..... only he’s not in shape. Not tall. Has a bushy beard.... "

It's a good question, OP. Why are people so rude as to tell women they know what women want?

It's incredibly rude to deny people their own choices about their own bodies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you’re not entitled to a reply. A read deleted message take it as a no... Women receive hundreds of messages daily it would be hard to find time to reply to all and then answer all the whys and buts that come with it...

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

OP...do you contact all of the companies who send you junk mail through your door? You know the ones..pizza companies, double glazing, retirement homrs etc?

No? Okay..well, it's the same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely women are in high demand mostly. And they are obviously filled with thousands of proposals. And still some read and reply.

Having said that men are abundant here, only a few percentage gets lucky, that doesn’t mean they are being rude to you. All you can do is smile and develop nice features and wait for the interested ones to mingle with you. There is no other way to pull the rope here.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

I get emmm a few messages each day and to be honest I don’t even look at the message if they have no profile pic

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside


"I get emmm a few messages each day and to be honest I don’t even look at the message if they have no profile pic "

A few messages

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"I get emmm a few messages each day and to be honest I don’t even look at the message if they have no profile pic

A few messages "

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?"

Look at it another way, you send say 10 messages a day.

At the end of the week you have 70 messages saying no thank you, you're not for me.

Do you feel any better now?

Would you reply to them all saying thank you for the no thanks?

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

Some would say joining a site like let's say FAB, then not reading the rules but complaining about the members (PUN INTENDERD ) is rude

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?

Look at it another way, you send say 10 messages a day.

At the end of the week you have 70 messages saying no thank you, you're not for me.

Do you feel any better now?

Would you reply to them all saying thank you for the no thanks?

"

They do ! I'd say 90% reply . Then mail again a couple of days later ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?"

How do you know they read the message anyway. The message read bit really only means they have opened the message.

I don't read long messages, I can't be bothered. Also long messages are often cut and pasted, sent to multiple recipients. I certainly wouldn't reply if I did not want to.

It is not rude not to reply.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Threads like this are like complaining to Currys that you don't know how your new TV works when you haven't read the manual.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I get a message, before I open it I look at the profile, if the profile is of interest then I will open the message, if the message show the sender has read my profile & the message is interesting & contains something I can respond to then I will reply. Sometimes that reply may be to simply say thanks for the message but I'm not interested, other times it may result in an actual conversation.

Unfortunately there are not many messages like that, most are generic & along the lines of "hi" or "fancy a chat?", those generally either get no response or a simple "no thanks".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think when people join a disclaimer should be issued that you have to tick to say you understand/agree.

A NO REPLY IS A REPLY.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not rude to not reply.

So many women and couples get so many messages that many of us only reply to those we are interested in.

It doesn’t make us rude it use lessens the chance of getting abusive or clingy messages.

To save yourself the frustration, delete all your sent messages then when someone replies to you it’ll be a nice surprise.

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

I’ve not asked someone to message me.

It’s like Uber eats showing up with food I don’t want and expecting me to pay for it just because I was on the app seeing what restaurants are on it.

And sometimes what you think is polite and what I want is the opposite.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I think when people join a disclaimer should be issued that you have to tick to say you understand/agree.

A NO REPLY IS A REPLY."

Yes.

And a filter to stop cock pics.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Thanks for asking this question.

I think that people should consider this.

Is this rude ? Is this not rude ?

O.P....... you seem to think it's rude.

So .... I'm going to side with you.

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww they are wude very wude. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not rude to not reply.

So many women and couples get so many messages that many of us only reply to those we are interested in.

It doesn’t make us rude it use lessens the chance of getting abusive or clingy messages.

To save yourself the frustration, delete all your sent messages then when someone replies to you it’ll be a nice surprise. "

Good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection is part of life and character building. You will be ok.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Maybe I need to be more likable you say.... Im open and honest not a poser like you. You need to man up

Is this rude?"

I'm not replying to that. I don't have to.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Rejection is part of life and character building. You will be ok."

It's not nice at first, but after the first few hundred you get used to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems rude to us but most women get 50-100 messages a day

We can't expect them to read them all and politely reply to everyone.

If 100 guys messaged you daily would you really reply to every one?

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

You can think its rude all you like but site faqs state that no reply=no thank-you. Puzzles me why so many would prefer an inbox full of rejection.

May not have even read it, I go straight to the profile, if thats blank or tells me something I know means were not a good fit, then I block. Replyi g means that even if I then change my filters, they're able to message still, and some guys just don't take rejection well, so a 'polite' no thank-you means receiving abuse back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve not asked someone to message me.

It’s like Uber eats showing up with food I don’t want and expecting me to pay for it just because I was on the app seeing what restaurants are on it.

And sometimes what you think is polite and what I want is the opposite. "

Good analogy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes its rude! But it's all part of fab tbh! If I read a message I allways reply even if it's a hiya x"

Laure1001's read and unreplied message to you from about 6 months ago begs to differ ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spoke too soon. So just know someone messages me and says can they add me as a friend. I replied being honest i am not interested but said Thanks nevertheless. I can't repeat their response. It is not by force to be interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't find it rude not replying to a message.

What I do find rude is people feel entitled to a reply and then get upset if they don't get a no thank you and that makes no sense to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems rude to us but most women get 50-100 messages a day

We can't expect them to read them all and politely reply to everyone.

If 100 guys messaged you daily would you really reply to every one?"

It's nothing to do with the amount of messages most of the

time because I get hardly any because of my filters but I still choose who I reply to and I don't owe a reply to someone just because they have read to my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op if you don’t know the site rules alas that is on you and not the 30,000+ members.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to forget about any messages you send and concentrate on the messages you receive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?"

For you it's rude for somone to read and not respond and for others it's rude for somone to expect a response just because you want one... Who's to say who's right and who's wrong? The thing is that no one owes you there time, they never asked you to message them so if they don't want to reply that's there call your not owed one as thanks for showing interest... Fab rules state people should take a non response as a polite no thankyou so I would suggest save yourself some stress and just do that

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

There are also sometimes messages which are very clearly sent for the benefit of the sender as opposed to the recipient

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone on a free account. They are limited to how many dms they can send out a day. So not really being rude just people saving what little dms they have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes its rude! But it's all part of fab tbh! If I read a message I allways reply even if it's a hiya x

Laure1001's read and unreplied message to you from about 6 months ago begs to differ ... "

Ha!!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Hey OP! Where are you? I expect to to answer this, even if it's to tel me you don't want to.

C'mon, stop being so rude.

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?

Look at it another way, you send say 10 messages a day.

At the end of the week you have 70 messages saying no thank you, you're not for me.

Do you feel any better now?

Would you reply to them all saying thank you for the no thanks?

They do ! I'd say 90% reply . Then mail again a couple of days later ... "

Where does it end?

Thank you for the no thanks.

Thanks for taking the no thanks so well.

No, thank you for replying to my first message.

Thanks for the message.

Thanks for the message.

Thanks for the message back.

No, thank you for the thanks thanks, thank you.

Agggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve just had a reply saying “no thanks” with the hottest pic attached.

What a way to say “see this? You can’t touch”.

Pure finesse.

Anyway, back on thread: yeah. Rude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve just had a reply saying “no thanks” with the hottest pic attached.

What a way to say “see this? You can’t touch”.

Pure finesse.

Anyway, back on thread: yeah. Rude!"

This really made me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey OP! Where are you? I expect to to answer this, even if it's to tel me you don't want to.

C'mon, stop being so rude."

Now that is a very good point very well put!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve just had a reply saying “no thanks” with the hottest pic attached.

What a way to say “see this? You can’t touch”.

Pure finesse.

Anyway, back on thread: yeah. Rude!

This really made me lol "

Addendum: er...if any of you other ladies aren’t interested please feel free to do the same. Save me having to message first which is rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here we go again. You dictating that someone replies to you is far ruder than them not being interested in you so deleting the message - as per site rules.

If I say no thanks I may get "Why?" or verbally abused. If I just delete it he may try his luck another time with the exact same message or add some other detail that he thinks will me over.

You do you and let them do them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve tried replying to everything politely. It takes forever. No reply is a no thankyou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People ARE just rude, it's human nature. One man's rude is another woman's drama avoidance however

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone on a free account. They are limited to how many dms they can send out a day. So not really being rude just people saving what little dms they have. "

It's over 100 on a basic account! I wouldn't say that is very few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone on a free account. They are limited to how many dms they can send out a day. So not really being rude just people saving what little dms they have.

It's over 100 on a basic account! I wouldn't say that is very few. "

Is there a limit? I didn’t know that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone on a free account. They are limited to how many dms they can send out a day. So not really being rude just people saving what little dms they have.

It's over 100 on a basic account! I wouldn't say that is very few.

Is there a limit? I didn’t know that!"

I reached the limit the first few days that I was on fab because I did reply to all the messages but it must be well over a 100 because I wasn't a site supporter then and It was before I found the filters! so was getting hundreds of messages. So yes if you are new and don't have filters it is perfectly possible but you can use up all your messages saying no thanks but it is still high number not a few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone on a free account. They are limited to how many dms they can send out a day. So not really being rude just people saving what little dms they have.

It's over 100 on a basic account! I wouldn't say that is very few.

Is there a limit? I didn’t know that!

I reached the limit the first few days that I was on fab because I did reply to all the messages but it must be well over a 100 because I wasn't a site supporter then and It was before I found the filters! so was getting hundreds of messages. So yes if you are new and don't have filters it is perfectly possible but you can use up all your messages saying no thanks but it is still high number not a few."

Oh wow. Everyday is a school day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said missFussy

Replies are personal choice.

A message is like making an offer to someone, of yourself,you have to make them an offer they can't refuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone on a free account. They are limited to how many dms they can send out a day. So not really being rude just people saving what little dms they have.

It's over 100 on a basic account! I wouldn't say that is very few.

Is there a limit? I didn’t know that!

I reached the limit the first few days that I was on fab because I did reply to all the messages but it must be well over a 100 because I wasn't a site supporter then and It was before I found the filters! so was getting hundreds of messages. So yes if you are new and don't have filters it is perfectly possible but you can use up all your messages saying no thanks but it is still high number not a few.

Oh wow. Everyday is a school day "

I learnt very quickly not to reply to every message and also I found the filters pretty soon after too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone on a free account. They are limited to how many dms they can send out a day. So not really being rude just people saving what little dms they have.

It's over 100 on a basic account! I wouldn't say that is very few.

Is there a limit? I didn’t know that!

I reached the limit the first few days that I was on fab because I did reply to all the messages but it must be well over a 100 because I wasn't a site supporter then and It was before I found the filters! so was getting hundreds of messages. So yes if you are new and don't have filters it is perfectly possible but you can use up all your messages saying no thanks but it is still high number not a few.

Oh wow. Everyday is a school day

I learnt very quickly not to reply to every message and also I found the filters pretty soon after too "
oh I love the filters and a little excited with my new found private notes! Especially after a few of the threads today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here we go again. You dictating that someone replies to you is far ruder than them not being interested in you so deleting the message - as per site rules.

If I say no thanks I may get "Why?" or verbally abused. If I just delete it he may try his luck another time with the exact same message or add some other detail that he thinks will me over.

You do you and let them do them."

I got a message lately asking me did I want to do something that I've clearly said on my profile I don't. No hi or hello. When I politely said no thanks I received a litany of abuse and names calling. So why should anyone reply on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone on a free account. They are limited to how many dms they can send out a day. So not really being rude just people saving what little dms they have.

It's over 100 on a basic account! I wouldn't say that is very few.

Is there a limit? I didn’t know that!

I reached the limit the first few days that I was on fab because I did reply to all the messages but it must be well over a 100 because I wasn't a site supporter then and It was before I found the filters! so was getting hundreds of messages. So yes if you are new and don't have filters it is perfectly possible but you can use up all your messages saying no thanks but it is still high number not a few.

Oh wow. Everyday is a school day

I learnt very quickly not to reply to every message and also I found the filters pretty soon after too oh I love the filters and a little excited with my new found private notes! Especially after a few of the threads today "

I think I'm a bit grumpier than you because I don't do private notes I just block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give all woman an option

If you like what you see either reply or send a wink

If l don't fit what they are looking for l ask to be deleted. Then l know were l stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone on a free account. They are limited to how many dms they can send out a day. So not really being rude just people saving what little dms they have.

It's over 100 on a basic account! I wouldn't say that is very few.

Is there a limit? I didn’t know that!

I reached the limit the first few days that I was on fab because I did reply to all the messages but it must be well over a 100 because I wasn't a site supporter then and It was before I found the filters! so was getting hundreds of messages. So yes if you are new and don't have filters it is perfectly possible but you can use up all your messages saying no thanks but it is still high number not a few.

Oh wow. Everyday is a school day

I learnt very quickly not to reply to every message and also I found the filters pretty soon after too oh I love the filters and a little excited with my new found private notes! Especially after a few of the threads today

I think I'm a bit grumpier than you because I don't do private notes I just block. "

Well that’s what I always did! Now there’s the option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I give all woman an option

If you like what you see either reply or send a wink

If l don't fit what they are looking for l ask to be deleted. Then l know were l stand. "

You know where you stand if a woman deletes or doesn't reply to your message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But if you have read the message then delete it. Why leave it open. I know that you have read my message so delete it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But if you have read the message then delete it. Why leave it open. I know that you have read my message so delete it. "

Or you have options and you could delete it once you've sent it then you won't know unless you get a reply.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"But if you have read the message then delete it. Why leave it open. I know that you have read my message so delete it. "

You could always stop dictating to women about what they should do to please you instead.

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By *ovestruck69Man
over a year ago

Southampton


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?"

I hate this too it's just rude, at least I answer every message even with a polite no thanks if required

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?

I hate this too it's just rude, at least I answer every message even with a polite no thanks if required "

How many do you get an hour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But if you have read the message then delete it. Why leave it open. I know that you have read my message so delete it. "

How about if they've read it and it might be of interest for when they have the time? There is a life off fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?

I hate this too it's just rude, at least I answer every message even with a polite no thanks if required "

How many do you get? Do you think you would possibly get abuse if you respond with a no thank you? When I was meeting, I barely had time to reply to the guys I was interested in, before they dropped off the page never to be seen again, let alone reply to the no thank yous... Even with my filters up...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are you answering the question - just ignore it

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?

I hate this too it's just rude, at least I answer every message even with a polite no thanks if required "

You actually expect us to believe you're regularly turning women down, don't you.

You may be turning men down but I bet they then don't call you a fat easy slag, do they.

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?

I hate this too it's just rude, at least I answer every message even with a polite no thanks if required "

When I first joined and before I discovered filters I had over 600 messages in the first couple of days.

Presumably you'd have answered them all....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?

I hate this too it's just rude, at least I answer every message even with a polite no thanks if required

When I first joined and before I discovered filters I had over 600 messages in the first couple of days.

Presumably you'd have answered them all.... "

I tried! Didn't sleep for 2 days before I gavd up... The fact that I read and answered 1 and 5 more would be in my inbox, made life impossible but I wasn't working and extremely hyperactive at the time or I probably would've left the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here we go again. You dictating that someone replies to you is far ruder than them not being interested in you so deleting the message - as per site rules.

If I say no thanks I may get "Why?" or verbally abused. If I just delete it he may try his luck another time with the exact same message or add some other detail that he thinks will me over.

You do you and let them do them.

I got a message lately asking me did I want to do something that I've clearly said on my profile I don't. No hi or hello. When I politely said no thanks I received a litany of abuse and names calling. So why should anyone reply on here "

Sounds familiar. I had a man message me yesterday and ask what level my pain tolerance was, WTF? I've politely declined so many times and been accused of being stuck up, not willing to give them a chance, judging a book by its cover etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I give all woman an option

If you like what you see either reply or send a wink

If l don't fit what they are looking for l ask to be deleted. Then l know were l stand. "

We make our own options, we don't need men to give them to us

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Visiting Scotland


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?

I hate this too it's just rude, at least I answer every message even with a polite no thanks if required "

And how many times a day do you get abused for that no thanks?

Because I used to say no thanks as well, once filters had brought messages down to a level it was possible to do that. The “I hope you get cancer and die ya fat cunt” was the final straw so now I just delete.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Far too many people seem to think they have a right to a reply I have found many men on here do yet most ignore men offering to suck their cock for them which makes a mockery of the demand for others to reply.

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Very interesting point, that never occurred to me before but you are right

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I’m ignorant.

All those letters I get from energy companies and broadband suppliers, I throw them in the bin, never reply to them.

Perhaps I should take a page out of your book OP and reply to them, to ease my ignorance.

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North of Okehampton, South of Bideford

Reply or not to reply that is the question.

If someone sends a nice educated message, i would reply.

If it is just crude, I wouldn't.

The site rules indicate if you are not interested, dont reply.

So, if someone pays you a compliment and you thank them, does that mean the conversation door is wide open?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?"

Just because your message is long and polite doesn't make you entitled to a reply. The fact you seem to feel you are is a red flag to me.

As a single male profile, sometimes you send a message on here and you won't receive a reply, or they don't even open your message to read it. It's disappointing when this happens, but you have to accept it. There could be a thousand reasons why they didn't respond. It doesn't automatically mean they're "rude".

My partner and I get long messages on our couples profile all the time and most of them are absolute waffle. People often write paragraphs about how they think they're exactly what we're looking for and then you click on their profile and it says none of what they said over a message, which immediately raises suspicion that this person/people are willing to say anything to try and get a shag...or they literally just talk rubbish in their message. We don't owe them anything, so we hit delete or block and move on. Sometimes when you say "No thanks" to people on here (not just single men) they seem to take that as an invitation to continue the conversation, so why bother? We don't give a toss if they think it's rude and the fact is that it isn't rude due to the sheer volume of messages single females and couples receive on here. Hitting delete/block leaves absolutely no ambiguity that this person/people are not interested in you. Accept and move on.

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over a year ago


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?

I hate this too it's just rude, at least I answer every message even with a polite no thanks if required "

I guess it’s a good job you won’t be meeting the women who don’t reply to you then, since they’re so rude.

A polite no thanks won’t change the fact you’ve been rejected. Would you really prefer an inbox full of no thanks messages?

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

They don’t have to respond op sorry for bursting your bubble it states that in the FAQ. That no reply means no thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?

I hate this too it's just rude, at least I answer every message even with a polite no thanks if required

I guess it’s a good job you won’t be meeting the women who don’t reply to you then, since they’re so rude.

A polite no thanks won’t change the fact you’ve been rejected. Would you really prefer an inbox full of no thanks messages? "

Yes. Because then he can reply saying "Sure I can't tempt you??"

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?"

What you may find is that many single women and couples are inundated with messages (I've known some profiles getting hundreds of messages) so may not have the time or the inclination to reply to them all. Sometimes when people do reply with a polite no thank you then some guys don't take the rejection well and then get all 'arsey' and abusive. So just deleting it is sometimes preferable. I personally don't like it when they read it but don't reply or delete it. To me that's worse as I don't know where I stand lol. I would rather them delete it at least I know where I stand lol.

I understand your frustration but unfortunately the guys that are time wasters on here spoil it for the genuine ones

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire


"Well isnt this little thread just joyful"

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire


"Read a profile and send a polite long message as they state no one-liners, be open and honest and do as they request. Ending your message with thanks for reading and hope you reply even if a polite No thanks. But they read and delete with no response. Am I the only one who thinks this is rude or it it because Im a single male?

Maybe your msg was just a little too long and I'm guessing for Def they didn't read it all. I have over

1, 400 unread mail at min and there's no way I'll get to read them all. And sometimes I find when I do reply with a thanks but I'm not meeting or whatever...it encourages some Men to plague & harass me

So I'm kinda learning not to reply to those who are not my type... unfortunately."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shitting on my doorstep is rude. Deleting a message absouley not

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

You have to bear in mind that if somebody puts up filters at a later stage, for example by gender or by age, anybody they have replied to gets excluded from that filter. Replying is not zero consequence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Evening. I have read all your comments since I last posted mine. You all have avaid points. Abusive male's should be reported and kicked off.

We don't tolerate it in society so why here.

Deleted, wink, reply or block.

Genuine guys like myself then know where we stand and move on gracefully.

Can at least face pictures be opened if you fancy what they look like and delete the inappropriate ones and no face picture. Thinking out loud.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Evening. I have read all your comments since I last posted mine. You all have avaid points. Abusive male's should be reported and kicked off.

We don't tolerate it in society so why here.

Deleted, wink, reply or block.

Genuine guys like myself then know where we stand and move on gracefully.

Can at least face pictures be opened if you fancy what they look like and delete the inappropriate ones and no face picture. Thinking out loud. "

No one has to reply to a message or delete it just to make the sender feel more comfortable.

Nobody has to look at her face picture just to make the sender feel like it's been looked at.

If somebody does not reply to you and starts chatting then the answer is known regardless of how they sort their mailbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Evening. I have read all your comments since I last posted mine. You all have avaid points. Abusive male's should be reported and kicked off.

We don't tolerate it in society so why here.

Deleted, wink, reply or block.

Genuine guys like myself then know where we stand and move on gracefully.

Can at least face pictures be opened if you fancy what they look like and delete the inappropriate ones and no face picture. Thinking out loud. "

Honestly? This sounds like a lot of extra work. This shouldn't feel like duty. I want to have fun. I know after reading first line if I want to hit delete. Pretty face wouldn't change it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes woman have got the right to do what they want. It's obvious that women have the right to choose. A thoughtful woman would at least be govened by her own mind and intelligence to know what she is looking for and how she deals with every message she receives. Delete wink reply block. It tells me what I need to know. Respect work's both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes woman have got the right to do what they want. It's obvious that women have the right to choose. A thoughtful woman would at least be govened by her own mind and intelligence to know what she is looking for and how she deals with every message she receives. Delete wink reply block. It tells me what I need to know. Respect work's both ways. "

All it tells you is that they aren’t interested, you can’t learn anything else from an ignored/deleted message or wink.

We’re allowed to run our fab lives as we wish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Laughing out loud. A female dictatorship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Laughing out loud. A female dictatorship. "

Not really. Women knowing their own minds, which is awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Laughing out loud. A female dictatorship. "

Ouch. Not.

It's called assertiveness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Laughing out loud. A female dictatorship. "

So because a woman doesn't do what a man tells her to do its a dictatorship?

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire


"Yes its rude! But it's all part of fab tbh! If I read a message I allways reply even if it's a hiya x"

Quite agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes woman have got the right to do what they want. It's obvious that women have the right to choose. A thoughtful woman would at least be govened by her own mind and intelligence to know what she is looking for and how she deals with every message she receives. Delete wink reply block. It tells me what I need to know. Respect work's both ways. "

If respect works both ways can you tell me where the respect is from a man who expects a woman to do exactly what he wants her to do with her messages?

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By *irtylittletramp100TV/TS
over a year ago

Notts

You'd be amazed at how many messages some get, they haven't time to reply to everyone! Or they could just be rude lol

But honestly I think often its the former

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire


"Maybe I need to be more likable you say.... Im open and honest not a poser like you. You need to man up

There’s your problem. Poser. How so? Moaning that people don’t message you back just seems a little childish "

Oh my goodness you too....

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Your the only one that thinks its rude. Read the faqs"

Tbh DC ... he's not the only one who thinks this ... but the FAQs do indeed say all

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork


"Laughing out loud. A female dictatorship. "

How dare a woman choose how she spends her time on here

Next you will be laughing at the thought we get to decide who we fuck

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Laughing out loud. A female dictatorship. "

How long have you been afraid of women?

You DON'T get to tell ANYBODY what to do to suit your own desires.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Laughing out loud. A female dictatorship. "

I know, can you IMAGINE what would happen if women dictated?

AWESOMENESS!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Contrary to popular belief no woman has ever scared me. Show respect and respect is forthcoming. Kitten you choose what you want to do on here and you choose who you fuck.,but don't tarnish the good guys with the same brush with the idiots.

And in total honesty the woman on here rule the roost over all guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Laughing out loud. A female dictatorship.

I know, can you IMAGINE what would happen if women dictated?

AWESOMENESS!!!! "

Ooh Im in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So Fab Swingers is a female dictatorship.

Which comes with thinking there a cut above every one else where politeness and manners are in the dark ages.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Contrary to popular belief no woman has ever scared me. Show respect and respect is forthcoming. Kitten you choose what you want to do on here and you choose who you fuck.,but don't tarnish the good guys with the same brush with the idiots.

And in total honesty the woman on here rule the roost over all guys. "

No, men do that to themselves, women are perfectly capable of spotting backtracking misogynists and calling them out for what they are.

Like I said before, you don't get to dictate how anyone deals with your messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So Fab Swingers is a female dictatorship.

Which comes with thinking there a cut above every one else where politeness and manners are in the dark ages. "

Can you explain to me why is rude to not delete a message?

Also it seems to me that what you actually want is for men to able to dictate how a woman deals with a man's message! Also I hate to break it to you but anyone women or man has the right to decide how they conduct their own fab account and it comes across as rather unsavoury that someone would get so upset about that.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"So Fab Swingers is a female dictatorship.

Which comes with thinking there a cut above every one else where politeness and manners are in the dark ages. "

If you use the quote button, it may have more impact on your rude and nasty messages because at the moment, ya just look a tad silly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So Fab Swingers is a female dictatorship.

Which comes with thinking there a cut above every one else where politeness and manners are in the dark ages. "

Not all ladies are all like that... shame you think that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So Fab Swingers is a female dictatorship.

Which comes with thinking there a cut above every one else where politeness and manners are in the dark ages. "

That’s an unfair comment. People are polite and mannerly on here, but you’re expecting women to run their fab experience by your rules, which is, in my opinion very rude.

We are our own people, we don’t have to do what you say, we get the right to decide, they even let us out of the kitchen to vote you know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork


"Contrary to popular belief no woman has ever scared me. Show respect and respect is forthcoming. Kitten you choose what you want to do on here and you choose who you fuck.,but don't tarnish the good guys with the same brush with the idiots.

And in total honesty the woman on here rule the roost over all guys. "

I never tarnish guys with the same brush, but I do find it annoying when so called good guys only fail on here because of the bad guys/idiots not because of anything they have done.

No, everyone fails on their own merits or lack of them

And as for good guys.... I always wonder why they feel the need to say they are.

And we don’t rule the roost over the guys, we rule the roost over ourselves and that means that most guys won’t even see my roost.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Laughing out loud. A female dictatorship.

I know, can you IMAGINE what would happen if women dictated?

AWESOMENESS!!!!

Ooh Im in! "

An end to war, genocide, poverty, starvation, misogyny, dummy spitting and unsolicited dick pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mark is really demonstrating EXACTLY why women delete messages and don't reply

Despite being given reasons why we do it, despite clarifying the site rules and despite general freedom and autonomy being explained to him, he STILL feels the need to dictate how a woman should conduct herself to please him. JUST LIKE THE MANY MEN WHO MESSAGE US AND CAN'T TAKE NO WITH A BIT OF DIGNITY.

Do you get it yet? You don't get to decide what works for someone else, nobody owes you anything and a woman acting within the site rules according to her own choices is not a dictatorship, but you stipulating how she should behave is.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"I’ve never seen a 61 year old with a bum like that, actually I’ve never seen a 62 year olds bum do they may be like that

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Old bums can look like that! Maybe he cycles alot? X"

I knew an old boy with a very nice firm bum (I'm talking visually, inside his trousers).

I later found out that he didn't have a car and walked everywhere.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"I’ve never seen a 61 year old with a bum like that, actually I’ve never seen a 62 year olds bum do they may be like that

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Old bums can look like that! Maybe he cycles alot? X"

I knew an old boy with a very nice firm bum (I'm talking visually, inside his trousers).

I later found out that he didn't have a car and walked everywhere.

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