FabSwingers.com forum: Men, How Much Luck Do You Have ??

By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

Evening to all you Gentlemen.

So my question to you is, how often do you have luck when you message someone you like on here ?

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By *umbiyaMan
over a year ago

Halifax

I stopped trying lol

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"I stopped trying lol "

Haha, love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None so far lol .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 in 352

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"None so far lol .

How is it you are approaching the profile is the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been lucky a few times.

I used to take offence by instant deletes but now I get how it works.

I think you’ve just got to appreciate it when you get a reply and take it from there.

I just need word to get out that I’m a 12” penis’d brad Pitt lookalike millionaire and I’ll be fine!

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"1 in 352

Give it time ?

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By *j321Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Not much at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Evening to all you Gentlemen.

So my question to you is, how often do you have luck when you message someone you like on here ?

I do get replies, but I find a lot of the time the answers are really short or very hard to continue conversing with. It seems like they’re not interested but what they’re saying is that they are? If that makes sense

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Good things come to those who wait.

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By *opknightMan
over a year ago

uttoxeter

More luck winning the lotto without a ticket

lol

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"I’ve been lucky a few times.

I used to take offence by instant deletes but now I get how it works.

I think you’ve just got to appreciate it when you get a reply and take it from there.

I just need word to get out that I’m a 12” penis’d brad Pitt lookalike millionaire and I’ll be fine! "

Absolutely, I think its about a particular approach you have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t do bad...I get a reply to every 12327 messages I send

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Luck is for amateurs

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"More luck winning the lotto without a ticket

lol"

Ouch lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have far more fun in clubs (when open) real people and you know who your talking to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've basically given up, especially with things being as they are now and nobody meeting. My messages usually don't even get read anyway, so I just wait and let others come to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Luck is for amateurs "

Hahaha

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By *opknightMan
over a year ago

uttoxeter

"More luck winning the lotto without a ticket

lol

Ouch lol"

Least i have a win with a scratch card

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"More luck winning the lotto without a ticket

lol

Ouch lol

Least i have a win with a scratch card "

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"have far more fun in clubs (when open) real people and you know who your talking to!"

Conversely; I have far more 'success' using Fab, than I ever did visiting clubs.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1 in 352

Give it time ?"

I'll give it till 1500, then i'm out!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send out copy and paste messages in bulk, at the moment I’ve had 4 replies from over 12000 messages sent, all were to tell me there’s 17 typo’s, I’m very, very pleased with that return.

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"Evening to all you Gentlemen.

So my question to you is, how often do you have luck when you message someone you like on here ?

Yes, I hear you

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By *ngrylookingpenis123Woman
over a year ago

"Evening to all you Gentlemen.

So my question to you is, how often do you have luck when you message someone you like on here ?

Makes a note to not give short answers as it's giving out false hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good things come to those who wait."

This is true. I waited all day today for some tits in my inbox.

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"I send out copy and paste messages in bulk, at the moment I’ve had 4 replies from over 12000 messages sent, all were to tell me there’s 17 typo’s, I’m very, very pleased with that return. "

The best answer lol love it

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By *igCatHuntingMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire, London

I've been luckier when approached by others. It's almost like the less I try...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't message that often tbh. My conversations have tended to start through the forums and some then led to other things!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say 1 message in 50 may get a reply. The odds might be worse than that...

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

Female profiles can be very confusing on here, respect and manners then treat me like a slut, others will say approach me like a human and then when you do, oh you are to nice and to boring or to rude ?

I'm lost lol

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and trying to get back

I don't usually message first but I must have some Irish in me coz I still get luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are in lockdown. I would suggest not trying to randomly message a lady. Engage in the Forum and have fun here. You may catch someone’s eye who will message you.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Generally people approach me. Of those about 1% want to meet me and/or I want to meet.

I think what I look for is quite specific and I am not one for hoop jumping or game playing. I’d rather meet one person a year, through fab, that genuinely excited me than one a week to scratch an itch.

There was a time when it was one a week though..... a loooong time ago and that lasted a year or so, it was right for my age and appetites at the time. Now, I guess what nourishes me has changed and by default the way I view fab has changed too.

As to how “lucky” I am (have been), amazingly so, I have met some genuinely beautiful (inside and out) people.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Perthshire

"Good things come to those who wait.

This is true. I waited all day today for some tits in my inbox."

The day isn't over yet Jim! Don't give up hope

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

Lol I get a lot of luck with the lads chatting but only 1 lady in 30 messages I can see why the men go fab bi with all the male attention

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Good things come to those who wait.

This is true. I waited all day today for some tits in my inbox."

You're welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say the question ought to be “how many men send messages?” Then multiply that answer by at least a factor of 10 and that is what ladies are receiving each day. Gentleman, could you even be bothered to look at more than 10 messages a day if you were receiving over 100 random ones? I only get a few from men asking me if I’m curious and already, I’ve stopped checking my messages.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Thing is it's not about "luck" as such - it's about finding the right approach that works for you (clue: sending blind messages to profiles you've not interacted with in any way is not the *only* one and is possibly the least likely to work).

It's about accepting you won't be for everyone, in fact if you think about it - when you're out and about realistically you are attracted to maybe 10% of the women you see and of those maybe 10% will be attracted to you - so 1 in 100 - it's no different here, and yet guys still try and appeal to all rather than appealing to the handful.

It's about getting your profile and pics right, having the right attitude and expectations.

The *only* way luck may come into it is messaging someone at just the right time that they see your message amongst the mass they may get - but that only applies if you stick to the "message blind" approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say the question ought to be “how many men send messages?” Then multiply that answer by at least a factor of 10 and that is what ladies are receiving each day. Gentleman, could you even be bothered to look at more than 10 messages a day if you were receiving over 100 random ones? I only get a few from men asking me if I’m curious and already, I’ve stopped checking my messages."

Block men.....

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By *ugofirstMan
over a year ago

livingston

Zero

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Square root of fugg all with women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chat to a few who are nice but nothing further.Not the best time to be on a swinging site with Covid and im particularly gruesome to look at so just take it as it comes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember guys it’s not you, it’s just that there’s so many like you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t go looking and don’t think who I attract is luck. It’s simply two people making a connection. For me it is based on a lot more than a profile or a random message. When I do message first I choose an opportune moment, but that is probably less of the time than someone messaging me. Also most of my friends who I have connected with, albeit not that many of them are sexual connections where there is that kind of mutual attraction, are from the forum. Or at least if there is, we haven’t talked about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just remember guys it’s not you, it’s just that there’s so many like you.

Crikey, no wonder people complain about the place if there are many like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just remember guys it’s not you, it’s just that there’s so many like you.

Crikey, no wonder people complain about the place if there are many like me

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

It depends what you mean by an luck, best thing is not to expect too much, for example a meet after one message. Even if you expect a reply back from every message it's still too much to ask. Getting even a reply is a start, then if you get more than a setence in a few replies even better, very occasionally you will get a reasonable conversation that is worthwhile but again if you expect that to lead to a meet you will become frustrated. Just go with the flow, be polite and patient and hopefully you will get some interest. Let's face it you don't pay much to be on here compared to other sites so all you lose is some time when things are slow. Expect the worse and hope for the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t expect anything from this site

I just look at profiles and fab the odd pictures

Reply to messages I get

And basically that’s it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go for 1 every other day. It depends who is online at the time and do l fit there criteria. The ladies on here have the run off the site. They want who they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 of 4

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

North East Lincolnshire

You are effectively sending an unsolicited message to someone. Like a pizza flyer coming through your door. The only luck element is timing, whether they open the flyer and want what’s on the menu at that moment.

The only thing you can have more control off is to ensure you have everything nailed down in terms of your message, profile and pics. Have all three right and you increase your chances of a response.

When I was single on here, I never looked at sent messages to see if someone had read my message as it’s the path to insecurity. Send message and move on with life...I never expected a reply and just seen it as a bonus if they did.

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By *urtyGentMan
over a year ago

eastleigh

Define “luck”. I read profiles, see what people are looking for and if I think that sounds like me I’ll send a message. By no means am I 100% successful but I do well enough. No matter who you are, in this scene, you’re gonna face rejection. You have to be 100% ok with this. You won’t be for everyone. Not everyone will be looking for someone like you. You’re effectively sending someone an unsolicited request and it’s their prerogative if they wish to answer. You’re owed nothing by anyone on this site. The sooner you realise this, the happier you’ll be

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By *outhman15Man
over a year ago

southampton

Not much luck at all as there are way to many younger fitter men with big cocks on here than ne

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"You are effectively sending an unsolicited message to someone. Like a pizza flyer coming through your door. The only luck element is timing, whether they open the flyer and want what’s on the menu at that moment.

The only thing you can have more control off is to ensure you have everything nailed down in terms of your message, profile and pics. Have all three right and you increase your chances of a response.

Love this answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no intention of meeting ever so 100% satisfaction.

I purposefully message women whose profiles dictate I'm not what they're looking for.

Oddly enough I get far more replies from them than I do in whose womens parameters I do fall.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My luck disappeared with my lucky coin and now deadwife won't give it back until I help her find her Shadow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None whatsoever

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By *yrshirelad5987Man
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

"Good things come to those who wait."

I must be due a lottery win, I've waited that long lol

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Luck has nothing to do with it!

It is a mindset...

If you are positive, Social and network through the online chat and forums you build up a personality.

You make your profile attractive and interesting ( Not about how you look. Just present it positively).

You gain interest. You are selective in messaging. You make it interesting.

And you don't use your privilege to expect anything in return.

That's when you become successful. That's when you get return messages. And that's when people want to meet you (post pandemic etc. Etc.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh while being back on this profile ive not messaged anyone apart from if its within a forum game. Or those i talk too regular.

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Pre COVID, loads, now not so much

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By *ack Door Dungeon MasterMan
over a year ago

ashford

Nun

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I rarely send a message on here and if I did it's because I found a great deal to interest me in her profile. I don't expect a reply or even to be read. If I am interested then plenty of others will be too and my message might be lost . Messaging was never the best way to meet suitable people. That was always the organised socials or at clubs. Neither of which are available so its more about chatting to existing swinger friends by other ways than fab messaging .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flirt and they disappear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually there is no such thing as luck

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By *oberts_onMan
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

"Evening to all you Gentlemen.

So my question to you is, how often do you have luck when you message someone you like on here ?

Zero luck at the moment... Dont even get my profile viewed!?

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Bedford

I have lots of luck

Most of it bad.

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By *r naughty1Man
over a year ago

Bexley

It's like the busses, nothing for ages then a few all at the same time

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By *ucchi85Man
over a year ago

London

Fab is a Candi shop for women us men just here in the shelf .. some of us are out of date some are best before me I think I must be a fisherman friend or Turkish delight no luck getting picked it's rare. Even tho I'm really a chocolate with whole nuts

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Some responses which have led to us becoming 'friends' but it's hard work. It's difficult to keep chat going when there are no meets to arrange and having to tread the fine line between being interested and a nuisance. What I have realised is that it's up to me to make the first move in messaging and be thick skinned in accepting that the majority will never be responded to however much effort I put it and instead celebrate the few contacts that I do make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Evening to all you Gentlemen.

So my question to you is, how often do you have luck when you message someone you like on here ?

I've had some success on here messaging people I like, however I tend to get chatting to them in the forums first before DMing anyone.

The random messaging of anyone "hot" is a total waste of time, you need to put some effort to stand a chance of starting a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never have any luck giving up slowly

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By *andyblokeMan
over a year ago

birmingham

Some lovely and funny replies on here. Personally... i do get some replies and as in life some lead to meets and lovely adventures. i know a lot of ladies get "how are you" messages. i never send those and never do cut n pastes, but lifes too short to worry about replies. Good luck all.

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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago

Northwich

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

On here: None so far.

In clubs, when they were still a thing: I was doing pretty okay, thank you very much.

Why I'm invisible on the internet but moderately successful in the flesh is a mystery I've never yet found a satisfactory answer for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have approximately... *rolls d20* four charisma, so not great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Luck" really?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"On here: None so far.

In clubs, when they were still a thing: I was doing pretty okay, thank you very much.

Why I'm invisible on the internet but moderately successful in the flesh is a mystery I've never yet found a satisfactory answer for. "

I think it's because people in clubs are more motivated to interact. They've gone out with the intention of at least socialising and a very different mind set.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"On here: None so far.

In clubs, when they were still a thing: I was doing pretty okay, thank you very much.

Why I'm invisible on the internet but moderately successful in the flesh is a mystery I've never yet found a satisfactory answer for. "

One day I hope you and I can have a couple of beers together, and share our Polar opposite swing lifestyle experiences

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By *ebel Red HotWoman
over a year ago

York

Some men are very successful but they are the ones who have worked fab out and concentrate on being interesting to others and intriguing with good profiles and interesting messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a fair bit of luck compared to a lot of single males on here

Just be true to yourself and you’ll get there x

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Bedford

"Some men are very successful but they are the ones who have worked fab out and concentrate on being interesting to others and intriguing with good profiles and interesting messages. "

And some of us just get lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've honestly stopped sending the first message altogether. I used to get disheartened when I put real effort into a good message after reading a profile and it was read and deleted or deleted regardless.

Now, I just contribute to the forums and put effort into my own profile and reply if messaged first

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By *eauNaturelMan
over a year ago

Malmesbury

I'm about 95% succesful at clubs and about 95% unsuccessful on Fab. So that's Fab is more for browsing than anything else.

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By *oberts_onMan
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

"I've honestly stopped sending the first message altogether. I used to get disheartened when I put real effort into a good message after reading a profile and it was read and deleted or deleted regardless.

Now, I just contribute to the forums and put effort into my own profile and reply if messaged first

Same here.... Dont even get anyone even view my profile...!!??

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By *hocCock1Man
over a year ago

Southampton

I rarely send out first messages, i just generally perv profiles and come on the forums, like it says in most couple profiles...."single guys if we need you we'll find you"

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Now, I just contribute to the forums and put effort into my own profile and reply if messaged first

Same here.... Dont even get anyone even view my profile...!!??"

You can't know that ..many women view profiles in "ninja" mode so as to prevent "I see you looked at my profile" messages.

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By *8v3nCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

"On here: None so far.

In clubs, when they were still a thing: I was doing pretty okay, thank you very much.

Why I'm invisible on the internet but moderately successful in the flesh is a mystery I've never yet found a satisfactory answer for. "
because everyone got same boobs, dicks, torso pictures here. In club however short meet is you can see other person action. Chat something reasonable. See if it clicks etc. That's at least for us.

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

I love to speak to someone on this site who has it so called

*Worked OUT* the people and what to say on here cause not everyone will be falling for the I worked out what to say tactics No ? Or am I wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be you and dont bust your ass to be something someone else wants you to be. I find you meet the right people that way. People who don't reply or are rude, their loss. Hang in there guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've given up with fems and couples on here sadly

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Downham Market

"I've honestly stopped sending the first message altogether."

Shame you're so far away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience there’s no real ‘secret’ to being successful on here.. just be yourself, be patient and have no expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a year on here..... I’m killing it.... meets 0 verifications 0 but as my friend above stated. No expectations...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am Not giving up , I get messages but not from those I like Back unfortunately , but I’ll keep waiting and sending out dms . Plus it’s a pandemic atm and am just waiting for am relaxed restrictions tbh

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Luck???

You make your own luck OP

Study the pics

Read the profile,

Compile a msg based on what you learned,

And most importantly be under no illusion you are not everyone's cup of tea,

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth (Mr R 12/06)

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth (Mr R 12/06)

9 times out of 10 guys that contact us haven't read our profile. Just make sure you've read peoples profiles properly to get a chance of reply.

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By *iscreet-is-paramountMan
over a year ago

cumbrai/lancs and beyond !

I had plenty when I joined yrs ago. Once you get past 40, it starts to dry up. People's attitudes have changed dramatically over the last 5 yrs. The ratio doesn't help. The 1st meet I ever had was a cpl and they contacted me. Imagine that ! Yes, it used to happen...

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I do ok thanks.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Leeds

The only thing you can have more control off is to ensure you have everything nailed down in terms of your message, profile and pics. Have all three right and you increase your chances of a response.

Love this answer

I completely agree with not checking sent messages. The moment you start to do that, Fab has chewed you up and spat you out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had no luck for many many years and I've given up trying

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Downham Market

"After a year on here..... I’m killing it.... meets 0 verifications 0 but as my friend above stated. No expectations... "

That'll be a year when no-one has been meeting due to Covid?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been here for a year now and even though I've exchanged a few messages with some of the ladies on here, none of them got sexual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had very little luck, very rarely get replies to messages, majority of the time they are just deleted

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By *tuYorksMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

None

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a year on here..... I’m killing it.... meets 0 verifications 0 but as my friend above stated. No expectations...

That'll be a year when no-one has been meeting due to Covid?"

True.. I would like to think that had some part to play but I understand I may not be everyone’s cuppa tea....

I’m secure enough in myself to know who I am what I want so I but I renew because I enjoy these forums lots of nice people. I also think that women on the main land seem to be more upfront I always get reserved measured interactions with women over here in Northern Ireland that ultimately burn out pretty quick...

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"I've had very little luck, very rarely get replies to messages, majority of the time they are just deleted"

This is 96% of the site lol

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

As a guy, pretty much non existent.

Stick a dress and and a bit of make up on though and that changes things a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last few days I've met a really nice person to chat to and is so sexy!!Hundreds of miles away and its and unlikely we will meet but its such a turn on the flirting the pics

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Bed waiting

"Evening to all you Gentlemen.

So my question to you is, how often do you have luck when you message someone you like on here ?

I would say I'm 60-40 forgetting a reply.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Evening to all you Gentlemen.

So my question to you is, how often do you have luck when you message someone you like on here ?

It's hit and miss but you always need to remember you're probably sandwiched between lots of other messages and it's a bit like having to do admin for some on here due to the hundreds or even thousands of messages to go through

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"Evening to all you Gentlemen.

So my question to you is, how often do you have luck when you message someone you like on here ?

If I send a message it’s about 50/50 of a conversation. However I’m not bothering at the moment as it’s covid and can’t meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve been lucky a few times.

I used to take offence by instant deletes but now I get how it works.

I think you’ve just got to appreciate it when you get a reply and take it from there.

I just need word to get out that I’m a 12” penis’d brad Pitt lookalike millionaire and I’ll be fine! "

My mrs hates big cocks and brad pitt so thats a nooooo lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t envy single men on here. As well as the usual difficulties, I can also be quite flippant and my desire to chat and tolerance of cheekiness changes depending on how I’m feeling, adding a further curveball.

So, sorry to all of you. And keep trying. If you’re genuine someone will reply to you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

66.6% of the time they reply with their address and pic of lubed up fanny ready for taking.

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By *he Jizz PlayerMan
over a year ago

Watford

Personally, I look at the meets page and read what what the OP is looking for. I then read their profile and if I think there are certain boxes to be ticked I write a considered reply offering a "pen portrait" of who I am, etc.

If they say "No" then that is their prerogative and I respectfully move on, usually saying thank you for replying and I hope you successfully find what you're looking for and have a good time.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

No such thing a luck, just perception.I don't expect anything back when I message, sometimes I get one or two word sentances, sometimes ok conversation and even had a couple of thank you messages for writing a decent and respectful message without showing my dic.

If I get no reply then I'm fine with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won a pound on a scratch card last time I bought one

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"I won a pound on a scratch card last time I bought one

My man

I know a few people who usually spend like 20 quid one them, at times they win or usually they get even, times they lose lol

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"I don’t envy single men on here. As well as the usual difficulties, I can also be quite flippant and my desire to chat and tolerance of cheekiness changes depending on how I’m feeling, adding a further curveball.

So, sorry to all of you. And keep trying. If you’re genuine someone will reply to you x"

Not all single men are bad or whatever you wish to put a word on it, some do take the time to read a profile, some dont, however cause of that one annoying guy the rest of the people shouldn't have to pay a price for it which is the case on here. But each to their own I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, sorry to all of you. And keep trying. If you’re genuine someone will reply to you x

If you were on the recieving end of the abuse some get on here for saying no thank you, or you are not what we are looking for ect then you would understand why lots of women and cpls get that way. I was a single on here years ago and did quite well. But times have changed on here. More guys get abusive thes days as they think joining fab guarantees a fuck. We have chatted to a few tidy guys on here one who we will be meeting when safe to do so. But we will stick to other cpls due to the abusive nature of certain guys who think they have a god given right to fuck women on here just because they joined a swinging site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve met some incredible women over the last 6-7 years on fab so I would consider it very successful. Is it easy on here ? No absolutely not, but you have to put the effort in and realise last like any social media platform/profile it will take time to build your contacts .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get alot of replys but they tend to be all talk and not genuine, mostly all they want is a few photos of what you've done with others or want you to tell them about fantasy's etc just so they can get off then they go silent and ignore you. 90% of the women in here are like that, very few genuine that actually want to get to know you or have a conversation

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By *atford69Man
over a year ago

Watford

Not much!

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By *sianMale890Man
over a year ago

Stockport

If I'm being brutally honest all my years being on here it's had its moments/ups and downs but I never really went around cold messaging random people tbh...

It's kind off I more either interacted with women/couples more face to face at swingers clubs or on chat rooms/forums but not so much anymore maybe here and there..

That being said for the most part I don't really message anyone and in return my inbox more or less remains empty with the once in a long while message but that's about it really...

Some things just aren't meant to be but who knows what the future holds really? it's more fun for me lurking in the background tbh

, but the once in a while thrill off someone I like feeling the same in return can be something else...

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

So, sorry to all of you. And keep trying. If you’re genuine someone will reply to you x

I don't get why people get abusive, there's no need for it. No one on here is entitled to anything and if they can't handle rejection then they definitely have issues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swings and round abouts. We can’t be everyone’s cup of tea. Read their profile and relate your massage to what they speak about. I find, taking that little extra time, shows interest and individuality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll let you know once I've messaged someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the bars and clubs were open (and when I was young enough to go to them) my straight mates would always get annoyed at me because I’d always end the night dancing incredibly inappropriately with some gorgeous woman, laughing our heads off and exchanging numbers. My mates would even say to me: “Go and get those two ladies to come and join us”. Fifteen minutes later, having fulfilled my duty, my mates would be trying all their best lines on the women and spectacularly failing and fucking up all of the groundwork I had so perfectly set.

Why was it that I was so good at this and my straight mates were so terrible? Simple. I wasn’t a threat. I wasn’t trying out corny lines, or asking them weird questions. I wasn’t showing any signs of sexual advances. There was never a sense of desperation in what I said, because I couldn’t care less if they spoke to me or not. I wasn’t trying to impress. I just did something to make them laugh and spoke to them naturally. They key was to be friendly and funny without trying to push for a specific outcome, and anything that naturally happens after that is a bonus. I’m sure many guys on this site already have that sussed, but it seems that there are so many men who are pushing their intentions onto others, and it always has to be a two-way street. So just go easy. If it happens, it happens. But if it doesn’t, that’s fine too. To get annoyed at that is almost like some weird egotism.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"On here: None so far.

In clubs, when they were still a thing: I was doing pretty okay, thank you very much.

Why I'm invisible on the internet but moderately successful in the flesh is a mystery I've never yet found a satisfactory answer for.

One day I hope you and I can have a couple of beers together, and share our Polar opposite swing lifestyle experiences

Let's just make sure we don't spend so much time talking to each other that you forget to speak to any ladies or couples!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"On here: None so far.

In clubs, when they were still a thing: I was doing pretty okay, thank you very much.

Why I'm invisible on the internet but moderately successful in the flesh is a mystery I've never yet found a satisfactory answer for.

One day I hope you and I can have a couple of beers together, and share our Polar opposite swing lifestyle experiences

Let's just make sure we don't spend so much time talking to each other that you forget to speak to any ladies or couples! "

Lmao! If we’re in a swingers club I’ll try to leave Harry Potter’s invisibility cloak at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When the bars and clubs were open (and when I was young enough to go to them) my straight mates would always get annoyed at me because I’d always end the night dancing incredibly inappropriately with some gorgeous woman, laughing our heads off and exchanging numbers. My mates would even say to me: “Go and get those two ladies to come and join us”. Fifteen minutes later, having fulfilled my duty, my mates would be trying all their best lines on the women and spectacularly failing and fucking up all of the groundwork I had so perfectly set.

I used the same approach as a single on here and did very well. Some guys just dont get it. The more pushy and desperate you become the more the women back off. Ffs guys just treat the women with respect, talk to them as you would to any stranger with respect and dignity. You wont believe the abuse even us cpls get for turning down the so called hot male guys who think they are doing us a favour by offering their services to fuxk my mrs. Some just ruin it for the rest. We blocked all single guys as we are only after other cpls but one local guy has shone through and we will meet him for a play when it is safe to do so. If only other guys acted like me and you they would get results. Most think that cos they joined a swinging site they were guaranteed a shag as they think all the women are sex starved nymphos. They then get a wake up call when they do their blunt and disrespectful messaging asking to meet for a fuck. Some men just will never get it, some will learn and get results.

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

more chance winning the lottery

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By *oroRick1027Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

I can't complain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NIL, but im a trier, i wont give up !!

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By *_DirectorMan
over a year ago

Middle of somewhere

Not a whole lot of luck to be honest ... met a few but Covid stopped it going further

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I stopped trying lol "

Persevere my friend,

If you’re going through hell, keep going. Never, never, never give up

..Winston Churchill

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By *hatawasteMan
over a year ago

stafford

"Evening to all you Gentlemen.

So my question to you is, how often do you have luck when you message someone you like on here?

You need to resign yourself to the plain truth that you are 1:100 ( ish) ratio of 'possibles' for a meet and half of the 'possibles' are part of a couple only looking for a lady ' unicorn' anyway! ..like most on here, I got very jaded and gave up too., Frankly getting lots and lots of rejections or having quite nicely written and a well-thought message deleted or ignored is soul-destroying and has a bit of an impact on your mental health. I wouldn't suggest you ask people ' what's wrong with my profile' either as a way to get some form of contact .. unless as JN said 'if you can't handle the truth!'

SO.. Unless you are super confident I'd lower your expectations. These are my views as a very ordinary bloke don't forget.. so don't let that stop you having a go yourself of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used the same approach as a single on here and did very well. Some guys just dont get it. The more pushy and desperate you become the more the women back off. Ffs guys just treat the women with respect, talk to them as you would to any stranger with respect and dignity. You wont believe the abuse even us cpls get for turning down the so called hot male guys who think they are doing us a favour by offering their services to fuxk my mrs. Some just ruin it for the rest. We blocked all single guys as we are only after other cpls but one local guy has shone through and we will meet him for a play when it is safe to do so. If only other guys acted like me and you they would get results. Most think that cos they joined a swinging site they were guaranteed a shag as they think all the women are sex starved nymphos. They then get a wake up call when they do their blunt and disrespectful messaging asking to meet for a fuck. Some men just will never get it, some will learn and get results. "

Totally agree! Well said, bud. The more you try and push your agenda onto someone, the more they will back away. It’s just common human behaviour.

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

I dont believe its got anything to do with joining a sex site and its a golden ticket to get a shag, its charm, bit of luck, and most of all approachable attitude you got to have to stand any chance.

Men do get the hump, just like women do here but for rightful reasons, but if your profile says anything along the lines of approach me with manners and respect and people do and they just ignore you still then obviously you get the hump, its like saying good morning to a neighbour or someone you know and they blank you, like any person would get bit pissy about it so I would say this works similar way.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Not much at all . But hopeful.

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"Not much at all . But hopeful.

That is the spirit

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Not much at all . But hopeful.

That is the spirit

Trying to keep the British end up.

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"Not much at all . But hopeful.

That is the spirit

Trying to keep the British end up.

You get lucky soon

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By *ack Door Dungeon MasterMan
over a year ago

ashford

"Good things come to those who wait."

How long??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've basically given up, especially with things being as they are now and nobody meeting. My messages usually don't even get read anyway, so I just wait and let others come to me."
Yes pretty much where I am at now, always take time to read profile and mention something from there to start a conversation and am always polite never send send cock pics but a face pic if asked for in profile, but most don't get read and the odd one that does never replies, so I've basically give up.

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"I've basically given up, especially with things being as they are now and nobody meeting. My messages usually don't even get read anyway, so I just wait and let others come to me.Yes pretty much where I am at now, always take time to read profile and mention something from there to start a conversation and am always polite never send send cock pics but a face pic if asked for in profile, but most don't get read and the odd one that does never replies, so I've basically give up. "

Keep doing what you are doing, but make sure the subject is an eye catcher.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

towcester

Its a bit of hit and miss really. I'm just happy to have a convo with most people really. Build a network of like-minded people. That sort of thing

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Been here for a year now and even though I've exchanged a few messages with some of the ladies on here, none of them got sexual"

None of the messages I exchange on here get sexual and I still meet people. Maybe that is your problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I won a pound on a scratch card last time I bought one

I bought another and didn’t win

... better luck next time hey

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By *on-snowedMan
over a year ago

harlow

Got a few amazing friends here already been lucky.

To be fair aint had much more than that.

Far to many more blokes on here than ladies.

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Most of the winks I get are from other men. I have to tell them ,not into single men just 3somes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a lot of luck, but got a reply or two,

The worst think is there mostly all profiles says read it first , u made the effort reading it whole taken only 10min to go through it, u think it’s a nice match, u send the message and nothing again

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By *on-snowedMan
over a year ago

harlow

"Not a lot of luck, but got a reply or two,

Try and witty status

Girls seem to reply more to them for me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm searching for a real sub set of Fab, kinky people and I've had some amazing conversations, some lovely socials and some mind blowing meets! As it was said earlier, the number of messages women get, its easy to be overlooked or missed etc etc

Its frustrating but replying politely only then to be abused for saying no, you can't blame people for not responding.

Back to the point, yes I've been very lucky on this site and hope to be so in the future

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

"Good things come to those who wait."

Very true x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Good things come to those who wait.

Very true x "

What are you waiting on? x

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I’m very unlucky. If I fell in a bucket of tits I’d come out sucking my thumb.

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"I’m very unlucky. If I fell in a bucket of tits I’d come out sucking my thumb.

Lmfao, classic

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"Not a lot of luck, but got a reply or two,

Can be annoying but hang in there.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Would say 25% lucky to get reply

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Would say 25% lucky to get reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say pretty lucky.

I’ve had replies from some gorgeous women.

Top tip for the gents.....don’t try so hard and just be talkative like you would in a bar pub club and remember to smile and put on a happy face.

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By *ax_uk_2009Man
over a year ago

Wilmslow

I have some great chat but ways with people miles away

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"I’d say pretty lucky.

I’ve had replies from some gorgeous women.

Top tip for the gents.....don’t try so hard and just be talkative like you would in a bar pub club and remember to smile and put on a happy face.

You said it dude

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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"I have some great chat but ways with people miles away"

It happens to me most of the time, but least we still get a conversation of some sort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With women, none

With men, more, but blokes being blokes, within 3 messages it's already descended into sex talk

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