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Are you less desirable if you don’t accommodate?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im posing this question, sorry if its been asked before, yes I know about current restrictions and covid and not meeting.

But for example you’re trying to get to know someone now for later, they tell you they don't accommodate. Do you keep talking as you’d still meet them regardless? Cool of until later comes (what if later is July????)? Sack them off, because you want to be able to be accommodated by them and they can’t/don’t/won’t.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone can accommodate, just not necessarily in their own home. There are other options, so no, I'd still get in touch and any meet would be based on desire rather than ease of accommodation.

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By *superfuse663Man
over a year ago

manchester

Wouldnt put me of. Can allways get to know each other a bit, have a social ect and then arrange a meet at a club or a hotel.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Everyone can accommodate, just not necessarily in their own home. There are other options, so no, I'd still get in touch and any meet would be based on desire rather than ease of accommodation."

Yes, desire and interest is much more important than distance or location , they are just the little details

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never accommodate under any circumstances. Not sure if it would put anyone off. Doesn’t put me off if other people can’t. I wouldn’t go to their house unless I knew them extremely well anyway x

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Everyone can accommodate, just not necessarily in their own home. There are other options, so no, I'd still get in touch and any meet would be based on desire rather than ease of accommodation.

Yes, desire and interest is much more important than distance or location , they are just the little details "

Agree.

If they've said from day one they don't accomodate it wouldnt be an issue.

I much prefer a day use hotel anyway.

Neutral ground.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet within 2 weeks of first chatting or not at all, so no I wouldn't wait.

I don't go to people's houses. Doesn't matter to me if they accommodate or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, I always arrange hotel stays when we could do that, be it day rooms or night away x

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I am not going to anyones house. Its always hotel or air bnb, preferably with a hot tub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet in hotels so wouldn’t matter to me

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Yes. Most of the men that message me expect me to accommodate.

Which I don’t.

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back

I can accommodate however i would never invite someone i didn't know to my home I'd be to tempted to tie them to the cross and never let them go seriously you wouldn't expect anyone to accommodate in there home without getting to know them and building trust first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I must be a bit of a cow. I straight delete anyone that says that can't accommodate 90% of the time.

Usually because to me it could well mean they are attached so it puts me off.

I'm well aware that kids, house shares, living with relatives or only meeting in clubs can be be reasons but I'd rather not take chances and find out later they had lied and were attached.

But even in saying that I just prefer it when it works both ways, you share the travel, swap round who's accommodating and it's not one sided or just one person's territory all the time. It's just a prefence at the end of the day for me.

I like to get out of my 4 walls. But I'd feel awful if they paid for a hotel all the time and wouldn't be comfortable with that either.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

i never had that issue because i can't accommodate

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I never accommodate due to a very nasty and scary experience. I am more than happy to book a hotel though and make that clear if I chose to meet someone.

It certainly wouldn't put me off if they couldn't/don't/won't either.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Doesnt bother me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet anyone in their home and won't accommodate either. I can't say it's ever been an issue.

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

My home is a space for me and my family. There's photos of my kids around and it would just be weird.

Also... I have a very protective German Shepherd... your shout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not going to anyones house. Its always hotel or air bnb, preferably with a hot tub "

There is a hotel in Chesterfield, called casa has hot tub on balcony of room

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

As I won’t play with “fab” singles ... a can’t accommodate would raise alarm bells .

If I’m satisfied that the reason is genuine then it’s not an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never ever been an issue

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By *inkyfilthymindMan
over a year ago

Heathrow / Berks

I can host only in hotels, it’s not a problem when we click and discuss meets. Over the years, I have had a few potentials withdraw as well.

Everyone’s got their priorities.

The funniest was someone who said that they are part of hotel industry and never considering meeting at hotels

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"My home is a space for me and my family. There's photos of my kids around and it would just be weird.

Also... I have a very protective German Shepherd... your shout "

I wanna come to your house!

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I never accommodate. I also never go to the home of someone I barely know.

If someone says on their profile they can't accommodate I generally want to know the reason why,if I think there's any chance they are attached then I end the conversation (unless they are a couple who play together of course).

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By *arbarianzCouple
over a year ago

BARNSTAPLE

Couples and women are welcome in my home, men less so! Hotel first, then if we trust them , maybe

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire


"My home is a space for me and my family. There's photos of my kids around and it would just be weird.

Also... I have a very protective German Shepherd... your shout

I wanna come to your house! "

Prepare to be LICKED to death!!!!

And I might not be talking about the dog...

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'm only looking for men who can accommodate, so it's a no thank you to anyone who can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My home is a space for me and my family. There's photos of my kids around and it would just be weird.

Also... I have a very protective German Shepherd... your shout "

Same goes for me.... I have two monster huskies, I can accommodate but prefer not to in case they take a dislike to the person.actually, being a naturist, its all about outdoors for me anyway so it really isn't an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't accom at mine

normally meet at hotels if a guy says he can't accom I wouldn't bother

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

It wouldn't stop me from meeting anyone if they couldn't accommodate but if anything regular came from it then it would make meeting up harder to do.

I can accommodate but would only do so if I felt I could trust that person.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Not if you're a woman. If you're a man, yes, possibly. Women don't tend to have their profile held up to such scrutiny.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Would put me of yes the people I've met from here for longish term f buddys have allways been able to accomadate as I cant x

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

We say we can’t accommodate because we don’t want our family life and swinging life to crossover. However, we would much rather meet in hotels until we get to know people.

Lou x

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By *palWoman
over a year ago

The Bermuda Triangle in Suffolk

It puts me off as I won't have hotel meets or club as an option.

With the situation as it is now I don't see it changing for at least 6-9 months, so if they can't accommodate but we strike up a good conversation chances are that either they or I will be bored or chat will just run dry anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a yurt with views over the Cairngorms, so this very much isn’t an issue.

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