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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can you tell when someone is telling fibs about their relationship status here?

Are you easily fooled or indifferent?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

easily fooled but getting better at detection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how skilled a liar they are. I've been fooled a couple of times, but others are screamingly obvious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"easily fooled but getting better at detection "

What are the red flags for you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends how skilled a liar they are. I've been fooled a couple of times, but others are screamingly obvious."

Skilled liars aren't as rare as I thought

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Never been fooled in 14 years

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

My senses are pretty sharp. It's rare I need to call anyone out though, I prefer to nurture a candid conversation

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends how skilled a liar they are. I've been fooled a couple of times, but others are screamingly obvious.

Skilled liars aren't as rare as I thought "

Agreed, it's always a shock when you realise somebody has managed to hoodwink you. I can't see myself letting my guard down enough to have a relationship for a looooooong time, if ever, because experience has jaded me somewhat.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Can you tell when someone is telling fibs about their relationship status here?

Are you easily fooled or indifferent?"

Mum always said to be a great liar you have to have an amazing memory.

I've had messages where they have forgot what they said previously, one was funny, couldn't meet because they had broken there collarbone on one arm which turned into a broken wrist on the other side over a week or so

I try to live by "If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything.”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alarm bells ring here quickly, but I rather enjoy letting them dig their hole!

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

Having lived a young life of being continuously lied to, a bullshit detector comes as second nature to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My senses have always been spot on, I know more than people think I do. On fab, there's obviously at a lot of fibbing going on but unless your looking to get into a relationship with them, doesn't really effect my life too much

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We’re usually right to trust our suspicions but we like to let them keep digging sometimes and enjoy the game.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My senses have always been spot on, I know more than people think I do. On fab, there's obviously at a lot of fibbing going on but unless your looking to get into a relationship with them, doesn't really effect my life too much "

It might affect you when the partner comes knocking at your door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My senses have always been spot on, I know more than people think I do. On fab, there's obviously at a lot of fibbing going on but unless your looking to get into a relationship with them, doesn't really effect my life too much

It might affect you when the partner comes knocking at your door."

I can't be held responsible for other people's life decisions. I don't seek out married people but im not naive to think everyone who tells me they are single actually are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends how skilled a liar they are. I've been fooled a couple of times, but others are screamingly obvious.

Skilled liars aren't as rare as I thought

Agreed, it's always a shock when you realise somebody has managed to hoodwink you. I can't see myself letting my guard down enough to have a relationship for a looooooong time, if ever, because experience has jaded me somewhat."

It's so easy to get jaded after being on sites like Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not easily fooled

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Can you tell when someone is telling fibs about their relationship status here?

Are you easily fooled or indifferent?"

I'm not indifferent but I don't know how I'd know if I was being fooled until I found out ifyswim.

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By *arbarianzCouple
over a year ago

BARNSTAPLE

Oh, it's not always so easy.

We had a chap who for 3-4 months was chatting to us, patient all through lockdown etc, comes to a couple of days before and I start to get weird juju. so dug into it and he confessed to being married probs around an hour before he was due!

Now, everyone has their own deal, that's on them. not us, we can only do our due diligence, but for us, if you are married and breaking THAT vow, it shows the level a couple can trust you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've often said that the truth is the first casualty of fab.

I've been on the receiving end of bulshit far too many times that it's made me quite cynical now, sadly. That's not something I want to be, and still remain optimistic. I can only be responsible for my truth, and be at the mercy of others.

Respect for the truth remains long after any pain it causes has subsided. Deception and deceit costs a lot more than just respect.

Due diligence. Always do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually get this weird feeling in my chest that makes me want to run when things don't measure up. I trust this feeling emphatically. But sometimes I have a bit of fun by asking questions that clearly establishes "I know"!

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

If there's not multiple picture of them both on a profile, we won't even entertain.

You're a package deal, no point if we don't fancy you both!

Help narrow things down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm quite astute, but certainly not immune to the shysters. I've been hurt several times.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I can’t tell and plenty of my Fab friends have been deceived at some point too, no matter how good they think they are.

Plenty of people are very good at telling lies, unfortunately

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

oh my radar very good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They tend not to hide it from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can normally tell within the first two messages eg.

Single female messages out of the blue and friends request you = guy sat wanking

Couple who cant accom or travel = couple wanking ..lol

Guy who wont send face pic and cant accom ,can only travel during daytime = married man

And the once who have never been verified but been on over a year with a holiday pic from the 90's = all the above ...lol

Hope that helps you guys and dont get us started on the new members whos just bored , also just wanking

X

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I normally get told pretty early on in the getting to know process, I have found a couple of pics that outed some but they were honest when asked

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I think there are always red flags, but sometimes we choose to ignore them ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think there are always red flags, but sometimes we choose to ignore them ..."

True

I've got to the point now where I assume everyone here is lying and that's pretty sad.

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By *essica FlabbitWoman
over a year ago

west midlands/shropshire

If I get a feeling I put their picture into Tin Eye and usulu I'm right

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire


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Couple who cant accom or travel = couple wanking ..lol

"

Or a couple with kids, commitments and busy schedules

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By *arbarianzCouple
over a year ago

BARNSTAPLE


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Or a couple with kids, commitments and busy schedules "

I don't think that's so bad is it? If anything that reads more like 'we can't do 15 min notice 'free now?' type shit

Though you are bang on for the first bit. we have had WAY WAY more couple messages since T started putting up pictures as well! live and learn! :D

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I normally get told pretty early on in the getting to know process, I have found a couple of pics that outed some but they were honest when asked "

Honest cheaters

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"I normally get told pretty early on in the getting to know process, I have found a couple of pics that outed some but they were honest when asked

Honest cheaters "

Yep

Tbf when I can clearly see the wedding ring whilst zooming on a pic they can't not admit it

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I'm normally very good at working out someone's relationship status and I ask them early on - they've always been honest from the get go. I wouldn't say I'm indifferent to it as such but I know the world is grey and complicated.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming


"You can normally tell within the first two messages eg.

Single female messages out of the blue and friends request you = guy sat wanking

Couple who cant accom or travel = couple wanking ..lol

Guy who wont send face pic and cant accom ,can only travel during daytime = married man

And the once who have never been verified but been on over a year with a holiday pic from the 90's = all the above ...lol

Hope that helps you guys and dont get us started on the new members whos just bored , also just wanking

X "

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'm usually quite able to suss people out, but have almost been caught out in the past, when I've asked and they've said their single, but aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined I was told ‘you’ll soon learn to spot cues of people who are lying’

Today I got a kik message from the spouse of a guy who had blatantly lied about his status to me. Luckily convo hadn’t got naughty.

Obviously detection must be an art form I have yet to master x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'm normally rather nasally sensitive to it.

My issue has been WANTING to believe in the past, so convincing myself what I had been told was true, especially when they backed it up with more bullshit.

Now if I'm suspicious I'm suspicious and goodbye.

Will I miss out on meets because of that? Course I will.

Will it impact my life and on my death bed I look back and think... "I should have trusted that man who set my spider sense tingling" ?

Will I fuck. I'll be thinking "ouch"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I can tell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, they’re moving their lips, ain’t that right ladies........ ladies, ah forget it!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Yeah, they’re moving their lips, ain’t that right ladies........ ladies, ah forget it! "

Naaaaa, it's when you see em thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends how skilled a liar they are. I've been fooled a couple of times, but others are screamingly obvious.

Skilled liars aren't as rare as I thought

Agreed, it's always a shock when you realise somebody has managed to hoodwink you. I can't see myself letting my guard down enough to have a relationship for a looooooong time, if ever, because experience has jaded me somewhat."

This.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Depends how skilled a liar they are. I've been fooled a couple of times, but others are screamingly obvious.

Skilled liars aren't as rare as I thought

Agreed, it's always a shock when you realise somebody has managed to hoodwink you. I can't see myself letting my guard down enough to have a relationship for a looooooong time, if ever, because experience has jaded me somewhat.

This."

This is me too.

People don't realise or care that it changes people on the inside, and how they experience their lives from that point on.

Cruel.

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

I always check the background in pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends

Pre covid was a lot easier to detect as its covid times my Married man detector is broken

It’s normally triggers by such things as can only meet week days during the day

Can’t meet weekends for xxxx reason

Can’t meet mid week after 6pm

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Men don’t think on their feet! Yes.... it’s fairly easy to spot a fibber

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Some are easier to spot than others

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

When just via message here, I'm probably not too good at realising, on the phone better, face to face its hard to get one past me.

Like most of us we live and learn from our lives and experiences dealt out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Backgrounds can say a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Backgrounds can say a lot "

Pity the poor single man that actually loves flowery duvet cover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are so many men on here...if I have any doubts at all...I just politely stop the conversation there and then. Both my dad and my step dad cheated on my mum so its a bit of a sore spot and I don't want to be involved in any drama or cause any broken families even though I know it would be the guys fault, not mine

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Backgrounds can say a lot

Pity the poor single man that actually loves flowery duvet cover "

I've seen a fair few of those

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I had some dialogue a while back with a lady on here. I was convinced it was a guy. A few red flags re the profile and messaging style. So I called “her” out on it. So confident I was right. I sent her my number and dated her to ring me.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

She did. To my amazement she was in fact a woman lol.

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By *exy Two-Shoes40Man
over a year ago

bolton

The wife gets the freedom to enjoy the company of the opposite sex. Many married women would like to enjoy the company of men other than their husbands, but they don’t get that chance. When a man allows his woman to be in the company of other men, she can enjoy that fresh kind of intimacy.

Even though the practice of wife-sharing seems to focus on the woman's sexuality, in my experience, it is almost always (perhaps 99% of the time) prompted by the husband's request. Wives simply do not often go to their husbands unprompted and request permission to have sex with other men, and certainly not in his own presence.

Hotwifing can help to rid the man of his feelings of jealousy, and when he gives his wife the freedom to be who she wants to be, she knows her husband has her best interests at heart, which helps her trust him more.

If you want to a happy, lasting relationship, you must ensure that you understand each other and also give each other the chance and freedom to bAs a man, you will feel that you actually have the hottest woman on earth, and it's every man's desire to have a woman who is another man's dream. Hotwifing gives men the perfect chance to appreciate how beautiful and desirable his woman is, which typically serves to increase both his love and respect for her yourselves.

When a woman knows that she has the support of her man to do whatever she desires, she feels great about herself, which helps to boost her own self-confidence.

me

I have been dating married women for over 2,5 years now, most of their men knew about it, which I find an extreme turn-on.

Although the men know about it, and enjoy it as much as the women do, I the men are into sharing their wives, which makes them a complete different type of "cuckold" in my opinion.

We're more of a "hotwife" couple, but L's long-time lover is good at humiliation when I'm in the mood for it. I think developing a relationship with the couple is so important. Knowing each of their fantasies and learning how they react to them when played out allows you to anticipate their reactions and how quickly you can gradually increase the humiliation

are coming to give his wife pleasure in a way he can't. He needs to show you proper appreciation. When a dog's Master arrives, the dog runs to the door wagging its tail. Your cuck needs to show how happy he is you're there to fuck his wife, and to have the pleasure of obeying you. Tell him each time he greets you, exactly what he should be wearing to the slightest detail (less is better since it makes him more vulnerable), optionally make him wear his chastity cage before you arrive, and how he should greet you (on his knees at your feet silently awaiting your first order is a good choice)

.I do like to think I'm also a considerate bull.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Backgrounds can say a lot

Pity the poor single man that actually loves flowery duvet cover

I've seen a fair few of those "

Yeah it’s a give away

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By *asilForty77Man
over a year ago

a hundred and sixty of us living in a small shoebox in the middle of the road

Liars usually trip up over their own lies you have have a great memory to be successful liar imo

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"easily fooled but getting better at detection

What are the red flags for you?"

Can tell instantly, red flags are the obvious ( in most cases through experiance) cannot accommodate, look at the back ground of their pics,and definatly asking if we do day time meets..and 90% of the time we are right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends how skilled a liar they are. I've been fooled a couple of times, but others are screamingly obvious."

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Backgrounds can say a lot

Pity the poor single man that actually loves flowery duvet cover

I've seen a fair few of those

Yeah it’s a give away "

Haha yes it really is - a background speaks a thousand words - maybe that's why there are so many floating cock pics

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