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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've seen a few forum posts recently about people suffering at the moment with their mental health. I posted this on one of them but thought it would be helpful to share to others who might need it right now.

Sorry to hear your struggling. Everyone's waiting lists are getting longer so unfortunately the waiting times are too. However, if you feel like you need to be seen now go back to your GP or call 111 and request to be seen by the crisis team.

If you feel like you can manage without seeing someone, go to Minds website, they have some great coping methods. In terms of daily help, you can do two things; do something creative and do some form of exercise. Doing one of these two things can benefit your mental health in a big way.

Finally, keep a journal, but keep two. One can be a place to put down your feelings/frustrations so they aren't taking over your thoughts. The second keep it positive, write down something good that happened that day and something you are grateful for. Its a way of acknowledging the good things that we all miss sometimes.

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Re posting this thread for anyone that needs it right now. Things are still pretty tough but we can finally see that light at the end of the tunnel. Please if your struggling, don't suffer alone in silence, talk to someone.

Hope your all okay lovelies and staying safe Big hugs to you all

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"I've seen a few forum posts recently about people suffering at the moment with their mental health. I posted this on one of them but thought it would be helpful to share to others who might need it right now.

Sorry to hear your struggling. Everyone's waiting lists are getting longer so unfortunately the waiting times are too. However, if you feel like you need to be seen now go back to your GP or call 111 and request to be seen by the crisis team.

If you feel like you can manage without seeing someone, go to Minds website, they have some great coping methods. In terms of daily help, you can do two things; do something creative and do some form of exercise. Doing one of these two things can benefit your mental health in a big way.

Finally, keep a journal, but keep two. One can be a place to put down your feelings/frustrations so they aren't taking over your thoughts. The second keep it positive, write down something good that happened that day and something you are grateful for. Its a way of acknowledging the good things that we all miss sometimes.

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together "

That's some good abvice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've seen a few forum posts recently about people suffering at the moment with their mental health. I posted this on one of them but thought it would be helpful to share to others who might need it right now.

Sorry to hear your struggling. Everyone's waiting lists are getting longer so unfortunately the waiting times are too. However, if you feel like you need to be seen now go back to your GP or call 111 and request to be seen by the crisis team.

If you feel like you can manage without seeing someone, go to Minds website, they have some great coping methods. In terms of daily help, you can do two things; do something creative and do some form of exercise. Doing one of these two things can benefit your mental health in a big way.

Finally, keep a journal, but keep two. One can be a place to put down your feelings/frustrations so they aren't taking over your thoughts. The second keep it positive, write down something good that happened that day and something you are grateful for. Its a way of acknowledging the good things that we all miss sometimes.

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

That's some good abvice"

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By *neeyedpirateMan
over a year ago

ask!

Massive fan of this post.

Anyone needing a chat drop me a message. Here for anyone anytime. Rather listen to someone that read about them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got to a point where my emotions have shut down. It's not the first time,I was told it's 'emotional overload'. I still care about people but otherwise.....

These threads are still a great support. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Massive fan of this post.

Anyone needing a chat drop me a message. Here for anyone anytime. Rather listen to someone that read about them "

Thank you for reaching out to people sweet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've got to a point where my emotions have shut down. It's not the first time,I was told it's 'emotional overload'. I still care about people but otherwise.....

These threads are still a great support. Thank you "

I totally get it, I got to that point too. Once that breaking point has been reached we can shut ourselves down emotionally. I promise you things do get better with a little help from looking after ourself and accepting help from others. My inbox is always open if you need anyone but please keep talking to people. Love and hugs to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got to a point where my emotions have shut down. It's not the first time,I was told it's 'emotional overload'. I still care about people but otherwise.....

These threads are still a great support. Thank you

I totally get it, I got to that point too. Once that breaking point has been reached we can shut ourselves down emotionally. I promise you things do get better with a little help from looking after ourself and accepting help from others. My inbox is always open if you need anyone but please keep talking to people. Love and hugs to you "

I totally agree with this 100% and the same goes for my inbox

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've got to a point where my emotions have shut down. It's not the first time,I was told it's 'emotional overload'. I still care about people but otherwise.....

These threads are still a great support. Thank you

I totally get it, I got to that point too. Once that breaking point has been reached we can shut ourselves down emotionally. I promise you things do get better with a little help from looking after ourself and accepting help from others. My inbox is always open if you need anyone but please keep talking to people. Love and hugs to you

I totally agree with this 100% and the same goes for my inbox "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen a few forum posts recently about people suffering at the moment with their mental health. I posted this on one of them but thought it would be helpful to share to others who might need it right now.

Sorry to hear your struggling. Everyone's waiting lists are getting longer so unfortunately the waiting times are too. However, if you feel like you need to be seen now go back to your GP or call 111 and request to be seen by the crisis team.

If you feel like you can manage without seeing someone, go to Minds website, they have some great coping methods. In terms of daily help, you can do two things; do something creative and do some form of exercise. Doing one of these two things can benefit your mental health in a big way.

Finally, keep a journal, but keep two. One can be a place to put down your feelings/frustrations so they aren't taking over your thoughts. The second keep it positive, write down something good that happened that day and something you are grateful for. Its a way of acknowledging the good things that we all miss sometimes.

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together "

Well done for posting this, good sound advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great Post feeling a bit low myself but I'm coping for now x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've seen a few forum posts recently about people suffering at the moment with their mental health. I posted this on one of them but thought it would be helpful to share to others who might need it right now.

Sorry to hear your struggling. Everyone's waiting lists are getting longer so unfortunately the waiting times are too. However, if you feel like you need to be seen now go back to your GP or call 111 and request to be seen by the crisis team.

If you feel like you can manage without seeing someone, go to Minds website, they have some great coping methods. In terms of daily help, you can do two things; do something creative and do some form of exercise. Doing one of these two things can benefit your mental health in a big way.

Finally, keep a journal, but keep two. One can be a place to put down your feelings/frustrations so they aren't taking over your thoughts. The second keep it positive, write down something good that happened that day and something you are grateful for. Its a way of acknowledging the good things that we all miss sometimes.

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Well done for posting this, good sound advice. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Great Post feeling a bit low myself but I'm coping for now x"

That's okay, we are all feeling a bit low right now just got to look after ourselves. Hope your okay lovely

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By *t9090Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

Yes to this! Msgs are open for anyone needing to talk

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By *iobhan123Woman
over a year ago

Deal


"I've seen a few forum posts recently about people suffering at the moment with their mental health. I posted this on one of them but thought it would be helpful to share to others who might need it right now.

Sorry to hear your struggling. Everyone's waiting lists are getting longer so unfortunately the waiting times are too. However, if you feel like you need to be seen now go back to your GP or call 111 and request to be seen by the crisis team.

If you feel like you can manage without seeing someone, go to Minds website, they have some great coping methods. In terms of daily help, you can do two things; do something creative and do some form of exercise. Doing one of these two things can benefit your mental health in a big way.

Finally, keep a journal, but keep two. One can be a place to put down your feelings/frustrations so they aren't taking over your thoughts. The second keep it positive, write down something good that happened that day and something you are grateful for. Its a way of acknowledging the good things that we all miss sometimes.

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Well done for posting this, good sound advice.

"

We are all so worried about the amount of people suffering with mental health issues, please contact your GP. Yes, we are very busy with the vaccine rollout on top of the day job, but are here to help, always.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes to this! Msgs are open for anyone needing to talk "

Thank you for reaching out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've seen a few forum posts recently about people suffering at the moment with their mental health. I posted this on one of them but thought it would be helpful to share to others who might need it right now.

Sorry to hear your struggling. Everyone's waiting lists are getting longer so unfortunately the waiting times are too. However, if you feel like you need to be seen now go back to your GP or call 111 and request to be seen by the crisis team.

If you feel like you can manage without seeing someone, go to Minds website, they have some great coping methods. In terms of daily help, you can do two things; do something creative and do some form of exercise. Doing one of these two things can benefit your mental health in a big way.

Finally, keep a journal, but keep two. One can be a place to put down your feelings/frustrations so they aren't taking over your thoughts. The second keep it positive, write down something good that happened that day and something you are grateful for. Its a way of acknowledging the good things that we all miss sometimes.

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Well done for posting this, good sound advice.

We are all so worried about the amount of people suffering with mental health issues, please contact your GP. Yes, we are very busy with the vaccine rollout on top of the day job, but are here to help, always.x"

Absolutely, people need to know there is somewhere there no matter what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got to a point where my emotions have shut down. It's not the first time,I was told it's 'emotional overload'. I still care about people but otherwise.....

These threads are still a great support. Thank you "

And that’s ok. It’s good to prioritise yourself when you feel like this.

Sending hugs. Inbox is open

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've got to a point where my emotions have shut down. It's not the first time,I was told it's 'emotional overload'. I still care about people but otherwise.....

These threads are still a great support. Thank you

And that’s ok. It’s good to prioritise yourself when you feel like this.

Sending hugs. Inbox is open "

100% agree, look after yourself always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got to a point where my emotions have shut down. It's not the first time,I was told it's 'emotional overload'. I still care about people but otherwise.....

These threads are still a great support. Thank you

And that’s ok. It’s good to prioritise yourself when you feel like this.

Sending hugs. Inbox is open

100% agree, look after yourself always "

I can never decide which analogy works best, but the fact is they both work

You cannot pour from an empty cup, you have to fill your own first

Or

You have to put your own oxygen mask on first, otherwise you die and you can’t help anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've got to a point where my emotions have shut down. It's not the first time,I was told it's 'emotional overload'. I still care about people but otherwise.....

These threads are still a great support. Thank you

And that’s ok. It’s good to prioritise yourself when you feel like this.

Sending hugs. Inbox is open

100% agree, look after yourself always

I can never decide which analogy works best, but the fact is they both work

You cannot pour from an empty cup, you have to fill your own first

Or

You have to put your own oxygen mask on first, otherwise you die and you can’t help anyone else.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got to a point where my emotions have shut down. It's not the first time,I was told it's 'emotional overload'. I still care about people but otherwise.....

These threads are still a great support. Thank you

And that’s ok. It’s good to prioritise yourself when you feel like this.

Sending hugs. Inbox is open

100% agree, look after yourself always

I can never decide which analogy works best, but the fact is they both work

You cannot pour from an empty cup, you have to fill your own first

Or

You have to put your own oxygen mask on first, otherwise you die and you can’t help anyone else.

"

I’ve just realised this sounds awful.

I need to edit it to,

You have to put your own mask on first, so you can help others too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've got to a point where my emotions have shut down. It's not the first time,I was told it's 'emotional overload'. I still care about people but otherwise.....

These threads are still a great support. Thank you

And that’s ok. It’s good to prioritise yourself when you feel like this.

Sending hugs. Inbox is open

100% agree, look after yourself always

I can never decide which analogy works best, but the fact is they both work

You cannot pour from an empty cup, you have to fill your own first

Or

You have to put your own oxygen mask on first, otherwise you die and you can’t help anyone else.

I’ve just realised this sounds awful.

I need to edit it to,

You have to put your own mask on first, so you can help others too "

Not at all, we know what you mean lovely

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Xxx

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By *arbarianzCouple
over a year ago

BARNSTAPLE

Same as others here, T/K have been through their share of shit through the years, we've been on all the meds, tried all the various methods etc

If anyone wishes to reach out for a non judgemental chat about something feel free! (just please put something in the title so we know its not a standard message!)

happy to chat to anyone and T will even take a photo of him pulling a funny face to make your day better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got to a point where my emotions have shut down. It's not the first time,I was told it's 'emotional overload'. I still care about people but otherwise.....

These threads are still a great support. Thank you

And that’s ok. It’s good to prioritise yourself when you feel like this.

Sending hugs. Inbox is open

100% agree, look after yourself always

I can never decide which analogy works best, but the fact is they both work

You cannot pour from an empty cup, you have to fill your own first

Or

You have to put your own oxygen mask on first, otherwise you die and you can’t help anyone else.

I’ve just realised this sounds awful.

I need to edit it to,

You have to put your own mask on first, so you can help others too

Not at all, we know what you mean lovely "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Xxx"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Same as others here, T/K have been through their share of shit through the years, we've been on all the meds, tried all the various methods etc

If anyone wishes to reach out for a non judgemental chat about something feel free! (just please put something in the title so we know its not a standard message!)

happy to chat to anyone and T will even take a photo of him pulling a funny face to make your day better. "

Thank you for reaching out to people lovelies

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I have to say, I really detest that phrase. I'm not ok and it's not ok.

In order for me to exercise, start a project, write a journal (none of which I actually enjoy) I need to have the motivation and good mental health to do it and the thought of forcing myself to do something in the hope of it improving my state of mind, makes me want to hide from everything.

Singing in a choir, camping with my grandchildren or simply being in the same room as them, drinking coffee and watching the world go by, cooking in a field with friends are all the things that would make my heart sing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to say, I really detest that phrase. I'm not ok and it's not ok.

In order for me to exercise, start a project, write a journal (none of which I actually enjoy) I need to have the motivation and good mental health to do it and the thought of forcing myself to do something in the hope of it improving my state of mind, makes me want to hide from everything.

Singing in a choir, camping with my grandchildren or simply being in the same room as them, drinking coffee and watching the world go by, cooking in a field with friends are all the things that would make my heart sing."

It's just a little advice that I found has helped me. Of course it's not going to work for everyone and that's okay. We can't do the things that make us truely happy right now but we can look after ourselves in the meantime.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I have to say, I really detest that phrase. I'm not ok and it's not ok.

In order for me to exercise, start a project, write a journal (none of which I actually enjoy) I need to have the motivation and good mental health to do it and the thought of forcing myself to do something in the hope of it improving my state of mind, makes me want to hide from everything.

Singing in a choir, camping with my grandchildren or simply being in the same room as them, drinking coffee and watching the world go by, cooking in a field with friends are all the things that would make my heart sing.

It's just a little advice that I found has helped me. Of course it's not going to work for everyone and that's okay. We can't do the things that make us truely happy right now but we can look after ourselves in the meantime."

How? By doing what? Looking after oneself requires a mental state that I've not been in for a while and there are plenty just like me.

I go to work, feed myself and keep myself clean because that's all I'm mentally capable of and I have no choice. I'm utterly fucking miserable and really suffering with no hope in sight. I've given up planning anything because it's always snatched away from me.

My life is just barely existence and talking about it, even if I were capable, achieves absolutely nothing.

Not being happy because our choices are limited and suffering from a mental health condition are two vastly different things.

I know you mean well, I really do,but it's like being slapped every time I hear that phrase. True poor mental health is way beyond going for a walk, having a bubble bath, doing your nails and face timing a loved one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to say, I really detest that phrase. I'm not ok and it's not ok.

In order for me to exercise, start a project, write a journal (none of which I actually enjoy) I need to have the motivation and good mental health to do it and the thought of forcing myself to do something in the hope of it improving my state of mind, makes me want to hide from everything.

Singing in a choir, camping with my grandchildren or simply being in the same room as them, drinking coffee and watching the world go by, cooking in a field with friends are all the things that would make my heart sing.

It's just a little advice that I found has helped me. Of course it's not going to work for everyone and that's okay. We can't do the things that make us truely happy right now but we can look after ourselves in the meantime.

How? By doing what? Looking after oneself requires a mental state that I've not been in for a while and there are plenty just like me.

I go to work, feed myself and keep myself clean because that's all I'm mentally capable of and I have no choice. I'm utterly fucking miserable and really suffering with no hope in sight. I've given up planning anything because it's always snatched away from me.

My life is just barely existence and talking about it, even if I were capable, achieves absolutely nothing.

Not being happy because our choices are limited and suffering from a mental health condition are two vastly different things.

I know you mean well, I really do,but it's like being slapped every time I hear that phrase. True poor mental health is way beyond going for a walk, having a bubble bath, doing your nails and face timing a loved one.

"

Im sorry if this post has upset you or offended you in any way. I understand mental health conditions more than you will ever know and im just about holding on myself somedays. There isn't a simple solution, it takes time and it took ever bit of strength I had to claw myself out of the hole I was in. There's so many people that feel ashamed or are scared to admit they are struggling, that's what I mean by the phrase.. it's about letting people know its ok to break down, its ok to feel sad and its ok to tell people how you feel. I hope you get the help you need, I really do

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