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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have spent loads on sexy outfits and underwear for our meets, as it makes me feel good about myself. But !! is it worth it when the guy that you are with just wants everything off and on the floor and dosn't even look or say anything.

I just wondered if any of you ladies dress for your meets or do you not bother !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it makes you feel better about yourself and sexier than you otherwise would, then yes most definately

the gent might not get the benefit of the visual, but he will undoubtedly get the benefit of your sexual confidence as a result !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if it makes you feel better about yourself and sexier than you otherwise would, then yes most definately

the gent might not get the benefit of the visual, but he will undoubtedly get the benefit of your sexual confidence as a result !"

Thank you

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"I have spent loads on sexy outfits and underwear for our meets, as it makes me feel good about myself. But !! is it worth it when the guy that you are with just wants everything off and on the floor and dosn't even look or say anything.

I just wondered if any of you ladies dress for your meets or do you not bother !! "

To be honest I dress for me, not them.

I've had guys who loved to see me dressed and have even requested I keep them on. Also guys who though appreciative prefer me naked.

One guy who was used to seeing me in lingerie was horrified to see me in just a towel at a club and let me know in no uncertain terms.

But as I said I dress for me, if the guy likes it then thats a bonus

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"if it makes you feel better about yourself and sexier than you otherwise would, then yes most definately

the gent might not get the benefit of the visual, but he will undoubtedly get the benefit of your sexual confidence as a result !"

or what he said, the smart arse

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have spent loads on sexy outfits and underwear for our meets, as it makes me feel good about myself. But !! is it worth it when the guy that you are with just wants everything off and on the floor and dosn't even look or say anything.

I just wondered if any of you ladies dress for your meets or do you not bother !!

To be honest I dress for me, not them.

I've had guys who loved to see me dressed and have even requested I keep them on. Also guys who though appreciative prefer me naked.

One guy who was used to seeing me in lingerie was horrified to see me in just a towel at a club and let me know in no uncertain terms.

But as I said I dress for me, if the guy likes it then thats a bonus "

I am still quite new to all this, but when we have our meet this evening i will do just that.... Dress for me, Thanks

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"if it makes you feel better about yourself and sexier than you otherwise would, then yes most definately

the gent might not get the benefit of the visual, but he will undoubtedly get the benefit of your sexual confidence as a result !"

Well said that man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a sexy outfit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if it makes you feel better about yourself and sexier than you otherwise would, then yes most definately

the gent might not get the benefit of the visual, but he will undoubtedly get the benefit of your sexual confidence as a result !

Well said that man! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always dress up, but I echo the sentiment that I do it for me. As soon as I slip on a basque and some sex-shoes, then I instantly feel sexy.

Hotter I feel, then the more confident I am. Plus, no-one wants to turn up looking like they've just been to Asda.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always dress as sexy as possible - and yes it's for me aswell as the male or female we are meeting . It makes me feel more confident and my partner loves it too !

Wouldn't dream of a club night or meet without the outfit of my choice lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends I quite like answering the door in just a towel and a smile x all showered fresh of course x I do make the effort if I am going out though x

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By *er himWoman
over a year ago

Essex

As a side to this question...what would people feel if we said that we like to all shower, may be two at a time before we played....We are a clean couple and do only play with clean a nice smeeling people.

Its just a question as to whether it would put people off especially as the Fems had gone to so much effort and for him he loves a sexy outfit to find as you undress each other...en are visual beings.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a side to this question...what would people feel if we said that we like to all shower, may be two at a time before we played....We are a clean couple and do only play with clean a nice smeeling people.

Its just a question as to whether it would put people off especially as the Fems had gone to so much effort and for him he loves a sexy outfit to find as you undress each other...en are visual beings."

Maybe getting in the shower and having his hands slide all over you and then being laid back and had from all angles while wet...... now there's a thought and Porks shower is a two person as well....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a side to this question...what would people feel if we said that we like to all shower, may be two at a time before we played....We are a clean couple and do only play with clean a nice smeeling people.

Its just a question as to whether it would put people off especially as the Fems had gone to so much effort and for him he loves a sexy outfit to find as you undress each other...en are visual beings."

If it was an upfront request, that meant a meet would happen or it wouldn't then I would decline - as I feel it would be like you were questioning both my cleanliness and how I respect who I play with.

If however it was hinted at that you liked shower fun and there was nothing hornier for you than jumping in the shower and getting all soaped up, then I'd probably join in.

It's all a matter of how you phrase it and how you mould it in with your play.

That, of course, is from a male perspective and at that, one that ( despite my tummy and build) has few self confidence issues and doesn't take the whole meet thing too seriously.

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By *er himWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Was just a thought as we mainly travel to meet people usally neutral for a drink first just to make sure everyone is ok. But in this hot weather it can be that we might like to cool off and shower ridding of the travel sweat etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was just a thought as we mainly travel to meet people usally neutral for a drink first just to make sure everyone is ok. But in this hot weather it can be that we might like to cool off and shower ridding of the travel sweat etc."

i have, in the past, asked people to take a shower before playing

if they are bobbing round from work etc i think it's only fair that they are as fresh as i would be

even with established partners i feel uncomfortable playing unless i've showered in the last hour or so

feeling clean in myself has got to be part of the proceedings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was just a thought as we mainly travel to meet people usally neutral for a drink first just to make sure everyone is ok. But in this hot weather it can be that we might like to cool off and shower ridding of the travel sweat etc."

It would depend how far we had travelled and / or how sweaty we were . If we felt it necessary of course we would happily shower before playing - however , and this is the second time we have been on here , if we were asked to shower by our meet and we felt it unnecessary it would be a sharp exit - that's just rude !

As a footnote we have yet to be asked , thank goodness !

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I have spent loads on sexy outfits and underwear for our meets, as it makes me feel good about myself. But !! is it worth it when the guy that you are with just wants everything off and on the floor and dosn't even look or say anything.

I just wondered if any of you ladies dress for your meets or do you not bother !! "
If it 8makes you confident,sexy and gives his/her urge a surge then yes its worth it

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I have to dress up for work a lot of the time, so when going for meets I love being more casual including wearing tight jeans teamed with a basque like top or low cut blouse sometimes. That does not mean not making an effort though and I think whatever makes YOU feel sexy and confident has got to be the right choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if it makes you feel better about yourself and sexier than you otherwise would, then yes most definately

the gent might not get the benefit of the visual, but he will undoubtedly get the benefit of your sexual confidence as a result !"

What he said!

I dress mostly for me but I like to find out what the other person likes too and adapt accordingly. I have bought outfits specifically for meets and they have worked brilliantly.

So it's all part of the fun. For me, the meet starts during the planning/ getting ready and builds up from there. Then when it's time for the 'main event' it's fireworks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always take a couple of outfits with me,but they never stay on long...but i do like to dress for sex and love other women in sexy lingerie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have spent loads on sexy outfits and underwear for our meets, as it makes me feel good about myself. But !! is it worth it when the guy that you are with just wants everything off and on the floor and dosn't even look or say anything.

I just wondered if any of you ladies dress for your meets or do you not bother !! "

Some of us notice but wouldn't want to damage such nice lingerie

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Always take a couple of outfits with me,but they never stay on long...but i do like to dress for sex and love other women in sexy lingerie."
Actually, that is a good idea and I often have spare things to wear - depending on how the evening evolves. I was more referring to the initial meeting earlier. Always useful to have sexy alternatives

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By *omnlynneCouple
over a year ago

milton keynes

if you want to come model for us we will happily await you in whatever outfit you choose to display before getting it off to the floor lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always travel with a bag of lingerie, corsets etc. Depends on what I feel like wearing when the time comes.

Sometimes I just greet them with a smile and a glass of champagne but run a tub full of bubbles for us both to slip into and carry on sipping as we soak and lather up together.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Always get dressed up(or down as the case may be) as i always meet at home its ok to answer the door in a babydoll and stockings. I wear the same sort of thing if im going to chams. Sometimes i may leave the stockings off. But i dont wear to much makeup, but it always takes me ages to decide which perfume im going to wear

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