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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi sorry for boring thread. But a few women have been put off because I haven’t met anyone. But I simply Havnt coz not got to that level and I’m not desperate. Any advice?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Wait till after lockdown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really go by verifications except to prove the person is who they say they are, as I find it doesn't really tell me anything other than they have met others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't really go by verifications except to prove the person is who they say they are, as I find it doesn't really tell me anything other than they have met others."
. Exactly but a lot do go by it. Also couldn’t anyone verify anyone if they wanted or give reviews!!! Last rant- also I didn’t think meeting loads women would be better than having standards and picky lol. I’m not bitter haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wait till after lockdown "
definitely. But meets all start with a simple hello

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Wait till after lockdown definitely. But meets all start with a simple hello "

Yeah I know and you will meet soon so just wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really go by verifications except to prove the person is who they say they are, as I find it doesn't really tell me anything other than they have met others.. Exactly but a lot do go by it. Also couldn’t anyone verify anyone if they wanted or give reviews!!! Last rant- also I didn’t think meeting loads women would be better than having standards and picky lol. I’m not bitter haha"

It's not about having standards or being picky because what you have to remember is lots of people have loads of verifications because they go to parties, clubs and socials

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't really go by verifications except to prove the person is who they say they are, as I find it doesn't really tell me anything other than they have met others.. Exactly but a lot do go by it. Also couldn’t anyone verify anyone if they wanted or give reviews!!! Last rant- also I didn’t think meeting loads women would be better than having standards and picky lol. I’m not bitter haha

It's not about having standards or being picky because what you have to remember is lots of people have loads of verifications because they go to parties, clubs and socials"
. I understand that, but how can I even get invited to these events and socialise etc if I’m not getting even looked at..? There’s so many men, and I’m average looking so it’s difficult lol. Don’t worry I’m just feeling sorry for myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really go by verifications except to prove the person is who they say they are, as I find it doesn't really tell me anything other than they have met others.. Exactly but a lot do go by it. Also couldn’t anyone verify anyone if they wanted or give reviews!!! Last rant- also I didn’t think meeting loads women would be better than having standards and picky lol. I’m not bitter haha

It's not about having standards or being picky because what you have to remember is lots of people have loads of verifications because they go to parties, clubs and socials. I understand that, but how can I even get invited to these events and socialise etc if I’m not getting even looked at..? There’s so many men, and I’m average looking so it’s difficult lol. Don’t worry I’m just feeling sorry for myself "

Now is not a time when people are looking on the whole to make connections with new people.

It might be worth once they are back up and running going to a local social.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't really go by verifications except to prove the person is who they say they are, as I find it doesn't really tell me anything other than they have met others.. Exactly but a lot do go by it. Also couldn’t anyone verify anyone if they wanted or give reviews!!! Last rant- also I didn’t think meeting loads women would be better than having standards and picky lol. I’m not bitter haha

It's not about having standards or being picky because what you have to remember is lots of people have loads of verifications because they go to parties, clubs and socials. I understand that, but how can I even get invited to these events and socialise etc if I’m not getting even looked at..? There’s so many men, and I’m average looking so it’s difficult lol. Don’t worry I’m just feeling sorry for myself

Now is not a time when people are looking on the whole to make connections with new people.

It might be worth once they are back up and running going to a local social. "
. Fair enough, I also thought ppl might have more time to message as a lot off work. Yea when all is normal il look into places. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really go by verifications except to prove the person is who they say they are, as I find it doesn't really tell me anything other than they have met others.. Exactly but a lot do go by it. Also couldn’t anyone verify anyone if they wanted or give reviews!!! Last rant- also I didn’t think meeting loads women would be better than having standards and picky lol. I’m not bitter haha

It's not about having standards or being picky because what you have to remember is lots of people have loads of verifications because they go to parties, clubs and socials. I understand that, but how can I even get invited to these events and socialise etc if I’m not getting even looked at..? There’s so many men, and I’m average looking so it’s difficult lol. Don’t worry I’m just feeling sorry for myself

Now is not a time when people are looking on the whole to make connections with new people.

It might be worth once they are back up and running going to a local social. . Fair enough, I also thought ppl might have more time to message as a lot off work. Yea when all is normal il look into places. Thanks "

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi sorry for boring thread. But a few women have been put off because I haven’t met anyone. But I simply Havnt coz not got to that level and I’m not desperate. Any advice?"

You can’t prove that you aren’t time wasting I guess (I’ve met guys who were deffo who they said they were in the profile tho ended up time wasting for a reason or the other), but to prove it’s definitely you, Kik is great as you can take a pic with ur camera and when you send it says it is from camera which means it’s definitely taken live.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi sorry for boring thread. But a few women have been put off because I haven’t met anyone. But I simply Havnt coz not got to that level and I’m not desperate. Any advice?

You can’t prove that you aren’t time wasting I guess (I’ve met guys who were deffo who they said they were in the profile tho ended up time wasting for a reason or the other), but to prove it’s definitely you, Kik is great as you can take a pic with ur camera and when you send it says it is from camera which means it’s definitely taken live. "
thank you very much. Your the 4th or so person who has mentioned kik. Il download tomo. I’ve also just found out a video call etc can be a verification. I always thought it was only a meet in person x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi sorry for boring thread. But a few women have been put off because I haven’t met anyone. But I simply Havnt coz not got to that level and I’m not desperate. Any advice?

You can’t prove that you aren’t time wasting I guess (I’ve met guys who were deffo who they said they were in the profile tho ended up time wasting for a reason or the other), but to prove it’s definitely you, Kik is great as you can take a pic with ur camera and when you send it says it is from camera which means it’s definitely taken live. thank you very much. Your the 4th or so person who has mentioned kik. Il download tomo. I’ve also just found out a video call etc can be a verification. I always thought it was only a meet in person x"

No , just a vid call/pic that is sent live is enough to be verified. Obviously u might not be getting a full review that people get from meeting but yeah

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi sorry for boring thread. But a few women have been put off because I haven’t met anyone. But I simply Havnt coz not got to that level and I’m not desperate. Any advice?

You can’t prove that you aren’t time wasting I guess (I’ve met guys who were deffo who they said they were in the profile tho ended up time wasting for a reason or the other), but to prove it’s definitely you, Kik is great as you can take a pic with ur camera and when you send it says it is from camera which means it’s definitely taken live. thank you very much. Your the 4th or so person who has mentioned kik. Il download tomo. I’ve also just found out a video call etc can be a verification. I always thought it was only a meet in person x

No , just a vid call/pic that is sent live is enough to be verified. Obviously u might not be getting a full review that people get from meeting but yeah "
anything is better than currently lol. Il add more to my bio too and photos. So many guys it seems. So I need to up my game lol

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Hi sorry for boring thread. But a few women have been put off because I haven’t met anyone. But I simply Havnt coz not got to that level and I’m not desperate. Any advice?"

OP...according to your profile, you have been here for over a year. You have posted pics.

Surely you can see the bit about pic verification? You can also get verified via cam rooms. It just takes a little effort..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The bit about the female on your profile will put many off. A lot of members are using the forum or cams atm and not chatting because a meet is quite a long way off atm. You will probably get more luck chatting when the restrictions lift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really go by verifications except to prove the person is who they say they are, as I find it doesn't really tell me anything other than they have met others."

^^^^^^^^^ Jeez and I always go by verifications...some veris can tell you alot about a potential meet & also the type of people they have met... I'm not being judgemental but on account of some of the peeps some guys have met it put me totally off meeting them when I was so close to before Lockdown.

OP maybe try and get a cam verification by going live in the chatrooms

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By *lint-EverhardMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

I'd second that, maybe a cam verification first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies. Better get a haircut and shave lol

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"I'd second that, maybe a cam verification first."

Just to prove that you are as your pic.

If you want to keep fabs in fabs, the chat room is a nice place to chat, have a good time and get verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forum and cams xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to suggest getting photo-verified, but looking at your profile I can see you already are.

Reading through your comments on here, you seem articulate and intelligent. Your profile looks good, you look good, I don't really see what the problem could be.

Right now though, you've got the added hurdle that people create, of having been on here over a year without being verified. There's a lot of folk who take that as yet another sign of being a time waster.

Never mind catch 22, it's like catch 44!

Good luck.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was going to suggest getting photo-verified, but looking at your profile I can see you already are.

Reading through your comments on here, you seem articulate and intelligent. Your profile looks good, you look good, I don't really see what the problem could be.

Right now though, you've got the added hurdle that people create, of having been on here over a year without being verified. There's a lot of folk who take that as yet another sign of being a time waster.

Never mind catch 22, it's like catch 44!

Good luck.x"
thanks I appreciate it. I joined and literally never used. Only recently used properly. Also if I had met some of my offers it would show I’ve met woman. But surely It’s a better trait to know my standards. Anyway next week or whoever I talk more to il video call. Maybe you could help lol

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

You'll do fine on here op, you've started to join in with the forum, most will believe you're 'real' - sick to your game plan, don't get verified for the sake of it, you just need a few more months of patience

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You'll do fine on here op, you've started to join in with the forum, most will believe you're 'real' - sick to your game plan, don't get verified for the sake of it, you just need a few more months of patience "
thanks x

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

Snapchat and use it to video call is a great way to get verified

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There are other ways to give people a good indication you're genuine without the need for a verification - simply chatting to people without making it about sex, or even meeting, initially can build up a level of trust and interest, not to mention a connection and chemistry if one is there - likewise being active in the forums, which is also a great way to spark those conversations.

Also other small touches like regularly posting pics and expanding your profile can help in a small way.

To be honest whilst a webcam veri might be "useful" for a bloke it doesn't really count for a lot more than a picture veri in my view - basically says "yep he's a bloke" - there aren't many women who pose as men, which is why a webcam veri is more useful the other way round.

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