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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No there isn't. Click bait crap. Got your attention.

Do you appreciate being named in public? Few recent posts made me think its not always something desirable or appreciated.

On the other hand, it must warm your heart seeing your name popping on secret service, birthday thread or whilst passing compliments. Does it though? Or you want to keep it all private and 1:1? Does it bother you if someone you are close to privately does not engage with you on the forum? And other way round, someone on your friend list who makes you wait for ages for a message but happily engages in a banter on here? Too many questions.

Off to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. Too many questions

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Mine never is. Although I did one time spot someone’s status asking me to message them. I didn’t. They were much too young

V x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep. Too many questions "

Noraaaaa don't be like that. Some of my usual verbal diarrhoea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not precious either way to be fair.. enjoy chatting on here or 1:1.

the one thing I will say for the forum is I have discovered and chatted to some brilliant people on here (even just chatting beans on the nocturnal thread for example!) that I wouldn't otherwise have come across... using the location feature on the main page there don't seem to be many people who I would start chatting with anywhere near me, which is a bit weird!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Extra thought.

Maybe it doesn't concern you at all! Meh. Who cares either way..sort of thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope to all lol dose not bother me one bit

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Didn't even cross my mind

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Yep. Too many questions

Noraaaaa don't be like that. Some of my usual verbal diarrhoea "

Aww I think it's great! More navel gazing threads please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Estragon

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Didn't even cross my mind "

This is thread for ovethinkers clearly

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By *nto My ArmsMan
over a year ago

Herts/London

There is only one thing in the world worse than being talked about...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The few times my names mentained on a thread does bring a smile to my face

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Estragon"

How dare you

It was supposed to be name free.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

I have a habit of not returning to threads often once I've commented, so don't really bother with the secret message threads and i tend to get lovely PM's of the back of the threads I've commented on instead

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is only one thing in the world worse than being talked about... "

Great point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep. Too many questions

Noraaaaa don't be like that. Some of my usual verbal diarrhoea "

Seriously though. I’ve had a few threads made about me in the past and I absolutely cringe. I never know what to say. Being mentioned in a thread is always nice though like the secret service one etc.

I have to admit I rarely look at who posts a thread, if it interests me I join in and I interact with everyone really regardless of whether they’re friends or not. I hope I do anyway!

Now I can’t see the thread to see what other things you asked without starting again! haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just scrolling through to see if I got a mention.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Off with you all needy people.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"I have a habit of not returning to threads often once I've commented, so don't really bother with the secret message threads and i tend to get lovely PM's of the back of the threads I've commented on instead "

Oh gosh that’s very disciplined. I’m always hoping someone has replied

V x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mine never is. Although I did one time spot someone’s status asking me to message them. I didn’t. They were much too young

V x "

It's hard to pick whether it's cute or creepy a little

Still. You were important to them!

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

At the moment prefer to have general interaction in the forums but still keep in contact with regular chat friends on PM as its nice to talk, it helps a lot for folk to.know we are there, especially so at the moment.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I appreciate it when people reference me in some way, good or bad, and if it's a compliment take it as such BUT I also find it very awkward, as I don't particularly think I'm anything special or merit special mention over and above others.

There are lots of good and decent people here and the forums are made by the whole and not individuals - it's why when those "appreciation threads" were all the rage a year ago I picked "All Of You" as my recipient of appreciation.

Of course it depends on the context too, but mostly I find it very awkward when I'm singled out publically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep. Too many questions

Noraaaaa don't be like that. Some of my usual verbal diarrhoea

Seriously though. I’ve had a few threads made about me in the past and I absolutely cringe. I never know what to say. Being mentioned in a thread is always nice though like the secret service one etc.

I have to admit I rarely look at who posts a thread, if it interests me I join in and I interact with everyone really regardless of whether they’re friends or not. I hope I do anyway!

Now I can’t see the thread to see what other things you asked without starting again! haha. "

Although who wouldn’t cringe at “rate Nora’s minge!”

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not precious either way to be fair.. enjoy chatting on here or 1:1.

the one thing I will say for the forum is I have discovered and chatted to some brilliant people on here (even just chatting beans on the nocturnal thread for example!) that I wouldn't otherwise have come across... using the location feature on the main page there don't seem to be many people who I would start chatting with anywhere near me, which is a bit weird!"

Hello fellow nocturnaler! It's somewhere you know you will always get named

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh golly its always nice ro be remembered

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'm always busy thinking about something more important to even question why another would be talking about myself but anyone who does has too much time on their hands

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope to all lol dose not bother me one bit"

Happy go lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep too many questions

I was named in a thread recently and absolutely hated it.

A secret service thread is different and I don't mind that.

If someone on my friends list etc doesn't message but is on fab I'm not bothered at all by it. They'll talk when they chose to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gemini Man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gemini Man"

Isn’t he wonderful. Caring, wise, all round great friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MingeMan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I engage with people I message privately on the forums too. Forums are a bit of fun and a place for flirting/banter so the two tend to cross over. That being said I don't mind if those people don't mention me in the forums, it doesn't change whats happening between us privately.

In terms of naming, like anyone its nice to receive a lovely comment and ill happily take it. I enjoy making other people feel good too so I guess it can only be a good thing as long as the comments arent being hurtful about someone.

Think I answered everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep too many questions

I was named in a thread recently and absolutely hated it.

A secret service thread is different and I don't mind that.

If someone on my friends list etc doesn't message but is on fab I'm not bothered at all by it. They'll talk when they chose to. "

Oh to be on your friend list. You are absolutely stunning

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I will allow this thread to flow rather than reply to everyone and clog it up. Hope that's OK.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

As long as it’s mentioned in a positive way then it can only be a compliment. It’s a shame there’s no way to ‘tag’ someone so they know if they get a mention.

Lou x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep. Too many questions

Noraaaaa don't be like that. Some of my usual verbal diarrhoea

Seriously though. I’ve had a few threads made about me in the past and I absolutely cringe. I never know what to say. Being mentioned in a thread is always nice though like the secret service one etc.

I have to admit I rarely look at who posts a thread, if it interests me I join in and I interact with everyone really regardless of whether they’re friends or not. I hope I do anyway!

Now I can’t see the thread to see what other things you asked without starting again! haha.

Although who wouldn’t cringe at “rate Nora’s minge!” "

I know. That's what my brain does. Screaming passengers in a train without a driver;-)

I'm happy with partial answers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once I’ve had a situation where a thread was specifically about me and it was a bit embarrassing

Another thread kicked off and that was mortifying but other than that it’s not been that bad

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Once I’ve had a situation where a thread was specifically about me and it was a bit embarrassing

Another thread kicked off and that was mortifying but other than that it’s not been that bad "

Thread about you kicked off? That's kind of awful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep. Too many questions

Noraaaaa don't be like that. Some of my usual verbal diarrhoea

Aww I think it's great! More navel gazing threads please. "

Pleasure.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

For me it depends who it is doing the naming, what the context is and what their motive might be.

And it depends on what they say. Some things are best kept private, some things I'm not that fussed.

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I think it’s nice to see if you get a positive mention ‘organically’. However, it can feel a bit crappy of you play a game or post and don’t get a response or acknowledgment. Equally it’s never nice to read negative comments.

That said it’s just a bit of fun so I don’t worry too much either way.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Keep it simple, I’m not a fan of it, unless I’m aware it’s coming and agreed to it, which is unlikely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many threads ask people to be ‘In’ so they are clearly comfortable being named in that context.

I have noticed a few examples of people being named on lists, etc but being uncomfortable with that, and even receiving criticism, so perhaps better to ask privately first ?

I think Forum and private messages are different means of communicating and I enjoy using both with the same people to say different things at different times.

Any more questions?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Many threads ask people to be ‘In’ so they are clearly comfortable being named in that context.

I have noticed a few examples of people being named on lists, etc but being uncomfortable with that, and even receiving criticism, so perhaps better to ask privately first ?

I think Forum and private messages are different means of communicating and I enjoy using both with the same people to say different things at different times.

Any more questions? "

They will come to me. Don't worry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once I’ve had a situation where a thread was specifically about me and it was a bit embarrassing

Another thread kicked off and that was mortifying but other than that it’s not been that bad

Thread about you kicked off? That's kind of awful."

The one about me didn’t kick off but another one did and I was dragged in to it

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By *ondon-guy68Man
over a year ago

London

If I’ve joined in a thread then I’m comfortable with it but the threads can move on very quickly so most of the time I have no idea if I’ve been mentioned anyway.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

If you've opted in then I think that's fine and it's a giggle and a laugh.

Though it's different if you haven't opted in. If someone liked me and wanted to express that I'd rather they did it privately. Plus I don't think the reaction of the others to being named in a thread is predicable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how it's used. If it's a genuine friend doing something nice (or even just taking the piss) then great, but I don't really like people hanging on my coat tails shouting my name in public (or private) and pretending to know me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Extra thought.

Maybe it doesn't concern you at all! Meh. Who cares either way..sort of thing "

Are you thinking people may be ignorant? Difficult times at the minute for everyone, maybe we need to support each other even more. I’m happy to chat in forums or messages & hopefully make people smile, anyone fancies a chat my inbox is open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a surprise birthday thread once but thats the limit sadly.

Apart from my hand prints on the Dudley High St walk of fame, I should've put in a claim against the council for that...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Extra thought.

Maybe it doesn't concern you at all! Meh. Who cares either way..sort of thing

Are you thinking people may be ignorant? Difficult times at the minute for everyone, maybe we need to support each other even more. I’m happy to chat in forums or messages & hopefully make people smile, anyone fancies a chat my inbox is open. "

I wouldn't chose word ignorant. Maybe just desensitised. Because of the tough times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind as long as it isn't a single thread solely about me. I remember someone did that once and I was honestly mortified and got a few hateful messages because of it.

I just take it as a compliment usually and see it in a positive light.

I do find it makes people talk shit about you though, like after you are named somewhere you'll find another post saying those who are named seek validation and are attention seekers etc even though the people named never ask to be named, so in that way it can be very negative. But, if people want to play like that then leave them to it.

with love from the number 3 top forumite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a surprise birthday thread once but thats the limit sadly.

Apart from my hand prints on the Dudley High St walk of fame, I should've put in a claim against the council for that... "

Did you do a hand stand in wet concrete?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't mind as long as it isn't a single thread solely about me. I remember someone did that once and I was honestly mortified and got a few hateful messages because of it.

I just take it as a compliment usually and see it in a positive light.

I do find it makes people talk shit about you though, like after you are named somewhere you'll find another post saying those who are named seek validation and are attention seekers etc even though the people named never ask to be named, so in that way it can be very negative. But, if people want to play like that then leave them to it.

with love from the number 3 top forumite "

I see you worked on your signature for some time now Lemon. Very refined calligraphy x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

On a serious note, I'm sorry to those who got the wrong end of stick in a naming game and it resulted in unpleasant aftermath. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone once did a happy birthday thread for me. That was quite sweet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Someone once did a happy birthday thread for me. That was quite sweet "

I really like these.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

If it’s a thread naming names then you won’t find my name anywhere on it, I don’t even bother looking

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Naming, it entirely depends on the context.

As for the messaging vs forum thing, I'm guilty of interacting in the forum but not replying to messages. It's not malicious, I just neglect my inbox when I'm lacking the emotional energy to deal with it. I think I'd find it weird though if someone was messaging me but seemingly making a conscious effort to avoid me in the forums. Not something I've experienced though.

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By *ildbillkidMan
over a year ago

where the road goes on forever

I like interactions in the forums, it's about the only time or place i "talk" to someone on fab

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Couldn't be arsed to read past Click bait, so, yes/no/maybe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Naming, it entirely depends on the context.

As for the messaging vs forum thing, I'm guilty of interacting in the forum but not replying to messages. It's not malicious, I just neglect my inbox when I'm lacking the emotional energy to deal with it. I think I'd find it weird though if someone was messaging me but seemingly making a conscious effort to avoid me in the forums. Not something I've experienced though. "

Thank you Lacey for that input. Those extra ones got lost at the end..

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I checked! Thank goodness it’s not!

I enjoy being part of and inclusive in forum threads but I don’t specifically court popularity. It’s nice to get a mention occasionally but it’s usually in context to the thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I checked! Thank goodness it’s not!

I enjoy being part of and inclusive in forum threads but I don’t specifically court popularity. It’s nice to get a mention occasionally but it’s usually in context to the thread"

Oh you made me chuckle about checking..;-)

I'm sure there is a right balance to it.. and maybe we all need to understand better what feelings it might stir in a positive and negative way. I'm taking notes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't get to me if I'm not named in any threads because I don't think I really do anything to stand out and be remembered.

On the other hand, I can get a bit down if I contribute to a thread and don't get any responses or respond to someone that doesn't respond back and it happens multiple times. I start to wonder if I said the wrong thing and can refrain from contributing to some threads because I overthink what to say so don't say anything at all.

Anyway, I'll stop waffling now but thanks for asking OP

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I wouldn't mind actually

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't mind actually "

Sirlovingman, thanks for your altruistic contribution;-)

Was that to satisfaction? Name is up there ^^

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It doesn't get to me if I'm not named in any threads because I don't think I really do anything to stand out and be remembered.

On the other hand, I can get a bit down if I contribute to a thread and don't get any responses or respond to someone that doesn't respond back and it happens multiple times. I start to wonder if I said the wrong thing and can refrain from contributing to some threads because I overthink what to say so don't say anything at all.

Anyway, I'll stop waffling now but thanks for asking OP "

That's a nice self awareness on your part. But would you like to change that and stand out somehow? I'm sure you do stand out to someone. Maybe they just need to remind you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No there isn't. Click bait crap. Got your attention.

Do you appreciate being named in public? Few recent posts made me think its not always something desirable or appreciated.

On the other hand, it must warm your heart seeing your name popping on secret service, birthday thread or whilst passing compliments. Does it though? Or you want to keep it all private and 1:1? Does it bother you if someone you are close to privately does not engage with you on the forum? And other way round, someone on your friend list who makes you wait for ages for a message but happily engages in a banter on here? Too many questions.

Off to you. "
yes this does happen which is very strange but I wouldnt worry about it..

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I don't think that anybody has ever started a thread about what a wonderful person i am. But if someone does want to sing my praises...

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"I wouldn't mind actually

Sirlovingman, thanks for your altruistic contribution;-)

Was that to satisfaction? Name is up there ^^ "
see you sometime in the real world miss rose xxx

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru


"Didn't even cross my mind

This is thread for ovethinkers clearly "

I belong here then

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think it hugely depends on intent and context, as well as knowing your audience so to speak.

There have been threads made about people that have totally hit the wrong mark, and been really fucking cringeworthy for the person named and actually incredibly uncomfortable, where they started the thread having clearly not been listening to what the other person had been saying.

Today for example, I noticed woody was leaving and I spoke to her and asked her if she was wanting to slip out the back door quietly. When she said no that was the green light for me to do an appreciation thread for us to wish her the best and thank her for her contributions over the years.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it hugely depends on intent and context, as well as knowing your audience so to speak.

There have been threads made about people that have totally hit the wrong mark, and been really fucking cringeworthy for the person named and actually incredibly uncomfortable, where they started the thread having clearly not been listening to what the other person had been saying.

Today for example, I noticed woody was leaving and I spoke to her and asked her if she was wanting to slip out the back door quietly. When she said no that was the green light for me to do an appreciation thread for us to wish her the best and thank her for her contributions over the years.

"

Consent makes a lot of difference or at least how well you know someone and what reaction you can expect.

I'm glad your friend got the departure she deserved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't get to me if I'm not named in any threads because I don't think I really do anything to stand out and be remembered.

On the other hand, I can get a bit down if I contribute to a thread and don't get any responses or respond to someone that doesn't respond back and it happens multiple times. I start to wonder if I said the wrong thing and can refrain from contributing to some threads because I overthink what to say so don't say anything at all.

Anyway, I'll stop waffling now but thanks for asking OP "

I get what you mean totally. It can be quite disheartening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't get to me if I'm not named in any threads because I don't think I really do anything to stand out and be remembered.

On the other hand, I can get a bit down if I contribute to a thread and don't get any responses or respond to someone that doesn't respond back and it happens multiple times. I start to wonder if I said the wrong thing and can refrain from contributing to some threads because I overthink what to say so don't say anything at all.

Anyway, I'll stop waffling now but thanks for asking OP

That's a nice self awareness on your part. But would you like to change that and stand out somehow? I'm sure you do stand out to someone. Maybe they just need to remind you. "

I'd definitely like to change that but I'm not quite sure how I can stand out more than I've already tried. Here's hoping I do stand out to someone although maybe I need to engage with other people more than hoping others will engage with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rarely get mentioned on the forums. Have been bullied on the forums more than once. As they say its nice to be nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't get to me if I'm not named in any threads because I don't think I really do anything to stand out and be remembered.

On the other hand, I can get a bit down if I contribute to a thread and don't get any responses or respond to someone that doesn't respond back and it happens multiple times. I start to wonder if I said the wrong thing and can refrain from contributing to some threads because I overthink what to say so don't say anything at all.

Anyway, I'll stop waffling now but thanks for asking OP

I get what you mean totally. It can be quite disheartening."

Yeah, I think that can be the case for most people which can put new users off from contributing in fear of being left out. There's talk of cliques but I don't buy into that. You just naturally respond to people you know and are familiar with because you know their characteristics and personality.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"It doesn't get to me if I'm not named in any threads because I don't think I really do anything to stand out and be remembered.

On the other hand, I can get a bit down if I contribute to a thread and don't get any responses or respond to someone that doesn't respond back and it happens multiple times. I start to wonder if I said the wrong thing and can refrain from contributing to some threads because I overthink what to say so don't say anything at all.

Anyway, I'll stop waffling now but thanks for asking OP

That's a nice self awareness on your part. But would you like to change that and stand out somehow? I'm sure you do stand out to someone. Maybe they just need to remind you.

I'd definitely like to change that but I'm not quite sure how I can stand out more than I've already tried. Here's hoping I do stand out to someone although maybe I need to engage with other people more than hoping others will engage with me "

People do notice.

I've noticed plenty you've said and I've nodded along to a lot of it.

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over a year ago


"Very rarely get mentioned on the forums. Have been bullied on the forums more than once. As they say its nice to be nice. "
sorry to hear that. well I'm going to mention you devine destiny cos you have often mentioned me... I think if someone doesn't mention publicly it probably means they trying to protect themselves in front of another profile... It is what it is...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t find my name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can’t find my name "
oh Doris...you are always fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is quite an interesting thread. Most of my posts are in joke threads, so don't look for a reply, partly because it's one joke after another, partly because my jokes are pish! In other threads, would be nice occasionally to get a reply but life's too short to worry about that. As for birthday greetings, the older I get, the less I want them.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I don’t think I’ve ever engaged enough with any forumite to guarantee me being mentioned... some of the people i’ve met from here/am friends with don’t even know that forums exists...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is quite an interesting thread. Most of my posts are in joke threads, so don't look for a reply, partly because it's one joke after another, partly because my jokes are pish! In other threads, would be nice occasionally to get a reply but life's too short to worry about that. As for birthday greetings, the older I get, the less I want them. "

That's a valid point.. I tend to look out for socialising type of threads when I need that interaction. Other times I'm happy to be a word in a sea of 175

or quite messenger behind the curtains.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a surprise birthday thread once but thats the limit sadly.

Apart from my hand prints on the Dudley High St walk of fame, I should've put in a claim against the council for that...

Did you do a hand stand in wet concrete? "

No I tripped over and loaded face first in the wet cement leaving an imprint like Han Solo after he was cast in carbon rolf

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I had a surprise birthday thread once but thats the limit sadly.

Apart from my hand prints on the Dudley High St walk of fame, I should've put in a claim against the council for that...

Did you do a hand stand in wet concrete?

No I tripped over and loaded face first in the wet cement leaving an imprint like Han Solo after he was cast in carbon rolf"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its nice to know you have been noticed perhaps, and your pearls have wisdom have been well considered Im nowhere near as active as I once was so don't really ever expect to see my name and I am quite happy about that (sobs silently)

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Doesn't bother me, I like to see my friends have fun either in real life or on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mentions are nice and flattering x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't get to me if I'm not named in any threads because I don't think I really do anything to stand out and be remembered.

On the other hand, I can get a bit down if I contribute to a thread and don't get any responses or respond to someone that doesn't respond back and it happens multiple times. I start to wonder if I said the wrong thing and can refrain from contributing to some threads because I overthink what to say so don't say anything at all.

Anyway, I'll stop waffling now but thanks for asking OP

That's a nice self awareness on your part. But would you like to change that and stand out somehow? I'm sure you do stand out to someone. Maybe they just need to remind you.

I'd definitely like to change that but I'm not quite sure how I can stand out more than I've already tried. Here's hoping I do stand out to someone although maybe I need to engage with other people more than hoping others will engage with me

People do notice.

I've noticed plenty you've said and I've nodded along to a lot of it."

That's a good point. I guess just because I can't see the acknowledgement, doesn't mean it isn't there. Thank you, I'll try to remember that going forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So there are a number of reasons I post on the forum and most of the time I am simply posting into the ether, often they are stream of consciousness thoughts, not formed fully, just statements of my thoughts or feelings. Frequently slightly tangential from the OP, because it is about things currently forming in my mind. I don’t expect anyone to respond to them and I’m often surprised when they do.

Other times I’m in an outrageously flirtatious mood and speak of the odd word the I can play with the words and make myself laugh. If someone else finds it funny great, but most of the time I’m slightly surprised when people do find it funny or join in the flirtatiousness of it.

Other times I think I have something that might be helpful but never sure if I actually have understood what people have said, so if it hits the brick line great.otherwise, it’s a case of some fell on stony ground. I scatter a lot of seed, I don’t expect much to grow.

I find the forum software unhelpful in the way we interact, I don’t find it particularly collaborative so you have to work hard to help people to feel included, and most of the time I simply don’t have the time or energy.

If I’m struggling with self esteem I do like to get repossessed so do things that might help, but most of my support comes in pm’s or simply by hiding and logging out and coming back when I’m in a more conducive frame of mind.

I have some friends who do interact with me, but in the main I post into the ether.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't get to me if I'm not named in any threads because I don't think I really do anything to stand out and be remembered.

On the other hand, I can get a bit down if I contribute to a thread and don't get any responses or respond to someone that doesn't respond back and it happens multiple times. I start to wonder if I said the wrong thing and can refrain from contributing to some threads because I overthink what to say so don't say anything at all.

Anyway, I'll stop waffling now but thanks for asking OP

I get what you mean totally. It can be quite disheartening."

This....I keep away from it, especially when you see groups of people who are obviously friendly with each other excluding others or yourself and the thread gets filled up with the same people going round in circles blowing smoke up each others bijaxxies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once a particularly kind friend posted a birthday thread for me. It was rather a touching and surprising experience. Thank you OP.

That apart I'm far too inconsequential to either be named in threads, or even care about if I'm ever noticed here....

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over a year ago


"So there are a number of reasons I post on the forum and most of the time I am simply posting into the ether, often they are stream of consciousness thoughts, not formed fully, just statements of my thoughts or feelings. Frequently slightly tangential from the OP, because it is about things currently forming in my mind. I don’t expect anyone to respond to them and I’m often surprised when they do.

Other times I’m in an outrageously flirtatious mood and speak of the odd word the I can play with the words and make myself laugh. If someone else finds it funny great, but most of the time I’m slightly surprised when people do find it funny or join in the flirtatiousness of it.

Other times I think I have something that might be helpful but never sure if I actually have understood what people have said, so if it hits the brick line great.otherwise, it’s a case of some fell on stony ground. I scatter a lot of seed, I don’t expect much to grow.

I find the forum software unhelpful in the way we interact, I don’t find it particularly collaborative so you have to work hard to help people to feel included, and most of the time I simply don’t have the time or energy.

If I’m struggling with self esteem I do like to get repossessed so do things that might help, but most of my support comes in pm’s or simply by hiding and logging out and coming back when I’m in a more conducive frame of mind.

I have some friends who do interact with me, but in the main I post into the ether."

How the fuck did responded to turn into repossessed? I should proof read my posts but can’t be arsed

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"So there are a number of reasons I post on the forum and most of the time I am simply posting into the ether, often they are stream of consciousness thoughts, not formed fully, just statements of my thoughts or feelings. Frequently slightly tangential from the OP, because it is about things currently forming in my mind. I don’t expect anyone to respond to them and I’m often surprised when they do.

Other times I’m in an outrageously flirtatious mood and speak of the odd word the I can play with the words and make myself laugh. If someone else finds it funny great, but most of the time I’m slightly surprised when people do find it funny or join in the flirtatiousness of it.

Other times I think I have something that might be helpful but never sure if I actually have understood what people have said, so if it hits the brick line great.otherwise, it’s a case of some fell on stony ground. I scatter a lot of seed, I don’t expect much to grow.

I find the forum software unhelpful in the way we interact, I don’t find it particularly collaborative so you have to work hard to help people to feel included, and most of the time I simply don’t have the time or energy.

If I’m struggling with self esteem I do like to get repossessed so do things that might help, but most of my support comes in pm’s or simply by hiding and logging out and coming back when I’m in a more conducive frame of mind.

I have some friends who do interact with me, but in the main I post into the ether.

How the fuck did responded to turn into repossessed? I should proof read my posts but can’t be arsed "

https://youtu.be/sqcvaCoci3Q

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over a year ago


"So there are a number of reasons I post on the forum and most of the time I am simply posting into the ether, often they are stream of consciousness thoughts, not formed fully, just statements of my thoughts or feelings. Frequently slightly tangential from the OP, because it is about things currently forming in my mind. I don’t expect anyone to respond to them and I’m often surprised when they do.

Other times I’m in an outrageously flirtatious mood and speak of the odd word the I can play with the words and make myself laugh. If someone else finds it funny great, but most of the time I’m slightly surprised when people do find it funny or join in the flirtatiousness of it.

Other times I think I have something that might be helpful but never sure if I actually have understood what people have said, so if it hits the brick line great.otherwise, it’s a case of some fell on stony ground. I scatter a lot of seed, I don’t expect much to grow.

I find the forum software unhelpful in the way we interact, I don’t find it particularly collaborative so you have to work hard to help people to feel included, and most of the time I simply don’t have the time or energy.

If I’m struggling with self esteem I do like to get repossessed so do things that might help, but most of my support comes in pm’s or simply by hiding and logging out and coming back when I’m in a more conducive frame of mind.

I have some friends who do interact with me, but in the main I post into the ether.

How the fuck did responded to turn into repossessed? I should proof read my posts but can’t be arsed "

So much better unchecked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So there are a number of reasons I post on the forum and most of the time I am simply posting into the ether, often they are stream of consciousness thoughts, not formed fully, just statements of my thoughts or feelings. Frequently slightly tangential from the OP, because it is about things currently forming in my mind. I don’t expect anyone to respond to them and I’m often surprised when they do.

Other times I’m in an outrageously flirtatious mood and speak of the odd word the I can play with the words and make myself laugh. If someone else finds it funny great, but most of the time I’m slightly surprised when people do find it funny or join in the flirtatiousness of it.

Other times I think I have something that might be helpful but never sure if I actually have understood what people have said, so if it hits the brick line great.otherwise, it’s a case of some fell on stony ground. I scatter a lot of seed, I don’t expect much to grow.

I find the forum software unhelpful in the way we interact, I don’t find it particularly collaborative so you have to work hard to help people to feel included, and most of the time I simply don’t have the time or energy.

If I’m struggling with self esteem I do like to get repossessed so do things that might help, but most of my support comes in pm’s or simply by hiding and logging out and coming back when I’m in a more conducive frame of mind.

I have some friends who do interact with me, but in the main I post into the ether.

How the fuck did responded to turn into repossessed? I should proof read my posts but can’t be arsed

So much better unchecked "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Once a particularly kind friend posted a birthday thread for me. It was rather a touching and surprising experience. Thank you OP.

That apart I'm far too inconsequential to either be named in threads, or even care about if I'm ever noticed here...."

it's nice of you to remember.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I shoot myself in the foot with this thread not being able to respond to every comment (mention the person).

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I've had a thread made about me and it gives me a warm fuzzy feeling whenever I see my name mentioned in a thread.

Often some are because of a joke or something I said or did and im happy with that, others it's a joke between me and whoever rhe other person is and I do get a kick out of that as well.

I'm not really an attention seeker and yes sometimes it does make me actually blush but I do like that I seem to be spoken of fondly so thankyou all for that.

Carry on ladies, gents and all you other wonderful fab lovelies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing that can be a pisser is when your comment is the last in a thread and no-one else replies. That can be a little bit of a downer. Maybe not posting at all is the way forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once a particularly kind friend posted a birthday thread for me. It was rather a touching and surprising experience. Thank you OP.

That apart I'm far too inconsequential to either be named in threads, or even care about if I'm ever noticed here....

it's nice of you to remember."

I never forget those kindnesses shown to me by others. They are rare and precious gifts. x

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over a year ago


"The only thing that can be a pisser is when your comment is the last in a thread and no-one else replies. That can be a little bit of a downer. Maybe not posting at all is the way forward."

Honestly, these things happen. Don't get discouraged. It's a fast forward moving place with its own tides of mood. and when it's slow moving people get bit numb too.. just swim along

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

CTRL+F is the first thing I do when I open a thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there away of finding out if you’ve got a mention on a thread without scrolling through the boring comments ?

Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"CTRL+F is the first thing I do when I open a thread."

I am not that disciplined.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"CTRL+F is the first thing I do when I open a thread."

You like to find your own posts then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is there away of finding out if you’ve got a mention on a thread without scrolling through the boring comments ?

Thanks in advance "

I will do you and myself one off favour and notify you personally as soon as it happens. How about that?

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over a year ago


"No there isn't. Click bait crap. Got your attention.

Do you appreciate being named in public? Few recent posts made me think its not always something desirable or appreciated.

On the other hand, it must warm your heart seeing your name popping on secret service, birthday thread or whilst passing compliments. Does it though? Or you want to keep it all private and 1:1? Does it bother you if someone you are close to privately does not engage with you on the forum? And other way round, someone on your friend list who makes you wait for ages for a message but happily engages in a banter on here? Too many questions.

Off to you. "

I thought you liked me staring at your boobs,bottom lips and hips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"CTRL+F is the first thing I do when I open a thread."

Is there an equivalent for those always on mobile?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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It depends on who names me in public. Sometimes it can be a bit embarrassing, sometimes it gives me fuzzy feelings, the rest of the time it makes me laugh. I don't get named that often because I'm quite a low key poster and not particularly popular.

I normally keep things relatively private but possibly not recently, although I think I've been as subtle as anything and hardly anyone will have a clue about who I like. I don't mind if people engage in discussion on here rather than message me; I can ask 101 questions and that must be draining for them. I've deliberately not said anything that someone could use to wind me up with because I'm sensible like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there away of finding out if you’ve got a mention on a thread without scrolling through the boring comments ?

Thanks in advance

I will do you and myself one off favour and notify you personally as soon as it happens. How about that? "

Much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So there are a number of reasons I post on the forum and most of the time I am simply posting into the ether, often they are stream of consciousness thoughts, not formed fully, just statements of my thoughts or feelings. Frequently slightly tangential from the OP, because it is about things currently forming in my mind. I don’t expect anyone to respond to them and I’m often surprised when they do.

Other times I’m in an outrageously flirtatious mood and speak of the odd word the I can play with the words and make myself laugh. If someone else finds it funny great, but most of the time I’m slightly surprised when people do find it funny or join in the flirtatiousness of it.

Other times I think I have something that might be helpful but never sure if I actually have understood what people have said, so if it hits the brick line great.otherwise, it’s a case of some fell on stony ground. I scatter a lot of seed, I don’t expect much to grow.

I find the forum software unhelpful in the way we interact, I don’t find it particularly collaborative so you have to work hard to help people to feel included, and most of the time I simply don’t have the time or energy.

If I’m struggling with self esteem I do like to get repossessed so do things that might help, but most of my support comes in pm’s or simply by hiding and logging out and coming back when I’m in a more conducive frame of mind.

I have some friends who do interact with me, but in the main I post into the ether.

How the fuck did responded to turn into repossessed? I should proof read my posts but can’t be arsed

https://youtu.be/sqcvaCoci3Q"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"CTRL+F is the first thing I do when I open a thread.

You like to find your own posts then "

That hurts (because it's true).

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

City Jeans is a cool dude.

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over a year ago


"The only thing that can be a pisser is when your comment is the last in a thread and no-one else replies. That can be a little bit of a downer. Maybe not posting at all is the way forward.

Honestly, these things happen. Don't get discouraged. It's a fast forward moving place with its own tides of mood. and when it's slow moving people get bit numb too.. just swim along

"

Very true, I swim along, like the slowest sperm in the sack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends on who names me in public. Sometimes it can be a bit embarrassing, sometimes it gives me fuzzy feelings, the rest of the time it makes me laugh. I don't get named that often because I'm quite a low key poster and not particularly popular.

I normally keep things relatively private but possibly not recently, although I think I've been as subtle as anything and hardly anyone will have a clue about who I like. I don't mind if people engage in discussion on here rather than message me; I can ask 101 questions and that must be draining for them. I've deliberately not said anything that someone could use to wind me up with because I'm sensible like that. "

Where to start on this doozy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"City Jeans is a cool dude."

Thanks. I think you just saved the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"City Jeans is a cool dude."

Coming from Estella this means sooo much, it’s filled a void that I didn’t know I had.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"City Jeans is a cool dude.

Thanks. I think you just saved the day. "

Happy to help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"City Jeans is a cool dude."

He’s a bit Tame for my liking

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"It depends on who names me in public. Sometimes it can be a bit embarrassing, sometimes it gives me fuzzy feelings, the rest of the time it makes me laugh. I don't get named that often because I'm quite a low key poster and not particularly popular.

I normally keep things relatively private but possibly not recently, although I think I've been as subtle as anything and hardly anyone will have a clue about who I like. I don't mind if people engage in discussion on here rather than message me; I can ask 101 questions and that must be draining for them. I've deliberately not said anything that someone could use to wind me up with because I'm sensible like that.

Where to start on this doozy."

Leave it be, leave it be.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"City Jeans is a cool dude.

Coming from Estella this means sooo much, it’s filled a void that I didn’t know I had. "

*dripping with sarcasm

I hear that, CJ, I hear that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t bother me too much .... I’m singing to my own tune half the time anyway ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"City Jeans is a cool dude.

Coming from Estella this means sooo much, it’s filled a void that I didn’t know I had. "

No that’s her 12 inch strap on called Roger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"City Jeans is a cool dude.

Coming from Estella this means sooo much, it’s filled a void that I didn’t know I had.

*dripping with sarcasm

I hear that, CJ, I hear that. "

Even when I’m being sincere it sounds sarcastic, please get help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think any of those scenarios have happened to me.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"City Jeans is a cool dude.

Coming from Estella this means sooo much, it’s filled a void that I didn’t know I had.

*dripping with sarcasm

I hear that, CJ, I hear that.

Even when I’m being sincere it sounds sarcastic, please get help. "

I wuv you baby bear.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Nah I honestly don’t care really but I have seen a couple of statuses referring to me in both positive and negative ways

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I love how my threads become like me. Enrolling chaos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"City Jeans is a cool dude.

Coming from Estella this means sooo much, it’s filled a void that I didn’t know I had.

*dripping with sarcasm

I hear that, CJ, I hear that.

Even when I’m being sincere it sounds sarcastic, please get help.

I wuv you baby bear. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don’t bother me too much .... I’m singing to my own tune half the time anyway ... "

I applaud that.

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over a year ago


"Don’t bother me too much .... I’m singing to my own tune half the time anyway ...

I applaud that. "

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over a year ago


"So there are a number of reasons I post on the forum and most of the time I am simply posting into the ether, often they are stream of consciousness thoughts, not formed fully, just statements of my thoughts or feelings. Frequently slightly tangential from the OP, because it is about things currently forming in my mind. I don’t expect anyone to respond to them and I’m often surprised when they do.

Other times I’m in an outrageously flirtatious mood and speak of the odd word the I can play with the words and make myself laugh. If someone else finds it funny great, but most of the time I’m slightly surprised when people do find it funny or join in the flirtatiousness of it.

Other times I think I have something that might be helpful but never sure if I actually have understood what people have said, so if it hits the brick line great.otherwise, it’s a case of some fell on stony ground. I scatter a lot of seed, I don’t expect much to grow.

I find the forum software unhelpful in the way we interact, I don’t find it particularly collaborative so you have to work hard to help people to feel included, and most of the time I simply don’t have the time or energy.

If I’m struggling with self esteem I do like to get repossessed so do things that might help, but most of my support comes in pm’s or simply by hiding and logging out and coming back when I’m in a more conducive frame of mind.

I have some friends who do interact with me, but in the main I post into the ether."

Maybe the soil you scatter on isn't rich enough to grow much?

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"I think it hugely depends on intent and context, as well as knowing your audience so to speak.

There have been threads made about people that have totally hit the wrong mark, and been really fucking cringeworthy for the person named and actually incredibly uncomfortable, where they started the thread having clearly not been listening to what the other person had been saying.

Today for example, I noticed woody was leaving and I spoke to her and asked her if she was wanting to slip out the back door quietly. When she said no that was the green light for me to do an appreciation thread for us to wish her the best and thank her for her contributions over the years.

"

Credit to MsGW that she didn’t feel the need (like some people) to announce a departure before boarding

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've had a thread made about me and it gives me a warm fuzzy feeling whenever I see my name mentioned in a thread.

Often some are because of a joke or something I said or did and im happy with that, others it's a joke between me and whoever rhe other person is and I do get a kick out of that as well.

I'm not really an attention seeker and yes sometimes it does make me actually blush but I do like that I seem to be spoken of fondly so thankyou all for that.

Carry on ladies, gents and all you other wonderful fab lovelies "

Pure positivity. And I support the appeal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nah I honestly don’t care really but I have seen a couple of statuses referring to me in both positive and negative ways"

If they named you its not allowed, report it next time? I'm sorry you were targeted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Couldn't be arsed to read past Click bait, so, yes/no/maybe.

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It could have gone either way. I took the risk

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"It doesn't get to me if I'm not named in any threads because I don't think I really do anything to stand out and be remembered.

On the other hand, I can get a bit down if I contribute to a thread and don't get any responses or respond to someone that doesn't respond back and it happens multiple times. I start to wonder if I said the wrong thing and can refrain from contributing to some threads because I overthink what to say so don't say anything at all.

Anyway, I'll stop waffling now but thanks for asking OP

I get what you mean totally. It can be quite disheartening.

This....I keep away from it, especially when you see groups of people who are obviously friendly with each other excluding others or yourself and the thread gets filled up with the same people going round in circles blowing smoke up each others bijaxxies.

"

That happens an awful lot

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think that anybody has ever started a thread about what a wonderful person i am. But if someone does want to sing my praises..."

Polly, thanks for the hint. having met you briefly I think you are a wonderful radiant human being x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think its nice to know you have been noticed perhaps, and your pearls have wisdom have been well considered Im nowhere near as active as I once was so don't really ever expect to see my name and I am quite happy about that (sobs silently) "

Little tickle for the ego!

Maybe if you post less, there is also more to look forward to ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So there are a number of reasons I post on the forum and most of the time I am simply posting into the ether, often they are stream of consciousness thoughts, not formed fully, just statements of my thoughts or feelings. Frequently slightly tangential from the OP, because it is about things currently forming in my mind. I don’t expect anyone to respond to them and I’m often surprised when they do.

Other times I’m in an outrageously flirtatious mood and speak of the odd word the I can play with the words and make myself laugh. If someone else finds it funny great, but most of the time I’m slightly surprised when people do find it funny or join in the flirtatiousness of it.

Other times I think I have something that might be helpful but never sure if I actually have understood what people have said, so if it hits the brick line great.otherwise, it’s a case of some fell on stony ground. I scatter a lot of seed, I don’t expect much to grow.

I find the forum software unhelpful in the way we interact, I don’t find it particularly collaborative so you have to work hard to help people to feel included, and most of the time I simply don’t have the time or energy.

If I’m struggling with self esteem I do like to get repossessed so do things that might help, but most of my support comes in pm’s or simply by hiding and logging out and coming back when I’m in a more conducive frame of mind.

I have some friends who do interact with me, but in the main I post into the ether.

Maybe the soil you scatter on isn't rich enough to grow much? "

As I said it could be stony ground, or my seed isn’t good enough quality or the right sort of seeds for the conditions, or the ground is being pissed on and kills the seed. Many possibilities but worrying about it, that way leads me to madness. And I don’t want to be any more crazy than I already am.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It doesn't get to me if I'm not named in any threads because I don't think I really do anything to stand out and be remembered.

On the other hand, I can get a bit down if I contribute to a thread and don't get any responses or respond to someone that doesn't respond back and it happens multiple times. I start to wonder if I said the wrong thing and can refrain from contributing to some threads because I overthink what to say so don't say anything at all.

Anyway, I'll stop waffling now but thanks for asking OP

I get what you mean totally. It can be quite disheartening.

This....I keep away from it, especially when you see groups of people who are obviously friendly with each other excluding others or yourself and the thread gets filled up with the same people going round in circles blowing smoke up each others bijaxxies.

That happens an awful lot "

All those of us who have several friends might have done it at some point, no DC? I just quietly exit. What else to do?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t think I’ve ever engaged enough with any forumite to guarantee me being mentioned... some of the people i’ve met from here/am friends with don’t even know that forums exists... "

I memorised you because of the username

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It doesn't get to me if I'm not named in any threads because I don't think I really do anything to stand out and be remembered.

On the other hand, I can get a bit down if I contribute to a thread and don't get any responses or respond to someone that doesn't respond back and it happens multiple times. I start to wonder if I said the wrong thing and can refrain from contributing to some threads because I overthink what to say so don't say anything at all.

Anyway, I'll stop waffling now but thanks for asking OP

That's a nice self awareness on your part. But would you like to change that and stand out somehow? I'm sure you do stand out to someone. Maybe they just need to remind you.

I'd definitely like to change that but I'm not quite sure how I can stand out more than I've already tried. Here's hoping I do stand out to someone although maybe I need to engage with other people more than hoping others will engage with me "

There is the first idea. Being proactive like you are now.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"It doesn't get to me if I'm not named in any threads because I don't think I really do anything to stand out and be remembered.

On the other hand, I can get a bit down if I contribute to a thread and don't get any responses or respond to someone that doesn't respond back and it happens multiple times. I start to wonder if I said the wrong thing and can refrain from contributing to some threads because I overthink what to say so don't say anything at all.

Anyway, I'll stop waffling now but thanks for asking OP

I get what you mean totally. It can be quite disheartening.

This....I keep away from it, especially when you see groups of people who are obviously friendly with each other excluding others or yourself and the thread gets filled up with the same people going round in circles blowing smoke up each others bijaxxies.

That happens an awful lot

All those of us who have several friends might have done it at some point, no DC? I just quietly exit. What else to do? "

I think Miss D meant were deliberately left out. I’ve done the same on occasions ( not deliberately) but it’s obvious at times with some

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I don't mind either way. I know some don't like the attention, some get upset if there is a 'cliquey' feel, some love the attention, some want to hide.

I think there is room for it all here.. To celebrate close friendships and connections and to welcome inclusive touches. Straight talking and clashes. People will have own their responses which they can take responsibility for. We can't control or get it right for everyone and in such a vast forum there will be mistakes and bad days .. But we can just try to be respectful to eachother and responsible for ourselves.

I like it when someone inboxes me with a private response to something.. It feels personal and thoughtful.

I don't seem to attract negativity or have any need to play into dynamics so I trust the flow.

All good in the hood.

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By *ildbillkidMan
over a year ago

where the road goes on forever

Fab is a big place, i don't feel comfortable talking to someone i've never talk to before, birthdays or other types of posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It doesn't get to me if I'm not named in any threads because I don't think I really do anything to stand out and be remembered.

On the other hand, I can get a bit down if I contribute to a thread and don't get any responses or respond to someone that doesn't respond back and it happens multiple times. I start to wonder if I said the wrong thing and can refrain from contributing to some threads because I overthink what to say so don't say anything at all.

Anyway, I'll stop waffling now but thanks for asking OP

I get what you mean totally. It can be quite disheartening.

This....I keep away from it, especially when you see groups of people who are obviously friendly with each other excluding others or yourself and the thread gets filled up with the same people going round in circles blowing smoke up each others bijaxxies.

That happens an awful lot

All those of us who have several friends might have done it at some point, no DC? I just quietly exit. What else to do?

I think Miss D meant were deliberately left out. I’ve done the same on occasions ( not deliberately) but it’s obvious at times with some"

I guess you can't be forced to be friends with all and engage with everyone. Saying that, I think I know what kind of scenarios you have in mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it hugely depends on intent and context, as well as knowing your audience so to speak.

There have been threads made about people that have totally hit the wrong mark, and been really fucking cringeworthy for the person named and actually incredibly uncomfortable, where they started the thread having clearly not been listening to what the other person had been saying.

Today for example, I noticed woody was leaving and I spoke to her and asked her if she was wanting to slip out the back door quietly. When she said no that was the green light for me to do an appreciation thread for us to wish her the best and thank her for her contributions over the years.

Credit to MsGW that she didn’t feel the need (like some people) to announce a departure before boarding "

There’s nothing wrong with announcing it either. I haven’t decided how I’ll go, but I think I might throw a huge party where I spray each other with my stream of consciousness like I usually do, but in a big verbal watersports orgy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't mind either way. I know some don't like the attention, some get upset if there is a 'cliquey' feel, some love the attention, some want to hide.

I think there is room for it all here.. To celebrate close friendships and connections and to welcome inclusive touches. Straight talking and clashes. People will have own their responses which they can take responsibility for. We can't control or get it right for everyone and in such a vast forum there will be mistakes and bad days .. But we can just try to be respectful to eachother and responsible for ourselves.

I like it when someone inboxes me with a private response to something.. It feels personal and thoughtful.

I don't seem to attract negativity or have any need to play into dynamics so I trust the flow.

All good in the hood.

"

When you comment its just like a serene wave of harmonising vibes hit

You send a lot of goodness. That must be returned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't get to me if I'm not named in any threads because I don't think I really do anything to stand out and be remembered.

On the other hand, I can get a bit down if I contribute to a thread and don't get any responses or respond to someone that doesn't respond back and it happens multiple times. I start to wonder if I said the wrong thing and can refrain from contributing to some threads because I overthink what to say so don't say anything at all.

Anyway, I'll stop waffling now but thanks for asking OP

I get what you mean totally. It can be quite disheartening.

This....I keep away from it, especially when you see groups of people who are obviously friendly with each other excluding others or yourself and the thread gets filled up with the same people going round in circles blowing smoke up each others bijaxxies.

That happens an awful lot

All those of us who have several friends might have done it at some point, no DC? I just quietly exit. What else to do?

I think Miss D meant were deliberately left out. I’ve done the same on occasions ( not deliberately) but it’s obvious at times with some"

Thank you DC that is exactly it, and yep so obvious it's cringey

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It doesn't get to me if I'm not named in any threads because I don't think I really do anything to stand out and be remembered.

On the other hand, I can get a bit down if I contribute to a thread and don't get any responses or respond to someone that doesn't respond back and it happens multiple times. I start to wonder if I said the wrong thing and can refrain from contributing to some threads because I overthink what to say so don't say anything at all.

Anyway, I'll stop waffling now but thanks for asking OP

I get what you mean totally. It can be quite disheartening.

This....I keep away from it, especially when you see groups of people who are obviously friendly with each other excluding others or yourself and the thread gets filled up with the same people going round in circles blowing smoke up each others bijaxxies.

That happens an awful lot

All those of us who have several friends might have done it at some point, no DC? I just quietly exit. What else to do?

I think Miss D meant were deliberately left out. I’ve done the same on occasions ( not deliberately) but it’s obvious at times with some

Thank you DC that is exactly it, and yep so obvious it's cringey"

Thanks for explaining. It's been a long day! I am processing slowly.

I wish there was a way to restart the whole machinery and fix the atmosphere.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"I think it hugely depends on intent and context, as well as knowing your audience so to speak.

There have been threads made about people that have totally hit the wrong mark, and been really fucking cringeworthy for the person named and actually incredibly uncomfortable, where they started the thread having clearly not been listening to what the other person had been saying.

Today for example, I noticed woody was leaving and I spoke to her and asked her if she was wanting to slip out the back door quietly. When she said no that was the green light for me to do an appreciation thread for us to wish her the best and thank her for her contributions over the years.

Credit to MsGW that she didn’t feel the need (like some people) to announce a departure before boarding

There’s nothing wrong with announcing it either. I haven’t decided how I’ll go, but I think I might throw a huge party where I spray each other with my stream of consciousness like I usually do, but in a big verbal watersports orgy."

I meant some make a huge thing of announcing they are leaving just to get the attention ... you know... attention seekers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I meant some make a huge thing of announcing they are leaving just to get the attention ... you know... attention seekers"

You're not leaving are you?

Those devine lips will be sorely missed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it hugely depends on intent and context, as well as knowing your audience so to speak.

There have been threads made about people that have totally hit the wrong mark, and been really fucking cringeworthy for the person named and actually incredibly uncomfortable, where they started the thread having clearly not been listening to what the other person had been saying.

Today for example, I noticed woody was leaving and I spoke to her and asked her if she was wanting to slip out the back door quietly. When she said no that was the green light for me to do an appreciation thread for us to wish her the best and thank her for her contributions over the years.

Credit to MsGW that she didn’t feel the need (like some people) to announce a departure before boarding

There’s nothing wrong with announcing it either. I haven’t decided how I’ll go, but I think I might throw a huge party where I spray each other with my stream of consciousness like I usually do, but in a big verbal watersports orgy.

I meant some make a huge thing of announcing they are leaving just to get the attention ... you know... attention seekers"

I think those would be the ones who leave because of something bad. If they are hurt they might behave differently to what we know them usually to be like, lash out their pain of whatever went wrong. I just think we all deal with this differently. I wouldn't make a big goodbye. I come and go fairly quietly which my friends know when I disappear out of a sudden..

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"

I meant some make a huge thing of announcing they are leaving just to get the attention ... you know... attention seekers

You're not leaving are you?

Those devine lips will be sorely missed "

No me and my pillow lips are staying and thank you x

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

The thread is too big to search but I'm guessing its not.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"The thread is too big to search but I'm guessing its not."

I’ll name you PP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The thread is too big to search but I'm guessing its not."

It was a misleading title PP xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it hugely depends on intent and context, as well as knowing your audience so to speak.

There have been threads made about people that have totally hit the wrong mark, and been really fucking cringeworthy for the person named and actually incredibly uncomfortable, where they started the thread having clearly not been listening to what the other person had been saying.

Today for example, I noticed woody was leaving and I spoke to her and asked her if she was wanting to slip out the back door quietly. When she said no that was the green light for me to do an appreciation thread for us to wish her the best and thank her for her contributions over the years.

Credit to MsGW that she didn’t feel the need (like some people) to announce a departure before boarding

There’s nothing wrong with announcing it either. I haven’t decided how I’ll go, but I think I might throw a huge party where I spray each other with my stream of consciousness like I usually do, but in a big verbal watersports orgy.

I meant some make a huge thing of announcing they are leaving just to get the attention ... you know... attention seekers"

Oh I love a good flounce especially if it accompanied by verbal watersports

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If anyone has unfinished thoughts I will open another thread if this one fills up.

There is a lot to think of tonight for me.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"Nah I honestly don’t care really but I have seen a couple of statuses referring to me in both positive and negative ways

If they named you its not allowed, report it next time? I'm sorry you were targeted. "

Thanks and they were reported for it then I got a message randomly from someone else just full of abuse and they got reported as well

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!


"The thread is too big to search but I'm guessing its not.

It was a misleading title PP xx "

How embarrassing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The thread is too big to search but I'm guessing its not.

It was a misleading title PP xx

How embarrassing!"

A bit of a social experiment of sorts I should do evaluation form.. What did you expect to find? Where you hoping a little for your name? Or the opposite. Or you knew I am the trickster with an idea for a bit tacky but catchy title.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Happy and Horny if you are reading this I came up with more questions. As expected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Goodness, been away for a few hours and this thread grew up !

Lots of very interesting points. Top work by OP in answering almost every post.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Actually, I just did a forum search of my previous username and there were 2 threads for me.

I feel rather humbled, and quite overwhelmed at the comments.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Goodness, been away for a few hours and this thread grew up !

Lots of very interesting points. Top work by OP in answering almost every post. "

Nowhere near!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happy and Horny if you are reading this I came up with more questions. As expected."

Wow, I posted above before reading that Do I sense another thread tomorrow? You do sleep, right ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Actually, I just did a forum search of my previous username and there were 2 threads for me.

I feel rather humbled, and quite overwhelmed at the comments.

"

Thats a fantastic surprise, Jojo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Happy and Horny if you are reading this I came up with more questions. As expected.

Wow, I posted above before reading that Do I sense another thread tomorrow? You do sleep, right ? "

If I find energy. You have my blessing to continue debates with part 2 if you wish

Naah. It's me. I've called you out. I'm a witch

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Actually, I just did a forum search of my previous username and there were 2 threads for me.

I feel rather humbled, and quite overwhelmed at the comments.

Thats a fantastic surprise, Jojo "

I only checked out of curiosity after seeing this thread

It was a long time ago and many of the profiles have gone now

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