FabSwingers.com forum: When I look on here..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well when I look on here I think to my self should I be here.. as everyone Seams to be hung I'm not slim good looking and im not lol .. plus couples are hot as fick so I have no chance as everyone blanks me.. some say not interested until verification.. but no one talk so can't meet and get one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well when I look on here I think to my self should I be here.. as everyone Seams to be hung I'm not slim good looking and im not lol .. plus couples are hot as fick so I have no chance as everyone blanks me.. some say not interested until verification.. but no one talk so can't meet and get one lol

You shouldnt be meeting anyway

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Hey, please dont be so hard on yourself. You make yourself sound totally unattractive and unappealing, which you aren't.There are people here of all different shapes and sizes and looks. There is someone for everyone in life.

We are very ordinary, Mrs is overweight and we don't think we are oil paintings, but people do meet us.

Patience and perseverance is key. This also isn't an easy time to be on Fab as no one can meet. It's easier to meet people in the scene when clubs are open and social events take place.

Join in on the forum, be light hearted and be yourself, join in the fun threads etc and you may get noticed more.

Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody is meant to be meeting during lockdown, not even socially.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody is meant to be meeting during lockdown, not even socially."

To be fair, the rules are somewhat hard to understand.

I mean " dont go out cos thousands of people are dying" is a little confusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey, please dont be so hard on yourself. You make yourself sound totally unattractive and unappealing, which you aren't.There are people here of all different shapes and sizes and looks. There is someone for everyone in life.

We are very ordinary, Mrs is overweight and we don't think we are oil paintings, but people do meet us.

Patience and perseverance is key. This also isn't an easy time to be on Fab as no one can meet. It's easier to meet people in the scene when clubs are open and social events take place.

Join in on the forum, be light hearted and be yourself, join in the fun threads etc and you may get noticed more.

Good luck OP."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single males whinging about lack of success on here is a very unattractive feature for many.

If your self esteem is low and you lack confidence this really isn't the place for anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single males whinging about lack of success on here is a very unattractive feature for many.

If your self esteem is low and you lack confidence this really isn't the place for anyone.

And single males whinging about lack of success during covid, just blows my fucking mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be kind people

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just love it when people miss understand what I was saying.. I know you can't meet because of covid.. I was on about when I was here before and to now .. no one seam that interested.. I try my hardest to have a conversation with people but na nothing.. end of the day I will give it so long as it dose do your nut in being blanked lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Single males whinging about lack of success on here is a very unattractive feature for many.

If your self esteem is low and you lack confidence this really isn't the place for anyone.

Fab is open to everyone above 18. The only people who can decide if someone doesn't belong are admin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not condoning meet at the moment.

Just to point out, if you are photo verified this may help along the way and you don't even need to meet anyone to do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some of the snotty comments wow

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"Just love it when people miss understand what I was saying.. I know you can't meet because of covid.. I was on about when I was here before and to now .. no one seam that interested.. I try my hardest to have a conversation with people but na nothing.. end of the day I will give it so long as it dose do your nut in being blanked lol "

Have you tried chatting on other places if you cannot find conversations on here?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You've only been on a short while and people aren't really chatting that much due to covid. It's very difficult for single men at the best of times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Single males whinging about lack of success on here is a very unattractive feature for many.

If your self esteem is low and you lack confidence this really isn't the place for anyone.

Fab is open to everyone above 18. The only people who can decide if someone doesn't belong are admin"
thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are very ordinary, Mrs is overweight and we don't think we are oil paintings, but people do meet us.

Patience and perseverance is key. This also isn't an easy time to be on Fab as no one can meet. It's easier to meet people in the scene when clubs are open and social events take place.

Join in on the forum, be light hearted and be yourself, join in the fun threads etc and you may get noticed more.

Good luck OP."

What they said

and try not to take anything personally. Everyone has to face rejection on here, we can't be everyone's cup of tea. That doesn't mean you are less worthy, it just means that person isnt for you. Don't try to bust your ass being someone else, just be you and you will meet the right people that way. Good luck OP!

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Dude just keep doing you! Plenty of people here and you’ll no doubt find people you will connect with.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

The site is MUCH quieter at the moment OP, try not to take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are very ordinary, Mrs is overweight and we don't think we are oil paintings, but people do meet us.

Patience and perseverance is key. This also isn't an easy time to be on Fab as no one can meet. It's easier to meet people in the scene when clubs are open and social events take place.

Join in on the forum, be light hearted and be yourself, join in the fun threads etc and you may get noticed more.

Good luck OP.

What they said

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just want to say to the people who has put nice comments up thank you.. it shows there are some down to earth people on here ..

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

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I can imagine how tough it is for guys to strike up a conversation. I'm sure constant rejection feels awful but really no one knows you so try not to take it to heart.

You are certainly not alone in feeling this way many a guy says the same thing.

Good luck .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just want to say to the people who has put nice comments up thank you.. it shows there are some down to earth people on here .. "

Im still a tad confused as to why you're saying no one will meet you

Perhaps you could explain

I thought it was against site rules to meet

Have they changed them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure about UK, but in Ireland male profiles well outnumber women so even you are the best thing since sliced bread it can be hard stand out. I'm relatively new but my advice is keep your photos interesting and appealing. I have found being on forums has brought way more attention to my profile and are best way show your personality which women like too. Be confident as that's an attractive thing also (correct me if I'm wrong ladies).. Most important don't take it too seriously and have fun

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Something something, your profile is your shop window, something something.

Just search up the other million threads nearly identical to this one and follow some of the advice given on them to up your chances a bit.

Ultimately fab (and online dating in general) is always going to be tougher on males, thick skin and a bit of perseverance is required.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just want to say to the people who has put nice comments up thank you.. it shows there are some down to earth people on here ..

Im still a tad confused as to why you're saying no one will meet you

Perhaps you could explain

I thought it was against site rules to meet

Have they changed them?"
are you not getting it?? Or are you just trying to be funny.. like I side I know no one can meet I was just mentioning that it's seams no one seams to want to meet in general. It dosnt men I'm going to meet anyone when covis is around I want to chat get to know people and maybe plan for a future meet when it's saf to

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

If it's "doing your nut in" OP you have to question if you've found the right attitude and approach for the site that works for you - yes it's tough for single guys here, but it's tough for all categories in one way or another, but the tools are all there to get the best possible experience from the site and they're all within your control - they won't guarantee a thing, but they'll help your perception of the place. Consider the following and look how you could improve them for you...

Profile - is yours well written, shows effort and thought has been put into it? Does it give a flavour of you and what you are looking for, and just as importantly does it show what you think you bring to the party? Does it entice and pique interest?

Pics - are they equally enticing and teasing? Do they show off your body in the best way? Or are they a series of pics snapped without a great deal of thought?

Approach - have you found the right one for you? Have you considered other ways of approaching the site, such as using the forums or chat rooms more, both of which are great ways to get to know people and them you?

Attitude - are you positive at all times? Respectful and considerate? Do you accept rejection graciously?

Expectations - are they set low enough? Do you accept that it may take time and effort to make that elusive connection, or do you expect to get it just for signing up?

Of course the current global situation is going to make things harder, and a lot of people aren't looking to chat to anyone new, so you have to take that into account also but the above points apply to chatting as much as meeting so give them some thought and see where you could make changes to improve your experience.

Good luck

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Just want to say to the people who has put nice comments up thank you.. it shows there are some down to earth people on here .. "

You're welcome. We are just lovely......in small doses

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