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By *oxyred41 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

How many times is too many times to have been let down by someone before you give up on them x

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By *orfolkcuckMan
over a year ago

Norwich

One.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many times is too many times to have been let down by someone before you give up on them x "

Must be mad, letting a fine figure of a lady down such as your self x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many times is too many times to have been let down by someone before you give up on them x "

Depends on the person and the circumstances x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It very much depends on the person and the type of let down. I guess if you are asking then you are pretty close to enough times x

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"How many times is too many times to have been let down by someone before you give up on them x "

It depends....if you've met before then give the benefit of the doubt.

If you were building up to something and they ghost you, hear them out and if its believable then one chance.

Not believable then fuck them right off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe two ,as things do happen it life and you can't get away but anything more than that the alarm bells go off,

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Totally depends on the person, normally if it's a genuine reason I'll give them a second chance, straight up ghosting or lame excuse then buh bye

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

As others have said it depends on the circumstances, communication before meeting etc.

My big pet hate is having to do all the chasing, initiating all the conversations.

If all was well pre meet id hear them out as unforseen things can pop up. Twice id be suspect though

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By *oxyred41 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now "

Ladies seemingly have all the choice on hear, its sad to think if a guy is lucky enough to catch someone's eye that fun and games start.

Try not being so available for him maybe.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I'd be at the point of no more with that, yes with kids it can be tricky and things can go tits up last minute, but if it's getting to a point where it's his way or no way then I'd be looking at moving on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now "

I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for the babysitting but how could he forget? Raining? Get a bloody brolly! Can I ask who messages who first? My friend once told me the best bit of advice. If he doesn't message he's not that bothered. Stung like hell but she was totally right x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only you will know if it's working out the way you wanted it too,and if is not tell him how you feel and move on

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now

I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for the babysitting but how could he forget? Raining? Get a bloody brolly! Can I ask who messages who first? My friend once told me the best bit of advice. If he doesn't message he's not that bothered. Stung like hell but she was totally right x"

You put it better than me, why would you want to meet someone who treats you as a convenience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The two dits that are telling for me are that he 'forgot' and you are finding it 'lame'.

It sounds like the spark is gone.

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By *oxyred41 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now

I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for the babysitting but how could he forget? Raining? Get a bloody brolly! Can I ask who messages who first? My friend once told me the best bit of advice. If he doesn't message he's not that bothered. Stung like hell but she was totally right x"

Good bit of advice there!

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable


"How many times is too many times to have been let down by someone before you give up on them x "
once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now

I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for the babysitting but how could he forget? Raining? Get a bloody brolly! Can I ask who messages who first? My friend once told me the best bit of advice. If he doesn't message he's not that bothered. Stung like hell but she was totally right x

You put it better than me, why would you want to meet someone who treats you as a convenience "

Funny thing when you're into someone though you turn a blind eye. It's not until you meet someone that treats you the way you deserve you realise how much of an ass the person before was! If he is making you feel shit about yourself then you deserve better and walk away xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now "

Those excuses are lame and sounds like he's married and cheating. Time to say bye and find someone more on your wave length.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now

I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for the babysitting but how could he forget? Raining? Get a bloody brolly! Can I ask who messages who first? My friend once told me the best bit of advice. If he doesn't message he's not that bothered. Stung like hell but she was totally right x

Good bit of advice there!

"

Ita a great bit of advice, also if they never ask how you are too and always talk about them. Run a damn mile and don't stop.

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By *oxyred41 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

There's a lot more to the back story too but sometimes he contradicts himself with what he is saying. I definitely feel there's more to his story thrn what he is telling.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Don't be someone's convenient option, be someone's only option x

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"There's a lot more to the back story too but sometimes he contradicts himself with what he is saying. I definitely feel there's more to his story thrn what he is telling. "

Putting it out there, you for sure 100 percent know he's single right? Cause that's another Spidey sense that would be kicking in for me

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By *oxyred41 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"There's a lot more to the back story too but sometimes he contradicts himself with what he is saying. I definitely feel there's more to his story thrn what he is telling.

Putting it out there, you for sure 100 percent know he's single right? Cause that's another Spidey sense that would be kicking in for me "

That's the thing he says he is but im not sure! Respect and trust is a big thing for me even tho we are just meeting for fun.

He's too laid back and chilled for my liking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a lot more to the back story too but sometimes he contradicts himself with what he is saying. I definitely feel there's more to his story thrn what he is telling. "

Always go with your gut even if you don't want to listen to it. If things don't add up it's generally because something isn't right. Not meaning to sound like a total pessimist!!! I could be totally wrong but me thinks you kinda know already lovely. I've been there and it's shit. Big hugs xx

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"There's a lot more to the back story too but sometimes he contradicts himself with what he is saying. I definitely feel there's more to his story thrn what he is telling.

Putting it out there, you for sure 100 percent know he's single right? Cause that's another Spidey sense that would be kicking in for me

That's the thing he says he is but im not sure! Respect and trust is a big thing for me even tho we are just meeting for fun.

He's too laid back and chilled for my liking

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to laid back and chilled for your liking ? How do u like them?

Have you developed feelings for him ? As for something casual , ur questioning it , if it gets to point your questioning it , then it time for him to go , as for the excuses what does your gut tell you when he telling you them ,

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

On here I give 1 chance only

If he's not as into you as you are into him, are you sure you are his only option, he may have lots of women options he is considering. The other choice is call him on it and be prepared to accept whatever consequence that happens

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Someone we don't know gets one chance, two in exceptional circumstances. Friends and family get many chances under certain circumstances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once Only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chance,

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Twice.

People deserve a 2nd chance, after that I'd tell them to jog on.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now "

He forgot???!!! He's not worth a second thought from you. Block all contact with him and move on. You deserve better.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Don't be someone's convenient option, be someone's only option x"

I like that saying . Very profound

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By *reedomBonerMan
over a year ago

London


"How many times is too many times to have been let down by someone before you give up on them x "

3 times. Same person.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There's a lot more to the back story too but sometimes he contradicts himself with what he is saying. I definitely feel there's more to his story thrn what he is telling.

Putting it out there, you for sure 100 percent know he's single right? Cause that's another Spidey sense that would be kicking in for me

That's the thing he says he is but im not sure! Respect and trust is a big thing for me even tho we are just meeting for fun.

He's too laid back and chilled for my liking

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He's got a long term partner and he's lying to you both.

I know that sounds harsh but what other explanation is there?

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By *oxyred41 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now

He forgot???!!! He's not worth a second thought from you. Block all contact with him and move on. You deserve better."

Thank you

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Whose children is he babysitting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can let you down genuinely on occasion. If it's happening on a regular basis, I'd see that as a red flag and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends

If it’s a first meet then if they don’t turn up then they had they chance and will not get a nother

If meet before then I let the odd let down slip though as I know real life things can crop up

But two in a row and it’s you not get a nother chance or if it’s starting to become frequent ie turn up one week let down the next then turn up the next and the next again then let down again

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I think that you are asking this question, you really know for yourself that something isn't right.

Whatever is going in with him, you deserve better than that.

Kx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm you know it depends what they are going through.. And believe me there is a lot that nobody knows about me, so i imagine others are the same..

sometimes there comes a time where sadly you need to extricate yourself for your own wellbeing

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Once I'd give the benefit of the doubt. After that of it happened again I'd be out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have the tolerance for that kind of flaky behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life does get in the way, though it does sound like life is getting in the way too often.

Sounds like you already made the decision, good for you. If he thinks he can get away with crappy behaviour then it won't change

Good luck lovely. Be strong you're worth more than that

*Wanders off singing Ultrabeat Pretty Green Eyes

Thanks for the earworm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now

I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for the babysitting but how could he forget? Raining? Get a bloody brolly! Can I ask who messages who first? My friend once told me the best bit of advice. If he doesn't message he's not that bothered. Stung like hell but she was totally right x"

This!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends. A no show is a definite block. A call 5 mins before is a maybe. A call 2 hours before a probable second chance. It's just good manners!

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I think the fact he forgot says it all.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think the fact he forgot says it all.

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Forgot his partner was home is probably it.

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