FabSwingers.com forum: Loss of a friend :-(

By *eonard13 OP Man
over a year ago

Not far from here

The title is not about the death of a friend but it might as well be as thats how I feel.

I have NEVER turned my back on a friend, once they are my friend they are forever its my way however, this one friend no matter what they have said in the past or what we have said we have always made up and become close friends untill just this last few days and I dont know what to do.

For some reason they took it into their heads that I said something that really pissed them off big time and I was blocked from whatsapp and fab and I still dont know why!.

Its one thing to loose someone its another to loose a friend that you still care for and are concerned about. My friend whom I still have feelings for has just dropped off the face of the earth and has not been heard of and that is scary.

A big part of my thoughts are still about this person and wonder if they are ok or not and that has caused me sleepless nights. I really hope they are alright and wish they would at least message, text, call even if its to say piss off at least I would know they are ok.......

Well thats helped a bit writing this, its made me realise you cant help people if deep down they dont want help but, unfortunately its in my make up after years of not being concerned for anyone outside a close group and having changed around my mindset to be helpful I sometimes find it difficult when I cant help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give some space and time to it. Meanwhile think of the things you said that hurt them and maybe you will understand their reasons to block you. Let them know you are there and wait until they are ready to open up for a chat. It's hard right now, we all can be extra sensitive. Pushing too much could make things worse.

I hope that helps OP

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Can only echo what peachbum has said. Give it time.

Once they have calmed down or are in the right frame of mind they may get back in touch and you can then either talks things out or just leave things.

Try not to worry yourself and just give them space.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Do you know that it's because of something you said?

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

Reach out. Make sure they know you are there for them then walk the fuck away. Don’t be a doormat to be treated like that.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"Can only echo what peachbum has said. Give it time.

Once they have calmed down or are in the right frame of mind they may get back in touch and you can then either talks things out or just leave things.

Try not to worry yourself and just give them space."

I echo this as well, try as hard as you might sometimes to keep the friendship alive or help them through whatever it is they are going through, you just have to leave them to get on with it and maybe you will regain their friendship again, maybe you won't.

Give them space as hard as that may be as they have to do their own thing.

Crowding them often pushes them away even of thats the very thing you're trying to avoid OP.

Be prepared sometimes to wave goodbye to their friendship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If this person really has disappeared without trace and you have no mutual friends that you can approach, then there's not much you can do except wait out the pain. In any case, you might find it helpful to write down your thoughts in a letter even if it can't be posted to your friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this the same friend you fell out with a year ago (Green arrow) or is this a different friend Op?

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