FabSwingers.com forum: Attraction

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Before joining Fab, I thought I had a good idea of what kind of person I was attracted too but now I'm finding it's changed.

I've noticed I'm more attracted to older guys than younger ones. The maturity, experience and overall communication is very attractive. My preferences are definitely changing as time goes on.

Has Fab changed what you are looking for or maybe opened your mind too things you wouldn't have previously considered?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Before joining Fab, I thought I had a good idea of what kind of person I was attracted too but now I'm finding it's changed.

I've noticed I'm more attracted to older guys than younger ones. The maturity, experience and overall communication is very attractive. My preferences are definitely changing as time goes on.

Has Fab changed what you are looking for or maybe opened your mind too things you wouldn't have previously considered? "

When I first ventured here many years ago I just wanted women my age.. then found out that was just stupid as I had some great meets from a few ladies in their 40s.. now I appreciate people not numbers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Before joining Fab, I thought I had a good idea of what kind of person I was attracted too but now I'm finding it's changed.

I've noticed I'm more attracted to older guys than younger ones. The maturity, experience and overall communication is very attractive. My preferences are definitely changing as time goes on.

Has Fab changed what you are looking for or maybe opened your mind too things you wouldn't have previously considered?

I think that's what I'm finding too, people have surprised me a lot on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Before joining Fab, I thought I had a good idea of what kind of person I was attracted too but now I'm finding it's changed.

I've noticed I'm more attracted to older guys than younger ones. The maturity, experience and overall communication is very attractive. My preferences are definitely changing as time goes on.

Has Fab changed what you are looking for or maybe opened your mind too things you wouldn't have previously considered? "

Awwwww I’m almost blushing xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was a lot of fun. Ticked off more boxes than I knew even existed.

The last year people on Fab put me off ever meeting again.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Before I came here I'd have probably called you a freak if you said I'd find TVs attractive or become the best friends with some.

I was totally ignorant.

I'm kinda off blokey blokes but that's due to being screwed around, hiding things etc. I pretty much friend zone most people now as I'm afraid I can't take them at face value anymore which is unfair on them, so I won't put them in that position where I'll get suspicious.

This whole past year has knocked my libido to a land far away, so who knows what will happen in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Before joining Fab, I thought I had a good idea of what kind of person I was attracted too but now I'm finding it's changed.

I've noticed I'm more attracted to older guys than younger ones. The maturity, experience and overall communication is very attractive. My preferences are definitely changing as time goes on.

Has Fab changed what you are looking for or maybe opened your mind too things you wouldn't have previously considered?

Awwwww I’m almost blushing xx

Whys that then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It was a lot of fun. Ticked off more boxes than I knew even existed.

The last year people on Fab put me off ever meeting again. "

Oh no, how come?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Before I came here I'd have probably called you a freak if you said I'd find TVs attractive or become the best friends with some.

I was totally ignorant.

This whole past year has knocked my libido to a land far away, so who knows what will happen in the future.

Yeah I get that, this last year has changed people a lot. We are probably all guilty of putting people in boxes but im definitely seeing the person now rather than the age or whatever!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think the type of person im attracted to has changed too mucb tbh, but what fab has shown me is that sometimes people i wouldnt expect to be attracted to me actaully are..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Before joining Fab, I thought I had a good idea of what kind of person I was attracted too but now I'm finding it's changed.

I've noticed I'm more attracted to older guys than younger ones. The maturity, experience and overall communication is very attractive. My preferences are definitely changing as time goes on.

Has Fab changed what you are looking for or maybe opened your mind too things you wouldn't have previously considered? "

What I find attractive is definitely different to what it was in my younger years, but even then I've always gone for much older.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm to set in my ways. I've always gone for the same kind of guy.

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

I've changed since I joined here I've met people that I thought I wouldn't even have look at twice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont think the type of person im attracted to has changed too much tbh, but what fab has shown me is that sometimes people i wouldnt expect to be attracted to me actually are..

Yeah that's very true actually, Fab definitely has its good surprises

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely rounding out the edges of the box unknowingly put myself in anyway

helps mostly friendly interactions on here specially forum & having partner can be open with

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By *ee04Man
over a year ago

Essex

I have been attracted to all kinds of people all of my life. So don’t think fab has changed that a few surprises but nothing I’m not used too.

I’ve always been open to new experiences so will carry on.

As for the last year it’s been hell but here’s looking to the future and hope we can all get back on the horse so to speak when it’s safe.

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

I also had a set type in mind at first, however I've realised that the women that I find attractive are all different when it comes to looks.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I had a fixed set of likes when I first joined fab, tall, muscles, dark hair, clean shaven, light colour eyes, that was my type that ive sought out for 25 years. Then I met men on here that stimulated my mind and my looks type list flew out the window completely and didn't seem important anymore, I found attraction with a variety of looks on men

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Not necessarily Fab's influence, more just life experience, but I have discovered that I have no desire to be in a relationship as such. I find myself increasingly drawn to the idea of, once covid restrictions are lifted & I feel it is safe, a regular arrangement with a couple (or couple of couples).

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I've always thought that a woman would need to have an amazing sense of humor to want to have sex with me.....

After being in here i now know she definitely needs one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It seems that finding some attractive and being attracted to someone are very different. I guess the older we get it becomes more about the person than anything else.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"It seems that finding some attractive and being attracted to someone are very different. I guess the older we get it becomes more about the person than anything else."

Blimey - anyone would think you was 65. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems that finding some attractive and being attracted to someone are very different. I guess the older we get it becomes more about the person than anything else."

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Before I came here I'd have probably called you a freak if you said I'd find TVs attractive or become the best friends with some.

I was totally ignorant.

This whole past year has knocked my libido to a land far away, so who knows what will happen in the future.

Yeah I get that, this last year has changed people a lot. We are probably all guilty of putting people in boxes but im definitely seeing the person now rather than the age or whatever! "

I'm with Outsider on being put off meeting. Seeing so many people prepared to risk their lives and the lives of others for a shag, kinda shows you that people (not all by any means) are really selfish and desperate. It has shown me that people not only won't follow rules but have zero regard or respect for them.

That scares me when it comes to boundaries, sexual health, everything really. Just shows how little and insignificant the human (me/you) is in relation to blowing their balls. You're prepared to potentially kill me, yourself and other people to empty your sack? Wow.

Lack of compassion and moral compass has really stood out this past year, and I don't really think I belong any more. I feel like the old nanna sat in the corner who really doesn't understand what the fuck is going on so she just sits there doing a jigsaw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i took people as i found them.

if i left good in their company, and we wanted the same thing then why not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It seems that finding some attractive and being attracted to someone are very different. I guess the older we get it becomes more about the person than anything else.

Blimey - anyone would think you was 65. Lol"

We all are getting older, I might not be the oldest but Im certainly not getting any younger

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Before I came here I'd have probably called you a freak if you said I'd find TVs attractive or become the best friends with some.

I was totally ignorant.

This whole past year has knocked my libido to a land far away, so who knows what will happen in the future.

Yeah I get that, this last year has changed people a lot. We are probably all guilty of putting people in boxes but im definitely seeing the person now rather than the age or whatever!

100% agree it has brought out the best and worst in people. It blows my mind how people can put theirselves and others at risk for the sake of a shag so I totally get how it has put people off meeting in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found out that I like good conversation and wit as much as I like a sexy body. I've also found out that some woman actually like men that look like me... it's a miracle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it had that much influence in that respect. I just know better what I don't like...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think it had that much influence in that respect. I just know better what I don't like... "

Absolutely, I've also discovered what I definitely don't want aha!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've found out that I like good conversation and wit as much as I like a sexy body. I've also found out that some woman actually like men that look like me... it's a miracle

Me too, good conversation and a sense of humour wins everytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has changed for me

Not really looking now just chatting and pissing about

If it happens great

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I've found out that I like good conversation and wit as much as I like a sexy body. I've also found out that some woman actually like men that look like me... it's a miracle

Me too, good conversation and a sense of humour wins everytime

Talk this way young lady

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"I dont think the type of person im attracted to has changed too mucb tbh, but what fab has shown me is that sometimes people i wouldnt expect to be attracted to me actaully are..

This is exactly what I've found, I'm always surprised by who messages me and I have chatted to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found that I can't trust what any of the men say. They don't end up as nice as they started. I might become a swinger after all

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Has Fab changed what you are looking for or maybe opened your mind too things you wouldn't have previously considered? "

My inital thoughts of whst i wanted when I joined changed very quickly.

It helped me confirm my thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on different sites before Fab and ticked off the boxes and emptied my bucket

I joined Fab as I was interested in a friendship with a couple - but realised that wasn't for me.

Now I'm not sure what I'm looking for - if anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined I was a bit of a bugger

Then I settled down a bit when I joined in the forums and I became a more social Fabber than sexual Fabber

Now I'm proper settled in my home life and sex with others rarely interests me

It is nice, though, to have the option to meet sexually if the right people / scenario comes along

So, yes it changed me (or at least my outlook)

I came thinking I wanted sex by the bucketload

What I really wanted was a load of not rights to chat shit to

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

What I really wanted was a load of not rights to chat shit to

Thanks Bussy.

As far as the OP goes, Fab has changed my opinion on what I find attractive, what sort of thing I am looking for. Actually maybe Fab hasn't, more I've matured a bit.

When I first joined I had a proper slutty phase and it was fantastic, no regrets about that. I did have a type of man I liked for those meets because it was hassle free and fun and that was that. Now I'm at a stage where I'm not particularly looking, I find a myriad of people attractive and conversation is more important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah.

I’m still attracted to tits and vag.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've found out that I like good conversation and wit as much as I like a sexy body. I've also found out that some woman actually like men that look like me... it's a miracle

Me too, good conversation and a sense of humour wins everytime

Talk this way young lady

Walk this way, talk this way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Getting to know people changes things a lot. Especially in lockdown its given us more of a chance to build that attraction by talking to people instead of jumping in head first based on looks alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think the type of person im attracted to has changed too much tbh, but what fab has shown me is that sometimes people i wouldnt expect to be attracted to me actually are..

Yeah that's very true actually, Fab definitely has its good surprises

Its brilliant when a surprise pops up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont think the type of person im attracted to has changed too much tbh, but what fab has shown me is that sometimes people i wouldnt expect to be attracted to me actually are..

Yeah that's very true actually, Fab definitely has its good surprises

Its brilliant when a surprise pops up

Sure is

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Getting to know people changes things a lot. Especially in lockdown its given us more of a chance to build that attraction by talking to people instead of jumping in head first based on looks alone."

Getting to know youuuuu,

Getting to know all about youuuu......

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Getting to know people changes things a lot. Especially in lockdown its given us more of a chance to build that attraction by talking to people instead of jumping in head first based on looks alone.

Getting to know youuuuu,

Getting to know all about youuuu......"

You're soooooo getting a dead arm if we meet for that ear worm!

That's gonna be lodged in my brain keeping me awake all bastard night

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Getting to know people changes things a lot. Especially in lockdown its given us more of a chance to build that attraction by talking to people instead of jumping in head first based on looks alone.

Getting to know youuuuu,

Getting to know all about youuuu......

You're soooooo getting a dead arm if we meet for that ear worm!

That's gonna be lodged in my brain keeping me awake all bastard night

Getting to like you

Getting to hope you like me.....

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

It has made me realise that being a nice person is far more important than how someone looks.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Getting to know people changes things a lot. Especially in lockdown its given us more of a chance to build that attraction by talking to people instead of jumping in head first based on looks alone.

Getting to know youuuuu,

Getting to know all about youuuu......

You're soooooo getting a dead arm if we meet for that ear worm!

That's gonna be lodged in my brain keeping me awake all bastard night

Getting to like you

Getting to hope you like me....."

https://youtu.be/Vlx6gQWfjp0

And a shin kick now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Getting to know people changes things a lot. Especially in lockdown its given us more of a chance to build that attraction by talking to people instead of jumping in head first based on looks alone.

Getting to know youuuuu,

Getting to know all about youuuu......

You're soooooo getting a dead arm if we meet for that ear worm!

That's gonna be lodged in my brain keeping me awake all bastard night

Getting to like you

Getting to hope you like me....."

Things Im learning about you... Day.By.Day

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Getting to know people changes things a lot. Especially in lockdown its given us more of a chance to build that attraction by talking to people instead of jumping in head first based on looks alone.

Getting to know youuuuu,

Getting to know all about youuuu......

You're soooooo getting a dead arm if we meet for that ear worm!

That's gonna be lodged in my brain keeping me awake all bastard night

Getting to like you

Getting to hope you like me.....

Things Im learning about you... Day.By.Day"

You haven't seen my naughty side..... Yet.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"It has made me realise that being a nice person is far more important than how someone looks. "

I hope so or I'm completely knackered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slightly changed them.

I was strictly attracted to older guys myself, but now I’m far more open to guys my own age (20s) that I ever was before.

I personally don’t believe with age always comes experience as I have encountered some terrible experiences with those who are more “mature” and amazing experiences with those who are young like me.

Definitely depends on the person!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Slightly changed them.

I was strictly attracted to older guys myself, but now I’m far more open to guys my own age (20s) that I ever was before.

Definitely depends on the person!

Absolutely depends on the person and its true maturity isnt something that comes with age, guess you either have it or you dont

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By *tudiousPipWoman
over a year ago

W Yorks

"I dont think the type of person im attracted to has changed too mucb tbh, but what fab has shown me is that sometimes people i wouldnt expect to be attracted to me actaully are..

Totally agree with the second part. I've got chronically low self esteem from perpetually being told I'm not attractive cos I'm fat. Then I discovered a world where I'm not described as fat. I'm a BBW.

It's not just that someone I wouldn't expect to be attracted to me is. It was the fact that anyone is attracted to me at all...

The Fab life has opened my eyes and my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s broadened my tastes, but my general preference is still the same.

Older than me.

Healthy/fit

Tall

Wicked eyes/smile

My taste in women hasn’t changed at all, and I’m still as picky as ever. Tiny and submissive as fuck if you please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been on a dating site or anything like fab until I joined and tbh its been quite a reality check for me.

I've never felt like I've had to compete before and only ever met girls in person, whether that be in a bar or shopping around Tesco through eye contact and body language its easy to tell if the girl is interested and if she's receptive to the idea of going out on a date or taking it further...

On fab its like being in that bar or supermarket but yet she's surrounded by better looking and younger guys all jostling for her attentions.

At 51 I don't class myself as too old or over the hill but the harsh reality is girls on fab will always get more attention on here and invariably by someone better than you.

Thats not me whinging as I've got some very good friends on here but I'm clearly to most just a face in a sea of faces with a couple of wrinkles and therefore the sexy relationship I'm truly looking for will continually evade me...

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I dont think the type of person im attracted to has changed too mucb tbh, but what fab has shown me is that sometimes people i wouldnt expect to be attracted to me actaully are..

It's not just that someone I wouldn't expect to be attracted to me is. It was the fact that anyone is attracted to me at all...

The Fab life has opened my eyes and my mind. "

This was how I felt for quite a while after I first joined fab. These days I'm actually seeing me differently some of the time which is nice.

As for those I'm attracted to, I've never really had a type physically, and that's not changed. Much like art, I don't know it but I know what I like when I see it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone, I guess Fab has opened all our minds up to new people and that can only be a good thing. What we all can agree on is age is just a number

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