FabSwingers.com forum: Long distance FWB situatuons

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Has anyone ever done this? Previously I’d stipulated on my profile I prefer to meet local people as i’m more likely to meet them and meet them regularly.

I’ve been messaged by people up and down the country who dont mind travelling. I often feel like people are being unrealistic when trying to convince me a long distance fb situation is viable.

My question is how does one maintain a long distance fwb situation? Do you have to be in that mentality, to be excited about only seeing each other once or twice a month? Do you just have more than 1 fb to ‘fill in in between’?

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Yea, it’s frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on your mutual understanding. I had one who was a couple of hrs drive away and always wanted to meet at her house, a couple of times a month. That just worked for both of us for quite a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone ever done this? Previously I’d stipulated on my profile I prefer to meet local people as i’m more likely to meet them and meet them regularly.

I’ve been messaged by people up and down the country who dont mind travelling. I often feel like people are being unrealistic when trying to convince me a long distance fb situation is viable.

Depends on the people, we've had Fwb from Liverpool about 2 hours drive and worked out fine. We didn't meet for the odd hour we'd make a weekend of it or did other things apart from just sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing that would put me off would be the inability to be spontaneous, all meets having to be planned. Someone local is better because you can do the short notice thing, fancy a coffee/walk/**** kinda thing

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By *namCarasCouple
over a year ago

dundee

thats so complicated and so much effort is required to make that work

we wouldn’t get involved with the long distance

thing

plenty local people arround

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fwb have to be non fab and local for me ... otherwise more FBs really but love those and the travel adventure long distances!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on what you're used to.

Having spent a lot of time away with work in the past it was nice to have a good friend who you could share a bed with in the country.

I've also had a lot of long distance relationships so long distance doesn't really matter if you click.

It also depends how often your able to get to the other person. Once a year may not cut it! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone ever done this? Previously I’d stipulated on my profile I prefer to meet local people as i’m more likely to meet them and meet them regularly.

I’ve been messaged by people up and down the country who dont mind travelling. I often feel like people are being unrealistic when trying to convince me a long distance fb situation is viable.

I think you have to weigh up is it worth it. Do you want regular but mediocre (although might be phenomenal in which case jackpot!) or are you happy with once a month yet fantastic.

Local doesnt mean reliable either, it just means easily accesible.

The key is the F in FWB

Having said that though reality needs to be checked no one is going to travel Plymouth to Sterling monthly!

This is why a max travel time of 2-3 hours is ideal for hotel meets. An hour to an hour and a half each seems reasonable

Hope this helps

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

How far are you talking ?

Depends on the distance,

In theory yes it sounds good but realistic its not , when you work,family , etc to work around it ,if your talking a hour its doable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone ever done this? Previously I’d stipulated on my profile I prefer to meet local people as i’m more likely to meet them and meet them regularly.

I’ve been messaged by people up and down the country who dont mind travelling. I often feel like people are being unrealistic when trying to convince me a long distance fb situation is viable.

Mine lives 130 miles away. So far its been ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, it would depend on what each party wanted from the arrangement, and the terms around the situation. Would you want exclusivity? Would you each just be one the other parties "friends"? And when you're not together going at like bunnies, would the arrangement provide enough of what you need? If it's just for going at it like bunnies, then surely it's an FB rather than FWB arrangement?

What works for one person won't suit another, so it's a discussion between both parties that determines if the situation is viable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done this and have no issues with doing it again. It actually works really well for me and fits in with my life.

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By *lowhands7Man
over a year ago

South Leicestershire

Think it depends on circumstances. I have had a similar long distance relationship with a woman who I saw every 2/3 weeks. To be honest it suited us, we had fun and always had it to look forward to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's just down the two people, want they want and how much both are prepared to put in really ... anything is doable if everyone is on the same page and with the right person!

Personally I love travel ... and easily could be combined with hobbies, interests and great adventures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's just down the two people, want they want and how much both are prepared to put in really ... anything is doable if everyone is on the same page and with the right person!

Personally I love travel ... and easily could be combined with hobbies, interests and great adventures

Meant to be

and please add the missing words ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would be difficult to build up a friendship with someone from a distance- most of that might take place virtually and that's not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it would be difficult to build up a friendship with someone from a distance- most of that might take place virtually and that's not for me.

We've not really been able to do anything but build relationships on here virtually since March last year...

Why deny yourself a new experience just because of a few miles? I'm sure you don't meet every local person you chat with?

Obviously it's your choice, I'm just trying to understand your point of view x

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I think it really depends on the people involved. If you both (or all) want it to work enough to put in the effort to see each other you've got a better chance of succeeding at long distance FWB.

After all, long distance friendships work, and you're just adding another dimension to that.

I think it is important that when you find a connection with someone you make time and effort to explore that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want someone you go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done it in the past and it was ok. Personally I prefer planning meets well in advance so I didn't mind the lack of spontaneity. The friendship part was easy to build over WhatsApp/kik etc. before any meets took place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it would be difficult to build up a friendship with someone from a distance- most of that might take place virtually and that's not for me.

We've not really been able to do anything but build relationships on here virtually since March last year...

Why deny yourself a new experience just because of a few miles? I'm sure you don't meet every local person you chat with?

Obviously it's your choice, I'm just trying to understand your point of view x"

I'm fickle

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

I live in Yorkshire but work on Oldham. So a fwb in either area or between would work well as it’s on my commute. Ideally a local lady but that said a lady who lived a bit further a field and was happy to organise in advance could work too.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

It can and does work, my last FWB lived over 200 miles away but we saw each other every weekend.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We love to travel so we’d be happy travelling for the right people. We would incorporate it into a weekend away so whether you were spending that weekend playing or only a few hours then we could arrange to do other things whilst there.

I think if you were single you’d probably have to have a few FWB’s so you can see them at different times and keep you from getting sex starved...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I've done it and found it didn't work for me. I stick to my local area, it's far less complicated and I'm not really a fan of long distance or doing things virtually anyway.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’ve done this and it works perfectly. In fact I think distance (within reason) works better with a FWB you’re not on each other’s doorstep, or in each other’s pocket. Meetings become more meaningful for the time you enjoy together.

Also means you’re not likely to meet in Tesco if either or throws a hissy fit and you part company

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"Has anyone ever done this? Previously I’d stipulated on my profile I prefer to meet local people as i’m more likely to meet them and meet them regularly.

I’ve been messaged by people up and down the country who dont mind travelling. I often feel like people are being unrealistic when trying to convince me a long distance fb situation is viable.

My best fwb was two hours away was amazing! I saw him once a month (with very young children more wasn’t even on my agenda) We made a weekend of it I was thoroughly spoiled - and vice versa and then we went back to normal lives. I guess it depends on your situation I have young kids so only get time when they’re at their dads anyway. I’d definitely do it again

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

"I think it would be difficult to build up a friendship with someone from a distance- most of that might take place virtually and that's not for me.

I have many friendships that I maintain from a distance, you just have to make time to visit them when you can

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"I've done it and found it didn't work for me. I stick to my local area, it's far less complicated and I'm not really a fan of long distance or doing things virtually anyway. "

I’d agree in this case it would be more complicated, your at least a 7/8 hour drive from where I live. That would be some driving.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"We love to travel so we’d be happy travelling for the right people. We would incorporate it into a weekend away so whether you were spending that weekend playing or only a few hours then we could arrange to do other things whilst there.

I think if you were single you’d probably have to have a few FWB’s so you can see them at different times and keep you from getting sex starved...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it would be difficult to build up a friendship with someone from a distance- most of that might take place virtually and that's not for me.

We've not really been able to do anything but build relationships on here virtually since March last year...

Why deny yourself a new experience just because of a few miles? I'm sure you don't meet every local person you chat with?

Obviously it's your choice, I'm just trying to understand your point of view x

I'm fickle

As good a reason as any! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it would be difficult to build up a friendship with someone from a distance- most of that might take place virtually and that's not for me.

I have many friendships that I maintain from a distance, you just have to make time to visit them when you can"

Maintaining something is a whole lot different from things starting off that way. I can't be friends with someone I haven't met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone ever done this? Previously I’d stipulated on my profile I prefer to meet local people as i’m more likely to meet them and meet them regularly.

I’ve been messaged by people up and down the country who dont mind travelling. I often feel like people are being unrealistic when trying to convince me a long distance fb situation is viable.

I've been wondering the same thing.

After lockdown and when things open up a bit I would like to see a bit more of the UK.

The idea of being able to travel to a different town / city once every other week and meet up with fwb actually sounds pretty good imo.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Pre kids it would have been an adventure. Have car, will travel and all that jazz.

Now I have young kids, a dog and a doddery mother to look after, it would be a faff.

I prefer local men, specifically so I can rock up, sex them up, and leave.

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

Nah, not for me. Unless we happened to meet while they were living closer, or we didn’t meet on an app or site. There’s plenty of people locally

Of course it works out for some people but with meeting someone who lives long distance there’s much more chance of it being a one off. So for me, it’s not worth the effort

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

If they are actual friends as opposed to stunt cocks that fill a hole, it's quite easy to maintain and I've done so before. It helps if you both understand each other's communications style, you can still talk between meets and you like the person. Normally I'd do an overnighter or a weekend away with them, any longer than that and I'd be guzzling cranberry juice for a week after.

I think right now you have time to build potential connections, obviously in person there might zero spark and you go home and have a cry wank about the time you've wasted. If it works, it works and it's better when it naturally progresses rather than feels forced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this massively depends on the person.

I have someone at a distance but the drive is nothing as a night with him is well worth it and not that's not just based on the great sex.

It might not be regular or that often but I wouldn't complain at all. We keep in contact besides that even though lockdown means no meeting. We still chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve done this and it works perfectly. In fact I think distance (within reason) works better with a FWB you’re not on each other’s doorstep, or in each other’s pocket. Meetings become more meaningful for the time you enjoy together.

Also means you’re not likely to meet in Tesco if either or throws a hissy fit and you part company

Distance is not an issue for me if it is the right person. But the right person has to be someone I can’t ignore. Someone that makes me want to drive 3hrs at any opportunity to see them.

I am lucky enough to have someone incredible that makes 3hrs seem like a quick hop to see them.

Funnily enough the first time we met...we went to Tesco’s

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Also means you’re not likely to meet in Tesco if either or throws a hissy fit and you part company

Distance is not an issue for me if it is the right person. But the right person has to be someone I can’t ignore. Someone that makes me want to drive 3hrs at any opportunity to see them.

I am lucky enough to have someone incredible that makes 3hrs seem like a quick hop to see them.

Funnily enough the first time we met...we went to Tesco’s "

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'd not do it again.

It started as FWBs but quickly turned into a relationship.

My lack of faith in people to tell the truth means I wouldn't trust them not to have a wife/girlfriend etc.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I'd not do it again.

It started as FWBs but quickly turned into a relationship.

My lack of faith in people to tell the truth means I wouldn't trust them not to have a wife/girlfriend etc."

I hope you find that faith again. Sometimes I find I have a slight mistrust but then I realise that's on me and not necessarily a reflection on them (not saying this is how you should be!).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is over 100 mile difference between me and my partner.

It definitely can be done but depends upon other responsibilities, neither of us had any care responsibilities so that made it much easier.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I'd not do it again.

It started as FWBs but quickly turned into a relationship.

My lack of faith in people to tell the truth means I wouldn't trust them not to have a wife/girlfriend etc."

That’s the downside to any Fab dalliance though, FWB or not. You came out the better person for it though Aunty P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t normally but I have and it worked quite well. Actually really enjoyed the build up... made up for the lack of spontaneity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was seeing someone for quite a while that was a good 5 hour drive....every single visits was worth it, inbetween chats, message etc it would have to be someone worthwhile. Also worked well with my availability etc.

No distance too great for someone worthwhile

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I'd not do it again.

It started as FWBs but quickly turned into a relationship.

My lack of faith in people to tell the truth means I wouldn't trust them not to have a wife/girlfriend etc.

I hope you find that faith again. Sometimes I find I have a slight mistrust but then I realise that's on me and not necessarily a reflection on them (not saying this is how you should be!). "

My issue is, if I did find that faith again and got burned .... the ending wouldn't be a pretty one for either side so I cannot allow it to happen. It's to protect them as much as myself.

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

If you live over an hour away then not much point unless they are super hot x

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

It's not something I'd say no to, but having kids could make it tricky for me with regards to free time. I think for me it would have to also be with the option to meet with people close to me as well as them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have and yes it can work

It’s more a once or twice a month FWB but as long as they don’t mind travel then it can work

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By *ony2269Man
over a year ago

Radcliffe

It’s definitely more complicated and wouldn’t be my preference again.

But it has the bonus of anticipation. Counting the days and flirting/fore play in the meantime.

It needs to be good for you to both want repeats though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone ever done this? Previously I’d stipulated on my profile I prefer to meet local people as i’m more likely to meet them and meet them regularly.

I’ve been messaged by people up and down the country who dont mind travelling. I often feel like people are being unrealistic when trying to convince me a long distance fb situation is viable.

I spend about 50% of my time is Southern France and for 2 years I had a FWB in the UK. it worked for us, but I agree it's not easy. I found as long as you maintained regular contact by phone calls Video chats etc it worked. we could go 3 to 4 weeks with out seeing each other, but when we did see each other the sex was explosive.So it can work for some but not for all.

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

I made one from Dublin to Prague work for 3 years

And another from NYC to Altanta work for about a year or so,

So yea it's do able,

If the chemistry is there and your getting your socked rocked off once you touch down then why not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd not do it again.

It started as FWBs but quickly turned into a relationship.

My lack of faith in people to tell the truth means I wouldn't trust them not to have a wife/girlfriend etc.

I hope you find that faith again. Sometimes I find I have a slight mistrust but then I realise that's on me and not necessarily a reflection on them (not saying this is how you should be!).

My issue is, if I did find that faith again and got burned .... the ending wouldn't be a pretty one for either side so I cannot allow it to happen. It's to protect them as much as myself."

Peaches hugs but that’s why you make it a weekend ie saterday Sunday type thing find out pritty fast when they say they aren’t able those days

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By *osco78Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Yep I had one in Warrington for about a year , were still good friends now , yes you had to plan it more ,but I'd rather out the effort into some one I really enjoy meeting

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I think it can be done, but I find a fb/fwb relationship the most problematic of all types.

I'm prepared to go for it 100%, but guys aren't, they are constantly looking for the chase.

I did 4 years long distance, another country, friends initially, lovers, but the understanding was eventually marriage.

Saw him once a year, pre mobiles, and mainly weekly telephone box calls. Lots of letters, which I keep.

I don't take anyone on here as a serious person.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I'd not do it again.

It started as FWBs but quickly turned into a relationship.

My lack of faith in people to tell the truth means I wouldn't trust them not to have a wife/girlfriend etc.

I hope you find that faith again. Sometimes I find I have a slight mistrust but then I realise that's on me and not necessarily a reflection on them (not saying this is how you should be!).

My issue is, if I did find that faith again and got burned .... the ending wouldn't be a pretty one for either side so I cannot allow it to happen. It's to protect them as much as myself.

Peaches hugs but that’s why you make it a weekend ie saterday Sunday type thing find out pritty fast when they say they aren’t able those days "

Nat my ex used to spend weekends with me, a whole week sometimes. If they've got a good story or excuse to tell the wife then it's doable. His job took him all over the country and world, he just told her he was at work and she didn't bat an eyelid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not something I'd say no to, but having kids could make it tricky for me with regards to free time. I think for me it would have to also be with the option to meet with people close to me as well as them "

That can be tricky but with planing can make it easy and plus always though that was the rule with long distance that others were free to meet others closer to home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd not do it again.

It started as FWBs but quickly turned into a relationship.

My lack of faith in people to tell the truth means I wouldn't trust them not to have a wife/girlfriend etc.

I hope you find that faith again. Sometimes I find I have a slight mistrust but then I realise that's on me and not necessarily a reflection on them (not saying this is how you should be!).

My issue is, if I did find that faith again and got burned .... the ending wouldn't be a pretty one for either side so I cannot allow it to happen. It's to protect them as much as myself.

Peaches hugs but that’s why you make it a weekend ie saterday Sunday type thing find out pritty fast when they say they aren’t able those days

Awww big hugs and never thought off that one people who travel for a living

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I have gentlemen friends that live all over and it suits me as i wouldnt want to see the same person more than twice a month

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By *ack again. Again.Man
over a year ago

Tonbridge

Works better for me for sure.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Absolutely no reason why it cant work . Obviously not at the current time but in about 32 years when this shitstorm is finished then you make it work

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I have one and we see each other once every two months and go on hols together, we chat every day and are good friends first the rest is just benefits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on the people involved.

In my case, I don't drive or like to use public transport, which means my options are limited. It's also not practical to have people stay overnight - and I can't spend the night away from home in a hotel either (I have dogs, one of them is very elderly, neither are good with strangers). So my preferred set up is to have my lovers come to mine for a couple of hours and then leave.

So I tend to only meet men within about 10 miles because beyond that doesn't really seem practical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For FWB definitely, if both share the same expectations. As others have said it can be a positive to have some distance in such cases.

Much harder if one or both want a more serious relationship.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I've done it and found it didn't work for me. I stick to my local area, it's far less complicated and I'm not really a fan of long distance or doing things virtually anyway.

I’d agree in this case it would be more complicated, your at least a 7/8 hour drive from where I live. That would be some driving."

Indeed, at that distance it could be a real chore even trying to meet halfway lol.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"I've done it and found it didn't work for me. I stick to my local area, it's far less complicated and I'm not really a fan of long distance or doing things virtually anyway.

I’d agree in this case it would be more complicated, your at least a 7/8 hour drive from where I live. That would be some driving.

Indeed, at that distance it could be a real chore even trying to meet halfway lol.

Absolutely, I mean it would be worth it, but you’d need to make a long weekend of it at least!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I've done it and found it didn't work for me. I stick to my local area, it's far less complicated and I'm not really a fan of long distance or doing things virtually anyway.

I’d agree in this case it would be more complicated, your at least a 7/8 hour drive from where I live. That would be some driving.

Indeed, at that distance it could be a real chore even trying to meet halfway lol.

Absolutely, I mean it would be worth it, but you’d need to make a long weekend of it at least!"

This is very true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one who lived a couple of hours away, it was frustrating we only met once a month or so, did last a couple of years he was a great guy, probably wouldn’t do it again though.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's not something I'd entertain from a random message. It'd have to be someone I got to know otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with you, I only want to meet local, as I like to meet regularly and build the connection.

I just wouldn’t have the time and inclination to keep something going over a long distance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine worked ok for some time, although we regularly chatted in between meetings..

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

It can be done and I've done it before for a short while but realistically I want something much closer to home.

I much prefer regular and connected in person rather than by constant messaging and seeing each other maybe once a month.

It doesn't mean I won't do it again but the chances of seeing each other more regularly are slim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i use to travel to meet a couple which was about hour and half away.

they were lovely people and id stay overnight so was worth it.

some women that were further i use to meet half way in a hotel but due to factors like work, family etc it can be difficult.

depends on how you click, if its worth it your going to get to meet some how

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I've been doing this routinely for over a decade. Pre-pandemic I was making five- or six-hour round trips most weekends. Have to go where I'm wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think I would choose long distance meeting as an ideal, but people will live where they do and I would rather not lose a good connection for the sake of a few hundred miles

I might need a new car though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone ever done this? Previously I’d stipulated on my profile I prefer to meet local people as i’m more likely to meet them and meet them regularly.

I’ve been messaged by people up and down the country who dont mind travelling. I often feel like people are being unrealistic when trying to convince me a long distance fb situation is viable.

I have found that some men on Fab will tell you everything you want to hear in order to have a f***k and go. There are people that can sustain a long distance relationship but it hasn’t happened to me.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’ve had two FWB. Both an hour away. It worked perfectly.

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By *eardyBikerMan
over a year ago

nr stonehaven

One a few hrs away ...one an hour away .

The few hrs one is once in a blue moon , she comes up and stays in a hotel for a weekend break.

The hour away ...a bit tricker...

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

That can be tricky but with planing can make it easy and plus always though that was the rule with long distance that others were free to meet others closer to home "

Exactly, it would be definitely a friend's who met occasionally to have fun situation

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Mine were very much friends with a bit of fun thrown in. Naughty and nice weekends away.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I travelled to St Austel , Safron Walden , west minster , Birmingham, Nottingham and some they have travelled to me from Norfolk , Birmingham , Scarborough, London . Is not easy because it takes effort energy and expenses but in my case is the connection, chemestry, atraction personality, honesty and trustworthy , that made this meets worthy every mile

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By *oItForYorkshireCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I (fem) have had and still have a few that I could call on when I fancied a weekend away from home and some fun ranging from Glasgow to Southampton.

There were never any of ‘the feels’ though and. Never thought too much about what they were doing when I wasn’t there. I do imagine though if feelings are involved it can get quite frustrating and Lonely not to be able to just go round at the drop of a hat for a cuddle

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I had a good friend all the way down in Ipswich, we met a few times a month at his house, I loved getting my music sorted and snacks for the journey, packing my little travel bag

Honestly I’ve always enjoyed travelling to meet people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggled with it as too much juggling with work patterns, home commitments (pets) etc. Factor in all the travelling time and it became too stressy. It really sucks when you have an amazing connection, want more but can't. So I stick to local (ishl.

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By *avhonaWoman
over a year ago

Away with the faeries

I'm sure it's been said by folks already, but there isn't going to be a solution which fits everyone. Each individual is so different, thereby making the relationship unique. Of course you can choose to limit your pool to local folk, but sometimes life just has other ideas.

I will say this. If you meet anyone in this life who grabs your everything by the scruff of the neck and shakes it about in a way that you can't ignore, then there will always be a way to make it work. Distances can be closed if you really want them to be. Trips can be made, if not.

If you are fortunate enough to find such a person who happens to live far off, find a way to let that special person know - every single day - that they are special to you.

The past months have shown me that there is a hell of a lot of value held within the words we choose to use, everyday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes... 19 months ive been seeing one guy, its hard at times, but we've built such a strong relationship that it works for us.

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