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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent

So my (f) partner was out today with her young child and a single guy from fabs approached her told her he recognised her and proceeded to hand her a card with his personal details on. She was highly embarrassed and felt put on the spot. I am really quiet annoyed as we keep this part of our relationship very seperate to family life. Has anyone else had anything like this happen and how did you respond? Am I overreacting to be annoyed? She said he was polite about it but made reference to not being able to message us due to him being a single guy and us blocking them specifically.. She went home and got mad and messaged him to say it was inappropriate and not to do it again.

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Hide your face pics ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was totally inappropriate and I am so sorry that happened.

That is a reason why I block anybody that live very local and comes up on the who's nearby because something similar happened to me once and it really freaked me out.

Might also be worth turning off the who's near feature when you are out and about especially if you are likely to go on fab at any point.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Hide your face pics ??"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hide your face pics ?? "

And this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's inappropriate and disrespectful

That said, your face pic is viewable and you will be recognised

Whilst not excusing his actions, you can prevent further occurences, by keeping your face pics private

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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent

I've set them all to friends only now and changed our screen name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So she ended up giving him her number by messaging..?

And no its not appropriate, but it won't stop some people sadly and you are taking that risk having faces in the open.

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

This is why we hide any recognisable features. Block anyone too close.

Though doesn't excuse his behaviour. I'd be fuming.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"I've set them all to friends only now and changed our screen name. "

Don't forget to change your profile picture also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've set them all to friends only now and changed our screen name. "

Change your profile pic too

Your faces are clearly visible

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester

No your not overreacting he shouldn’t of done it. If it was me I would of messaged you on here first he needs telling not to do it again

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

That’s very bad form. I live 200 yards away from a couple of forumites and I see them sometimes. I wouldn’t dream of introducing myself to them no matter how innocent my intentions were.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

He should not have done that.

People deserve their boundaries.

If he can't message you, surely that should have given him a clue that you aren't interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be raging to be honest. It's like they think because you have a face pic it gives them some kind of free pass. I wouldn't appreciate being approached at all in my day to day life, but a man from Fab hitting on me when I am with my young child is a whole new level of anger.

It is a risk you take with public face pictures to be honest. Don’t forget there are 30,000 people logged on here usually and there is always going to be some who have no respect for you. It really isn't ok though. But the only way you can prevent this is no public face pictures.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Some people are indiscreet unfortunately.

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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent

Done thanks x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Well aside from breaking social fucking distancing it's right out of order. Not cool at all and totally against well, "swinger code" if there's such a thing

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire


"Well aside from breaking social fucking distancing it's right out of order. Not cool at all and totally against well, "swinger code" if there's such a thing "

Can we have a secret handshake? (After social distancing of course?)

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"That’s very bad form. I live 200 yards away from a couple of forumites and I see them sometimes. I wouldn’t dream of introducing myself to them no matter how innocent my intentions were. "

You can come say hello to me if you see me. I give you permission

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That’s very bad form. I live 200 yards away from a couple of forumites and I see them sometimes. I wouldn’t dream of introducing myself to them no matter how innocent my intentions were. "

You now have every forum poster who lives in Buckinghamshire wondering if it's them.

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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent

Agree. It's not that we are single guy snobs.. It sjust gets very boring replying to hi 400 times a day. If we want to contact we will. Thanks for the reply.

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Omg wot an idiot this is totally unexceptable. I can only think the young man wasn't thinking strait . There is an unwritten rule that u never approch any 1 out side of fab or adult cinema or dogging cycles .u av every right 2 b pissed I would b

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might be being a bastard here, but was it a business card?

If it was, I'd think about advising his employer

It is twattish thing to do

Twattishness can bring out the in me

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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent

Messaging via Fabs sorry!

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester


"Some people are indiscreet unfortunately. "

And have no filters.

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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent

He was 47!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Messaging via Fabs sorry! "

If you use reply and quote when you are responding to a specific message it makes it easier to know who you are replying to.

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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent


"Messaging via Fabs sorry!

If you use reply and quote when you are responding to a specific message it makes it easier to know who you are replying to. "

Aha gotcha lol thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah a bit too much. After all we still live in a very closed minded society about sexuality and we tend to feel embarrassed about that and keep it secret at all costs.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"Some people are indiscreet unfortunately. "

So true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Messaging via Fabs sorry!

If you use reply and quote when you are responding to a specific message it makes it easier to know who you are replying to.

Aha gotcha lol thanks "

You are very welcome and welcome to the forums.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

That's bad etiquette OP

But I do have fun explaining to people what ma Ace Winger T-shirt means when I wear it round town or in pubs

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"So my (f) partner was out today with her young child and a single guy from fabs approached her told her he recognised her and proceeded to hand her a card with his personal details on. She was highly embarrassed and felt put on the spot. I am really quiet annoyed as we keep this part of our relationship very seperate to family life. Has anyone else had anything like this happen and how did you respond? Am I overreacting to be annoyed? She said he was polite about it but made reference to not being able to message us due to him being a single guy and us blocking them specifically.. She went home and got mad and messaged him to say it was inappropriate and not to do it again. "

I've had it in the past... it is not on at all.

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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent


"Yeah a bit too much. After all we still live in a very closed minded society about sexuality and we tend to feel embarrassed about that and keep it secret at all costs. "

We definitely are not closed minded.. She is the female part of a couple.. On her own with her young child. I don't see in any situation really how that could be construed as appropriate at all however taboo or not the situation is. Thank's for replying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fucking creepy, especially when she was with her child!!

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks


"That’s very bad form. I live 200 yards away from a couple of forumites and I see them sometimes. I wouldn’t dream of introducing myself to them no matter how innocent my intentions were.

You can come say hello to me if you see me. I give you permission "

Thanks but I like to watch you from afar already. Pausing to occasionally sniff your hair on the bus.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"That’s very bad form. I live 200 yards away from a couple of forumites and I see them sometimes. I wouldn’t dream of introducing myself to them no matter how innocent my intentions were.

You can come say hello to me if you see me. I give you permission

Thanks but I like to watch you from afar already. Pausing to occasionally sniff your hair on the bus. "

That made me chuckle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Way out of order

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah a bit too much. After all we still live in a very closed minded society about sexuality and we tend to feel embarrassed about that and keep it secret at all costs.

We definitely are not closed minded.. She is the female part of a couple.. On her own with her young child. I don't see in any situation really how that could be construed as appropriate at all however taboo or not the situation is. Thank's for replying "

Well. I read in your post she said he was polite. I might be a bit judgemental but it feels like she got mad only after talking to you when she came home. I also find the part when you say "this is a lady on her own" a bit patronising. Again this is a personal opinion on an open forum. I refered to the part where you say you keep this very separate from your family life. this where I ome with being openminded we still feel ashamed of how other people will react if we are exposed etc.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Approaching her full stop was bad form, what's even worse reading is she had her child with her, if it happened to me I'd be livid, on my own I could shrug it off but if my kids were there is be raging

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Not excusing the guy in any way shape or form, what he did was out of order no question - trouble is a lot of guys sign up here and lose sight of all the "norms" of respect and consideration, they think because it's a "sex site" that it means anyone using it must be "up for it" 24/7 and available regardless of where they are, or who they are with.

Add to that the "mystique" of seeing someone they have seen on here in the real world and it's almost like when they spot a celebrity out and about their normal every day lives - they almost can't help themselves.

The number of threads you see along the lines of "I saw a fellow Fabber today" or "I think the hot girl on the checkout might be on here because she wished me a Fab day" and then go on to ask it they should approach them, is testament to that.

What amazes me is that the majority of the time it is older men, that really should know better, and not a teenager or someone in their early twenties that you might expect it from.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

P.S. sorry you had to experience that OP - it's wrong on all kinds of levels

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Wildly inappropriate

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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent


"Yeah a bit too much. After all we still live in a very closed minded society about sexuality and we tend to feel embarrassed about that and keep it secret at all costs.

We definitely are not closed minded.. She is the female part of a couple.. On her own with her young child. I don't see in any situation really how that could be construed as appropriate at all however taboo or not the situation is. Thank's for replying

Well. I read in your post she said he was polite. I might be a bit judgemental but it feels like she got mad only after talking to you when she came home. I also find the part when you say "this is a lady on her own" a bit patronising. Again this is a personal opinion on an open forum. I refered to the part where you say you keep this very separate from your family life. this where I ome with being openminded we still feel ashamed of how other people will react if we are exposed etc. "

When I say he was polite.. I mean he didn't try to touch her up or engage her with a dick pic.. He did quote aspects of our profile to her in front of her child. As for me saying female in her own. She is fully capable of looking after herself I meant more we are on here as a couple and he approached her as a single if thst makes more sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant actually belive somone has the balls to do that in the first place tbh.

Even mentioning the filter thing, like wtf. If you didn't want to talk to them online what makes them think that plan would work in person with there kids in tow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah a bit too much. After all we still live in a very closed minded society about sexuality and we tend to feel embarrassed about that and keep it secret at all costs.

We definitely are not closed minded.. She is the female part of a couple.. On her own with her young child. I don't see in any situation really how that could be construed as appropriate at all however taboo or not the situation is. Thank's for replying

Well. I read in your post she said he was polite. I might be a bit judgemental but it feels like she got mad only after talking to you when she came home. I also find the part when you say "this is a lady on her own" a bit patronising. Again this is a personal opinion on an open forum. I refered to the part where you say you keep this very separate from your family life. this where I ome with being openminded we still feel ashamed of how other people will react if we are exposed etc.

When I say he was polite.. I mean he didn't try to touch her up or engage her with a dick pic.. He did quote aspects of our profile to her in front of her child. As for me saying female in her own. She is fully capable of looking after herself I meant more we are on here as a couple and he approached her as a single if thst makes more sense. "

OK, you seem more bothered that he disrespected you as the male half, rather than a stranger approached your partner and her child

That might give bumhurt, but in the scheme of things, it's fuck all

Put that to one side, it's dangerous thinking

Concentrate on the act, the potential effects on your partner and her child, not how it affects you as half the couple

I just think that is a little misplaced in this scenario

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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent


"Yeah a bit too much. After all we still live in a very closed minded society about sexuality and we tend to feel embarrassed about that and keep it secret at all costs.

We definitely are not closed minded.. She is the female part of a couple.. On her own with her young child. I don't see in any situation really how that could be construed as appropriate at all however taboo or not the situation is. Thank's for replying

Well. I read in your post she said he was polite. I might be a bit judgemental but it feels like she got mad only after talking to you when she came home. I also find the part when you say "this is a lady on her own" a bit patronising. Again this is a personal opinion on an open forum. I refered to the part where you say you keep this very separate from your family life. this where I ome with being openminded we still feel ashamed of how other people will react if we are exposed etc.

When I say he was polite.. I mean he didn't try to touch her up or engage her with a dick pic.. He did quote aspects of our profile to her in front of her child. As for me saying female in her own. She is fully capable of looking after herself I meant more we are on here as a couple and he approached her as a single if thst makes more sense.

OK, you seem more bothered that he disrespected you as the male half, rather than a stranger approached your partner and her child

That might give bumhurt, but in the scheme of things, it's fuck all

Put that to one side, it's dangerous thinking

Concentrate on the act, the potential effects on your partner and her child, not how it affects you as half the couple

I just think that is a little misplaced in this scenario "

No you're taking it out of context.

I'm annoyed that any bloke would think it ws appropriate to engage my partner in a sexual conversation of any sort in from of her child, unsolicited with no previous contact or indication she/we were wanting contact from a single guy. Thanks for replying though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah a bit too much. After all we still live in a very closed minded society about sexuality and we tend to feel embarrassed about that and keep it secret at all costs.

We definitely are not closed minded.. She is the female part of a couple.. On her own with her young child. I don't see in any situation really how that could be construed as appropriate at all however taboo or not the situation is. Thank's for replying

Well. I read in your post she said he was polite. I might be a bit judgemental but it feels like she got mad only after talking to you when she came home. I also find the part when you say "this is a lady on her own" a bit patronising. Again this is a personal opinion on an open forum. I refered to the part where you say you keep this very separate from your family life. this where I ome with being openminded we still feel ashamed of how other people will react if we are exposed etc.

When I say he was polite.. I mean he didn't try to touch her up or engage her with a dick pic.. He did quote aspects of our profile to her in front of her child. As for me saying female in her own. She is fully capable of looking after herself I meant more we are on here as a couple and he approached her as a single if thst makes more sense.

OK, you seem more bothered that he disrespected you as the male half, rather than a stranger approached your partner and her child

That might give bumhurt, but in the scheme of things, it's fuck all

Put that to one side, it's dangerous thinking

Concentrate on the act, the potential effects on your partner and her child, not how it affects you as half the couple

I just think that is a little misplaced in this scenario

No you're taking it out of context.

I'm annoyed that any bloke would think it ws appropriate to engage my partner in a sexual conversation of any sort in from of her child, unsolicited with no previous contact or indication she/we were wanting contact from a single guy. Thanks for replying though. "

OK, I apologise if I misread your comments

I'd be surprised if anyone here condoned his actions

Hope the profile changes you have made make you both less visible in public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh wow! Trying to touch her or engage with dick picks would be on a different level and never near "unpoliteness". But look, this journey as a couple in a swingers world,I'm sure will have a bit of sweet and sour situations, the big deal is how you manage all these situations. In any moment the lady should be blamed for any of this. Not saying its the case. But it's a good opportunity to rethink where you are at and even take the opportunity to grow stronger in a positive context when possible.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Totally inappropriate to do this generally. And completely wrong to get around site filters to do it in public. People may use filters for more than sexual preferences, it could include having had predators, attacks etc in the past. Report such inappropriate behaviour to Admin.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Yeah that’s really creepy. But we have to remember some people on here are very loud and proud and don’t appreciate the need for discretion.

Not sharing face pics from the outset may put some people off but we’d rather only meet people who shared our views with regards to privacy.

Lou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your place of area too? To next village.. or a pun like..da kitchen..del la sofa..etc...

Scary on your own being approached..creepy intact, but with a child..definite no no.

Definitely no a person I'd feel comfortable with.

Hope your ok op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope SHE is ok!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s inappropriate that this happened while with her child, and really inconsiderate of the person. Even with face pics showing one has to have a bit of decorum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is so creepy and inappropriate you just do not do that what the hell is wrong with people!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Totally inappropriate to do this generally. And completely wrong to get around site filters to do it in public. People may use filters for more than sexual preferences, it could include having had predators, attacks etc in the past. Report such inappropriate behaviour to Admin. "

Admin can't take any action without proof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be tempted to go out and approach this shithead on the street when he's not expecting it, and hand him a card with my name on it.

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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent


"Totally inappropriate to do this generally. And completely wrong to get around site filters to do it in public. People may use filters for more than sexual preferences, it could include having had predators, attacks etc in the past. Report such inappropriate behaviour to Admin.

Admin can't take any action without proof."

Would a business card with his business, personal details and that he also wrote his screen name on... count as proof?

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I've seen many guys I know from FAB in the high street. I try to be discreet in case they are waiting for their wife and she's sees 'something' which could be awkward!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Totally inappropriate to do this generally. And completely wrong to get around site filters to do it in public. People may use filters for more than sexual preferences, it could include having had predators, attacks etc in the past. Report such inappropriate behaviour to Admin.

Admin can't take any action without proof.

Would a business card with his business, personal details and that he also wrote his screen name on... count as proof? "

That would be for admin to decide.

My personal opinion only is that doesn't prove anything except that he handed a business card over.

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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent


"Totally inappropriate to do this generally. And completely wrong to get around site filters to do it in public. People may use filters for more than sexual preferences, it could include having had predators, attacks etc in the past. Report such inappropriate behaviour to Admin.

Admin can't take any action without proof.

Would a business card with his business, personal details and that he also wrote his screen name on... count as proof?

That would be for admin to decide.

My personal opinion only is that doesn't prove anything except that he handed a business card over."

Let me assure you that she didn't ask for him to approach her. I'm not sure how else she would have that card with his Fabs screen name on the back.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Totally inappropriate to do this generally. And completely wrong to get around site filters to do it in public. People may use filters for more than sexual preferences, it could include having had predators, attacks etc in the past. Report such inappropriate behaviour to Admin.

Admin can't take any action without proof.

Would a business card with his business, personal details and that he also wrote his screen name on... count as proof?

That would be for admin to decide.

My personal opinion only is that doesn't prove anything except that he handed a business card over.

Let me assure you that she didn't ask for him to approach her. I'm not sure how else she would have that card with his Fabs screen name on the back. "

As I said it's for admin to decide. I'm not disputing what you said just offering my personal opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why did she take the card from him?

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By *eannaTV/TS
over a year ago

Cwmfelifach, nr Newport


"Well aside from breaking social fucking distancing it's right out of order. Not cool at all and totally against well, "swinger code" if there's such a thing "

I totally agree with you, there isn't a swinger's code as such, other than the unwritten code of conduct, ethics and manners, that 99% of us uphold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect gone out of the window... We all know what this site is about... But come on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why did she take the card from him?"

Yeah why?

It's encouraging it!

It's really not OK - I would have been furious and a bit scared to be honest.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Completely inappropriate.

He took it way beyond the limit by confirming that he knew his contact wasn’t wanted because of site filters.

Hoping that you’ve blocked him. A profile name change will not help if he has you saved in favourites.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Unfortunately some people don't recognise boundaries! I've lost count of the threads from single men saying, well almost asking permission to approach neighbour/co worker/friend of the family etc they've seen on Fab.

Why someone would think that appropriate is beyond me. I have bumped into a playmate in Sainsbury's. We were both single, both on own, but time and place. We both nodded in acknowledgment and continued with our shop.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Why did she take the card from him?

Yeah why?

It's encouraging it!

It's really not OK - I would have been furious and a bit scared to be honest."

Being furious and scared is probably why she took the card.

Women are often polite to creepy men because we known kicking off or telling them to fuck off bluntly is more likely to make them kick off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why did she take the card from him?

Yeah why?

It's encouraging it!

It's really not OK - I would have been furious and a bit scared to be honest.

Being furious and scared is probably why she took the card.

Women are often polite to creepy men because we known kicking off or telling them to fuck off bluntly is more likely to make them kick off."

I get that

I (perhaps wrongly) took it that she was in a fairly public place, so refusing to engage with the guy and not accepting the card might have been a viable option

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I would have walked away when he started quoting from my profile and I certainly wouldn't have accepted his card.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So my (f) partner was out today with her young child and a single guy from fabs approached her told her he recognised her and proceeded to hand her a card with his personal details on. She was highly embarrassed and felt put on the spot. I am really quiet annoyed as we keep this part of our relationship very seperate to family life. Has anyone else had anything like this happen and how did you respond? Am I overreacting to be annoyed? She said he was polite about it but made reference to not being able to message us due to him being a single guy and us blocking them specifically.. She went home and got mad and messaged him to say it was inappropriate and not to do it again. "

Super creepy. Totally not on and I can see how she got put on the spot...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally unacceptable, I wouldn’t dream of approaching anyone in the real world. I was once waiting at a taxi rank with a few colleagues, and the lady in my profile pic was there with her fella. We recognised each other and it was awkward. If I was on my own I wouldn’t have approached them.

I’ve also seen another woman I met off here who was with her fella and child. We walked past each other and a cheeky wry smile as enough unavoidable

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

To be more discreet, as well as not having face pics, you can put a different postcode to your own. If you put a postcode from 50 miles away you’re not going to show up on local searches.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I get approached when I'm glammed up and out pubbing.

It's never, 'hey, aren't you on Fabswingers with a shed load of verifications?' It's usually, 'You're Tina Titz, aren't you?'

I don't mind this in the least, as I am pretty recognisable and everyone is always very friendly and I'm already out with the people I'm with.

I still don't do autographs, though and it is a world away from someone shouting in the middle of a trip to somewhere exotic like Tesco

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

That’s a really shitty thing for someone to do, especially with a child in tow

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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary

There are a few folks on fab living around me,hello is about as far as it goes

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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent


"Why did she take the card from him?"

She was put on the spot and embarrassed. Knowing her as I do if he ever did it again I fear for his safety lol

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Go away now and never approach me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I noticed a fellow site member in a pub years ago, firstly I could see she was with a group of friends on a night out and secondly you just do that.

I did message her the next day or so and said as much, which was absolutely fine for both of us.

Site members don't don't own each other just cause we're here, we have a responsibility of respect and discretion to each other I think.

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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent

(F here) In a club etc I wouldn’t mind being approached as it’s a different setting and we’re all there to socialise with like minded people.

On the street less than 100 metres from my home (when our listed town is already different) with my 3 year old I was totally on the spot walked away while he was speaking to me to then be approached a second time to be given the card and more comments made..

I walked off like what the hell just happened...

if I’d have been on my own or with my older child who would be more coherent of what he was saying- he would have received a different reaction, I’m apparently too polite in front of the little one but was more shocked at the audacity of it.

Not that I’m condoning any approach on the street but he must see me all the time with and without my kids.. why choose to approach me with one? That’s what pissed me off the most.

I get that some people are “loud and proud” we ourselves are comfortable about who we are and what we like BUT with kids about you’d think there would be some sort of unwritten rule

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What an absolute twat!

No discretion at all!

Years ago i met a couple. We had a great night and his wife got plenty of cock and loved it, so did we.

Next day i was on Tesco. She spotted me and started walking towards me. Don't get me wrong she was sexy but i immediately turned and walked in the opposite direction. She had no clue, i could have had children or a partner with me, leaving me to explain who she was. Really inappropriate and pointless. What did she think i'd do, fuck her at the meat counter?

Never spoke to them again, shame they were nice if a bit dumb.

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By *8v3nCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

That's why I removed everything and keeping everything private. Don't want to put dickpic or boobpic either. Not our forte . My Vix is pretty, but for now it would be even better if by accident she is on Tinder rather than through connection here. Probably that bricks all the getting to know people here, but we are here for a banter more than anything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I noticed a fellow site member in a pub years ago, firstly I could see she was with a group of friends on a night out and secondly you just do that.

I did message her the next day or so and said as much, which was absolutely fine for both of us.

Site members don't don't own each other just cause we're here, we have a responsibility of respect and discretion to each other I think."

....er we also have a duty to proof read what we've just written...DOH !!!

Should be don't do that, and no I didn't approach her...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why did she take the card from him?

Yeah why?

It's encouraging it!

It's really not OK - I would have been furious and a bit scared to be honest.

Being furious and scared is probably why she took the card.

Women are often polite to creepy men because we known kicking off or telling them to fuck off bluntly is more likely to make them kick off.

I get that

I (perhaps wrongly) took it that she was in a fairly public place, so refusing to engage with the guy and not accepting the card might have been a viable option "

If it had been me... with my child... I would have done whatever I thought would get rid of him asap.

Had she refused, he may have made a fuss. Which again, would have been frightening for a young child.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Why did she take the card from him?

Yeah why?

It's encouraging it!

It's really not OK - I would have been furious and a bit scared to be honest.

Being furious and scared is probably why she took the card.

Women are often polite to creepy men because we known kicking off or telling them to fuck off bluntly is more likely to make them kick off.

I get that

I (perhaps wrongly) took it that she was in a fairly public place, so refusing to engage with the guy and not accepting the card might have been a viable option

If it had been me... with my child... I would have done whatever I thought would get rid of him asap.

Had she refused, he may have made a fuss. Which again, would have been frightening for a young child. "

Agreed! I would have taken it to avoid confrontation and embarrassment in front of my child.

Lou x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"(F here) In a club etc I wouldn’t mind being approached as it’s a different setting and we’re all there to socialise with like minded people.

On the street less than 100 metres from my home (when our listed town is already different) with my 3 year old I was totally on the spot walked away while he was speaking to me to then be approached a second time to be given the card and more comments made..

I walked off like what the hell just happened...

if I’d have been on my own or with my older child who would be more coherent of what he was saying- he would have received a different reaction, I’m apparently too polite in front of the little one but was more shocked at the audacity of it.

Not that I’m condoning any approach on the street but he must see me all the time with and without my kids.. why choose to approach me with one? That’s what pissed me off the most.

I get that some people are “loud and proud” we ourselves are comfortable about who we are and what we like BUT with kids about you’d think there would be some sort of unwritten rule

"

There is an unwritten rule which most of us follow. Why any man would feel if ok to approach a woman with a young child is beyond me whether he recognised her from fab or not.

I think you've sadly learned a hard lessons about having public face pictures and human nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am with you on this, we would never approach someone in the street especially if we hadn’t spoke or met before, your partner had every right to be annoyed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's bang out of order. Why do people think it's perfectly acceptable to do that.

I'm so sorry x

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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent


"(F here) In a club etc I wouldn’t mind being approached as it’s a different setting and we’re all there to socialise with like minded people.

On the street less than 100 metres from my home (when our listed town is already different) with my 3 year old I was totally on the spot walked away while he was speaking to me to then be approached a second time to be given the card and more comments made..

I walked off like what the hell just happened...

if I’d have been on my own or with my older child who would be more coherent of what he was saying- he would have received a different reaction, I’m apparently too polite in front of the little one but was more shocked at the audacity of it.

Not that I’m condoning any approach on the street but he must see me all the time with and without my kids.. why choose to approach me with one? That’s what pissed me off the most.

I get that some people are “loud and proud” we ourselves are comfortable about who we are and what we like BUT with kids about you’d think there would be some sort of unwritten rule

There is an unwritten rule which most of us follow. Why any man would feel if ok to approach a woman with a young child is beyond me whether he recognised her from fab or not.

I think you've sadly learned a hard lessons about having public face pictures and human nature."

It's made us question using the site at all and just waiting for clubs and parties to start again. People like him ruin this adventure for so many others.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

How do you know someone you met at a club or party wouldn't approach you in the street ?

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By *lamorousBeautyLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"So my (f) partner was out today with her young child and a single guy from fabs approached her told her he recognised her and proceeded to hand her a card with his personal details on. She was highly embarrassed and felt put on the spot. I am really quiet annoyed as we keep this part of our relationship very seperate to family life. Has anyone else had anything like this happen and how did you respond? Am I overreacting to be annoyed? She said he was polite about it but made reference to not being able to message us due to him being a single guy and us blocking them specifically.. She went home and got mad and messaged him to say it was inappropriate and not to do it again. "

Not only his behaviour was highly inappropriate, it was also very aggressive bearing in mind that you've set preferences to block single guys!

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

This has never happened to us and would hate it to happen. I have been recognised a few times on a night out which I don't mind

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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent


"So my (f) partner was out today with her young child and a single guy from fabs approached her told her he recognised her and proceeded to hand her a card with his personal details on. She was highly embarrassed and felt put on the spot. I am really quiet annoyed as we keep this part of our relationship very seperate to family life. Has anyone else had anything like this happen and how did you respond? Am I overreacting to be annoyed? She said he was polite about it but made reference to not being able to message us due to him being a single guy and us blocking them specifically.. She went home and got mad and messaged him to say it was inappropriate and not to do it again.

Not only his behaviour was highly inappropriate, it was also very aggressive bearing in mind that you've set preferences to block single guys!"

(F) And this right here is why it’s inappropriate- thank you

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By *landEl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent


"How do you know someone you met at a club or party wouldn't approach you in the street ?"

(F) That’s a bit different if I knew them- still wouldn’t be appropriate with kids in tow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that not all single men are so forthcoming like that set your photos to friends only that should sort your problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally out of order & the reason i hide facepics on here. I had a similar very embarrassing situation, since then no face pics public...

Unfortunately being the type of site it is it attracts a vast amount of weirdos (this can be seen from many woeful posts that are listed every week)

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I would of been absolutely livid too. They were totally out of order.

That is just one reason that we will never have our face pics on public show.

We hope it doesn't put you off the swinging lifestyle. Please don't let one idiot spoil your fun.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I guess it would depend on the situation and also the person that did it.

If it was a lone female then I might feel OK about it if it was done discretely, a male or a couple and I would feel a lot more compromised and uneasy about it.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Also they would have to have been in some position of trust with me already to know what my male face looks like to recognise me as you'll never find me out and about looking like I do on my profile unless I'm at a club or something and then approach me all you like at your peril

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By *ichaelsmyMan
over a year ago

douglas

an unacceptable situation and so wrong

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