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What makes a good compliment

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

and when is a compliment actually not a compliment - is it about misunderstanding between people?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Is... acknowledging a positive attribute and really meaning it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Burping after swallowing after oral

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

For me if something is said from the heart...a good place, then any misunderstandings are quickly cleared up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When youre not familiar with the person and the compliment is personal then the person gets cross you didnt accept their compliment. I dislike those situations.

Ive complimented strangers before: nice hair, clothes, shoes but thats as far as it goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it is unqualified.

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Is... acknowledging a positive attribute and really meaning it"

I agree - but what if they compliment me for example on my bum (they do not lol) and I personally hate it (I do not either) but just as an example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A positivity recognised by someone about you & told to you without the need of any gain from it ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ultimate compliment has to be “I love you”, which means I accept you, despite your faults and failings, which we all have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was just thinking of that yesterday.. when people chose to compliment and on what. How do you make your compliment stand out in a flood of similar ones.. and do you actually need to make it different or just the gesture matters. Just in relation to fab. Not life outside.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"When youre not familiar with the person and the compliment is personal then the person gets cross you didnt accept their compliment. I dislike those situations.

Ive complimented strangers before: nice hair, clothes, shoes but thats as far as it goes. "

I've done this...complicated a stranger on a really great outfit..it has been met with positivity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me if something is said from the heart...a good place, then any misunderstandings are quickly cleared up"

I think misunderstandings can be cleared up quickly if people actually take the time to listen to each other. Usually we make a snap judgment there and then and still let it linger even if the misunderstanding has been resolved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is... acknowledging a positive attribute and really meaning it

I agree - but what if they compliment me for example on my bum (they do not lol) and I personally hate it (I do not either) but just as an example.

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That’s still a compliment ... regardless if you like the subject of the compliment or not

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"The ultimate compliment has to be “I love you”, which means I accept you, despite your faults and failings, which we all have."

Not all of us

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Meh, just remember most of what I say is sarcasm.

So any compliments are usually few and far between but when I do give them I really really really mean it.

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

So what drives us to give us to pay compliments?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

When it feels it's personal to you. It's easy to say "you're beautiful" and it's kinda meh, but saying "I love the way the light bounces off your hair" feels more personal. But also depends who is saying it also. Even something that sounds like an insult can be a compliment from the right person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good compliment for me is one that is passed with no agenda or obvious thought of reward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it’s personal and genuine I guess.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"So what drives us to give us to pay compliments? "

Sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something thats honest and when nothing is expected off the the back of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what drives us to give us to pay compliments? "

Giving recognition and appreciation to someone I either care about or someone in passing who I noticed for either their lhhsical attitbutes or attitude..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what drives us to give us to pay compliments?

Giving recognition and appreciation to someone I either care about or someone in passing who I noticed for either their lhhsical attitbutes or attitude.. "

*physical

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By *oubletroubleCouple
over a year ago

South West

When given with warmth and kindness. J x

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"So what drives us to give us to pay compliments? "

I think in a group of close friends it's kind of like passing on positive vibes. Like your mate will give you a compliment and big you up when you're having a shitty day and you'll do the same when they need it. So you all end up boosting each others confidence.

From people who want to get into your knickers? Exactly that

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By *ildbillkidMan
over a year ago

where the road goes on forever

Their sense of humor, the way they carry themselves, looks only carry so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't it just when you want to let someone know there's something about them that you really like? Pretty simple in terms of what's good and what drives it imo

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By *ildbillkidMan
over a year ago

where the road goes on forever


"So what drives us to give us to pay compliments?

Giving recognition and appreciation to someone I either care about or someone in passing who I noticed for either their lhhsical attitbutes or attitude..

*physical "
i like your big fingers

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Meh, just remember most of what I say is sarcasm.

So any compliments are usually few and far between but when I do give them I really really really mean it.

"

So I am drop dead gorgeous then!?

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Compliments off a stranger is always a nice thing 4 me personally. It could b off a man or women as long as its heart felt and genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what drives us to give us to pay compliments?

Giving recognition and appreciation to someone I either care about or someone in passing who I noticed for either their lhhsical attitbutes or attitude..

*physical i like your big fingers "

Haha they do have a mind of their own!

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By *meliaeWoman
over a year ago

Chester

I think comparisons and mentioning other profiles forces things into the “not a compliment” category. It’s something I’ve noticed to be common in first messages and it kinda turns my stomach to read.

Like, you can say I look good without needing to demean or diss the bodies of anyone else on here. We all look darn good in our own unique and beautiful ways.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"Meh, just remember most of what I say is sarcasm.

So any compliments are usually few and far between but when I do give them I really really really mean it.

So I am drop dead gorgeous then!? "

If I get sex out of it, then yes.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Compliments off a stranger is always a nice thing 4 me personally. It could b off a man or women as long as its heart felt and genuine "

I have had compliments for something like an outfit of a stranger....they have not asked for and I've never seen them again...it felt good.

And..I have also given them.

I think it's particularly nice when it's a woman paying the compliment with no ulterior motive.

Just one woman to another being appreciative.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Meh, just remember most of what I say is sarcasm.

So any compliments are usually few and far between but when I do give them I really really really mean it.

So I am drop dead gorgeous then!?

If I get sex out of it, then yes."

That's good enough for me!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

On here, I think most "general" compliments can be taken with a huge pinch of salt - and by "general" I mean those non-personal ones that could be said to anyone and have little meaning but plenty of expectation.

The ones that mean the most are the personal ones, that are heartfelt and come without an agenda or expectation and more importantly are delivered naturally and without forethought (which obviously as the recipient it's not always easy to tell).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't it just when you want to let someone know there's something about them that you really like? Pretty simple in terms of what's good and what drives it imo "

Aka if you have to think too hard about what makes it good then it's bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think compliments on here as a means of initial engagement with someone demonstrate awkward social skills

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On Fab I really don’t know how best to pay a compliment as a man to a woman because of understandable scepticism or indifference. I try to avoid it in opening messages, and on the forum, for this reason.

In real life the compliment takes place in a real life context with body language, tone of voice, etc all giving the other person positive or negative signals. I don’t think I’ve ever had a bad reaction to a compliment in real life, perhaps embarrassment at worse.

Then again in real life I’ve never complimented a complete stranger on their naked body which I guess is commonplace here.

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