FabSwingers.com forum: Let it go

By *riar Belisse OP Woman
over a year ago

Holibobs

Do you hold grudges

Can you eventually let it go and move on...

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By *dinMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

No I still hate the song!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah...too much wasted energy.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm pretty good at letting go. I rarely forget though and I'll never be friends with certain people again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm pretty good at letting go. I rarely forget though and I'll never be friends with certain people again. "

Totally this!

I've no issues cutting someone out of my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn I thought this was going to be a Frozen thread!

I don't hold grudges. Or let much hit me that closely that a grudge would be applicable. Last year proved this fallible though. Hopefully I'll let it go soon enough.

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place

I don't even start them, let alone hold them.

But I know some people do.

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By *dinMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"No I still hate the song!

Sorry couldn't resist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I still hate the song!

Me too

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

A friend of mine hates the song and yet every time we chat he ends up giving himself (and me) the ear worm.

As for grudges, I mostly don't hold them, but there are a couple of very special cases that are exceptions. Mostly if there is a "reason" to hold a grudge I just cease to have them exist in my life.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Yes.

My sister has led my niece and nephew to believe that their grandad (our dad) is dead because she hasn't got the balls to tell them she is a fucking selfish cunt who's cut him out of their lives based on the fact she didn't want him in hers.

If she owned it and her actions and was truly remorseful then I could let it go, like I can most things but only if I genuinely believe the wrongdoer understands why their actions were so bad, the consequences of those actions and as I say, is truly remorseful.

Don't own yer shit? Don't come knocking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can let it go, as I don’t believe in holding onto things, as it can just eat you up, but I have also let toxic people go, as I don’t think that’s healthy either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope , life is to jolly short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't hold grudges

There are, however, toxic people that I avoid and others I pay lip service to because I have to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend of mine hates the song and yet every time we chat he ends up giving himself (and me) the ear worm.

As for grudges, I mostly don't hold them, but there are a couple of very special cases that are exceptions. Mostly if there is a "reason" to hold a grudge I just cease to have them exist in my life."

Can I hold your tush in a spoon?

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By *dinMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"No I still hate the song!

Me too

I just can't hit the high notes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I explode and then it’s over. No grudges as it just hurts you and doesn’t affect them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I still hate the song!

Me too

I just can't hit the high notes

They’re hard to reach, makes me cough

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By *dinMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"No I still hate the song!

Me too

I just can't hit the high notes

They’re hard to reach, makes me cough

Maybe if you grab my balls and squeeze hard

lmao

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By *ourNextAddictionMan
over a year ago

Somerset

I don’t hold grudges - because life’s too short to be pissed off.

But you’ll most certainly become ‘dead’ to me. Reality of it is, I don’t need anyone in life. So unless you offer some value to mine then I won’t have you around.

Family or friends. Doesn’t matter - soon as the respect is gone it’s over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In answer to your question, life’s to short to hold grudges

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London

Yes I do. My ex used to have DVDs of The Grudge and The Grudge 2. When we split I held on to them.

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By *oasted cheese sandwichMan
over a year ago

Nearby

I hold a grudge until karma naturally equalls it out.That said I dont waste time thinking over it, but it will remain locked up in the back of my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another veiled attack thread?

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By *assConductorMan
over a year ago

the wild

Depends on what happened and if there was an apology.

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By *riar Belisse OP Woman
over a year ago

Holibobs

"Another veiled attack thread?"

Not at all

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Do you hold grudges - oh yes!

Can you eventually let it go and move on - oh no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No - grudges are a waste of energy.

I remove people from my life if they're toxic.

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

No I don’t have the energy. Say my piece and once it’s done it’s over in my book, move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nah...too much wasted energy.

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wouldn’t mind wasting some energy on you

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By *riar Belisse OP Woman
over a year ago

Holibobs

"Do you hold grudges - oh yes!

Can you eventually let it go and move on - oh no!"

I am having mindfulness training at work and we are on grudges, I am the same as you as you know, but I was curious to see if I could overcome a couple of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grudges cause an awful lot of heartache not just for those who hold the grudge but for those who end up on the receiving end of one and often for no good reason.

This last year taught me that there are some horrible people out there who really should have known and behaved better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, because what's the point? If someone hurt me enough to warrant a grudge I'd just cut them off instead. It can take a really long time to process hurt if someone has done you wrong, but I don't believe that's the same as holding a grudge. That's coming to terms with something and learning to accept it before moving on.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"No I still hate the song!

Me too

So did a shop assistant in the Disney store lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont forgive easily. It takes a lot to really fuck me off but once it is done, that's it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t, but there are some things I’ll never forgive or forget. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do hold a grudge sometimes, yes. I am currently holding a huge grudge against my next door neighbour but it's for good reasons. Sometimes a grudge is very valid.

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By *ocbigMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Grudges...someone cleverer than me said to me..are like eating poison & hoping someone else dies.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Depends what/who it is - there are some people who have visited my life down the years that I'll never forgive, and will hold a grudge against to the day I die, even if I have cut them out of my life completely.

Others I'll just move on from and have as little to do with as I possibly can - no grudges, just no desire to interact with them either

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I just wipe people out my life. No grudges here as i dont give them a second thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve learnt not to hold grudges and just get on with life

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I don’t, for my own peace abs happiness not there’s

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I just wipe people out my life. No grudges here as i dont give them a second thought"

Not always possible - sometimes you have to grow and just suck it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some stuff is impossible to forget about and I'll never be able to let those kind of grudges go. I try not to dwell on it too much but I will never forgive those who have seriously wronged me. But with others over smaller things I just forget about it, cut contact and don't interact.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Anyone who would be likely to bring a grudge into my life isn’t worthy of my time. I would therefore cease all contact and move on.

Toxicity is a lousy state of affairs between people .... it never ends well

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"Do you hold grudges

Can you eventually let it go and move on..."

Depends on the seriousness of what the person involved has done for me.

In general terms, yes I do.

But not always, there are those who have pushed me too far and I won't give them the benefit of my time again.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I forgive but do not forget.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I deal with it at the time so the other party is aware there is a problem. I don't let things fester, that's just a waste of life.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone does me badly wrong I just cut them out of my life and I rarely give them another thought. Unfortunately I’ve learned from experience that second and third chances rarely work.

In theory I would get back at them if the chance arose but in reality I probably couldn’t be bothered.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I don’t hold grudges anymore, complete waste of time and energy, as others have said if the person is that bad I will just cut them from my life.

Don’t forget if they are a compete cunt they wont really care if they have hurt you in the first place

that dirt if person doesn’t belong in my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you hold grudges - oh yes!

Can you eventually let it go and move on - oh no!

I am having mindfulness training at work and we are on grudges, I am the same as you as you know, but I was curious to see if I could overcome a couple of them

What kind of thing do they suggest?

You have a good job if they are giving such training.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I don't hold grudges

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I try not to as it's negative feelings anf all they do is eat away at you.

I try to just move on and leave it in the past.

Mrs

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

No. I have far more interesting things to do with my life

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"No. I have far more interesting things to do with my life

Xxx

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"No - grudges are a waste of energy.

I remove people from my life if they're toxic."

What she fucking said ^

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Fuck yes.

I've been building my secret lair for years now and plotting my revenge.

Those twats at school who bullied me will soon be laughing on the other side of their face when I achieve world domination.

And as for the noisy fucking neighbours I've had over the years, let's just say the large pineapple's and anal lube are not going to go to waste

Mwhaahahahaha

Maniacal laugh, maniacal laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's come with age, I now let things go rather than let it consume me. Toxic people are best left in the past, once you remove them from your life, grudges seem irrelevant somehow.

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I adhere to the Charlie Sheen philosophy: "Resentments are the rocket fuel that lives in the tip of my sabre."

I believe he was suffering from drug-induced psychosis at the time though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you hold grudges

Can you eventually let it go and move on..."
this is my 2021 lesson, learn to let go.. not just grudges, anything that doesn’t suit me well

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

My memory is so bad I wouldn't remember if someone did something bad to me.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Holding a grudge only does you damage not the individual you have it with.

So let it go, that’s not saying forget or forgive but file it away, cut them out of your circle if needed and get on with your life.

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