FabSwingers.com forum: Me and an old date (she is stunning) we have no experience but want ffm 3 way or advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How can myself and a woman be involved in a this new field? We both single and attractive but new to this

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I know a stunning woman as well, that's why I never meet her when she tells me that she's got a new cattle prod

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Btw, is that first pic on your profile really you OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Btw, is that first pic on your profile really you OP? "
op?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Btw, is that first pic on your profile really you OP?

op?"

You, as in opening or original poster, anyway you still haven't answered my question

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Btw, is that first pic on your profile really you OP?

op?

You, as in opening or original poster, anyway you still haven't answered my question

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what’s the question??

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

You put a question mark after I mentioned what OP means

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You put a question mark after I mentioned what OP means

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every pic is me yea.. I suppose that’s a compliment. I’m slow with slang. Is op original pic? Lol.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"How can myself and a woman be involved in a this new field? We both single and attractive but new to this "

The fist thing you will need to do is set up a couple's profile with her. It's very unlikely you'll get anywhere on here without that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How can myself and a woman be involved in a this new field? We both single and attractive but new to this

The fist thing you will need to do is set up a couple's profile with her. It's very unlikely you'll get anywhere on here without that. "
thanks. Messaged a question..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're gonna do it in a field you'll need your vests

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"If you're gonna do it in a field you'll need your vests"

You can borrow my vest. I’m available now to deliver it to you

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"How can myself and a woman be involved in a this new field? We both single and attractive but new to this

The fist thing you will need to do is set up a couple's profile with her. It's very unlikely you'll get anywhere on here without that. thanks. Messaged a question.."

Please keep it to the forum, thanks.

The thing that will scream fake to a lot of people is a couple on a single man's profile. You can add all the photos of her you like. You'll find you need a couple's profile, get photo verified by the site, and then preferably get video chat verified by other site users.

Those are the ways this site provides for demonstrating you are genuine. It may not be perfect but it's what you have. Trying to be a couple on a single man's profile is almost certainly going to be a hiding to nothing.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you and your old date aren't sexual, why do you want a threesome with her ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you and your old date aren't sexual, why do you want a threesome with her ?"
we randomly caught up after years. It came up in conversation. It’s not something either us desperate for, but now in mid 30s more open. Is that ok..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you and your old date aren't sexual, why do you want a threesome with her ?"
it wasn’t necessarily with her. But we both would be more comfortable and also as a guy I would have more chance but I’d rather do without than force anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice would be to wait until things are back to normal and take her along to a club, your chances of meeting someone for a threesome are much higher there than they are using a single male profile on here.

Good luck

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes good advice from Lu. You are a really good looking man so you would do well at a club.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That’s my point though, as a single guy profile it’s automatically judged. I’m 35 and not had this experience so in no rush now. I just want to know of places etc and advice with ppl with experience. The second it develops I/we could prove we genuine. Thanks for advice x

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The only way to prove you are genuine before clubs reopen is to have a couples profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only way to prove you are genuine before clubs reopen is to have a couples profile"

Sally is right

Otherwise people will think you're just another dreamer

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

There are some guys that partner with women to improve their chances. I am not sure whether I condone that. Confidence (without arrogance) is sexy (or so I’ve been told), if this is something you want to do, then be confident and go it alone. If you are in a genuine relationship and want to meet couples, then start a couples profile. If you think couples have an easier time meeting single women, you are misinformed.

Remember that couples meeting couples requires a 4 person dynamic for that to work (I.e the 4 people involved have to all fancy their opposite). Being a single guy meeting a couple to play, when it’s MFM, is easier because it’s a 3 person dynamic, where the guy just has to think you are respectful and the woman has to fancy you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s my point though, as a single guy profile it’s automatically judged. I’m 35 and not had this experience so in no rush now. I just want to know of places etc and advice with ppl with experience. The second it develops I/we could prove we genuine. Thanks for advice x"

Listen, I will say the same to you as I say to every single guy on this subject....

Women hold the power here. We're outnumbered massively and so in high demand. Due to there being such a massive amount of men on site and the fact that many of them (and women too) are asshats, guys have to put in more effort.

The twats do not ruin it for the good guys, if anything, they help the good'uns stand out!

Any decent guy can be very successful on fab and in the swinging community, but you will get out what you put in. Be honest, kind and open and you'll do alright.

As for right now, covid means none of us (who are sensible) are swinging atm. But I really would highly recommend clubs if you really want to swing and meet people easily.

With regards to your friend and yourself organising a threesome, if you can't wait for clubs to reopen, get her to create her own profile for when we're all allowed to meet again, so long as you're upfront and can verify you're both genuine, who knows?

I've been on the scene over 13 years and I promise you, honesty and effort is all it takes for any man to have success within this lifestyle.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

What Sally said, it's hard for single blokes on here. I've had a few meets, mostly by flirting on the forums, but strangely most of them were from the South Coast, even though I live in Derby

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for All replies. I guess I was naive. Didn’t realise so many ppl lie fake etc. I’m 35 and content in most areas but on hearing feedback realise why people sceptical

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Thanks for All replies. I guess I was naive. Didn’t realise so many ppl lie fake etc. I’m 35 and content in most areas but on hearing feedback realise why people sceptical "

The thing is people, well let's be honest, men, especially those who see themselves as God's gift who can walk down the street and women through themselves in their path are flummoxed when they come to Fab and get a reality check: there are THOUSANDS fit as fuck handsome men (without attitude) to choose from.

It really is like being a child let loose in a candy store. Self assured, confident men are sexy, arrogant men are not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for All replies. I guess I was naive. Didn’t realise so many ppl lie fake etc. I’m 35 and content in most areas but on hearing feedback realise why people sceptical

It really is like being a child let loose in a candy store. Self assured, confident men are sexy, arrogant men are not.

Apologies in advance if I'm wrong, but you come across as arrogant with nothing apparent to me to back it up. Interaction should be fun...hmmmm...not getting fun vibes. Again, if I'm way off base, my apologies."
il never take anything personally from someone that quick to judge.. but your entitled to your opinion, messaging can get misinterpreted often.. I’m not gods gift or have I joined here with any assumptions. All the best.. if you asked some questions you would probably be surprised. Thanks tho. I’m taking every message on board

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

She will get interest if she has a profile here.

You will get interest if you have a profile with her.

Without you'll get scepticism.

During a pandemic wrong time to look.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

FFM hardest to organise of anything, though. MMF much easier.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Thanks for All replies. I guess I was naive. Didn’t realise so many ppl lie fake etc. I’m 35 and content in most areas but on hearing feedback realise why people sceptical "

Maybe update your profile text as it says you are 33

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok changed age. Will talk to her tomorrow, she’s more hesitant and was more interested in going a party or meeting etc rather than any one just seeing her photos. Il tell her do one with no face and in bio say her interests x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Thanks for All replies. I guess I was naive. Didn’t realise so many ppl lie fake etc. I’m 35 and content in most areas but on hearing feedback realise why people sceptical

It really is like being a child let loose in a candy store. Self assured, confident men are sexy, arrogant men are not.

Apologies in advance if I'm wrong, but you come across as arrogant with nothing apparent to me to back it up. Interaction should be fun...hmmmm...not getting fun vibes. Again, if I'm way off base, my apologies. il never take anything personally from someone that quick to judge.. but your entitled to your opinion, messaging can get misinterpreted often.. I’m not gods gift or have I joined here with any assumptions. All the best.. if you asked some questions you would probably be surprised. Thanks tho. I’m taking every message on board "

It's easy to misinterpret the written word hence my apologies in advance.

Your response shows I was way off base so my apologies again and the best of luck to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for All replies. I guess I was naive. Didn’t realise so many ppl lie fake etc. I’m 35 and content in most areas but on hearing feedback realise why people sceptical

It really is like being a child let loose in a candy store. Self assured, confident men are sexy, arrogant men are not.

Apologies in advance if I'm wrong, but you come across as arrogant with nothing apparent to me to back it up. Interaction should be fun...hmmmm...not getting fun vibes. Again, if I'm way off base, my apologies. il never take anything personally from someone that quick to judge.. but your entitled to your opinion, messaging can get misinterpreted often.. I’m not gods gift or have I joined here with any assumptions. All the best.. if you asked some questions you would probably be surprised. Thanks tho. I’m taking every message on board

It's easy to misinterpret the written word hence my apologies in advance.

Your response shows I was way off base so my apologies again and the best of luck to you."
Yea all good hun, I get how it can look, and especially with the amount of douche bags on here from what I’m hearing. It’s all good xx

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"Ok changed age. Will talk to her tomorrow, she’s more hesitant and was more interested in going a party or meeting etc rather than any one just seeing her photos. Il tell her do one with no face and in bio say her interests x"

Most people don't show their faces. She doesn't need to include anything provocative or identifiable. It's about showing she's real and people can get at least some idea of what she looks like. Then have some decent text in the profile.

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