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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38

How do you handle them?

Are you calm and able to listen and get your point across given the chance?

But..what if you're not given that chance..you're been talked over, the other person is getting loud, then what?

Are you the person who gets loud?

Can you listen and not take it personally?

Do you handle personal differences differently to workplace disagreements?

Can you just beg to differ and move on of there's no resolution?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends on the disagreement and what we are discussing at the time

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"It all depends on the disagreement and what we are discussing at the time "

I suppose it all depends how emotive the subject is...for me anyway.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Depends what its about, who I am disagreeing with and if I feel its a hill worth dying on.

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Depends what its about, who I am disagreeing with and if I feel its a hill worth dying on."

Sometimes I don't have the energy for sweating the small stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It all depends on the disagreement and what we are discussing at the time

I suppose it all depends how emotive the subject is...for me anyway."

Definitely if your disagreeing with something you strongly believe then your going to argue the point/ your case more emotionally if its just thats black and no its white then it comes down to whether its worth the time and energy

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

We both sit down like adults.

Discuss it.

We then both walk away knowing I was right.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"We both sit down like adults.

Discuss it.

We then both walk away knowing I was right. "

You should be a woman

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"We both sit down like adults.

Discuss it.

We then both walk away knowing I was right. "

Yeah but..except for when you're wrong

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"We both sit down like adults.

Discuss it.

We then both walk away knowing I was right.

You should be a woman "

I am a lesbian

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"We both sit down like adults.

Discuss it.

We then both walk away knowing I was right.

Yeah but..except for when you're wrong "

I’ve only ever been wrong once but I don’t like to talk about it

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I very rarely get cross and can generally have a calm discussion about pretty much anything... even when others are getting shouty.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on a lot of things including the subject and the person I'm disagreeing with.

My brother and I can disagree on stuff, sometimes it's a debate, sometimes it's a a lot louder, we're still best friends at the end of it though.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

There is no point to continually try to foist your opinion on someone else.

What we each believe is reality.

Certain circumstances require further discussion but your opinion doesn't yank my hair nor dent my shin ..... it's of little import that we hold different opinions.

I'll argue to the death for somethings..... but not a difference of opinion.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’m always calm, if things get too heated then people rarely change their minds so it’s probably a good time to back off and try later

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I very rarely get cross and can generally have a calm discussion about pretty much anything... even when others are getting shouty.

Cal"

Do you have an inner smile when others get shouty ?

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38

There have only ever been 2 people who can get me to boiling point when we have disagreements...and it ain't pretty.

They push all my buttons...I've tried all sorts but communication is difficult.

I have often thought I should have handled that better.

Workwise..I'm quite passionate about things and it's been a learning curve to not just jump in with my 2 cents worth.

Now a days..I'm more measured in my responses....well, mostly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very good at seeing wood for trees in a disagreement and don’t let emotions get in the way

Apparently, I have a 'don't fuck with me' tone that I am unaware of, but others assure me is a bit on the scary side

My colleagues reckon they also know when someone is pissing me off cos my eyebrows rise above my head like they do in cartoons

Many a time I've had a customer pissing me off on the phone, only to receive an IM from a workmate saying 'put your eyebrows down'

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If someone can't discuss something as an adult and in a sensible way then I walk away

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I am very good at seeing wood for trees in a disagreement and don’t let emotions get in the way

Apparently, I have a 'don't fuck with me' tone that I am unaware of, but others assure me is a bit on the scary side

My colleagues reckon they also know when someone is pissing me off cos my eyebrows rise above my head like they do in cartoons

Many a time I've had a customer pissing me off on the phone, only to receive an IM from a workmate saying 'put your eyebrows down' "

Better to riase your eyebrows than youe voice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m far better face to face than over text. So easy to read too much into a written message without the intonation and body language that should go with it.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Too many questions aarghhhh

If I'm talked over I will just walk away. Fucking had enough of that shit in past relationships so now I won't tolerate it in any situation apart from one.

The only time I think it's OK, and the only time I'll do it is if someone is having a proper panic and the person doing the talking over is doing it in a calm but collected manner in attempt to diffuse the situation

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Listen and not take it personally is something I struggle with I amdit that completely.

That stems from stuff that I do generally comes from a good place, and to have that criticised can be painful. I do internalise and be all "how could I get it so wrong?"

Also anyone that really knows me knows I'll beat myself up terribly over things. I'm slowly getting to grips with me making a mistake doesn't make me a failure or a bad person, it makes me human.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what its about, who I am disagreeing with and if I feel its a hill worth dying on.

Sometimes I don't have the energy for sweating the small stuff."

In personal relationships I actually think we don't sweat the small stuff enough.

What I mean by that is often a big argument results from a buildup of smaller things that have just been irritating or I guess the straw that broke the camel's back.

We often just let these small irritations or things that annoy us go but actually they haven't really so I find it's easier to deal with those then there is no big blow ups.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually for me it depends a LOT on the other person and how they're handling things too. If it gets shitty then I just go silent and forget it and ignore

None so blind as those who will not listen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what its about, who I am disagreeing with and if I feel its a hill worth dying on.

Sometimes I don't have the energy for sweating the small stuff.

In personal relationships I actually think we don't sweat the small stuff enough.

What I mean by that is often a big argument results from a buildup of smaller things that have just been irritating or I guess the straw that broke the camel's back.

We often just let these small irritations or things that annoy us go but actually they haven't really so I find it's easier to deal with those then there is no big blow ups."

One of my 'best' domestics was over a snotty egg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just let someone rant... do them a cup of tea and let them keep going. Let them say their peace. Eventually agree to disagree and walk away both happier. Don't have the will to let opinions get me down.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I can be quite feisty. And my way of dealing with things depends on how the other person is dealing with their end.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Very much depends on the who, the what and the why...

....I've always been one to talk things through calmly and rationally if I can, and keep talking until both are done - but I'm realistic enough to know that isn't always possible.

Am also aware that I can have a firey temper that, if the right buttons are pressed, will see me getting irrational and going nuclear - so if I sense that coming I try and close things down or walk away (with varying degrees of success).

So many variables though and is as much about the other person and the thing being disagreed over as it is me.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Listen and not take it personally is something I struggle with I amdit that completely.

That stems from stuff that I do generally comes from a good place, and to have that criticised can be painful. I do internalise and be all "how could I get it so wrong?"

Also anyone that really knows me knows I'll beat myself up terribly over things. I'm slowly getting to grips with me making a mistake doesn't make me a failure or a bad person, it makes me human."

There is no right.

There is no wrong.

There is only IS........

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

So many variables here, with a different response for each...I could walk away shaking my head and chuckling, or have my psycho button pushed and start throwing things...or a myriad of different things in between those extremes.

I'm definitely less fiery as I have aged, and am much more likely to remain calm than when I was younger...but some people and/or situations still elicit a more dramatic reaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the situation and disagreement generally if we can’t discuss it as adults and it becomes childish I’d just walk away. A lot of the time I just take it as well that’s your opinion and I have mine and just leave it as is...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very much depends on context. I always avoid arguing on email or text as these easily get out of hand.

Face to face I don’t mind a disagreement or even a row if it clears the air and usually prefer this to conflict avoidance.

If I respect the person I’ll respect their views, if not I remember that advice about never arguing with an idiot: they’ll drag you down to their level and win by experience.

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