FabSwingers.com forum: Body counts against?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not getting many messages and someone has said that being in physically good shape puts some people off in here .. can’t be right surely ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not getting many messages and someone has said that being in physically good shape puts some people off in here .. can’t be right surely ?

I guess those people with a fetish for out of shape perhaps or non-gym bod

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Not getting many messages and someone has said that being in physically good shape puts some people off in here .. can’t be right surely ?

No. Whoever told you that was shit stirring.

Fab is much quieter than usual. That’s probably the reason why.

Persevere

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Puts and people off turns some people on. Might be other reasons but can't say.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Not getting many messages and someone has said that being in physically good shape puts some people off in here .. can’t be right surely ?

Can't imagine it puts many off. What's not to like? Maybe a bit intimidating? or more likely many aspire to it but havent been able to achieve it. Go you fitties.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

Everyone has different preferences on age, sex, body type.. some will like a gym bod, some won't, some will but will worry about their own wobbly bits to much to go for it, some won't want a straight guy, some won't want a bi guy,

Take it with a pinch of salt and enjoy the forums and banter until people are meeting again,

There are so many more men than women too,

Hope you find what you're looking for though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok thanks for the feedback folks..

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"Ok thanks for the feedback folks.."

Reverse psychology works doesn't it ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok thanks for the feedback folks..

Reverse psychology works doesn't it ?

Don’t get your point? Very paranoid opinion lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean the profile matters as well, blokes might not read them but women do, you could be the fittest bloke in the world but no thought in the profile and you’ll struggle with a lot of women and couples on here

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By *urtyGentMan
over a year ago

eastleigh

There’s a belief amongst some that being in good shape means you’re either a meathead jock or a stuck up prick. Both are stereotypes and sadly both don’t equal the truth. Chances are you’re struggling because you’re a single bloke (you’re in the majority mate, there is fucking loads of us) and because we are in the grips of a pandemic. Lots of people aren’t meeting or even chatting to new people. If you’re in good nick and not a twat, you’ll probably do quite well here. Stick with it, it’s worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I mean the profile matters as well, blokes might not read them but women do, you could be the fittest bloke in the world but no thought in the profile and you’ll struggle with a lot of women and couples on here "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone has different preferences on age, sex, body type.. some will like a gym bod, some won't, some will but will worry about their own wobbly bits to much to go for it, some won't want a straight guy, some won't want a bi guy,

Take it with a pinch of salt and enjoy the forums and banter until people are meeting again,

There are so many more men than women too,

Hope you find what you're looking for though. "

This

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"Ok thanks for the feedback folks..

Reverse psychology works doesn't it ?

Don’t get your point? Very paranoid opinion lol"

It was made in jest.

I agree with that 'paranoid' word now.

" I mean the profile matters as well, blokes might not read them but women do, you could be the fittest bloke in the world but no thought in the profile and you’ll struggle with a lot of women and couples on here "

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Not getting many messages and someone has said that being in physically good shape puts some people off in here .. can’t be right surely ?

I'm not saying you are but It comes across a bit arrogant, like you expect women to reply just because of your body and you genuinely seem confused as to why every woman doesn't reply.

Sell yourself to the women of fab as a funny, witty, kind, thoughtful guy with your figure coming second so that you're more than just a body.

Ps if that fails offer them cake and say you won't eat any because of your figure, they'll like that.

The way you thanked people for their comments show you're a good guy so sell that side of you.

Work on your profile but more importantly

Welcome to the mad world of fab

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not getting many messages and someone has said that being in physically good shape puts some people off in here .. can’t be right surely ?

I'm not saying you are but It comes across a bit arrogant, like you expect women to reply just because of your body and you genuinely seem confused as to why every woman doesn't reply.

Sell yourself to the women of fab as a funny, witty, kind, thoughtful guy with your figure coming second so that you're more than just a body.

Ps if that fails offer them cake and say you won't eat any because of your figure, they'll like that.

The way you thanked people for their comments show you're a good guy so sell that side of you.

Work on your profile but more importantly

Welcome to the mad world of fab

Good luck"
woooooooh hold on I didn’t say that I didn’t say I looked great I just said this is what someone told me.. i at nice and fun.. and shouldn’t be judged just cause I keep in shape I am normal laid back and love a good laugh and I am not arrogant at all.. I’m no where near as good shape as a lot of people I am normal!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hard to even get a reply anyways as girls get sooo many messages lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hard to even get a reply anyways as girls get sooo many messages lol"

And don't forget about that nasty cough that's going around at the moment

Just relax, have fun - be more than just a body and get to know people.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Not getting many messages and someone has said that being in physically good shape puts some people off in here .. can’t be right surely ?

I'm not saying you are but It comes across a bit arrogant, like you expect women to reply just because of your body and you genuinely seem confused as to why every woman doesn't reply.

Sell yourself to the women of fab as a funny, witty, kind, thoughtful guy with your figure coming second so that you're more than just a body.

Ps if that fails offer them cake and say you won't eat any because of your figure, they'll like that.

The way you thanked people for their comments show you're a good guy so sell that side of you.

Work on your profile but more importantly

Welcome to the mad world of fab

Good luck woooooooh hold on I didn’t say that I didn’t say I looked great I just said this is what someone told me.. i at nice and fun.. and shouldn’t be judged just cause I keep in shape I am normal laid back and love a good laugh and I am not arrogant at all.. I’m no where near as good shape as a lot of people I am normal!!"

You're not being judged it's just a woman's personal preference, should I get upset if someone told me that "some women don't like tall people" ?

Good luck and have a nice Sunday, you'll be fine when meets are allowed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hard to even get a reply anyways as girls get sooo many messages lol"

I do think it is nature of the beast at the moment, people can't meet because of lockdown etc. Everything is quiet.

I don't get many messages, I've had 4 new messages since Thursday. Never known it to be so quiet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not getting many messages and someone has said that being in physically good shape puts some people off in here .. can’t be right surely ?

It puts me off.

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

"Not getting many messages and someone has said that being in physically good shape puts some people off in here .. can’t be right surely ?

I guess those people with a fetish for out of shape perhaps or non-gym bod"

So I’m a fetish? I find that statement very rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not getting many messages and someone has said that being in physically good shape puts some people off in here .. can’t be right surely ?

I'm not saying you are but It comes across a bit arrogant, like you expect women to reply just because of your body and you genuinely seem confused as to why every woman doesn't reply.

Sell yourself to the women of fab as a funny, witty, kind, thoughtful guy with your figure coming second so that you're more than just a body.

Ps if that fails offer them cake and say you won't eat any because of your figure, they'll like that.

The way you thanked people for their comments show you're a good guy so sell that side of you.

Work on your profile but more importantly

Welcome to the mad world of fab

Good luck"

Not sure where you saw arrogance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right or not, if you based yourself on what ppl on what ppl say or not say on here, you'll soon around and around faster than a car with no wheels. Hope it makes no sense x

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

A one line profile will only appeal to a small section of people.

Think of yourself like a car. Some people like the colour of a car and will want it based on that, some people like the shape of the car and will like it based on that. Some will like the interior, some the added extras, some the size of the engine or the economy, some the size of the boot and the practicality of it. Some will like the price.

A Ferrari is not designed to tick everyone’s boxes, it’s just fast and (in general) red, it’s designed to appeal to a small minority of the world, because only a small minority have the money to buy it. So they can put up a picture of it and say “nuff said” and the three people that see that advert and can afford one may (big “may”) want to buy one. Now we might all (generalisation) want a Ferrari but not all of us want to jump through the hoops to get one, so we stick to cars that fulfil the other requirements we have in this life, and we find that out by reading the specifications.......

((This all made sense in my head, but it is probably a little abstract, sorry))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not getting many messages and someone has said that being in physically good shape puts some people off in here .. can’t be right surely ?

Very much agree, I had to put on 4 stone to make myself more assessable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A one line profile will only appeal to a small section of people.

((This all made sense in my head, but it is probably a little abstract, sorry)) "

Makes sense to me

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Not getting many messages and someone has said that being in physically good shape puts some people off in here .. can’t be right surely ?

Very much agree, I had to put on 4 stone to make myself more assessable. "

That's beautiful! I just have one more to go and my mailbox should overflow then!

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

The more I try and please everyone, the less I am able to please someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The more I try and please everyone, the less I am able to please someone "

I love this!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had to put on 7 stone to make myself more assessable

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The more I try and please everyone, the less I am able to please someone "

Good point

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I prefer a man who's in good shape.

I'd say that whoever told you that you're not getting messages due to your body type is wrong. It's because you're a young, single guy on a website in the midst of the worst pandemic in 100 years where men hugely outnumber women and nobody is supposed to be meeting.

I've seen men's lack of success blamed on age, body type, height, penis size, ethnic origin, location, women being too fussy and numerous other reasons. All of those probably apply at various times to various people but the long and short of it is that unless you make the first move and appeal to the individual woman you've contacted you're unlikely to have much luck. Send a few messages out, join in a few threads on the forum maybe even go into the chat rooms.

Good luck

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

What you look like is only a small part of it. How you present yourself in your profile (text and gallery) and how you talk to people are crucial as well. We're also in a pandemic so lots of people are just not making new contacts currently.

You've only been here three months. It takes a while for a single guy to get going on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess people have preferences, each to their own and all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe its because there is a

PANDEMIC on

and you shouldn't be meeting anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had to put on 7 stone to make myself more assessable "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's madness, I know...but we don't all find the same things attractive.

Not everyone wants gym fit.

Not everyone wants chonky.

You can't please them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not getting many messages and someone has said that being in physically good shape puts some people off in here .. can’t be right surely ?

Yes and no... Some people have a preference for gym fit people just the same way some have preference for bbw, or blonds v brunette... people are entitled to have preferences and it will be a plus to as many people as its a negative. Personally I'm partial to a tattooed bad bod bald and bearded combo, we all have our thing haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had to put on 7 stone to make myself more assessable "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe its because there is a

PANDEMIC on

and you shouldn't be meeting anyone"

Oohhh judgy Much lol.. who said I was meeting? Can still chat to people if that’s ok with you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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