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"So sorry to hear it OP and can't imagine what your son, and his friends partner and family must be going through right now - thoughts are with you all" Thank you, they are all only in their early 20's, it's heartbreaking for them, it really is | |||
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"Having lost some beautiful people that I loved to suicide, I can only say this. They are not cowards or running away; the pain was just too great to deal with. Those left behind should not feel guilty but try to raise awareness. I am so sorry for your son's loss x" Thats the other hard thing isn't it, the guilt, thinking you should have noticed more, said more or done more. Deep down I think they know that there wasn't any signs that this was going to happen but the what ifs are so loud right now x | |||
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"Having lost some beautiful people that I loved to suicide, I can only say this. They are not cowards or running away; the pain was just too great to deal with. Those left behind should not feel guilty but try to raise awareness. I am so sorry for your son's loss x Thats the other hard thing isn't it, the guilt, thinking you should have noticed more, said more or done more. Deep down I think they know that there wasn't any signs that this was going to happen but the what ifs are so loud right now x" So true x good friends of mine lost their son to suicide last summer with no warning signs. We can only be the best friends we can be. We are not responsible or to blame but can only do our best to reach out x | |||
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"Those beautiful souls became skilled in hiding their pain. They didn't want the fix. They just wanted it to stop hurting. Big hug. X " Making the pain stop, in those dark places it seems impossible. And yes I totally agree with becoming skilled at hiding their pain. It's so sad and far too common to comprehend x | |||
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"Those beautiful souls became skilled in hiding their pain. They didn't want the fix. They just wanted it to stop hurting. Big hug. X Making the pain stop, in those dark places it seems impossible. And yes I totally agree with becoming skilled at hiding their pain. It's so sad and far too common to comprehend x" So common and still misunderstood. It pains me when someone calls it selfish. | |||
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"As somebody that attempted this in my 20's I can confirm the saying, its always the ones happiest on the outside that are hurting on the inside to look out for. So sad another young life has gone, if only we could teach them that life does get better." I know, we knew he struggled with anxiety and depression but nobody had any idea that his thoughts were of suicide, he was always open about how he felt and was completely supported by his girlfriend and overjoyed to have another child. It seems that things spiralled really fast and suddenly he's gone. | |||
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"My son committed suicide 6 months ago aged just 27. He suffered from depression but hid it well with his sense of humour. Due to inheriting half of a lottery jackpot win he was the richest person I knew and had everything to live for you would think. " I am sorry. This darkness can touch anyone. X | |||
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"My son committed suicide 6 months ago aged just 27. He suffered from depression but hid it well with his sense of humour. Due to inheriting half of a lottery jackpot win he was the richest person I knew and had everything to live for you would think. " So sorry for your loss x That is the thing, humour can cover up alot of sadness, it's so tragic. | |||
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"That's hard to take OP, one of ma best mate's Mum decided to take her own life, it was totally out of the blue, she was in good health and in her late 50's. Comiserations to you x "So sorry to hear that, its so hard for those left behind and brings up such mixed emotions. X | |||
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"My son committed suicide 6 months ago aged just 27. He suffered from depression but hid it well with his sense of humour. Due to inheriting half of a lottery jackpot win he was the richest person I knew and had everything to live for you would think. So sorry for your loss x That is the thing, humour can cover up alot of sadness, it's so tragic. " I was aware of his depression but despite that I couldn't save him. He was my only child and although I carry on beneath my own mask I'm broken. | |||
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"I'm so sorry to hear about this op. Mental torture is so hard to comprehend. Everyone else sees positives that you cannot, everyone sees hope where you see despair, everyone gives love but it is not enough. It sounds like you were blessed to know this individual and with time that is how you will remember. Right now the hurt is immense. You want to protect your baby from that but you can't. Death is so terrible and final. I have seen too much death in my life. I hope you will all be made stronger by this. Allow yourselves to hurt, to mourn and to recover. It may take a long time but be there for each other. Thinking of you all. X" Thank you, this is pretty much what I have said to my son, whatever you feel, just feel it, don't try and bury it or dismiss it, it will be a roller-coaster of emotions and they will hit at random times but they are necessary. X | |||
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"My son committed suicide 6 months ago aged just 27. He suffered from depression but hid it well with his sense of humour. Due to inheriting half of a lottery jackpot win he was the richest person I knew and had everything to live for you would think. So sorry for your loss x That is the thing, humour can cover up alot of sadness, it's so tragic. I was aware of his depression but despite that I couldn't save him. He was my only child and although I carry on beneath my own mask I'm broken. " I can't imagine how hard that must be for you xx | |||
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"Saddened to read this, thoughts to you, your son and the family that he leaves behind. " Thank you x | |||
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"My son committed suicide 6 months ago aged just 27. He suffered from depression but hid it well with his sense of humour. Due to inheriting half of a lottery jackpot win he was the richest person I knew and had everything to live for you would think. So sorry for your loss x That is the thing, humour can cover up alot of sadness, it's so tragic. I was aware of his depression but despite that I couldn't save him. He was my only child and although I carry on beneath my own mask I'm broken. I can't imagine how hard that must be for you xx" Thank you, should you want a chat anytime then just message me, its therapeutic to talk about it and not awkward for me at all... xx | |||
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"My son committed suicide 6 months ago aged just 27. He suffered from depression but hid it well with his sense of humour. Due to inheriting half of a lottery jackpot win he was the richest person I knew and had everything to live for you would think. So sorry for your loss x That is the thing, humour can cover up alot of sadness, it's so tragic. I was aware of his depression but despite that I couldn't save him. He was my only child and although I carry on beneath my own mask I'm broken. I can't imagine how hard that must be for you xx Thank you, should you want a chat anytime then just message me, its therapeutic to talk about it and not awkward for me at all... xx" Thats a lovely offer, thank you | |||
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"My son committed suicide 6 months ago aged just 27. He suffered from depression but hid it well with his sense of humour. Due to inheriting half of a lottery jackpot win he was the richest person I knew and had everything to live for you would think. So sorry for your loss x That is the thing, humour can cover up alot of sadness, it's so tragic. I was aware of his depression but despite that I couldn't save him. He was my only child and although I carry on beneath my own mask I'm broken. I can't imagine how hard that must be for you xx Thank you, should you want a chat anytime then just message me, its therapeutic to talk about it and not awkward for me at all... xx Thats a lovely offer, thank you "No worries  | |||
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"My son (23) had a call today to let him know his best friend had committed suicide. It's hit him hard, my sons best friend was one of those amazing peopleand I frequently told him that if I could I would adopt him!! He would do anything for anyone, kind caring, loving and just an all round lovely person. He leaves behind his amazing girlfriend, his 5 year old daughter and 4 month old son. No suicide note and only hours before was talking to his girlfriend about getting help from the gp for his depression. He had been through some really tough times in his life and got through them all, he was settled in a loving supported relationship and worshipped his children. Nobody will ever know what happened in those final moments that made him choose death over life. None of us can actually believe this has happened and I have no idea how to support my son through his grief. The point of this post is more to say if you or anyone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, please get help. The devastation for those left behind is immeasurable and there is never a need to find a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Times are hard and sometimes it feels like there is no way out but please believe there is, there is always help, there is always someone who cares and there is a future to be had. Please hug your loved ones tight and tell those you care about that you love them even if you can't see them right now. Every moment is precious xx "My stepson commited suicide in October, no note, his gf aborted his child and told him she did it because she didn't want an ugly baby, it was the straw that broke the camel's back, she had cut him off from his mother and spread rumours about him in local town, just the girl got it in her head to destroy him, don't know why, he was 26  | |||
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"My son (23) had a call today to let him know his best friend had committed suicide. It's hit him hard, my sons best friend was one of those amazing peopleand I frequently told him that if I could I would adopt him!! He would do anything for anyone, kind caring, loving and just an all round lovely person. He leaves behind his amazing girlfriend, his 5 year old daughter and 4 month old son. No suicide note and only hours before was talking to his girlfriend about getting help from the gp for his depression. He had been through some really tough times in his life and got through them all, he was settled in a loving supported relationship and worshipped his children. Nobody will ever know what happened in those final moments that made him choose death over life. None of us can actually believe this has happened and I have no idea how to support my son through his grief. The point of this post is more to say if you or anyone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, please get help. The devastation for those left behind is immeasurable and there is never a need to find a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Times are hard and sometimes it feels like there is no way out but please believe there is, there is always help, there is always someone who cares and there is a future to be had. Please hug your loved ones tight and tell those you care about that you love them even if you can't see them right now. Every moment is precious xx
My stepson commited suicide in October, no note, his gf aborted his child and told him she did it because she didn't want an ugly baby, it was the straw that broke the camel's back, she had cut him off from his mother and spread rumours about him in local town, just the girl got it in her head to destroy him, don't know why, he was 26 "How awful, I never understand why people choose to make others unhappy. If only positives were held onto as tightly as negatives. So sorry for your and his mothers loss x | |||
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"My son (23) had a call today to let him know his best friend had committed suicide. It's hit him hard, my sons best friend was one of those amazing peopleand I frequently told him that if I could I would adopt him!! He would do anything for anyone, kind caring, loving and just an all round lovely person. He leaves behind his amazing girlfriend, his 5 year old daughter and 4 month old son. No suicide note and only hours before was talking to his girlfriend about getting help from the gp for his depression. He had been through some really tough times in his life and got through them all, he was settled in a loving supported relationship and worshipped his children. Nobody will ever know what happened in those final moments that made him choose death over life. None of us can actually believe this has happened and I have no idea how to support my son through his grief. The point of this post is more to say if you or anyone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, please get help. The devastation for those left behind is immeasurable and there is never a need to find a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Times are hard and sometimes it feels like there is no way out but please believe there is, there is always help, there is always someone who cares and there is a future to be had. Please hug your loved ones tight and tell those you care about that you love them even if you can't see them right now. Every moment is precious xx
My stepson commited suicide in October, no note, his gf aborted his child and told him she did it because she didn't want an ugly baby, it was the straw that broke the camel's back, she had cut him off from his mother and spread rumours about him in local town, just the girl got it in her head to destroy him, don't know why, he was 26
How awful, I never understand why people choose to make others unhappy.
If only positives were held onto as tightly as negatives.
So sorry for your and his mothers loss x". As for support Taz , the only advice I can give is to be normal, Carl's half brother (my son) is 17, he's strangely normal about it all, the usual questions have been discussed by both of us, if we had called , or text or something, truth is I think if Carl could have been stopped he would have made sure one of us heard him ask. Tell your son to honour his friends memory in being a success to himself and a good person. | |||
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"My son (23) had a call today to let him know his best friend had committed suicide. It's hit him hard, my sons best friend was one of those amazing peopleand I frequently told him that if I could I would adopt him!! He would do anything for anyone, kind caring, loving and just an all round lovely person. He leaves behind his amazing girlfriend, his 5 year old daughter and 4 month old son. No suicide note and only hours before was talking to his girlfriend about getting help from the gp for his depression. He had been through some really tough times in his life and got through them all, he was settled in a loving supported relationship and worshipped his children. Nobody will ever know what happened in those final moments that made him choose death over life. None of us can actually believe this has happened and I have no idea how to support my son through his grief. The point of this post is more to say if you or anyone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, please get help. The devastation for those left behind is immeasurable and there is never a need to find a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Times are hard and sometimes it feels like there is no way out but please believe there is, there is always help, there is always someone who cares and there is a future to be had. Please hug your loved ones tight and tell those you care about that you love them even if you can't see them right now. Every moment is precious xx
My stepson commited suicide in October, no note, his gf aborted his child and told him she did it because she didn't want an ugly baby, it was the straw that broke the camel's back, she had cut him off from his mother and spread rumours about him in local town, just the girl got it in her head to destroy him, don't know why, he was 26
How awful, I never understand why people choose to make others unhappy.
If only positives were held onto as tightly as negatives.
So sorry for your and his mothers loss x. As for support Taz , the only advice I can give is to be normal, Carl's half brother (my son) is 17, he's strangely normal about it all, the usual questions have been discussed by both of us, if we had called , or text or something, truth is I think if Carl could have been stopped he would have made sure one of us heard him ask. Tell your son to honour his friends memory in being a success to himself and a good person."Yes, they were planning to start a business so I have suggested maybe he continues that idea in time. X | |||
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"So sorry for your loss. I too today found out an old friend has been taken too soon by suicide. Life is so cruel and it’s always the lovely bubbly friendly ones who suffer alone inside. Andy was the life and soul of a party. I’m in total shock . I expect we will see more of this over the coming months too. "So sorry to hear this, its a very difficult time for so many people and so hard when we lose people we love and care about too soon in their lives xx | |||
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"Such sad news and such a tragedy for someone so young. Hope your son is ok just watch him and keep asking him if he’s got anything in his mind he needs to talk about. " Thanks, I will x | |||
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