FabSwingers.com forum: Sex fiend to sexless

By *usty_Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Stockport

I've had a kinky side as long as I've had an idea what sex is. For most of my life I've had a wild and exciting sex life but in the last 12 months it's like someone flipped the off switch. I soon turn 30 and can't decide if it's a midlife crisis type thing or what. I feel so unattractive and so uninterested in pursuing anyone even sex in my long term relationship has gone 100 to 0. I suppose it's good timing with lockdown but I have only logged on here 2 or 3 times in the last 6 months. Even masturbating feels like too much effort. Anyone else gotten in a similar funk at this age?

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

"I've had a kinky side as long as I've had an idea what sex is. For most of my life I've had a wild and exciting sex life but in the last 12 months it's like someone flipped the off switch. I soon turn 30 and can't decide if it's a midlife crisis type thing or what. I feel so unattractive and so uninterested in pursuing anyone even sex in my long term relationship has gone 100 to 0. I suppose it's good timing with lockdown but I have only logged on here 2 or 3 times in the last 6 months. Even masturbating feels like too much effort. Anyone else gotten in a similar funk at this age?"

Over time my libido has taken a mashing from time to time and I've gone from the lust to the desert.

At the moment I'm not too interested in anything and am just logging on from time to time and seeing what's happening on the forums here and a bit of chat.

I'm hoping that once there is a way forward out of our current situation that those sexual urges return.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Not an age thing for me, but stress can turn my libido off. It's a difficult time. That might be a factor

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

30 is not a midlife crisis! My libido actually increased into my 30s, but as others say, personal circumstances, stress, change of contraception, medications in general etc can all affect libido.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Bedford

Its been so long since I've felt 'cecksy' that ive forgotten how to spell it.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Or perhaps the current situation has been the reason or at least part of it - because you can't meet, go to clubs, scratch that pitch however you do, your libido has subconsciously switched itself off as a result?

The world situation has had many impacts beyond the obvious, and loss of libido wouldn't surprise me at all, know mine has certainly plummeted in the past year, and know I'm not the only one.

If you don't think it's that, and have other ideas what may be behind it, maybe try and address those blockers.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

It is leas likely your age and more a reflection of what everyone is going through at the moment.

I have a friend in her early 50’s who feels the same way and questioned if it was her age.

Prior to lockdown she was a very social and sexual person. Because of lockdown her social life has ended as has her intimacy with her playmates.

I suggested that the lack of physical intimacy is affecting her pleasure receptors in a way similar to how the “No Fap” movement/methodology is thought to work for male masterbation, and that it is not due to her age.

Our bodies are resilient, and if we stop doing or desiring something, it recognises that and moves on.

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