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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block those prats..who needs to meet them anyway.


"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct "

Seems a bit OTT to me to say they won’t walk to anyone that hasn’t had a verification for months or no verification etc. I’ve met guys with no actual verification on fab and they were fun meets and also who they said they were (they did confirm with pics on other messaging apps)

I think people should chill more

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct

Seems a bit OTT to me to say they won’t walk to anyone that hasn’t had a verification for months or no verification etc. I’ve met guys with no actual verification on fab and they were fun meets and also who they said they were (they did confirm with pics on other messaging apps)

I think people should chill more "

Yes I’ve seen it all, that’s what I was meaning, it’s over the top and who are they to say I must have had a verification in the last 3 months to take me seriously, I mean it’s my choice who I show what to and I’m not going to be told by a total stranger what I should disclose just to keep them happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I get some advice.. I clearly have no verifications and joined over year ago, however I’ve rarely been on to recently and also not some horny dog. How can i get noticed by anyone worthwhile??

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Ha ha..people will make judgement/ impression/ conclusion/ assumption on what they see or hear.

Everybody does.

We have no control over that.

It's your profile - do what you like as long as it's within the rule.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I ended up hiding mine after a guy i said "no thank you" to contacted some of my veris and told lies about me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be a confident person...don't allow yourself to be at anyone's mercy. Why do you let yourself be buffeted by people like that. Sorry it boggles my mind how you can allow yourself to be badgered by such folly.

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By *omptationMan
over a year ago

liverpool

See its people like that who make it difficult for newbies to get any veri's at all.

Do they not remember when they first signed up and hadnt got veri'd yet?

Clearly im not going to be meeting anyone for a while, but that shouldnt preclude me from at least talking to people?

Like has been said above, I just move on and dont waste my time on them if they wont waste a minute of theirs on me. They're the ones missing out on talking to/meeting someone potentially great

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just be a confident person...don't allow yourself to be at anyone's mercy. Why do you let yourself be buffeted by people like that. Sorry it boggles my mind how you can allow yourself to be badgered by such folly. "

I’m not badgered at all, I’ve been doing this for 22 years and I know how it all works, it just infuriates me when people still think they can control others on here, I don’t respond or go along with demands at all anymore, I did when I was 20 but I’ve learnt now. I want to write to all the people who I see trying to rule the way people act but I’d be typing all day, so thought it best to just put a post in here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can I get some advice.. I clearly have no verifications and joined over year ago, however I’ve rarely been on to recently and also not some horny dog. How can i get noticed by anyone worthwhile?? "

Just keep plodding along, don’t be guided by others, do your own thing and you’ll get there in the end

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


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I’m not badgered at all, I’ve been doing this for 22 years and I know how it all works, it just infuriates me when people still think they can control others on here, I don’t respond or go along with demands at all anymore, I did when I was 20 but I’ve learnt now. I want to write to all the people who I see trying to rule the way people act but I’d be typing all day, so thought it best to just put a post in here "

I think people who *demand* others to change their profile might think very highly of themselves and expect others to do as they're told to please them.

You would be surprised at how many who actually submit to such demands.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Why worry about people whose criteria you don't match? They're only hoops to jump through if you see them as hoops and not just an indication that you don't match what they are looking for.

People are allowed preferences about who they meet regardless of the criteria behind those preferences.

It just comes across as entitled when others bemoan those preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct "

See it as a positive. They are being open about their opinions. You don't want to meet people with those types of opinions. Time saved- you know immediately that you're not compatible so no need to waste time chatting.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"I ended up hiding mine after a guy i said "no thank you" to contacted some of my veris and told lies about me."

Jeepers ..that's weird

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Why worry about people whose criteria you don't match? They're only hoops to jump through if you see them as hoops and not just an indication that you don't match what they are looking for.

People are allowed preferences about who they meet regardless of the criteria behind those preferences.

It just comes across as entitled when others bemoan those preferences."

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

You have to be thick skinned to be on here especially a single male so grow a thicker skin and don't worry about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct "

I dont even read verifications, I dont particularly talk to guys with loads of veris, I think its just a way for attention seeking in my opinion, if you have a few, no more then 10 that's well enough to show your no fake...that's just me x

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct

I dont even read verifications, I dont particularly talk to guys with loads of veris, I think its just a way for attention seeking in my opinion, if you have a few, no more then 10 that's well enough to show your no fake...that's just me x"

I don't ask for verifications (maybe my first one I did) if you are sociable its quiet easy for them to build up..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct

I dont even read verifications, I dont particularly talk to guys with loads of veris, I think its just a way for attention seeking in my opinion, if you have a few, no more then 10 that's well enough to show your no fake...that's just me x

I don't ask for verifications (maybe my first one I did) if you are sociable its quiet easy for them to build up.."

If you mean horny rather than social that makes more sense to me haha

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By *ealthy_and_HungMan
over a year ago

Princes Risborough, Luasanne, Alderney

shouldn't everybodys verifications be at least 10 month's old now though ... excepting webcam veri's of course?

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By *omptationMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"shouldn't everybodys verifications be at least 10 month's old now though ... excepting webcam veri's of course? "

My last one I veried a guy I fucked 2 years ago so he could prove hes genuine, he just verified me back out of politeness x

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct

I dont even read verifications, I dont particularly talk to guys with loads of veris, I think its just a way for attention seeking in my opinion, if you have a few, no more then 10 that's well enough to show your no fake...that's just me x

I don't ask for verifications (maybe my first one I did) if you are sociable its quiet easy for them to build up..

If you mean horny rather than social that makes more sense to me haha "

Horny and sociable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its not easy to get someone to give you an opportunity, ive been on this site on and off for few years, ive never asked for any verifications because i aint desperate to show ppl that im genuine through verifications. luckily one person i met in the party few years ago decided to verify me even though i didnt need it

Just ignore the ones that are too demanding and just do your thing..also have banter on the forumz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct

I dont even read verifications, I dont particularly talk to guys with loads of veris, I think its just a way for attention seeking in my opinion, if you have a few, no more then 10 that's well enough to show your no fake...that's just me x

I don't ask for verifications (maybe my first one I did) if you are sociable its quiet easy for them to build up..

If you mean horny rather than social that makes more sense to me haha

Horny and sociable "

Their social cause their horny haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age?"

I second that, one guy got sooooo angry at me cause I wouldnt verify him, even tho all we did was chat lol

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

When you attend lots of organised social events your veris can quickly add up. I won’t ever explain myself to anyone over the amount I have

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru


"Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age?"

Going on cam in the chat rooms

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By *omptationMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age?

Going on cam in the chat rooms "

And what if you dont feel comfortable webcamming?

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By *omptationMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age?

I second that, one guy got sooooo angry at me cause I wouldnt verify him, even tho all we did was chat lol"

Because thats all it takes to confirm someone's who they say they are? lol wow...

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru


"Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age?

Going on cam in the chat rooms

And what if you dont feel comfortable webcamming?"

It’s not for everyone

People do use them just to chat ...

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

We all judge on numerous factors and i doubt anyone would agree with us on all of them. Let them be them and you do you. Simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you attend lots of organised social events your veris can quickly add up. I won’t ever explain myself to anyone over the amount I have "

Maybe I just have better things to do haha

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By *omptationMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"When you attend lots of organised social events your veris can quickly add up. I won’t ever explain myself to anyone over the amount I have

Maybe I just have better things to do haha"

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru


"When you attend lots of organised social events your veris can quickly add up. I won’t ever explain myself to anyone over the amount I have

Maybe I just have better things to do haha"

I’m confused by your reply

Better things to do as in not to attend socials or not explain yourself to people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet planned once and the woman said she did not want to meet because she had noticed someone in my veris who she did not trust. She wouldn’t say who or why. I said okay fair enough thanks for letting me know. That didn’t bother me really.

Whether it was an excuse or true (tbf I don’t see why she’d make that up, would be an odd thing to make up), why want to meet someone if they wouldn’t want to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you attend lots of organised social events your veris can quickly add up. I won’t ever explain myself to anyone over the amount I have

Maybe I just have better things to do haha

I’m confused by your reply

Better things to do as in not to attend socials or not explain yourself to people? "

Haha just winding you up lovely x sorry to confuse you haha x

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

All of my veris are memories left for me, I show some that I want to and others that I don't want to, they are all special memories.

I'm not bothered how many veris a guy has tbh and if anyone doesn't like mine then its up to them. Its your profile do with it what you want to

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age?

Going on cam in the chat rooms

And what if you dont feel comfortable webcamming?"

Guess that depends how much importance you place on being verified in the current situation when you can't meet anyway - if you don't then it doesn't matter in the slightest, if you do (although personally I wouldn't see why it would matter) then webcam veri is the only option you have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All of my veris are memories left for me, I show some that I want to and others that I don't want to, they are all special memories.

I'm not bothered how many veris a guy has tbh and if anyone doesn't like mine then its up to them. Its your profile do with it what you want to "

My memories are in my head not commented on fab, but that's just me lol

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By *omptationMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age?

Going on cam in the chat rooms

And what if you dont feel comfortable webcamming?

Guess that depends how much importance you place on being verified in the current situation when you can't meet anyway - if you don't then it doesn't matter in the slightest, if you do (although personally I wouldn't see why it would matter) then webcam veri is the only option you have "

The way i see it though, is if you have at least one veri then, it proves youre real and then others are willing to take a chance in replying...

Of course, its getting that first veri thats the tricky part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a meet planned once and the woman said she did not want to meet because she had noticed someone in my veris who she did not trust. She wouldn’t say who or why. I said okay fair enough thanks for letting me know. That didn’t bother me really.

Whether it was an excuse or true (tbf I don’t see why she’d make that up, would be an odd thing to make up), why want to meet someone if they wouldn’t want to meet you. "

I do that they is a woman around were I am that will not talk to any men that have got a verification from me on their profile ,as I have had messages from them asking the reason why and my answer is I don't know why. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never dispatched veris - because I judge everyone else's and I'm under no illusion that people won't judge mine

It's only my business who I meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a meet planned once and the woman said she did not want to meet because she had noticed someone in my veris who she did not trust. She wouldn’t say who or why. I said okay fair enough thanks for letting me know. That didn’t bother me really.

Whether it was an excuse or true (tbf I don’t see why she’d make that up, would be an odd thing to make up), why want to meet someone if they wouldn’t want to meet you.

I do that they is a woman around were I am that will not talk to any men that have got a verification from me on their profile ,as I have had messages from them asking the reason why and my answer is I don't know why. Xx"

Really odd isn’t it. Makes me so curious but people don’t tell why. I think perhaps if it’s people knowing each other? Like perhaps the woman read my veris, and saw someone she knew personally or something?

Actually I do remember her saying she had met someone on my veri list and didn’t trust them. Sounded like she thought I was setting her up pr something :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never dispatched veris - because I judge everyone else's and I'm under no illusion that people won't judge mine

It's only my business who I meet."

Very true very true!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I've seen people post that if someone has a verification from a Tgirl, then they won't meet them.

I know some people very well through just chatting to them in clubs (no autographs, though), but have been hesitant to give them a verification in case people don't read it and see it's non-sexual contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hated?

Adored?

But never ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct "

I would comment but yr veri is out of date! Sorry..

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.


"See its people like that who make it difficult for newbies to get any veri's at all.

Do they not remember when they first signed up and hadnt got veri'd yet?

Clearly im not going to be meeting anyone for a while, but that shouldnt preclude me from at least talking to people?

Like has been said above, I just move on and dont waste my time on them if they wont waste a minute of theirs on me. They're the ones missing out on talking to/meeting someone potentially great"

We’ll talk to anyone, I find my own chat is a much better indicator of someone than the veris.

Verifications just prove you exist.

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham


"Can I get some advice.. I clearly have no verifications and joined over year ago, however I’ve rarely been on to recently and also not some horny dog. How can i get noticed by anyone worthwhile?? "

Maybe put a bit of effort into writing a profile which reflects you as a 'worthwhile' person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this on my previous profile. At my previous address I used to hold frequent parties etc. With these and my own meets I had around 250 verifications. Folks were judging me on sheer numbers without actually reading them. I was even geting abusive messages (mostly from jealous guys).

Decided in the end to delete profile and start again....to many sad sacks on here....

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age?

Going on cam in the chat rooms

And what if you dont feel comfortable webcamming?

Guess that depends how much importance you place on being verified in the current situation when you can't meet anyway - if you don't then it doesn't matter in the slightest, if you do (although personally I wouldn't see why it would matter) then webcam veri is the only option you have

The way i see it though, is if you have at least one veri then, it proves youre real and then others are willing to take a chance in replying...

Of course, its getting that first veri thats the tricky part"

There are many ways to "prove" you're genuine though and to be honest for a single guy the issue isn't being proved real anyway - not many people will pretend to be a single guy.

So all a veri does really is give one person's subjective opinion of the person being verified - which may not be the same opinion as someone else.

Whilst it's true that *some* people won't meet those that are unverified, there are many that will - and usually a lack of response won't be down to lack of verification alone (in fact it's likely to be a very small part of the reason).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had this on my previous profile. At my previous address I used to hold frequent parties etc. With these and my own meets I had around 250 verifications. Folks were judging me on sheer numbers without actually reading them. I was even geting abusive messages (mostly from jealous guys).

Decided in the end to delete profile and start again....to many sad sacks on here...."

Why delete it? It put off people who aren't compatible with you.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We don’t pay any attention to people’s veris .We like to make our own minds up about people and if people won’t meet us due to veris we have from certain people that’s fine by us we are here for fun not into all that drama anyway.

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"Can I get some advice.. I clearly have no verifications and joined over year ago, however I’ve rarely been on to recently and also not some horny dog. How can i get noticed by anyone worthwhile?? "

Hope this helps.

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/1112427

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

People judge. Some more than others. Don’t hate them, just avoid people who make you feel this way.

They’ve done you a favour by proving that you are incompatible before you even meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't read people's Veri's.

I had a few on my old profile and they caused some problems so I ended up hiding them. I've got one on here from an old friend just to verify the profile when I signed back up but I won't be leaving them in the future.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I hide them. They are nobody’s business but mine.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Judge away, I couldn't give a fuck for the main part.

I'll judge. I make a judgement based on some veris that I ain't compatible with the person.

If every veri mentions getting pissed, I ain't compatible.

If they have veris off one person in particular, I ain't compatible.

I'm sure people judge me and that's up to them however I don't display the number of veris I have because yes, people will assume I've fucked 137 people and that I'm a right horn dog who can't get enough dick to satisfy me, when in 5 years less than 20 were sex meets.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct "
if someone wants to judge me for my verifications it simply means they are not for me. X I often get judged on the number of veries... I like to tell them that this is a newish profile so unfortunately I dont have that many on it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had a meet planned once and the woman said she did not want to meet because she had noticed someone in my veris who she did not trust. She wouldn’t say who or why. I said okay fair enough thanks for letting me know. That didn’t bother me really.

Whether it was an excuse or true (tbf I don’t see why she’d make that up, would be an odd thing to make up), why want to meet someone if they wouldn’t want to meet you. "

This is my point, you’ve missed out because the lady you were meeting judged you on the fact you’d been verified by someone she doesn’t like or trust, who you’ve met or whatever in the past doesn’t make you the person they don’t like, it’s the other person they don’t like, but still you’re the one who’s wasted your time chatting to her in the first place, it’s that type of thing that makes me think we shouldn’t be showing verifications, treat each other as individuals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a meet planned once and the woman said she did not want to meet because she had noticed someone in my veris who she did not trust. She wouldn’t say who or why. I said okay fair enough thanks for letting me know. That didn’t bother me really.

Whether it was an excuse or true (tbf I don’t see why she’d make that up, would be an odd thing to make up), why want to meet someone if they wouldn’t want to meet you.

This is my point, you’ve missed out because the lady you were meeting judged you on the fact you’d been verified by someone she doesn’t like or trust, who you’ve met or whatever in the past doesn’t make you the person they don’t like, it’s the other person they don’t like, but still you’re the one who’s wasted your time chatting to her in the first place, it’s that type of thing that makes me think we shouldn’t be showing verifications, treat each other as individuals "

Has he missed out, or has he lucked in?

I guess the answer is based on your perspective.

Personally if I had a veri that someone didn’t like and wont meet me based off of, then I would thank my lucky stars that I avoided such a person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s only happened once and I blocked the judger as they clearly weren’t a nice person

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I had a meet planned once and the woman said she did not want to meet because she had noticed someone in my veris who she did not trust. She wouldn’t say who or why. I said okay fair enough thanks for letting me know. That didn’t bother me really.

Whether it was an excuse or true (tbf I don’t see why she’d make that up, would be an odd thing to make up), why want to meet someone if they wouldn’t want to meet you.

This is my point, you’ve missed out because the lady you were meeting judged you on the fact you’d been verified by someone she doesn’t like or trust, who you’ve met or whatever in the past doesn’t make you the person they don’t like, it’s the other person they don’t like, but still you’re the one who’s wasted your time chatting to her in the first place, it’s that type of thing that makes me think we shouldn’t be showing verifications, treat each other as individuals "

I don't believe he missed out at all.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"

Personally if I had a veri that someone didn’t like and wont meet me based off of, then I would thank my lucky stars that I avoided such a person"
this is my view too . Only time I got a little offended was when someone said to me "please don't verify me as I people may not meet me" x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I had a meet planned once and the woman said she did not want to meet because she had noticed someone in my veris who she did not trust. She wouldn’t say who or why. I said okay fair enough thanks for letting me know. That didn’t bother me really.

Whether it was an excuse or true (tbf I don’t see why she’d make that up, would be an odd thing to make up), why want to meet someone if they wouldn’t want to meet you.

This is my point, you’ve missed out because the lady you were meeting judged you on the fact you’d been verified by someone she doesn’t like or trust, who you’ve met or whatever in the past doesn’t make you the person they don’t like, it’s the other person they don’t like, but still you’re the one who’s wasted your time chatting to her in the first place, it’s that type of thing that makes me think we shouldn’t be showing verifications, treat each other as individuals

I don't believe he missed out at all.

"

Some people don't meet people who meet TVs as Tina mentioned earlier. Should I hide my veris from TVs to find out after "I'd have never met you if I realised you met those kinds of people"

I'd be raging and both parties would likely feel violated that they met with someone that they normally wouldn't give the time of day to, let alone share their bodies with. Ya get me?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Can I get some advice.. I clearly have no verifications and joined over year ago, however I’ve rarely been on to recently and also not some horny dog. How can i get noticed by anyone worthwhile?? "

How will anyone know they are worth your while?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people are on here for what THEY want they are demanding nothing ?? just what they want if you dont fit what they want the move on but dont knock them for it ..

also seems every post has the oh they ruin it for us honest ones ?? no they ruin it for themselfs dont blame others because your getting nowhere thats down to you nobody else ...

happy swinging

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"When you attend lots of organised social events your veris can quickly add up. I won’t ever explain myself to anyone over the amount I have "

I agree smart lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really. I dont get hung up on them.. i used to read them but usually found they put me off the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

This is my point, you’ve missed out because the lady you were meeting judged you on the fact you’d been verified by someone she doesn’t like or trust, who you’ve met or whatever in the past doesn’t make you the person they don’t like, it’s the other person they don’t like, but still you’re the one who’s wasted your time chatting to her in the first place, it’s that type of thing that makes me think we shouldn’t be showing verifications, treat each other as individuals "

I don’t think I missed out. Yes time got “wasted” if you see like that. Time gets “wasted” in all kind of situations.

If someone isn’t comfy with my veris thats fine with me. Same if they don’t like my face, my beard or anything else.

I want to play with someone who wants to play with me. People will always judge, for an array of reasons. Also if I talk to someone for any amount of time and expect they can’t say no to meeting at any point, then that’s a bit creepy.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"

This is my point, you’ve missed out because the lady you were meeting judged you on the fact you’d been verified by someone she doesn’t like or trust, who you’ve met or whatever in the past doesn’t make you the person they don’t like, it’s the other person they don’t like, but still you’re the one who’s wasted your time chatting to her in the first place, it’s that type of thing that makes me think we shouldn’t be showing verifications, treat each other as individuals

I don’t think I missed out. Yes time got “wasted” if you see like that. Time gets “wasted” in all kind of situations.

If someone isn’t comfy with my veris thats fine with me. Same if they don’t like my face, my beard or anything else.

I want to play with someone who wants to play with me. People will always judge, for an array of reasons. Also if I talk to someone for any amount of time and expect they can’t say no to meeting at any point, then that’s a bit creepy. "

I agree.

I don't see it as time wasted either.

Honestly, if all was going good, meet on the cards and then I had my hair cut short and it put the person off meeting me, I'd understand that short hair wasn't for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications are either too much or too little for some people but I've learnt noones opinion of you matters. I've had guys say I've been around the block cause I have a lot of veris, other guys say in a fantasist as my veris are mainly from socials. That's why they remain hidden.

my only requirement by meeting a guy is that he has a veri and its for my safety and that he is who he says he is. I have taken chances on unverified and been badly burnt so I very rarely will meet unverified but never say never.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications are either too much or too little for some people but I've learnt noones opinion of you matters. I've had guys say I've been around the block cause I have a lot of veris, other guys say in a fantasist as my veris are mainly from socials. That's why they remain hidden.

my only requirement by meeting a guy is that he has a veri and its for my safety and that he is who he says he is. I have taken chances on unverified and been badly burnt so I very rarely will meet unverified but never say never."

People say “oh veris are not important” but they really are.

I only once met someone without a veri and it turned out to be a situation I thought I was going to die in, luckily managed to get (run) out the house and test how fast my car went from 0-60mph.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t show mine so nobody can judge anyway. I like to look at other people’s though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I agree.

I don't see it as time wasted either.

Honestly, if all was going good, meet on the cards and then I had my hair cut short and it put the person off meeting me, I'd understand that short hair wasn't for them. "

I can imagine it’s frustrating being judged but I think whats really frustrating many of the guys is the fact they’re not getting meets. Somewhere deep down there is a factor of entitlement or expectation rattling around.

That’s a discussion for another thread though.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

The green eyed monsters rages. That’s why mine are hidden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The green eyed monsters rages. That’s why mine are hidden "

This. Life is so much easier

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Mine were all hidden due to the guys being contact by others! Crazy is as crazy does...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine are hidden. They are between the people I meet and me. If they choose to show theirs fair enough but I don’t. After all I’m not a trip advisor destination

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By *oItForYorkshireCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Mrs gets it all the time on her single profile.

When I first met her (we had had a few dates) I had a woman inbox saying it was her or G and to ‘make a choice’ as she was obvs very slutty for having so many veris and she wouldn’t meet a man with that little self respect to be sleeping with such a woman

She gets messages insulting her for meeting people 60+ when in reality they we’re purely social meets.

There’s more the list goes on.

The thing is she’s the sweetest girl that is so kind and makes time for people where she can. It makes me pretty mad she gets all the shit on an almost daily basis.

Swinging is meant to be a supportive community and I suppose for lifestylers’ it is but there’s usually more to a persons veris or deliberate lack of displaying that meets the eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely read and judge based on the verifications. Not in a "Euw, they're a bit minging" way but if a man has a history of the kind of sex I'm not into, then I'll avoid him, if the virus mention barebacking he's getting blocked and if they've met someone with LOADS of meet verifications then I don't want to meet them either.

The verification trail can sometimes be quite an unpleasant path.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I absolutely read and judge based on the verifications. Not in a "Euw, they're a bit minging" way but if a man has a history of the kind of sex I'm not into, then I'll avoid him, if the virus mention barebacking he's getting blocked and if they've met someone with LOADS of meet verifications then I don't want to meet them either.

The verification trail can sometimes be quite an unpleasant path."

Oh yes. I always follow the trail

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

I'd be more weiry of someone with a MIP verify over the last 11 months, than those with ones a year old or none at all,

I don't rate cams as a verify, but that's just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I absolutely read and judge based on the verifications. Not in a "Euw, they're a bit minging" way but if a man has a history of the kind of sex I'm not into, then I'll avoid him, if the virus mention barebacking he's getting blocked and if they've met someone with LOADS of meet verifications then I don't want to meet them either.

The verification trail can sometimes be quite an unpleasant path."

Can be an interesting path and than theres the ones that can cause drama at the drop of the hat so if a guy has met that person I avoid.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I absolutely read and judge based on the verifications. Not in a "Euw, they're a bit minging" way but if a man has a history of the kind of sex I'm not into, then I'll avoid him, if the virus mention barebacking he's getting blocked and if they've met someone with LOADS of meet verifications then I don't want to meet them either.

The verification trail can sometimes be quite an unpleasant path.

Can be an interesting path and than theres the ones that can cause drama at the drop of the hat so if a guy has met that person I avoid."

Indeed.

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By *oItForYorkshireCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Also there’s the weird ones where they have 8 veris from the same person or repeats from the same accounts and it reads like a cult almost

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By *eoeclipseWoman
over a year ago

glasgow


"shouldn't everybodys verifications be at least 10 month's old now though ... excepting webcam veri's of course?

My last one I veried a guy I fucked 2 years ago so he could prove hes genuine, he just verified me back out of politeness x"

Different time line but same, I've done this a few times with folk who have left & returned.

With newbies I will met them sometimes, depends as always if I like them or not same as everyone else. I do take folk at face value though until proven or shown otherwise.

They are submitted to the same scrutiny as anyone else really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet people with more than 4 veris published (visible to read) on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications are just vanity I think...

Its nice to read your own but I don't need a trip advisor account to see if I'm attracted to a girl or not and never read anyone else's.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Nah, I concentrate on the people who do like my profile.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Nah, I concentrate on the people who do like my profile. "

focussing on positives rather than negatives make for a much happier life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah, I concentrate on the people who do like my profile. "
that must be an extensive list

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct "

Haters gonna hate

Don't let it annoy you or they've won twice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I won't meet people with more than 4 veris published (visible to read) on their profile. "

What if those 4 verifications are from a long time span, the last 10 years for example?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My original post was because I saw a ladies status update which everyone can see, where she named a male users ID, who she had not met and wouldn’t speak to, and went on to say the name and age of the woman he had met, and said have some self respect, she’s in her 60’s you disgusting minger, my point is, yes she can have her opinion and choose not to talk to him, that’s fine, but why go broadcasting it to the whole site, says a lot more about her I think, he’s had a lucky escape in reality, doesn’t stop my blood boiling thinking why she thinks she has the right to say he was a disgusting person because of who he’s been with, she’s entitled to have her opinion, but keep it to herself, which is why I said if it was a comment saying you’re disgusting because you’ve met men, tv’s people of colour, there would be hell on, but it appears ok to basically ridicule 2 people publicly due to age gap, because they’ve met, and had a good time, neither of them asked to have their user names splashed across this woman’s status, the poor woman in her 60’s has probably been inundated with messages now

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Seems like their is a lot of immature people on here and should be asking themselves why they are here I'm sure most people never bother to read the rules or any other valid information because everyone has joined for a purpose and should respect one another I've never encountered any difficulty as such but haven't had any rude comments but I think those who do act unreasonable should be a limit before they lose their accounts as everyone is a equal regardless having or not having verifications and things like harassment should be a automatic ban

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Seems like their is a lot of immature people on here and should be asking themselves why they are here I'm sure most people never bother to read the rules or any other valid information because everyone has joined for a purpose and should respect one another I've never encountered any difficulty as such but haven't had any rude comments but I think those who do act unreasonable should be a limit before they lose their accounts as everyone is a equal regardless having or not having verifications and things like harassment should be a automatic ban "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My original post was because I saw a ladies status update which everyone can see, where she named a male users ID, who she had not met and wouldn’t speak to, and went on to say the name and age of the woman he had met, and said have some self respect, she’s in her 60’s you disgusting minger, my point is, yes she can have her opinion and choose not to talk to him, that’s fine, but why go broadcasting it to the whole site, says a lot more about her I think, he’s had a lucky escape in reality, doesn’t stop my blood boiling thinking why she thinks she has the right to say he was a disgusting person because of who he’s been with, she’s entitled to have her opinion, but keep it to herself, which is why I said if it was a comment saying you’re disgusting because you’ve met men, tv’s people of colour, there would be hell on, but it appears ok to basically ridicule 2 people publicly due to age gap, because they’ve met, and had a good time, neither of them asked to have their user names splashed across this woman’s status, the poor woman in her 60’s has probably been inundated with messages now"

That's not really about verifications, that's about being a crappy person.

Disgusting mingers come in many forms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won't meet people with more than 4 veris published (visible to read) on their profile.

What if those 4 verifications are from a long time span, the last 10 years for example? "

It's not the quantity it's the indiscretion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep my veris hidden, having past meets scrutinised, comparisons and comments made doesn't sit well with me

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By *issnkWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

Sorry I’m one of those awful people who aren’t interested in anyone who isn’t verified by a meet there’s a massive amount of catfishes on here, saying that I’m not interested in anyone who got verified by a meet during covid 19, not into meeting anybody who takes unnecessary risks.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct

Seems a bit OTT to me to say they won’t walk to anyone that hasn’t had a verification for months or no verification etc. I’ve met guys with no actual verification on fab and they were fun meets and also who they said they were (they did confirm with pics on other messaging apps)

I think people should chill more

Yes I’ve seen it all, that’s what I was meaning, it’s over the top and who are they to say I must have had a verification in the last 3 months to take me seriously, I mean it’s my choice who I show what to and I’m not going to be told by a total stranger what I should disclose just to keep them happy "

Can you say irony?

YOU run your profile how you see fit, THEY run their profile how they see fit. If you're not compatible move on, that's the beauty of fab, all are catered for. No need to call people out because you don't match what they're looking for.

People with snooty statuses will put off more than they attract with their pseudo superiority. We're all on Fab looking for whatever floats our boat. Anyone not into casual encounters with strangers will view us all as deviants. So for me, anyone on here looking down their nose at how/who other members meet is akin to Lewis Hamilton chiding Valentino Rossi for going too fast! Hypocrite of the highest order.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Can I get some advice.. I clearly have no verifications and joined over year ago, however I’ve rarely been on to recently and also not some horny dog. How can i get noticed by anyone worthwhile?? "

Define "worthwhile?"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Why worry about people whose criteria you don't match? They're only hoops to jump through if you see them as hoops and not just an indication that you don't match what they are looking for.

People are allowed preferences about who they meet regardless of the criteria behind those preferences.

It just comes across as entitled when others bemoan those preferences."

Exactly!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct

I dont even read verifications, I dont particularly talk to guys with loads of veris, I think its just a way for attention seeking in my opinion, if you have a few, no more then 10 that's well enough to show your no fake...that's just me x"

Problem is when you meet someone even for a social or randomly at a club, they often veri you because they want one back, you can’t stop the number increasing , just choose not to display them. You can’t get to 10 and then stop them being added , it doesn’t mean your a slut or anything, just you connect well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verification snobbery is rife on here.

Not enough...too many....too explicit (It’s a sex site, were you expecting a poem from Thora Hird?!)

Display however many you want, it’s your profile. You’ll please no-one if you try to please everyone and besides, you’re here for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct "

I don’t have that problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had this on my previous profile. At my previous address I used to hold frequent parties etc. With these and my own meets I had around 250 verifications. Folks were judging me on sheer numbers without actually reading them. I was even geting abusive messages (mostly from jealous guys).

Decided in the end to delete profile and start again....to many sad sacks on here....

Why delete it? It put off people who aren't compatible with you. "

Got pissed off with the abuse....

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct

I dont even read verifications, I dont particularly talk to guys with loads of veris, I think its just a way for attention seeking in my opinion, if you have a few, no more then 10 that's well enough to show your no fake...that's just me x

Problem is when you meet someone even for a social or randomly at a club, they often veri you because they want one back, you can’t stop the number increasing , just choose not to display them. You can’t get to 10 and then stop them being added , it doesn’t mean your a slut or anything, just you connect well "

You don’t have to verify anyone, it isn’t obligatory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'll admit I have been put off by someones veris before but ended up meeting them anyways enjoyed it met them several times since

I have also met people with no veris but obviously we have seen each other online

I won't meet a person without swapping nudes first last time I done that he was small

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By *lovebustyladiesMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

What makes me laugh u say I see you just been veried then they get all defensive n get all snotty lol cracks me up every time, if ya don’t want comments don’t put it up there lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to see them try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won't meet people with more than 4 veris published (visible to read) on their profile. "

Says the shadow . Amazing.

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"We don’t pay any attention to people’s veris .We like to make our own minds up about people and if people won’t meet us due to veris we have from certain people that’s fine by us we are here for fun not into all that drama anyway."

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"We don’t pay any attention to people’s veris .We like to make our own minds up about people and if people won’t meet us due to veris we have from certain people that’s fine by us we are here for fun not into all that drama anyway. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won't meet people with more than 4 veris published (visible to read) on their profile.

Says the shadow . Amazing."

Thank you that's very kind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've actively asked people not to verify me on here. Sheesh, I'd look a right slapper if every person did...

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"

I’m not badgered at all, I’ve been doing this for 22 years and I know how it all works, it just infuriates me when people still think they can control others on here, I don’t respond or go along with demands at all anymore, I did when I was 20 but I’ve learnt now. I want to write to all the people who I see trying to rule the way people act but I’d be typing all day, so thought it best to just put a post in here

I think people who *demand* others to change their profile might think very highly of themselves and expect others to do as they're told to please them.

You would be surprised at how many who actually submit to such demands.

"

Yes this I think ! Some people get above themselves! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me veris are just to prove the person is real. I have no interest in reading the who, how and details of your past lovers and you don’t need to hear the details of mine.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I have been verified by 20 people and 16 of those were at one meet and greet over a year ago.

I hadn't realised until now that 4 of those have left fab as I rarely look at them.

I've had two other social meets pre covid where veris were not exchanged or discussed.

I've never shown more than a couple of veris at any one time and hid them all last year because of a stalking issue.

When restrictions on displaying veris are lifted I will display the important ones.

People can then judge me on my veris if they want.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

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