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In a D/s dynamic....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does a sub get given a task or should they ask for one?

Humour me here.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

It should be given.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does a sub get given a task or should they ask for one?

Humour me here. "

As I understood it they should never get to the point of needing to ask for a task...

But I don't really know! Lol

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Depends on the couples dynamic details and what they’ve agreed to before getting involved with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

definitely given with a time limit

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

They could confirm that they are willing to receive tasks.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

When I played in that dynamic I used to be given them. I did meet a sub who used to have to beg for them, but her particular kink was humiliation so that's what suited her.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land


"Depends on the couples dynamic details and what they’ve agreed to before getting involved with each other. "

I agree with this. Not all dynamics involve any sort of tasks.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Depends on the couples dynamic details and what they’ve agreed to before getting involved with each other. "

This completely - individual dynamics and agreements is the only correct answer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They could confirm that they are willing to receive tasks. "

Should the dom/domme ask if the sub is willing or wait for them to say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed with the individual dynamics answer.

I’ve rarely done tasks for him, it’s not really how we work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They could confirm that they are willing to receive tasks.

Should the dom/domme ask if the sub is willing or wait for them to say? "

I would say either?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah. Depends on the couple. Day mood. Either is fine. A sub could ask if they wanted one.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

It should be both in my opinion, no D is a mind-reader. Yeah they maybe good at picking up their subs clues but they're human. If there's something a sub would like to try or knows will settle them, of course they should talk to their D about it. And then they can take it from there together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say it very much depends on the dynamic and how you have agreed you will interact...

Sometimes my DD requests additional tasks and occasionally i ask for additional tasks - generally when I'm on holiday - a lot depends on our available time... And what we've been exposed to

... But be careful what you wish for you don't always get the cute task you ask for

Also what i have found with my DD is that there is an expectation he doesn't get less than he had...So your temporary task may unwittingly become a permanent one

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

If the dominant allows the submissive a choice they can ask, in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This isn't a question that can be answered by the public - you'll just get misleading replies (not deliberately)

D/s isn't about any one person's idea on it, it's always about the specific dynamic you have with a partner.

None of it happens immediately, and if you have guys 'telling' you what they want, that's a red flag. Everything needs to be worked out with the individual, and over time will develop and evolve into something that suits you both.

This is a very broad subject.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton


"Depends on the couples dynamic details and what they’ve agreed to before getting involved with each other. "

Agreed, before any relationship is started and from a neutral standpoint both the dom and sub should discuss what they are looking for out of a D/S relationship and how it will work. Different people will want different things. Although there are those subs who prefer doms that are able to suss them out.

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent


"This isn't a question that can be answered by the public - you'll just get misleading replies (not deliberately)

D/s isn't about any one person's idea on it, it's always about the specific dynamic you have with a partner.

None of it happens immediately, and if you have guys 'telling' you what they want, that's a red flag. Everything needs to be worked out with the individual, and over time will develop and evolve into something that suits you both.

This is a very broad subject."

Totally agree with this, it’s my experience too

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

I've been a, sub for around 35 years,. Ive never yet had to ask for a task

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I also totally agree it should be discussed and is individual to the dynamic.

I just wanted to make a point so thanks for the comments.

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By *arah_11TV/TS
over a year ago

Yeadon/Leeds

Definitely discuss first

I'm sub but I just don't get the task thing, just feels odd. I'd prefer to meet people!

Also, if I was at work then it wouldn't be possible to complete anyway

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral


"I also totally agree it should be discussed and is individual to the dynamic.

I just wanted to make a point so thanks for the comments. "

Have you made your point, had your discussion and received your spanking for being cheeky yet!!!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Who here likes giving their sub pointless tasks, or tasks that are set up to fail so you get to punish them!!!

#domlife

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I also totally agree it should be discussed and is individual to the dynamic.

I just wanted to make a point so thanks for the comments.

Have you made your point, had your discussion and received your spanking for being cheeky yet!!! "

I have made my point, the discussion is done.

Me being cheeky???? Never!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who here likes giving their sub pointless tasks, or tasks that are set up to fail so you get to punish them!!!

#domlife"

Really? That sounds a bit demoralising? Obviously I don’t know your dynamic though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who here likes giving their sub pointless tasks, or tasks that are set up to fail so you get to punish them!!!

#domlife"

I have an ongoing impossible task that causes my DD great enjoyment whenever it arises.. I am plotting tho and one day i will figure out how to achieve it and he will have a heart attack laughing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely dynamic dependant.

Sometimes I ask for them. Sometimes he'll just give them to me.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

There are no set rules.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton


"There are no set rules. "

May I suggest genuine informed consent.

I know that you would take that for granted, but I am just saying it for the less knowledgeable.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Surely the only answer is "what fits your own dynamic"

Correct me if I'm wrong, but there are no set rules other than what we make for ourselves. Obviously consent and all the big important stuff about safety.

If you and your partner decide that as a sub that they can request to be given a task, then it still works. We tailor these labels to fit ourselves within the realm of staying true to the essence of such label.

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