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Who has is the hardest finding a match?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

On fab that is?

Do you think it's single men, women, couples or perhaps TS/TV?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

No-one - everyone faces different difficulties but each are just as capable as the other of finding what they want if they have the right approach, attitude and expectations

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Me.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

All of them? Sometimes we set our standards & expectations too high?

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

As GM says, I think everyone faces different problems (which sometimes means we don’t acknowledge the problems they have) but I don’t think many on here find it really easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be surprised to hear that woman experience any difficulty finding a match considering that the M:F ratio on Fab is 400:1 ....however nothing has changed since the dawn of time. There will always be more horndogs about.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I cant speak for everyone but can tell you there are differences between ts/tv and males looking for women only.

As a tv on the forum, its easier to get chatting to women than it is being an average guy, I've done both and they guy is often ignored even when people happily chat and flirt with me as a TV.

The amount of women happy to meet or flirt with a TV though is a lot smaller so unless they get to know you without the clothes and make up as well, the logistics of it all are harder and the clubs work better for meeting in person.

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By *atebanksMan
over a year ago

North London

I think it varies, but from my own experience I've struggled to find a match. I'm not sure I tick many boxes for what woman are looking for...

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

There's someone out there for everyone, its just finding that particular one thats the hard part ,

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I would be surprised to hear that woman experience any difficulty finding a match considering that the M:F ratio on Fab is 400:1 ....however nothing has changed since the dawn of time. There will always be more horndogs about."

Looked at that way you would think so, and *if* women simply selected based on that level of choice then I'd agree with you, however just because the wealth of choice is bigger, doesn't mean the quality of choice is too.

Add to that that women have to sift through an awful lot of rubbish to find what they're looking for and it comes back to what I was saying about "different" problems faced by different categories of user.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men definitely, we all have our preferences and finding the right match is difficult for everyone, but women and couples have their choice to look through with all the messages they get. Men’s messages are often bulk deleted without being read as the women and couples can’t cope with the amount of contact they are receiving, I don’t blame them for that, but it does leave the men at the starting blocks every time when you can’t even get to be seen or heard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

honestly the trick is to not set any expectations for yourself. if you pull you pull then its your lucky day. but im sure your spread your eggs across the different dating platforms available out there. unfortunately the dating apps that almost guarantee success will cost you alot of money. Tinder Boost for example really works but you will have to pay a not too small sum


"Men definitely, we all have our preferences and finding the right match is difficult for everyone, but women and couples have their choice to look through with all the messages they get. Men’s messages are often bulk deleted without being read as the women and couples can’t cope with the amount of contact they are receiving, I don’t blame them for that, but it does leave the men at the starting blocks every time when you can’t even get to be seen or heard "

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

For all the effort and time we all put in on here sometimes, occasionally it just happens when least expected.

Just be polite and not an asshat and eventually someone will come along whatever gender you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men definitely, we all have our preferences and finding the right match is difficult for everyone, but women and couples have their choice to look through with all the messages they get. Men’s messages are often bulk deleted without being read as the women and couples can’t cope with the amount of contact they are receiving, I don’t blame them for that, but it does leave the men at the starting blocks every time when you can’t even get to be seen or heard "

Yes it can be difficult when you have lots and lots of messages to go through all so you skim. I skim and I kinda see what catches my eyes, a lot of the times I don’t even open as there are too many messages (currently 1659 unread) I’d go insane

Having said that I think the worse off of the bunch are guys because of the numbers ... hmmm

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

Unicorns apparently. Which can magically change, into a needle (In a haystack.) cunning buggers me t'inks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I agree, I don’t blame ladies and couples bill deleting, I’d probably do the same, but it’s a nicer problem to have to much choice than to never be heard, which I think is what you’re also saying

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"On fab that is?

Do you think it's single men, women, couples or perhaps TS/TV?"

99 year old married men who can't drive or accommodate and want teenage lingerie models

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would be surprised to hear that woman experience any difficulty finding a match considering that the M:F ratio on Fab is 400:1 ....however nothing has changed since the dawn of time. There will always be more horndogs about."

I disagree, women may endless amounts of blokes who want to fuck them but that doesn’t mean they don’t have trouble finding what they’re actually looking for on here.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Yes I agree, I don’t blame ladies and couples bill deleting, I’d probably do the same, but it’s a nicer problem to have to much choice than to never be heard, which I think is what you’re also saying"

Is it though? When 99% of that choice isn't for them?

Whilst women may have 100 to choose from and only find 1 match - men may try 100 women and get only 1 match so net result is the same - just different ways of arriving at the same conclusion.

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood


"On fab that is?

Do you think it's single men, women, couples or perhaps TS/TV?

99 year old married men who can't drive or accommodate and want teenage lingerie models "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On fab that is?

Do you think it's single men, women, couples or perhaps TS/TV?

99 year old married men who can't drive or accommodate and want teenage lingerie models "

DEAD lol haha but true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would be surprised to hear that woman experience any difficulty finding a match considering that the M:F ratio on Fab is 400:1 ....however nothing has changed since the dawn of time. There will always be more horndogs about.

Looked at that way you would think so, and *if* women simply selected based on that level of choice then I'd agree with you, however just because the wealth of choice is bigger, doesn't mean the quality of choice is too.

Add to that that women have to sift through an awful lot of rubbish to find what they're looking for and it comes back to what I was saying about "different" problems faced by different categories of user."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would be surprised to hear that woman experience any difficulty finding a match considering that the M:F ratio on Fab is 400:1 ....however nothing has changed since the dawn of time. There will always be more horndogs about."

I've been here a few months now and not found one so...

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Men won’t believe this but I know from talking to my Fab female friends, that finding the right match isn’t easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's break this down:

On the ratio of men to women, men are seriously up against it straight away. So, it's men.

Add to that, If you are a male, and are unable to accommodate , that's another mark against you. Men, unable to accommodate.

Once you pass 50 it's like putting on an invisibility cloak. So many have already knocked you out of their preference. Men, unable to accommodate, over 50.

There are so many men here that you really have to be exceptional to stand out. So, if your Mr. Average, thats an issue. Men, unable to accommodate, over 50, average.

Still looking? Tell them you're married! By know if there are any profiles left, it's probably your wife, and that's why you came on here in the first place! So, the ones most up against it are Men, unable to accommodate, over 50, average, and married.

Women have different issues here, I accept that, but finding a someone is infinitely easier. If they had low or no standards, any woman on here could probably get something within an hour or less. If they want to be choosy, and they can be, filters mean they can cut through the numbers rapidly, while maintaining their standards. Sure, they will have the chancers and bullshitters to deal with, but if fab had more filters and physical option check boxes, it could be quite simple to find the physical match they want.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Yes I agree, I don’t blame ladies and couples bill deleting, I’d probably do the same, but it’s a nicer problem to have to much choice than to never be heard, which I think is what you’re also saying"

I don't believe so. Its also how you use the site.

Do you use it to random cast the net?

Do you use features such as the forums where you DO have a voice, get heard and get noticed?

Do you use the clubs and socials area (pre-covid) and get off your arse and attend these places where other swingers are?

So yeah, if guys can't be arsed to make an effort they'll struggle. If they use it to it's full advantage then they really won't, unless of course their expectation is sex on tap.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

If Shrek & Donkey could find partners & get laid haha

I think we all have a chance sometimes just takes patience & self reflection (where are u fucking up lol)

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

What's worse?

a) Being unable to find what you want because you have too much choice.

b) Being unable to find what you want because you have no choice at all.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'm not looking for special.

An average man will be perfect.

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I agree, I don’t blame ladies and couples bill deleting, I’d probably do the same, but it’s a nicer problem to have to much choice than to never be heard, which I think is what you’re also saying

I don't believe so. Its also how you use the site.

Do you use it to random cast the net?

Do you use features such as the forums where you DO have a voice, get heard and get noticed?

Do you use the clubs and socials area (pre-covid) and get off your arse and attend these places where other swingers are?

So yeah, if guys can't be arsed to make an effort they'll struggle. If they use it to it's full advantage then they really won't, unless of course their expectation is sex on tap."

I think people were talking about using fab specifically, not going to clubs, we could in which case just say it’s easy if you use any dating app and go out and socialise in many ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's break this down:

On the ratio of men to women, men are seriously up against it straight away. So, it's men.

Add to that, If you are a male, and are unable to accommodate , that's another mark against you. Men, unable to accommodate.

Once you pass 50 it's like putting on an invisibility cloak. So many have already knocked you out of their preference. Men, unable to accommodate, over 50.

There are so many men here that you really have to be exceptional to stand out. So, if your Mr. Average, thats an issue. Men, unable to accommodate, over 50, average.

Still looking? Tell them you're married! By know if there are any profiles left, it's probably your wife, and that's why you came on here in the first place! So, the ones most up against it are Men, unable to accommodate, over 50, average, and married.

Women have different issues here, I accept that, but finding a someone is infinitely easier. If they had low or no standards, any woman on here could probably get something within an hour or less. If they want to be choosy, and they can be, filters mean they can cut through the numbers rapidly, while maintaining their standards. Sure, they will have the chancers and bullshitters to deal with, but if fab had more filters and physical option check boxes, it could be quite simple to find the physical match they want.

"

Well said

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By *ay Jay corkCouple
over a year ago

Cork

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I agree, I don’t blame ladies and couples bill deleting, I’d probably do the same, but it’s a nicer problem to have to much choice than to never be heard, which I think is what you’re also saying

Is it though? When 99% of that choice isn't for them?

Whilst women may have 100 to choose from and only find 1 match - men may try 100 women and get only 1 match so net result is the same - just different ways of arriving at the same conclusion."

It may end up as the same result, but the chances of a woman or couple finding someone is higher if they have one hundred choices in the first place, they may end up with10 matches, whereas the guy who only gets one reply is seriously limited with his decisions

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery


"Men definitely, we all have our preferences and finding the right match is difficult for everyone, but women and couples have their choice to look through with all the messages they get. Men’s messages are often bulk deleted without being read as the women and couples can’t cope with the amount of contact they are receiving, I don’t blame them for that, but it does leave the men at the starting blocks every time when you can’t even get to be seen or heard "

This is very true and unfortunately it’s taken up by the people who don’t read your profile or read it and still message even though they don’t fit the criteria. I do apologise to thoughts who get side swiped by me having to bulk delete but honestly there is no way I can get through them. For every message you reply to you then get another 5 because people see you on line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's worse?

a) Being unable to find what you want because you have too much choice.

b) Being unable to find what you want because you have no choice at all.

"

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single men in Cheshire! As not many ‘women’ on here in my area seem to be genuine profiles or if they are then they seem to up there own arses and that’s not me being rude I only send respectable messages and if I get the hint Im not what they are looking for then I wish them all the best and move on. As a northerner I hate to admit it but women from the south are much more kind and polite when messaging on here! P.s ( that doesn’t go for all women in the north I’ve had plenty of nice and banter filled Messages with them too)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men definitely, we all have our preferences and finding the right match is difficult for everyone, but women and couples have their choice to look through with all the messages they get. Men’s messages are often bulk deleted without being read as the women and couples can’t cope with the amount of contact they are receiving, I don’t blame them for that, but it does leave the men at the starting blocks every time when you can’t even get to be seen or heard

This is very true and unfortunately it’s taken up by the people who don’t read your profile or read it and still message even though they don’t fit the criteria. I do apologise to thoughts who get side swiped by me having to bulk delete but honestly there is no way I can get through them. For every message you reply to you then get another 5 because people see you on line. "

That’s totally true, if I see a profile that says not looking for single guys or I’m out of an age range, I don’t waste my time or theirs, but I’m sure there are guys filling up ladies and couples messages as they don’t read them, which results in bulk deletes, which deletes the possible good ones ladies might have actually liked, but yes I agree, what other option is there when you have 400 messages, it’s a tricky one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on off here 3 yrs at this stage and I think everyone has stumbling blocks to meeting

I know couples you want to meet the elusive unicorn struggle to find that lady.

Guys have to stand out to be seen and not bulk deleted.

Ladies some have no problem getting meets and others do.

I have my message filters set so don't get 100s of messages but at times the rude or faf messages are just deleted.

I've learnt to treat fab with no expectations and enjoy the ride

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Men find it harder to get laid, but women have a harder time sorting the wheat from the chaff. Us couples I'm guessing sit somewhere in the middle unless it's about looking for a single female, although we have done very nicely on that front. I'm afraid I can't comment on TS/TV people. Luke

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I struggle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the challenge is a bizarre one - more men. Less women. More adulation. Less compromising. More of the wrong thinking. Less of the genuine behaviours. Nobody wrong, just feeling like there are more things to change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would be surprised to hear that woman experience any difficulty finding a match considering that the M:F ratio on Fab is 400:1 ....however nothing has changed since the dawn of time. There will always be more horndogs about."
you would be surprised at how many women have trouble finding what they want

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