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By *addyBabygirl2020 OP   Couple
over a year ago

norwich

As a teenager I could never sleep at night but could sleep all day.

Then in my mid 20's I became an ealry riser. Asleep by midnight then Up at the crack of dawn and ready to go.

4 to 5 hours of sleep a night no problem was all I needed.

It stayed that way until last year.

Now I struggle to fall asleep at night. Often i go to work on only 2 hours sleep and feel exhausted.

Yet if i had a day off, I could sleep all day.

Babygirl loves her sleep and naps and when we have a day off together without the kids, a lovely big afternoon snooze is always part of it.

Anxiety will give her Insomnia, but for myself its constant and seems to have no cause.

My Dad suffered with Insomnia really badly the older he got.

Has this happened to anyone else with age?

Or anyone else fond a cause or cure for their Insomnia?

Daddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely happens to me. Only one thing cures mine, and without sounding corny or like a sex pest but it’s sex or working a night shift. Sadly only working a night shift is an option a the moment so many a night spent awake ??

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By *addyBabygirl2020 OP   Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"Definitely happens to me. Only one thing cures mine, and without sounding corny or like a sex pest but it’s sex or working a night shift. Sadly only working a night shift is an option a the moment so many a night spent awake ??"

Sex definitely helps. I sleep much more soundly after a good session. But often a weeknight quickie wont put me to sleep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely happens to me. Only one thing cures mine, and without sounding corny or like a sex pest but it’s sex or working a night shift. Sadly only working a night shift is an option a the moment so many a night spent awake ??

Sex definitely helps. I sleep much more soundly after a good session. But often a weeknight quickie wont put me to sleep "

If only any weeknight fun was an option I might sleep a little better too

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Long White Cloud

I am a terrible sleeper. Worse with age and years of shift work.

I have initial insomnia as well as difficulty getting back to sleep when I wake up.

Sex rarely helps me sleep, it usually has the opposite effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How quick is a Quicky? Both cumming and done??

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Some years ago I had some problems in my life that caused huge amounts of stress and anxiety. Endless sleepless nights, mind racing all the time. I used the TV to take my mind off things and after a while I got off to sleep. Naturel history programs were a great way to take your mind off things.

Its the norm now, I really can't get off to sleep without the TV on low and the background noise.

Some people deal with problems alot easier than others. I tend to over think things and make them seem worse than they are which in turn has my mind racing at night.

Not really a solution but just how I deal with trouble sleeping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some years ago I had some problems in my life that caused huge amounts of stress and anxiety. Endless sleepless nights, mind racing all the time. I used the TV to take my mind off things and after a while I got off to sleep. Naturel history programs were a great way to take your mind off things.

Its the norm now, I really can't get off to sleep without the TV on low and the background noise.

Some people deal with problems alot easier than others. I tend to over think things and make them seem worse than they are which in turn has my mind racing at night.

Not really a solution but just how I deal with trouble sleeping

"

I don’t think there’s any right or wrong way, just whatever works for you ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im lucky if I sleep 3 hours a night even doing a 9 mile walk everyday doesn't help

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I am a bad sleeper. Worked my 12hr nightshift last night and doing another now and only had 3.5hrs sleep today. I am off tonight but can guarantee i will still be wide awake at 2am.

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Long White Cloud


"I am a bad sleeper. Worked my 12hr nightshift last night and doing another now and only had 3.5hrs sleep today. I am off tonight but can guarantee i will still be wide awake at 2am."

I feel your pain. Good luck at work tonight. Stay safe x

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I am a bad sleeper. Worked my 12hr nightshift last night and doing another now and only had 3.5hrs sleep today. I am off tonight but can guarantee i will still be wide awake at 2am.

I feel your pain. Good luck at work tonight. Stay safe x"

Thanks. Stressful times here at the moment for all of us which is probably why i find it hard to switch off.

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Long White Cloud


"I am a bad sleeper. Worked my 12hr nightshift last night and doing another now and only had 3.5hrs sleep today. I am off tonight but can guarantee i will still be wide awake at 2am.

I feel your pain. Good luck at work tonight. Stay safe x

Thanks. Stressful times here at the moment for all of us which is probably why i find it hard to switch off."

Stress certainly makes my insomnia worse too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The depressing thing

Is this year could be worse ??

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By *LAchillesMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

About five years ago I suddenly developed Somniphobia (an irrational fear of sleep and, in my case, passing away while asleep), it makes sleeping really hard. Drugs like Xanax have helped because they take away the fear, booze is the same, but they’re not routes I want to go down long term so I’ve sort out other remedies. I find self h y p no sis very helpful and you can find stuff re sleep on Spotify and YouTube. At other times I listen to soundtracks of rain, storms, churning oceans - elemental sounds, that help my brain relax and calm down. Mindfulness has also helped but it’s often hard work.

Good luck and sweet dreams.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"About five years ago I suddenly developed Somniphobia (an irrational fear of sleep and, in my case, passing away while asleep), it makes sleeping really hard. Drugs like Xanax have helped because they take away the fear, booze is the same, but they’re not routes I want to go down long term so I’ve sort out other remedies. I find self h y p no sis very helpful and you can find stuff re sleep on Spotify and YouTube. At other times I listen to soundtracks of rain, storms, churning oceans - elemental sounds, that help my brain relax and calm down. Mindfulness has also helped but it’s often hard work.

Good luck and sweet dreams.

X"

I have never heard of this before but it sounds awful. I'm glad you have found coping strategies that work for you.

I will just add I use mindfulness all the time and yes I appreciate what your saying about it being hard work but it doesn't need to be.

There are some brilliant guided mindfulness practices on YouTube that might be worth a try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me personally I wouldn't say age has been a factor because I have suffered from insomnia since being a very small child.

I did seem to have it fairly managed for a few years and then the pandemic struck and that disrupted my routine totally and I haven't got back to it since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a bad sleeper. Worked my 12hr nightshift last night and doing another now and only had 3.5hrs sleep today. I am off tonight but can guarantee i will still be wide awake at 2am."

12 hour shift as we speak, join the club!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"About five years ago I suddenly developed Somniphobia (an irrational fear of sleep and, in my case, passing away while asleep), it makes sleeping really hard. Drugs like Xanax have helped because they take away the fear, booze is the same, but they’re not routes I want to go down long term so I’ve sort out other remedies. I find self h y p no sis very helpful and you can find stuff re sleep on Spotify and YouTube. At other times I listen to soundtracks of rain, storms, churning oceans - elemental sounds, that help my brain relax and calm down. Mindfulness has also helped but it’s often hard work.

Good luck and sweet dreams.

X

I have never heard of this before but it sounds awful. I'm glad you have found coping strategies that work for you.

I will just add I use mindfulness all the time and yes I appreciate what your saying about it being hard work but it doesn't need to be.

There are some brilliant guided mindfulness practices on YouTube that might be worth a try. "

Have you ever tried naked mindfulness, I’ve never been so chilled afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"About five years ago I suddenly developed Somniphobia (an irrational fear of sleep and, in my case, passing away while asleep), it makes sleeping really hard. Drugs like Xanax have helped because they take away the fear, booze is the same, but they’re not routes I want to go down long term so I’ve sort out other remedies. I find self h y p no sis very helpful and you can find stuff re sleep on Spotify and YouTube. At other times I listen to soundtracks of rain, storms, churning oceans - elemental sounds, that help my brain relax and calm down. Mindfulness has also helped but it’s often hard work.

Good luck and sweet dreams.

X

I have never heard of this before but it sounds awful. I'm glad you have found coping strategies that work for you.

I will just add I use mindfulness all the time and yes I appreciate what your saying about it being hard work but it doesn't need to be.

There are some brilliant guided mindfulness practices on YouTube that might be worth a try.

Have you ever tried naked mindfulness, I’ve never been so chilled afterwards "

No but then I'm not a fan of being naked.

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"Definitely happens to me. Only one thing cures mine, and without sounding corny or like a sex pest but it’s sex or working a night shift. Sadly only working a night shift is an option a the moment so many a night spent awake ??"
This sounds like me ...I work nights and I can't sleep when I am off work. Like right now But after a night shift I sleep like a baby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been having insomnia for years now average about 4hrs sleep a night. I'm often walking my dog around the local cemetery at 2 in the morning i find it very peaceful and humbling helps me put things into perspective.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I sleep better when sharing the bed and being spooned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sleep better when sharing the bed and being spooned."

See I have found the opposite. I spent years not having to share a bed so it was a major learning curve.

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By *LAchillesMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"About five years ago I suddenly developed Somniphobia (an irrational fear of sleep and, in my case, passing away while asleep), it makes sleeping really hard. Drugs like Xanax have helped because they take away the fear, booze is the same, but they’re not routes I want to go down long term so I’ve sort out other remedies. I find self h y p no sis very helpful and you can find stuff re sleep on Spotify and YouTube. At other times I listen to soundtracks of rain, storms, churning oceans - elemental sounds, that help my brain relax and calm down. Mindfulness has also helped but it’s often hard work.

Good luck and sweet dreams.

X

I have never heard of this before but it sounds awful. I'm glad you have found coping strategies that work for you.

I will just add I use mindfulness all the time and yes I appreciate what your saying about it being hard work but it doesn't need to be.

There are some brilliant guided mindfulness practices on YouTube that might be worth a try. "

Thanks for your suggestions. I find mindfulness (clothed) to be helpful, mostly. I use Headspace but sometimes it just agitates me so I’ll check out YouTube for it too, as with so many things in life it’s about finding a connection with the person you’re listening to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"About five years ago I suddenly developed Somniphobia (an irrational fear of sleep and, in my case, passing away while asleep), it makes sleeping really hard. Drugs like Xanax have helped because they take away the fear, booze is the same, but they’re not routes I want to go down long term so I’ve sort out other remedies. I find self h y p no sis very helpful and you can find stuff re sleep on Spotify and YouTube. At other times I listen to soundtracks of rain, storms, churning oceans - elemental sounds, that help my brain relax and calm down. Mindfulness has also helped but it’s often hard work.

Good luck and sweet dreams.

X

I have never heard of this before but it sounds awful. I'm glad you have found coping strategies that work for you.

I will just add I use mindfulness all the time and yes I appreciate what your saying about it being hard work but it doesn't need to be.

There are some brilliant guided mindfulness practices on YouTube that might be worth a try.

Thanks for your suggestions. I find mindfulness (clothed) to be helpful, mostly. I use Headspace but sometimes it just agitates me so I’ll check out YouTube for it too, as with so many things in life it’s about finding a connection with the person you’re listening to."

Have a look at calm, they have some brilliant ones on YouTube.

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By *LAchillesMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


" Have a look at calm, they have some brilliant ones on YouTube.

"

Thank you, I will. I’ve heard good things about Calm.

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By *losernow69Man
over a year ago

Melksham

I don't think working shifts and worrying about being late helps,

but it is worse now I am older. A few beers does not help, I have to get off my tits pissed to get a decent nights sleep now and that creates a cycle thats hard to get off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Have a look at calm, they have some brilliant ones on YouTube.

Thank you, I will. I’ve heard good things about Calm."

Some of it can be a bit well American But I would be lost without it.

I did do a mindfulness thread a while back and there were some fantastic suggestions on there from others.

I will try and find it and bump it.

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By *LAchillesMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


" Have a look at calm, they have some brilliant ones on YouTube.

Thank you, I will. I’ve heard good things about Calm.

Some of it can be a bit well American But I would be lost without it.

I did do a mindfulness thread a while back and there were some fantastic suggestions on there from others.

I will try and find it and bump it. "

Thank you. I appreciate you bumping it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sleep better when sharing the bed and being spooned."

And naked...... just not so regular these days

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By *addyBabygirl2020 OP   Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"I sleep better when sharing the bed and being spooned.

See I have found the opposite. I spent years not having to share a bed so it was a major learning curve."

We love a spoon. Except if we fall asleep spooning she says my arms feel like tree trucks crushing her.

So at some point before sleep I get order to roll over and be little spoon, and I quite like it.

I think I fell asleep at 3am last night.

Hope all you other beautiful insomniacs managed to get a few hours restful sleep to.

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