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By *reatformeat OP   Woman
over a year ago

my own bubble

If someone was chatting to you on here for a few months and you arranged a meet and they cancelled with an half baked excuse few hours before would you give them a second chance ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on if you liked them beforehand, and if you think they’re players or time wasters?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I used to as I feel that in general people deserve a second chance. And accidents/ flat tyres/ babysitters not turning up... this does happen. It is possible.

If the excuse sounds half baked - that is a different story and no, I would not. It would result in a block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to but now its kind of a red flag, if they are flaky at the beginning they probably will be throughout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just go with my gut - do I think they're at it and how much do I care? I'm the world's worst for having to cancel so I can't really judge anyone!

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By *reatformeat OP   Woman
over a year ago

my own bubble


"I used to as I feel that in general people deserve a second chance. And accidents/ flat tyres/ babysitters not turning up... this does happen. It is possible.

If the excuse sounds half baked - that is a different story and no, I would not. It would result in a block."

Yea we blocked him on our couples account but now he’s recognised me and mailed again .I’m sceptical to say the least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should say what was excuse first

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

At least they let you know, that in my books is worth a second chance as shit happens. Though, I would be wary the next time.

If it's just a no show though, then no second chances.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"At least they let you know, that in my books is worth a second chance as shit happens. Though, I would be wary the next time.

If it's just a no show though, then no second chances.

"

Although, saying that if I actually had a few people interested in me, those would probably take priority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't have been chatting for a few months. I meet within 2 weeks of the first message or not at all.

I've had an outlandish excuse for someone cancelling a meet before. I met him later and his reason was actually true. Weird... but true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends, on how much i liked them the first time ans also if they were jolly contrite .

I am very forgiving

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

Depends how you get on with them and if you think they’re genuine. We all have lives to lead so if it sounds like a genuine reason then yes I would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a fan of flaky people that aren't able to make a plan and stick to it

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By *reatformeat OP   Woman
over a year ago

my own bubble


"It all depends, on how much i liked them the first time ans also if they were jolly contrite .

I am very forgiving "

We all know you are xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It all depends, on how much i liked them the first time ans also if they were jolly contrite .

I am very forgiving

We all know you are xx"
ha ha you still owe me a story report ha ha

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"At least they let you know, that in my books is worth a second chance as shit happens. Though, I would be wary the next time.

If it's just a no show though, then no second chances.

"

This is our take. Anyone who didn’t show without letting us know never gets a second chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if it’s a first meet then no never

If we had meet before then yes as I can understand things in real life crop up

But if they make a habit off it would have to tell them it’s been fun but sorry pulled out off meets to meny times x

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By *reatformeat OP   Woman
over a year ago

my own bubble


"It all depends, on how much i liked them the first time ans also if they were jolly contrite .

I am very forgiving

We all know you are xx ha ha you still owe me a story report ha ha "

Be On your desk in the morning sir

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Have done but had a few do this so not now! Well when we can ! I have put it on profile no second chance! It could b genuine but then I've missed out but nevermind x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone deserves a second chance , things happen ,but not a third

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It all depends, on how much i liked them the first time ans also if they were jolly contrite .

I am very forgiving

We all know you are xx ha ha you still owe me a story report ha ha

Be On your desk in the morning sir "
lol i shall pop a star on your chart young lady

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"If someone was chatting to you on here for a few months and you arranged a meet and they cancelled with an half baked excuse few hours before would you give them a second chance ?"

The crux of the matter here id suggest is the " half baked"

By that I assume its in line with "can't come now the cat looks poorly" and not "ive just found out I'm sars 2 positive"

This must have happened quite a while back are you still chatting what did you decide

Sorry if I've wrongly assumed this is a personal experience op and not just a conversation piece

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to as I feel that in general people deserve a second chance. And accidents/ flat tyres/ babysitters not turning up... this does happen. It is possible.

If the excuse sounds half baked - that is a different story and no, I would not. It would result in a block.

Yea we blocked him on our couples account but now he’s recognised me and mailed again .I’m sceptical to say the least "

If you have previously blocked him then trust yourself, keep him blocked.

We all know genuine reasoning for cancelling happen, but if it is a half baked excuse and you don’t believe it then it is a cue for you to move on.

Mr HH

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

We don't meet anyone we haven't chatted to for a good while first. If the chat doesn't flow or the contact fizzles out we view it as the best possible indication that we're not suited. We also only meet socially the first time and find that puts off anyone who's here for loads of one-offs with no intention of anything regular. Yes, we've had to cancel at late notice a couple of times over the years but because we'd got to know those guys quite well by that time, they believed us and went on to become regular partners. We'd tend to give the benefit of the doubt once but twice in a row and that would be that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends... i would if i liked them enough however i wouldnt be second best so if i was cancelled for someone else then no

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I used to but now its kind of a red flag, if they are flaky at the beginning they probably will be throughout "
this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a couple here not long after I joined. Actually, they were my first meet from fab. They were 50 miles away, but I was happy to travel. Had two meets, and arranged a third. A few days before the third meet, I message to apologise, as I'd be unable to make the date.

They were totally understanding... and blocked me.

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By *ourNextAddictionMan
over a year ago

Somerset

Nope - don’t lie to me about stupid shit init. Be an adult & upfront with me and I’ll accept it. But try bull me, nope.

Unless there’s a valid excuse - then id just wish them well and probably not talk to them again

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Sometimes stuff happens and it can’t be helped so yes we would and have given people a second chance.

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By *reatformeat OP   Woman
over a year ago

my own bubble


"I met a couple here not long after I joined. Actually, they were my first meet from fab. They were 50 miles away, but I was happy to travel. Had two meets, and arranged a third. A few days before the third meet, I message to apologise, as I'd be unable to make the date.

They were totally understanding... and blocked me."

Thats a little harsh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fine em next time, If they cancel lastminute.. Com

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"If someone was chatting to you on here for a few months and you arranged a meet and they cancelled with an half baked excuse few hours before would you give them a second chance ?"

No.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Red flag warning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm.... It depends. I’m guessing if you’d been chatting to him for a while then there was something you liked and a connection had been established.

I’d be tempted to give him another chance on the understanding that if it happens again he’s history.

V

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I always arrange a meet to coincide with something else ( shopping etc) so I have a back up plan, so far to date I've not needed it but there is always the first time

Yes I would give a second chance as I know how quickly plans can change with work, kids, life etc.

If I found out he had cancelled me for another meet then

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I have done then they did it again and the excuses and timings led me to believe he is possibly married so I stopped it there and then as I don’t meet married/attached (no judgement just preference)

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By *reatformeat OP   Woman
over a year ago

my own bubble


"I have done then they did it again and the excuses and timings led me to believe he is possibly married so I stopped it there and then as I don’t meet married/attached (no judgement just preference) "

Exactly what I’m thinking to be honest

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Erm its hard to say i always go with my gut instinct , I have done in the past and they did it again , so i don't think I would now , I just leave it be ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I'm not a fan of second chances altogether. I don't believe people change. They just get more clever pretending they have good intentions. Must come with experience over the years.

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By *ikkiHbiWoman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

You can normally tell if it's genuine but at the very most I gave 2 chances after that you go on the block pile

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"If someone was chatting to you on here for a few months and you arranged a meet and they cancelled with an half baked excuse few hours before would you give them a second chance ?"

Yes. If they told me as soon as they could.

They'd have to re arrange though .....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

One chance if they seem genuine.

There are no second chances.

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

Depends on the person but if they let you know few hours before , I would give them a second chance yes

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